Hey wondering if you could please rec some ace safe sh blogs? They can be so hard to find. Thanks for reading
Okay so this isn’t everyone but here are some people who I see being
friendly and positive towards aro/aces and who I find trustworthy in
that aspect. Lots of them are multifandom blogs but they all post Shadowhunters content. Some I’ve been following for months while others I
started following literally today. Most of these ppl are my mutuals but
not everyone and I’m sorry if I forgot anyone and also feel free to
tell me if you don’t want your url up here for some reason and I’ll
delete it. Anyway here we go:
First of all: @matthewbane (you can trust Sara, follow her pls)
I feel like I forgot someone so I’m really sorry about that but anyway
anyone’s welcome to add their url to this if you’re a Shadowhunters blog
that is safe for ALL aro/aces (which by the way involves not being an
ace exclusionist and not reblogging any of the subtly aphobic posts made
by discoursers), it would be very much appreciated by lots of people
Do you think it's weird that everyone just... Ignores the chemistry/sexual tension between Lucy and Flynn? Other than Abigail's one interview mentioning the dynamic between the two of them (and she even says then that she doesn't think anyone ships them), there hasn't been any big mention of the two that I've seen. I know it's a minor ship compared to Lyatt's popularity, but it just seems so neglected. Their chemistry is obvious to me, but if it weren't for y'all I'd think I were imagining it...
It’s a shame because this ship has such a great following that only seems to be growing. I wish the show knew we existed. Like I hate love triangles (so much… so… so… much), but if the show wanted to play up a Flynn/Lucy/Wyatt triangle, I’d deal with it. Just to have some acknowledgement that there is something going on between Flynn and Lucy. We’re not crazy. Even Abigail and Goran sit around talking about their amazing and powerful relationship. She admits they have a very unique dynamic and strong connection. Not even they can ignore that something is going on here. And yes, I’ve also seen people in the fandom who don’t ship it but admit there is some sort of special chemistry at work. Other people have finally given up and decided to ship both. We aren’t imagining things. Goran and Abigail’s chemistry is one of those rare sparks that couldn’t have been planned or forced. It just happened. What an amazing happenstance. And I think that instead of ignoring that, the show should be capitalizing on it.
But after the executives realized how into Wyatt/Lucy people were, they really started playing it up on social media. Like really really. Hey, maybe calm down a little. A romance is so far down on the list of priorities for a show like this. (Yes, I am including Flynn/Lucy in that.) So I think one of the problems is the people in charge aren’t aware there is a differing opinion out there. Kind of like how a couple months ago all of us on this site thought we were alone in wanting Flynn/Lucy. Once we started voicing our opinion out loud though, it did make a difference. The fandom became much less one-sided. The AO3 page has gone from having no fics with them to looking like this
They now have 43% as many fics as the leading ship (a ship which had a tremendous head start, btw). AND they’re beating out a canon couple who have said, “I love you,” to each other. By almost 200%. We are gaining some traction. But, unfortunately, that’s only within ourselves. On a small level. The reason Wyatt/Lucy is played up so much is because executives think that’s what people are here for. (And like eff them, btw, for trying to simplify such an amazing premise down to a romance plot.) But it does establish that, yes, fans are catered to sometimes. We do have a voice. They want to give us what we want so we’ll keep watching the show. Part of the reason love triangles exist is so fans will get really into their side of it and keep coming back for every big and small victory. Shipping has a noticeable impact on fiction right now. That’s the reason for Timeless’s social media making a big deal out of Wyatt/Lucy. They think we all want it, and they’re trying to get us excited.
So the problem is what you talked about and what Abigail mentioned in her interview. No one knows Flynn/Lucy has a following. Now, we don’t have confirmation of a second season yet, but we are all keeping our fingers crossed until mid-May. Either way, the show runners are already going over ideas for season two. Timeless might get canceled and those ideas go nowhere, but they are making plans. This is the malleable, influential stage where new opinions can be introduced and possibly included. So… I’m not saying to spam the actors or show runners or anything… But maybe do that. lol. I don’t know. Just tweet them or something. Say how much Flynn/Lucy’s relationship means to you and that you’re looking forward to seeing more. Be bold and say you want to see it explored in a romantic context. Maybe share edits with them. Because it is the same out there as it was here on tumblr. Until people say something, no one will know we exist. And Flynn/Lucy will continue to be sidelined unless it’s relevant to the plot that they interact. Just a suggestion. ♥
I hope you know that people with depression/anxiety do not actively post about their depression/anxiety. Nor do they draw art about their problems. Nor do they constantly bring up their "breakdowns".
Yeah, I know.
But, uh, you wouldn’t know that it’s my only way of venting– or I guess…
Wait, lemme make it easier to understand.
I draw this sort of art sometimes because it’s my way of coping. When I get anxious or depressed, I have to do something, and this is what I do. I relieve the energy I have because of my anxiety through art, so yeah. Venting through art helps me a lot because I can’t express myself verbally or through writing when it comes to anxiety attacks and stuff.
Um, also, I don’t exactly have anyone at home to talk to about my problems. Like, yeah, my parents are here, but they don’t understand it. My mom’s literally said to me, “It’s not real and you’re just acting up.” I don’t hold it against her, because the environment she grew up in was worse than the life I’m living right now, so she probably doesn’t get how I can be depressed or have anxiety. But nonetheless, I don’t exactly have incredibly close people whom I can push my problems on. I do have friends, but I don’t wanna annoy them, because they have lives of their own (despite them saying they don’t) and just telling them all these negative things can bring their own moods down, and I don’t want that. I bring to them some issues, but I don’t try to push anything onto them.
I’ve tried to tell my parents that I need outside help, but because they don’t understand it still, nothing has been done. I mean, I’ve tried to explain to them how it’s different on just sadness and shyness or whatever, but they won’t listen properly? Yeah
So, I kinda have to deal with all of it on my own. Drawing is my way of venting the stress and energy I usually end up having because of anxiety, and since I can’t talk to anyone immediately when I’m having issues, I also vent through small writings, that is, if I can.
I can’t bring up my problems to my parents because I’ll only be refuted with them saying how my life is much better than theirs was (which it is) and that I have no reason to be depressed or anxious about anything. I don’t get any real help from them about these issues. I also can’t lean on my friends that much because I feel guiltier for putting some of my weight on their shoulders. I don’t want to do that.
Also, I don’t constantly or actively, as you said, post about my problems and breakdowns. I admit, I do it periodically because I have no constant way of sharing them with others in my life. It’s just another way for me to relieve the stress or strain and energy that builds up. Also, I delete them later anyway. I might forget sometimes, but they do end up getting deleted. You don’t have to read them too. I only put my venting and stuff in the tags, so if you were to see a post of mine that is blank or has a single period, that usually means that it’s me venting again. People don’t need to read that stuff. It’s their choice whether they do or not; I just write them there so that I can get it out of my system.
Another thing too though, I have to disagree with what you said about people not drawing art for their problems or actively posting about them either. There’s a lot of stuff on this site in which people indeed do that, and people who can relate tend to reblog that stuff as well. I can’t think of any specific blogs off the top of my head, but if you just search for the tags in Tumblr, so much will definitely pop up. You can find people posting stuff about these things anywhere on the internet to be completely honest…
Um, in the end though, please be careful when telling this sort of thing to people, anon. Especially when you don’t exactly know every little detail about the person who is the source of the content. I try to be calm when confronting things like this? I like explaining it so it’s cleared up nicely, but it’s not like you’ll get it right away either. If you were to send this in to someone else, too, you might be answered completely differently- whether blunter, nicer, or angrier (I guess).
You really don’t have to be concerned enough about me not really being someone who suffers from anxiety and depression as well. I do, but uh, if you think that I’m posting about it too often, I can try to tone it down a bit? But really, just ignore it if you’re that bothered. It’s my own problem, and it’s my way of dealing with it.
So, yeah. That’s pretty much it? I’m not trying to seem ‘special’ or anything because, well, I obviously don’t feel that way about myself? But, in all seriousness, you don’t even have to pay any attention to what I post that’s related to anxiety and depression. It’s still really my problem, and you don’t have to be concerned with it or get defensive. I hope that you kind of understand better as to why I post this stuff sometimes? But it’s still not what my entire blog is about anyway…
But, there you go. This is my answer? Have a good day anon! No sarcasm though~
After reading @brbimstudying ’s post, I decided to show my side of the story as well.
What you see here are only the pictures. You don’t see how my hand gets frequent spams and how my right arm is hurting because of how much I’m writing. You don’t see the migraines I get practically every single day because of stress and exhaustion, to the point when I’m actually having to go to a neurologist.
You don’t see how many mental breakdowns I’ve had over a grade. You don’t see how many hours I’ve spent just lying in my bed because I’ve been studying for too long and now I’m too dizzy to get up. You don’t see all the times I cried and “gave up”.
I don’t know why, but I don’t really give up. I keep coming back to it.
Yesterday, I had a free afternoon and got home around 6pm. I studied until 10pm and had to listen to my parents go on and on about how irresponsible I was, just “throwing away study hours like that”. Had to listen about my math grade. I know about the math grade.
I am human. I am not motivated 24/7, or happy to study all the time. Sometimes I sit and stay there because I HAVE to, because I feel a terrible guilt when I stop. I fight my back, arm ,and hand pains and I keep going.