yes this deserved its own post

I am tired of seeing posts say something to the effect of “if aphobia isn’t enough to motivate you, remember that REGs also target [insert more “sympathetic” group here].”

Aphobia is enough. Aphobia matters. Aphobia is heinous enough, cruel enough, horrible enough to stand on its own and to be worth fighting on its OWN merits. 

Yes, gatekeepers throw lots of different groups under the bus. Yes, all of those groups deserve attention and deserve to have their issues recognized and fought for. And yes, it is valuable to observe and point out the ways that the foundational tactics of exclusionists repeat themselves in every iteration of the theme.

But y’all need to stop tacking aces and aros on as an afterthought on your posts about it and undermining the support you give us by backpedaling in the very same breath as you defend us, by giving people an excuse to dismiss us from our own activism.

It makes me feel like my pain, my suffering, my oppression is not good enough to count, as though the only reason my issues are being given any attention at all, after years of incredibly difficult fighting to bring my community into the light, is because other, better victims are being hurt by similar forces and tactics. It feels like a tacit validation of the sector of the community that insists that my issues are not real or do not matter.

And that sucks. 

We matter. We are enough. We are worth fighting for.

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This deserves its own post. Watch real-life bisexual Monica Raymund sing “I Like Girls” from the musical Volleygirls

12x15 Sneak Peek Japril Thoughts

Because that sneak peek deserves its own post.

#1: That clip is hard to watch… Addictive, yes, but super hard to watch.

#2: April’s “I knew it would! But you didn’t want to stay with me!” deserves a slow clap. *slow claps*

#3: I was hoping either Arizona or Alex would be in that scene. I’m curious to know how they would react. And Nathan! I really want to see how he’d react. Aside from the playing darts in the bar scene, Nathan and April haven’t had much screen time together lately. But Owen in that scene was nice. I also like that Bailey and Webber, two people who’ve known both but haven’t really had moments with either, we’re there too. Maybe they’d offer them advice.

#4: Oh Jackson, I get you. Oh April, I get you too. Now please get each other before it’s too late. The Japril side of me says there’s always hope. The me side of me says there’s always a line you can’t come back from once you cross it, and you guys are right on top of it.

Labels (or lack thereof) as a form of liberation versus repression

So I talked about this in my episode review, but I feel like it also deserves its own post.

I don’t know if it was intentional, but this episode showed two sides to the issue of labels. Yes we have Miles encouraging Zoe to wait on labels versus Tristan trying to get her to just pick one, but it goes beyond that.

For Miles, a lack of labels is liberating, it gives him power. He sees it as letting himself be free to like who he likes without attaching any titles to it. He knows himself, knows he likes more than one gender, is comfortable with that, and doesn’t feel the need to conform to a label.

But for Zoe, when she repeats Miles’ stance on labels, she’s doing it as a form of repression. She’s doing it to justify staying in the closet, using it to justify not letting herself question her sexuality. She’s doing it because confronting the words ‘gay’ and 'bisexual’ is too scary. For her, staying label-less is less of a choice and more of an act of denial.

For Miles, being comfortable with his sexuality means not needing labels. For Zoe, in order to accept who she is, she needs to confront these labels head on.