Okay, so now I can comment...
As I said when the whole thing happened, I wouldn’t even talk about it until they did, if they ever did.
Tom has decided to discuss some details, publicly, about his relationship with Taylor Swift in his recent GQ UK interview. Ban lifted; so here it goes:
Tom is a normal human being, as much as his fans and everyone else are. There was no grand conspiracy, no PR stunt, none of that ridiculous nonsense and hype. Believe it or not, Taylor Swift is a normal human being, too.
It’s the artifice of CELEBRITY that is fake, false, and an illusion. STOP FEEDING THE FAME MONSTER.
Or at very least, remember the definition of ‘celebrity’ :
Celebrity comes directly from the Latin celebritatum, meaning
famous, and is related to the verb celebrate which means to honor
something with the proper ritual.
In the case of an actor, that would mean we, the audience, show our appreciation of their art by sharing our interest with others and interact with that actor IN PROPER OUTLETS. You know, by attending performances, watching the shows [film, TV, whatever], going to the conventions and Q&A and signings, and yes, enjoying the pictures and interviews that the actor chooses to share.
The famous celebrities that we as fans create should not be expected to simply surrender the right that EVERY PERSON has to PRIVACY. That crosses the line from fandom into obsession. It’s nice if the celebrity wants to open up about personal things, but not an obligation. It’s perfectly okay as fans to daydream and speculate and fantasize SO LONG AS we understand that IT ISN’T REALITY; that such activities are more about US, not the celebrity.
When all this Hiddleswift hype was going down last year, my observation was this: maybe, just maybe Tom and Taylor were just exploring a relationship, one like anyone of us would like to have, just seeing how well they interacted with each other. No predictions of ‘happily ever after’, no ‘my true love’, no ‘this will sell’, no ‘good for career’ stuff. Just ‘wow, I think you’re amazing and I’m attracted to you; wanna see where this goes?’ Unfortunately that got played out in public, for our ‘entertainment’ and for the MEDIA’S PROFIT. And that’s not proper, certainly not honorable, and not a celebration.
Tom is a decent man. Everything I personally saw of him at Wizard World and through legitimate media outlets has shown that to me, and continues to do so. And I wish him much joy in the future, particularly with his relationships, but most of all I wish him some personal privacy while he continues to allow us access to his work and public appearances.