I read this great post that is a bit old but still relevant from the great Yagazie Emezi on her blog about hair intimacy in a relationship. Growing up as a brown girl I learned that pretty hair that boys like is long straight and flowing. When I started dating my hair was super short, uneven and fried from crazy amounts of flat ironing. But at a very young age I decided I didn’t care what others thought because I knew I would never be what everyone wanted so I only focused on what I wanted for myself. I started wearing braids when I was about 14 and there were times where people I knew wouldn’t see my hair for months at a time. Putting my braids in was always something I never thought to show to anyone and would disappear for the amount of time it took to finish them. However as I have gotten older I realize that it is important for not only oneself to accept themselves in other forms but for those close to you to accept that as well.
“Hair intimacy to me is the comforts of wearing your hair around your partner anyway you see fit and not being judged by it.”
This idea became even more important to me after going natural. Many people told me that guys don’t like that and it’s not cute. But fuck that. Its a part of me and should be accepted and loved like any other part of me. You know my kinks be cute, don’t lie.
Reading Yagazie’s post made me think of my current beau and how amazing it feels to not have to worry about anything at all ever. Someone who accepts you in all forms is truly someone to be grateful for. In the past I might have thought that hiding certain parts of myself was okay because they were undesirable based on my warped image of beauty but not anymore. I miss you luv come back to me~
Enjoy this super embarrassing photo of the gf taking out my braids tee hee hee. (I might take this down later @.@)
Sorry for this random and poorly written post.