yeah i just keep on with these things

Since I’m still technically a part of the cult thing (or what’s left of it) I’m going to keep the icon for now, but everything eelse on the blog will remain normal! I’ll still be answering asks normally, but if anyone is still a part of this thing I’m still here! Just remember to be cautious for others sake!

okay so I keep seeing posts about people who were told they were smart/talented as kids and are now struggling, and there’s this widespread response of thinking that these people are saying “UGH I can’t believe I’m not AMAZING and I’m actually just AVERAGE like everyone ELSE…”

when this is for the most part completely untrue. maybe some people act like this but it is definitely not the majority.

I myself have not experienced this (except there was a small thing that could fall under this) but I know many people who have. several of my friends from school did extremely well academically but are now having an incredibly hard time because they’re no longer in school. NONE of these people have an ego or think they’re better than anyone else, in fact most of them have very low self esteem and still did even when they were in high school. and they probably wouldn’t mind being average, except they don’t feel like they’re average, they feel like they’re worse than everyone else.

this is generally what I see happening:

a student is seen as intelligent. they grasp concepts quickly in school. their teachers and parents quickly make it their job to “enrich” the student, forcing them into a lifestyle of academics and school activities. they are given much more work than the average student, to the point where their schedules are jam-packed and they have no time for leisure activities. while other students are hanging out with their friends and developing social skills and just generally learning about life, this student is forced to focus entirely on academics, and while they are learning “book smarts,” they are missing out on learning crucial skills for later in life by not getting to have the same experiences as everyone else. so when it comes time for them to graduate and go get a job, they are severely lacking in these areas, and thus have an incredibly difficult time in the “real world.”

suddenly everyone is disappointed in them because they can’t live up to the standards people have set for them. they’re anxious and depressed and socially awkward to begin with, and since they haven’t learned how to cope with this stuff, they completely flunk interviews and miss opportunities and do things that hurt their ability to get hired anywhere. suddenly they’re finding that they’re not even average – they’re doing WORSE than everyone else. and the fact that everyone is now disappointed in them makes them understandably upset. they were supposed to be able to do this! they’ve prepared their whole life! so why can’t they do this?

and it all comes down to the fact that the adults in their life have forced impossibly high standards on them while actively discouraging developing social skills and, you know, having a life, and have thus set them up to fail. and since they have never learned how to deal with failure because a lot of times they were never allowed to fail, it hits them harder than most people.

now, some people have had more minor versions of this (I did experience a much smaller version not having to do with academics), where they weren’t robbed of their childhood, but were still told they could do something well, and then later find out they are horrible at said thing. you know what? that still really sucks. you feel like your whole life was a lie. that everyone was just lying to you. you don’t feel like any compliments are genuine anymore regardless of what they’re about. you don’t feel like you deserve compliments. and now you feel like you were never good at anything in your life and never will be. and the same thing applies; now everyone is disappointed in you because, oh you were so good at that thing, and now you’re not, you were supposed to do x and y things with your life using this skill, but you can’t, you’re such a disgrace.

disappointment is possibly one of the worst things to have to feel from another person, especially if you’ve been trying to please them your whole life. and I’m pretty certain that most people who feel this way are dealing with that kind of disappointment coming from everyone around them.

unless someone’s being an egotistical dick, I don’t understand why you would make fun of them for this. and most of the time comments from people who experience this don’t even come off as sounding like the statement in the first paragraph to me, just more like “I have disappointed everyone and I’ve disappointed myself.” which honestly really sucks.

they don’t think they’re “just one of us” now, they think they’re worse than everyone else and don’t ever deserve any praise. that’s not a good feeling. that’s not them being a spoiled brat. that’s the sign of a genuine mental disorder, and that’s not something to be made fun of.

anonymous asked:

im real upset so like at lunch today my friends were talking about this thing they are all doing on sunday and i was like "what thing" cus they always invite me to the stuff they do and they all just went "ohhh" and changed the subject and when i asked them about it they were all like "yeah that was a joke you shoulda seen your face it was hilarious" and honestly they know like my anxiety is super bad and things like that trigger it and they just like toyed with me like that?? like im so pissed

Yeah that isn’t OK, especially if they know your anxiety is bad towards things like that. Do they tend to do stuff like this often? If not, hopefully they don’t try it again because there’s a line between a funny joke and just being mean. If they keep toying with you like that, I’d honestly reconsider who you hang out with. You should be with people who have a level of respect for you and not di intentionally annoying things like that too. But if it’s just a one time thing, I’d let it slide for now but still be a bit wary

Chronic illness frustration #285: when you try to explain to someone why you can’t do certain things and they keep going “why don’t you just do this then? Or this? Or this? Just get a job on a farm!”

Yeah sure Karen I’ll “just” do that

anonymous asked:

I've always thought that one of Vikings' greatest failings is that it takes all these historical figures who have such great potential to be dynamic charactrs onscreen... and then just keeps them flat and hollow, expecting us to root for and/or be invested in them simply because they're a recognizable name from history. Ragnar, Ecbert, and Ivar are the only historical figures they've succeeded in making genuinely compelling as characters on their own merit, imo.

Yeah, that’s something I’ve noticed in Hirst’s work in general.  Here’s the thing–some would say he’s also invested in Lagertha, but I think he’s not really.  She doesn’t fit into his type.  He’s only invested in female characters when the audience goes mad for them and he gets adulation in return.  He did the same thing with Anne Boleyn on The Tudors.  First season?  Compelling thanks to who she is and Natalie Dormer’s performance, but she was a pretty flat character overall. After seeing people flip out over her in season 1, he expands in season 2 so he can get the attention.  Lagertha wasn’t even supposed to be in Vikings much after season 1; he continued her presence because she was a fan favorite.

Hirst likes a specific type of character, and this is reflected in The Tudors too.  He likes the semi-deranged antihero/villain protagonist male who has a Wounded Heart but overall is always an asshole to his loved ones at almost every chance.  Ragnar, Henry VIII, Ecbert, and Ivar are all variations on this type.  Though I’d argue that Ragnar, Ecbert, and Ivar level up on this type because they’re played by actors better than JRM. They have more of a mystique than he did, so their intelligence comes off as more… real. 

But overall he does largely depend on characters to be followed just because they’re famous.  He has fits of fancy with characters and drops them; Bjorn is a great example of this.  Hirst seemed super invested in Bjorn at first, and now he’s just a mopey tired general who maybe wants to be king, maybe wants to be an aimless explorer, switches between wives like it’s nothing, has two kids we’re barely aware of…  Hvitserk didn’t even get a moment in the sun.  Ubbe seemed like he was being set up as this son who’s torn between glory and morality but now he’s just this sort of oaf who mopes about how his former slave wife isn’t kissing his ass all the time.  We’re just supposed to care because we’re told they’re important.  Sometimes literally through dialogue.

* 2018/01/19 *

It’s that time again. Yet another year has passed since the journey of this wonderful bean started on this platform. And guess what? I’m very happy about that. We’re going strong. When this muse first made his appearance on people’s dashboards, I had no idea about the adventure that awaited us. Wonderful muses and muns have crossed our path and I just want to say one thing; you’re great. Thank you.

I’m excited to start a new year babying this muse of mine and hopefully exploring new things through new threads and new people. Those few who have been writing with me for a long time and are still around, you’re going to have to deal with me from now on as well because I’ll want to continue our writing journeys. Let’s keep our boats floating, yeah?

The following people have in one way or another given great memories to me and my muse during the past year/three years, so they deserve a tiny shoutout. ♥

@94vousmevoyez @nicorissi @svbjet @baeyeonsei @bachye @lighthousehan @spvtnik

And a few others with whom I’ll hopefully have a chance to interact soon. I see you!

@seouy @shuiiyue @kinqisms @andafterjuly @kaenyahn @epigrvm @defjc @keybums

P.S. Go to listen and support Zitao’s new single Beggar 

wildflowerrambles  asked:

I usually read before I go to sleep and I’ll be honest, I avoided the best days a few times because I was intimated by the word count (lol) BUT HOLY. CRAP. Every word was glorious. I don’t read Steve fics often but. IT WAS SO. GOOD. I’m shook. Absolutely shook. & bff cop Billy was someone I didn’t even know I needed until now. Just wow. Wow wow wow. Keep up the amazing work!! 💜💜

Oh my gosh, thank you so much! This is so sweet! BFF cop Billy might be one of my favorite things that I’ve ever written and the only way i’d ever do a sequel to the best days if it wasn’t about steve, but it was a side story to billy as a cop and the reader 

the-dying-red-rose  asked:

Red~ Mark’s gone crazy or gotten soul taken, started a cult, then made fun of everyone who joined. I’d suggest not joining.

Ah, yes.

I’m aware. I’ve been keeping up on the happenings vaguely. I never close Tumblr and have various discords with people from Tumblr in them so I’m never really far behind on news in what happens and whatnot.

Yeah, I don’t fuck with bad juju. I mean, I’ll fiddle with the ever-so-often meme of sorts but not often and within reason. Often for limited amount of time even when I do take part. I prefer to stay to my own devices or stay out of just about anything. While I do enjoy opportunity for discussion, things that can give people legit panic and concern do not really appeal to me.

anonymous asked:

I never really thought about this that much but it's a good point: in the Japan haul video dan and phil bought a Totoro plushie (I think? Or was it a cat i can't remember) and then dans like who gets to keep it? And the proceed to "fight" over it. So this means they bought the things with their joint money hence why they don't know who it's for. And also? If ur travelling with friends u don't buy shared souvenirs do u?underrated but it's a point (IM SO HAPPY UR BACK HANA AND I HOPE U R FINE ILU)

I mean yeah dnp buy loads of things together (“our camera”, “our xbox”) and lol at them trying to decide who gets to keep it, as if they don’t just share everything anyways. thank u i’m doing better than i was so that’s progress, ily too!!

you know what IT (2017) marked this year and you can’t tell me otherwise y’all were captioning every single thing with balloon emojis and youtubers made makeup tutorials everyday and sewer memes were all over the internet and some lines are still quoted on the daily and everyone involved in this movie did such a great job and yet when it comes to prizes they didn’t get the recognition they deserved and barely got any awards bc horror movies keep getting snobbed during award season and it’s so unfair bc tbh this movie is already ingrained in pop culture so yeah idk i just think it’s funny tha-

Justin: Leon sees Taako walk dutifully across the room, and walk up to the machine and drop a coin in and turn it, and he hears it, ‘cause Taako’s back is to him.

Griffin: He falls to his knees and thanks a god, the name of which you’ve never heard before, and he is weeping and shuddering-

Justin: And just then, Taako’s coin flies across the room and smacks Leon in the face, ‘cause it had been a clone. I cast Mislead out in the hallway. 

[Everyone is laughing]

Justin: Taako’s just screaming with laughter. It’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened in Taako’s entire life. It’s literally the best.

Taako: I don’t even want anything! You can keep the- literally! Keep the coin! Nothing you can give me would be better that your expression right now!

Griffin: Uh, the coin bounced off his face and rolled off his desk, landing fairly close to you again. And he is just- he’s in shock, I think? He’s stopped crying, he doesn’t seem sad or disturbed, you see- he seems… like he’s broken? Yeah, he’s no longer functioning. You have thoroughly broken this man.

Taako: I win!

the bet || part i/iii || fuckboi!peter parker x reader

 oi, I don’t want to make this too long but…. IM BACK smh I’ve been so m.i.a. but that’s literally because I’ve been so busy and have bad writer’s block. Smh this probably ain’t even gon be good. But like I worked hard on it to have meaning and stuff and I rlly hope you guys enjoy it. I just want you guys to get straight to the story because you’ve waited so long for it and I’ve been teasing it sm smh. Just read it hope you enjoy muthertruckers😬

tags : @running-outta-time @i-just-wanna-run-hell @munalisax @themyscirahs @sammie-blogs @geeksareunique @violentlybarnes @geeksareunique

words : 11,197

warnings : fuckboi!peter parker, mild cussing, various mentions of sex, angst, ned needs a hug, peter needs a hug, you need a hug, everyone needs a hug

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Originally posted by peter-and-mj


”I bet you your whole Goddamn rep that you couldn’t get weird ass mcgee over there to sleep with you; you know, take her v-card. Before. We. Graduate.”

The words spoken smugly by one of Peter’s multiple friends at the lunch table caught his attention as quick as you could say, “Spider,” The statement challenged him, making him smirk at the smug boy before looking over his shoulder, almost savagely, at the fifteen year old girl huddled in her own little corner of a table in the back, her face morphing as she read through numerous pages of the thick book she held in her hands.

Watching the scene, Peter laughed and shook his head before turning back the group at his table, them looking deeply invested as to what would happen next, he spoke lowly, “Watch me.”

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one scene in every episode: 13x02 to a better place

some of my favorite lines from stranger things
  • "mornings are for coffee and contemplation"
  • "it's called code shut your mouth"
  • "I'm stealthy, like a ninja"
  • "I'm chill!"
  • "Science is neat, but I'm afraid it's not very forgiving"
  • "If anyone asks where I am, I have left the country"
  • "Why are you keeping the curiosity door locked?"
  • "Mouth-breather!"
  • "Sometimes your total obliviousness just blows my mind"
  • "Am I dreaming or is that you Harrington? / Yeah it's me don't cream your pants"
  • "If we're both going crazy, then we'll go crazy together right? / Yeah crazy together"
  • "So, Jonathan, how was the pullout?"
  • "Just curious why all of a sudden you look like some MTV punk"
  • "Farrah Fawcett spray? / Yeah, Farrah Fawcett. You tell anyone I told you that and your ass is grass"
  • “I may be a pretty shitty boyfriend, but turns out I’m actually a pretty damn good babysitter.”
  • “Do you want to dance? / I don’t know how. / I don’t either. Do you want to figure it out?”
Two Gay Weddings

on the second day of Christmas my true love gave to me…


“Nice decorations.”

“Yes.”

“I like the, um- what’s that thing you call hanging from the walls again?”

Draco laughed. “Garland, Potter. I must have told you that a million times.”

“Sorry.” Harry chuckled uncomfortably and adjusted his tie. “I guess I’m just nervous. I’ve never been in a wedding party before.”

“You don’t say. I never would have guessed.” Draco glanced at Harry out of the corner of his eye and smirked when he saw Harry’s stricken expression. “You’ll be fine, Potter.”

“No I won’t be. Ginny should’ve never picked me to be her best man.”

“And Luna should’ve never picked me to be hers.” Draco sighed. “Lord knows all I’ll do is take the attention away from her with my amazing good looks.”

Harry snorted. “Yeah, right.”

“Well, my turn to walk down the aisle.” Draco left his place beside Harry to take the arm of Luna’s maid of honor, Freya Butler, a magizoologist who Luna worked with.

“Good luck,” Harry said, still looking like a frightened little lamb.

“Thanks. And, Potter, I promise you that you’ll be the best best man Ginny could’ve hoped for,” Draco said before disappearing through the doors leading to the sanctuary.

“Did I walk alright?” Potter asked Draco as soon as the two of them sat down at their table for the reception.

“You glided like an angel, I assure you. It hardly matters anyway since everybody was too busy being awed by my perfectly styled hair to notice the way you walked down the aisle.”

Harry laughed. “Oh, of course. And what about during my speech? Will all eyes be on you during that as well?”
“Obviously not all eyes, Potter. Probably about half.”

Harry quirked a smile and took a sip of champagne. “How come you’re not nervous at all?” he asked Draco.

“Years of practice.” Draco smiled at Harry, but the words came out weary.

“More or less years than it takes to make your hair look like that?” Harry teased, raising his eyes pointedly to Draco’s hair.

Draco laughed. “Actually about the same number of years.”

“Ah.”

“Fuck. I don’t think I can do this,” Harry murmured as Hermione was finishing up her speech.

“What do you mean?” Draco asked.

“My speech is next. It’s not as good as Hermione’s. It’s not really good at all. Fuck, I’m going to ruin this wedding.”

Draco put a hand on Harry’s knee. “Don’t say that. You’re not going to ruin anything. You’re going to be great, just like you always are. And if you don’t like your speech, then screw it. Just speak from your heart. Luna and Ginny will love it, no matter what you say.”

People began clapping around them, but the two men just stared into each other’s eyes.

“Okay,” Harry said at last, and he stood up.

The wedding guests went quiet again and looked expectantly at Harry. He took a deep breath.

“I’m glad that’s over,” Harry said to Draco once all the speeches were over. “Do you think I did okay?”

Draco rolled his eyes and smiled. “Everyone was crying by the end of your speech, Potter. So yes, I think you did okay.”

“Oh. I didn’t know if the crying was good or bad.”

Draco smiled for a second more before his expression turned pensive. “Can I ask you something?”

“Yeah, anything.”

“You’re a Gryffindor. You’re like the most Gryffindor-y Gryffindor I’ve ever met, but you were still scared of messing up today. Why?”

Harry frowned. “I’m not immune to nerves, you know.”

“I know, I know, but it just seemed off.” A beat of silence, then Draco added, “Whatever. I guess it’s nothing.”

“It’s not nothing,” Harry said. Draco raised his eyebrows. “I was nervous because I kept thinking that this was going to be my first and only time being in a wedding. And I had to do everything perfectly because I won’t ever do it again.”
“What about your own wedding?”

Harry sighed. “I’m Harry Potter. Everyone I meet is going to have expectations for me. They’ll think I’m a savior or a misunderstood lost soul or some shit like that. I don’t want that.”

“Well aren’t we two peas in a pod? I’m the infamous Draco Malfoy, former Death Eater. Everyone I meet expects me to be a brooding and mysterious Dark Arts master, but all I really am is a-”

“Self-absorbed git. Yeah, I know.”

Draco smiled and finished the last of the champagne. “We should probably just marry each other, eh?”
“Probably.”

“Nice decorations.”

“Yes.”

“What do you call those things on the wall again?”

“Honestly, Potter, this is the last time I’m reminding you. Garland.”

“Malfoy.”

“What is it?”

“No not you, me. I’m Malfoy now too. You keep forgetting.”
Draco blushed, smiled, and looked down at his and Harry’s wedding bands on their fingers.

“Sorry, Mr. Malfoy. I guess it hasn’t sunk in yet.”

“What do you mean it hasn’t sunk in yet? We’ve been married for at least three hours.”

“Hey, I’m not as bad as you are, Mr. ‘What are those things on the wall?’”

“There it is again, you using the wrong last name. What has gotten into you?”
“Nothing has gotten into me, and if you don’t stop bugging me, you’re not getting into me tonight either.”

“If you can’t remember my last name then I’m not sure I want to.”

“I do know your last name. It’s Malfoy. Malfoy. Malfoy. Malfoy. Malfoy. Malfoy. Malfoy. Malfoy,” Draco went on and on until Harry laughed and eventually had to kiss Draco to shut him up.

Basic Aequis feather markings! (Exactly what it says on the tin…)

Each type has a tendency towards certain types of markings, and some markings are limited to select types. 

Accepted color palette ranges for each type will occur later, my head is kind of scrambled right now.

at this point, anyone not into power rangers should definitely blacklist it because i’m not holding back anymore and this blog is now Real Power Rangers Trash.

remember when Yato wanted the biggest shrine in Japan and a ton of money and followeRS AND NOW ALL HE WANTS IS A SIMPLE LIFE WITH YUKINE AND HIYORI LIKE WOW OKAY COOL IM JUST GUNNA LIE DOWN NOW