I won't trouble you to do it yourself since I'm sure it's lots but Is there a list someplace of all the prayers a woman is expected to say during the day? Thank you for your time.
I’m not personally aware of any list online, however the book Halichos Bas Yisroel by Rabbi Yitzchak Yaacov Fuchs is exactly what you’re looking for. I think the book is pretty difficult to get a hold of, though, so I don’t mind making a list for you. I’m consulting an ArtScroll siddur as I’m writing this so you might want to look at one if you’re reading this, if you have one.
Obvious Disclaimer: I’m not a rabbi or a poisek, this is what I was taught and do myself/am finding in Halichos Bas Yisroel as I type this. Please correct me if there is anything wrong. Also, things will differ depending on community/custom. This is for the Ashkenazi nussach and I only had weekday in mind while writing this.
Basically, it’s expected women say morning blessings/birchos hashachar, morning prayers/Shacharis, and afternoon prayers/Mincha. I’ve tried to break it down for you here.
- Say Modeh Ani when you first wake up and are
still in bed
- Wash hands three times, say Reishes Chochmah
(outside of a bathroom as it contains HaShem’s name). Some also recite Al
Netilas Yadayim and Asher Yatzar here (assuming you went to the washroom), others recite it a bit later on, others
say it at both times
- (The non-ArtScroll siddur I normally use has
Torah tzivah lanu Moshe at this point, but none of my ArtScroll ones do—just a
heads up case you’re using a siddur that does
have it, you should say it)
the brachos for tzitzis and tallis
- Mah Tovu, Adon Olam, Yigdal
- Al Netilas Yadayim, Asher Yatzar
- Blessings of the Torah/Birchos haTorah
- Elokai Neshama
- Morning blessings/birchos hashachar
- Most women skip
- Psukei d’zimra
- If you are in a pinch for time, it will suffice to say Baruch She’amar, Ashrei, and Yishtabach. The remaining order (if you’re in a rush but have time to say some) is as follows:
- Psalm 150, 148, 146, 147, 149 (the Hallelukahs)
- Vayarech Dovid until Tifartecha
- Hodu laShem until Ki Kadosh HaShem
- Remaining sections
- I was personally taught that women aren’t obligated in saying anything leading up to the actual Shema, so I don’t say any of the preceding brachos. Halichos Bas Yisroel says “women may recite the two blessings, Yotzer ohr and Ahavah rabbah, preceding Shema.”
- Say at least the first verse of Shema, however it’s incredibly praiseworthy to say the whole thing
- Continue with Emes V’yatziv, leading into Shmona
- Shmona Esrei
- Most women skip
anything about Torah reading
- Can skip the second Ashrei and U’Vah l’Tzion
- Can skip
Psalm of the Day
- You’re done Shacharis!
Later in the day, you say Mincha, which is the afternoon prayer. It’s the shortest prayer.
- Shmona Esrei
- Skip Tachanun
Most women don’t say Maariv, which is the evening prayer. Please remember that in any of the prayers, you don’t say Kaddish unless you’re responding to it in shul (we don’t say it without a minyan).
Before you go to sleep, you should say Krias Shema al haMita/the bedtime Shema. Halichos Bas Yisroel simply mentions saying Shema and the blessing HaMapil, not the whole thing.
And, of course, you should be saying brachos throughout the day (before/after eating, asher yatzar, etc.)
This probably looks super intimidating, so please take things on slowly. No need to frustrate yourself and be stuck saying Shacharis for two hours if it might lead you to resent davening! I personally started with saying birchos hashachar and once I was committed to doing that, I added more in slowly. If you’re really in a pinch (i.e. slept in through your alarm and have 10 minutes to get to work), you can say a quick personal prayer that includes praise to HaShem, a personal request, and words of thanks.
I hope this was clear!