ya chick lit

anonymous asked:

13 Reasons Why has faced a lot of criticism for telling the story of a teenage girl via a white male author, but Why We Broke Up is also the story of a teenage girl told via a white male author. I was wondering if there is a difference between the way these two narratives are handled that makes Why We Broke Up a positive book for young girls, but makes 13RW a damaging one?

Ooh, that’s a good question. (Was this because of my MFA thesis that dealt with WWBU, or just because I post a lot about liking that book?)

A/N: When I say “The Other” here, I literally mean “writing any perspective that is other than the writer’s own identity. When I write a bisexual character or a heterosexual character, that is me writing The Other. Women who write slash, for example, are inherently writing The Other. ANY white author writing a character of color is writing The Other. Able-bodied authors writing disabled characters are The Other. Skinny/non-fat authors writing fat protagonists is The Other, and one that is done poorly… a lot… in both YA and adult chick lit. Etc. This DOES NOT PERTAIN TO “well, my protagonist is a vampire, so CLEARLY they’re The Other,” because a) duh, and b) the paranormal is always an allegory and the sooner you get that, the better your writing will be, etc. For more on the terminology of Writing The Other, see http://writingtheother.com/

In fact, at least look at their Resources page regardless of who or what you write or read, in general.

So. Off the top of my head, to me, there are three main things that differentiate a Problematic Book About The Other from a Book About The Other That Was Done Respectfully, which both 13RW and WWBU are.

1) Does the author recognize their privilege with respect to the protagonist and subvert it with intention?

2) Does the author recognize the limits of their empathetic imagination and likewise limit their book’s scope in an effort to reduce harm?

3) Does the author recognize that their privilege does not give them the right to create/perform a narrative identity for the purpose of teaching the Other how to be/perform that identity?

Or more simply: do they recognize that their perspective is inherently different from their protagonist’s and allow for that difference in the actual craft of the writing, do they recognize their limitations when it comes to necessary gravities and empathetic imagination, and are they respectful of their character or trying to use their character as a megaphone?

In the case of WWBU and 13RW, I think WWBU comes out ahead on all three points, but #2 is the most important/biggest sticking point here.

Why We Broke Up is a story with a metric fuckton less gravity than 13 Reasons Why. Handler made the smart choice here. If you are going to write a story about any of the topics in 13RW on its own – let alone all smooshed together into one story – then it needs to be given the gravity of its full weight. An adult man writing about a teenage girl’s suicidal ideation is never going to accurately depict that experience because… honestly?

No person writing about someone else’s suicidal ideation is going to accurately depict that experience. ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY so if you do not understand the perspectives that inform it and are informed by it. Even though I am a queer Jewish girl, I would never, never, never think that I had the right to write about a suicidal queer Christian girl. I do not understand how that feels. I do not understand the role of the church and the weight of Christianity in that identity. Even if I can imagine it, and I can put myself in those shoes with research, and I interview people who’ve been there and I read every memoir I can on the topic and immerse myself in going to church for a few weeks to be able to depict the setting and the flavor… the gravity of that perspective is just too heavy.

What do I mean by that?

I mean that the combination of those identities, together, and the stakes of the plotline – of the choices – are too fraught. They are life or death. If you’re writing The Other, and the “life or death” stakes AREN’T like, a “whoa is this minotaur going to maul us if I don’t swing this mysterious sword I inherited?” kind of thing, you are much, much more likely to fuck up. It’s not your story to tell. If those identities in themselves are what create the Life Or Death stakes, and you don’t share those identities, you just aren’t gonna get it right. Like. You’re just not.

The stakes in WWBU are… more or less nonexistent. Which I mean as a compliment! WWBU is a character study, and the character in question has an admittedly charmed life for a Jewish teenage girl. The worst things that happen to her in the book are consensual, if regrettable and regretted, sex – which I honestly which showed up more in YA, because lbr teenage sex is Not Good – and being cheated on. No one is going to die. No matter what Min chooses, no matter how Min reacts, no matter where Min is, no matter who Min talks to, no matter Why They Broke Up, everyone in the story is going to live. Handler is able to exercise his empathetic imagination fully, immersing himself in Min’s perspective of the world, because that is the whole story. The whole story is “what is Min’s perspective on why she and Ed Slaterton broke up.” That, in itself, is a challenge for an adult male writer to manage respectfully, and I think Handler recognized that when he chose not to pile on a bunch of extraneous Issues.

Which is Point #3. I have to preface here:

I fuckin’ hate Issue Books.

And I fuckin’ hate them because almost without exception, they’re really, really bad.

And they’re really, really bad because 99.9% of the time, Issue Books are borne of adults going, “I want to teach teens a thing. Those whippersnappers are gonna get off my lawn with their FEELINGS and their NOT UNDERSTANDING THINGS FROM AN ADULT PERSPECTIVE. Myah!”

Fuck that shit. It’s so 1985.

And also 1995.

And like. Okay, for a LONG time, like up until the late ‘90s/early 2000s, Issue Books were basically ~the point of YA, as far as the industry was concerned. Teens R Dum N Adults Teach Them That If You Drink And Drive You Will Have Sex And Die. Or something. Also that one joint is the equivalent of 9000 crack rocks.

I digress.

The point here is, there intrinsic problems with Issue Books like 13RW, and they all boil down to the characters not being characters. Instead, they are Ideas. (And not in an F. Scott Fitzgerald Daisy-is-the-unattainable-green-light way.)

You cannot write a meaningful, engaging book without characters. You can’t! You literally cannot. This is a thing that Laura Ruby was really strict about when I worked with her. Even if you know that your story is About More Than It Seems, with regard to allegories to the patriarchy and heavy themes and gravity and shit, your characters have to be characters. And if all they exist to do is teach the reader something? They don’t have the latitude for that.

Every character, every scene, every “reason why” is meant to be instructional. And for the era that the book came out – 2006 – that totally makes sense! That’s basically how YA that wasn’t about vampires WORKED in 2006! But that. Um. Isn’t.



The framework of 13RW – an adult male author using the violation and death of a teenage girl to teach a teenage boy, and ostensibly the female reader through that male main character, a lesson – is… icky. Especially when the mission is accomplished by a) repeatedly violating said female protagonist, which I understand is both unfortunately realistic and also given its due consequence via her suicide, but also b) by showing how that consequence affects a male character.



“Now, V,” you say, “Did Min not write her whole letter to Ed in the hopes that he will change?”

“Perhaps,” I say, “But we never have to give a shit about Ed Slaterton’s future. We never have to give a shit about Ed Slaterton’s feelings. He doesn’t matter in the novel [Min’s letter] and – the whole resolution of the story is that he doesn’t matter to Min.”

Min’s only suffering – her pain at being cheated on – changed her. And only her. And in the scope of suffering, between Hannah’s and Min’s, they’re incomparable. Genuinely, their suffering is incomparable. Compared to Hannah, calling Min’s pain “suffering” feels flippant and gross to me. Min is hurt. Hannah is destroyed. Literally.

Which is kind of a big, and important, difference on its own between these two books. One male author created his female protagonist to exist, and to grow, and to thrive. IF Ed Slaterton has to be considered, as the recipient of the novel of a letter – even then, Min doesn’t exist to teach him a lesson. Min exists to teach herself a lesson and then go, “And fuck you, Ed, boy bye.” Why We Broke Up is squarely, intensely, almost redundantly about Min. It is Min’s story.

The other created a female protagonist to be raped, and demeaned, and to die. To teach a boy a lesson. The book isn’t about Hannah. It’s about Clay. It’s Hannah’s story, but it’s about Clay. Which… casts Hannah’s entire life, her entire existence, as having been… about Clay. She existed so that Clay could learn a thing. And that’s bullshit.

(And this is long enough, so, for why I think Handler succeeded at point #1 – writing Min as a genuine character he respected and subverted his own privilege in POV to allow her to be a realistic and empathetically crafted teenage girl – read said thesis.

It’s even longer.


So everyone is always asking me for book recommendations so I decided to make a master post of books (Most are YA books because a large majority of people on here read them). Each book is linked to the goodreads page for it (for series I linked you to the first book) and next to it are the main genres. 

Completed Series: 

A Series Of Unfortunate Events - YA, Childrens, Fantasy
Beautiful Creatures
 - YA, Fantasy, Magic, Romance
Bobby Pendragon - YA, Fantasy, Adventure
Chaos Walking - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian
Crank - YA, Poetry, Realistic Fiction
Daughter of Smoke and Bone - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal
Delirium - YA, Dystopian, Romance
Divergent - YA, Sci Fi Dytopian
Eragon - YA, Fantasy, Adventure
Fallen - YA, Paranormal, Romance
Flowers In The Attic - Incest, Romance, Mystery
Gone - YA, Fantasy, Apocalyptic, Sci Fi
Harry Potter - YA, Fantasy, Magic
His Dark Materials - YA, Adventure, Fantasy
House of Night - YA, Fantasy, Romance, Vampires
Hush Hush - YA, Paranormal, Fantasy
If I Stay - YA, Contemporary, Romance, Realistic Fiction
Inkheart - YA, Fantasy, Magic
Legend - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian, Fantasy
Lux Series - YA, Paranormal, Fantasy, Aliens
Mara Dyer - YA, Romance, Paranormal
Matched - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian, Romance
Mercy Falls - YA, Fantasy, Romance
Partials - YA, Sci Fi, Dystopian
Percy Jackson - YA, Fantasy, Mythology
Perfect Chemistry - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Shadow and Bone - Fantasy, YA, Romance
Shatter Me - YA, Dystopian Sci Fi, Romance
Sweet Evil - YA, Paranormal, Romance
The Apprenticeship of Victor Frankenstein - YA, Fantasy, Gothic Horror
The Chronicles of Narnia - YA, Fantasy, Adventure
The Darkest Minds - YA, Dystopian Sci Fi, Fantasy
The Gemma Doyle Series - Fantasy, Historial Fiction, YA
The Girl of Fire and Thorns - YA, Fantasy, Romance, Magic
The Heroes of Olympus - YA, Fantasy, Mythology
The Hunger Games - Dystopian, YA, 
The Infernal Devices - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal
The Land of Elyon - YA, Fantasy 
The Luxe  - YA, Fantasy
The Maze Runner - YA, Dystopian Sci Fi, 
The Mortal Instruments - YA, Paranormal, Fantasy
The Selection - YA, Romance, Dystopian
The Sisterhood Of The Travelling Pants - Ya, Chick Lit, Romance
Uglies - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian, Fantasy
Under The Never Sky - YA, Dystopian, Romance
Vampire Academy - YA, Romance, Fantasy, Vampires
Wicked Lovely - YA, Fantasy, Magic

Uncompleted Series: 

A Song of Ice and Fire - Sci Fi, Fantasy, Adult 
Angelfall - YA, Fantasy, Dystopian
Bloodlines - YA, Paranormal, Vampires, Fantasy
Dangerous Creatures - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal
Dorothy Must Die - Fantasy, YA, Magic
I Am Number Four - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal
Miss Peregrines - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal, Mystery
Outlander - Historical Fiction, Romance, Fantasy
The Archived - YA, Mystery, Paranormal
The Culling - Ya, Sci Fi Dystopian, LGBTQ, Fantasy
The Diviners - YA, Historical Fiction, Fantasy
The Fifth Wave - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian
The Land of Stories - Fantasy, Magic
The Loners - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian, Horror, Apocalyptic 
The Lunar Chronicles - Fantasy, YA, Dystopian Sci Fi
The Mortality Doctrine - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian
The Program - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian, Romance
The Raven Cycle - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal, Romance
The Ring and the Crown -  YA, Fantasy, Historical Fiction, Romance
The School For Good and Evil - YA, Fantasy, Childrens, 
The Woodcutter Sisters - Fairytale, YA, Fantasy
Throne of Glass - Fantasy, YA, Magic
The Sylo Chronicles - Ya, Sci Fi Dystopian, Fantasy, Mystery
Thursday Next  - Fantasy, Adult Fiction, Mystery
Unraveling - YA, Sci Dystopian, Fantasy
Unwind - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian

Individual Books:

A Monster Calls - YA, Fantasy, Horror
Along For The Ride
 - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Amy and Roger’s Epic Detour - YA, Contemporary, Romance
An Abundance of Katherines - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Anna And The French Kiss - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of The Universe - LGTB, YA, 
Attachments - Romance, Contemporary, Chick Lit
Beautiful Disaster - Romance, New Adult, Contemporary
Before I Fall - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Bird Box - Horror, Adult Fiction, Thriller
Boy Meets Boy - YA, LGBTQ, Romance
Bright Shiny Morning - Adult Fiction, Contemporary, Short Stories
Dear Nobody - YA, Contemporary 
Eleanor and Park - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Every Day
 - YA, Contemporary
Fangirl - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Firefly - YA, Fantasy, Witches
Go Ask Alice - YA, Realistic Fiction, Contemporary
Gone Girl - Fiction, Adult fic, Thriller, Suspense
Hate List - YA, Contemporary, Realistic Fiction
Hopeless -  Romance, New Adult, Contemporary
How I Live Now - YA, Sci Fi Dystopian, War
Identical - YA, Poetry, Realistic Fiction
Isla And The Happily Ever After - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Jellicoe Road - YA, Mystery, Contemporary
It’s Kind of A Funny Story - YA, Realistic Fiction
Landline - Romance, Chick Lit, Contemporary
Lock and Key  - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Lola and The Boy Next Door - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Looking For Alaska - YA, Romance, Fiction
Love Letters To The Dead - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Love, Rosie - Chick Lit, Contemporary, Romance
Maybe Someday - Romance, New Adult, Contemporary
Me and Earl and The Dying Girl - YA, Contemporary, Humor
Never Let Me Go - Adult Ficiton, Sci Fi, Contemporary
Nineteen Minutes - Adult Fiction, Realistic Fiction, Drama
Panic - YA, Contemporary, Sci Fi Dystopian
Party - YA, Contemporary, Realistic Fiction
Paper Towns - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Rebel Belle - YA, Fantasy, Paranormal
Rumble - YA, Realistic Fiction, Contemporary
Silver Linings Playbook - Adult, Contemporary, Romance
Since You’ve Been Gone - YA, Romance, Contemporary
Slammed - Romance, New Adult, Contemporary
Speak - YA, Contemporary, Realistic Fiction
Stolen - YA, Contemporary, Realistic Fiction, Romance
The Book Thief - YA, Historial Fiction,
The Fault In Our Stars - YA, Contemporary, Romance
The Giver - YA, Classics, Fantasy, Sci Fi Dystopian
The Host - Fantasy, YA, Romance, Sci Fi Dystopian
The Killing Woods - YA, Mystery, Thriller
The Lovely Bones - Mystery, YA, Contemporary
The Night Circus - Romance, Historical Fiction, Fantasy
The Pact - Adult Fiction, Realistic Fiction, Romance, 
The Perks of Being A Wallflower - YA, Contemporary, Coming of Age
The Scorpio Races - YA, Fantasy, Romance
The Spectacular Now - YA, Contemporary, Romance
To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Thirteen Reasons Why - YA, Contemporary, Realistic Fiction
Truth About Forever - YA, Contemporary, Romance
Ugly Love - Romance, New Adult, Contemporary
Vicious - YA, Fantasy, Sci-Fi, Paranormal
Virgin - New Adult, Chick Lit, Contemporary
Warm Bodies - Romance, Dystopian, Horror
We Were Liars - YA, Contemporary, Mystery
White Oleander - Contemporary, Chick Lit, Fiction
Will Grayson, Will Grayson - YA, Contemporary, LGBT

Everyone can share this post of course, but I ask for everyone to please leave any negative opinions about any of the books out. 

The bolded books are personal favorites :)

Also, I obviously missed a ton of books, many on purpose, so feel free to add on to this. :)

theblackabyssofme  asked:

This is probably a really pointless question that has been asked before (so feel free not to answer lol), but what anime (animes?) would you recommend and why?

!!!!!!! Oh my gosh, that is NOT a pointless question! Friend! FRIEND!!! I have been waiting my whole life for someone to ask me for anime recommendations!!

Like, 90% of the reason why I even have this blog is because I watch So. Much. Anime. And I kept wanting to talk about it with people, but there was no one I could talk to about my deep love of anime, and how much I wanted to recommend them things, but no one cared about my anime recommendations, so it was like, “oh, ok, fine, I’ll just go obsess quietly in this corner of the internet for a while…”

So, THANK YOU. Gosh, I will try and contain myself but I was really so excited to be asked. (You are probably already regretting asking the question. Sorry.)

But I watch so much anime that I literally have recommendations in any genre. You want to watch something that will break your heart? Got one for that. You want something that’s just funny and dumb? Got that too. Mecha? Historical fantasy? Shoujo? Shounen? I have them all!!

I’m going to try and limit my recommendations to my top four. And I’m going to offer up a wide range, just for fun. I’m also staying away from sports anime, because at this point, I just assume it’s a given that I recommend all the Sports Anime Ever. (I apologize ahead of time for the length of this post).

The most important thing to me with anime I watch is the story; as a big reader in all genres, it is not often I am surprised by where a story is going, and one of the reasons why I love anime so much is because their stories do surprise me, all the time. All the anime I recommend here have incredible stories and amazing characters. So here are the top four anime I recommend, based on my deep love for them, how much I wish they had a bigger fandom, and also how often I rewatch them:

1) Tiger and Bunny.

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If you like: One Punch Man and My Hero Academia, you should really watch Tiger and Bunny. I was so excited to see it on my dash.

Why: It had a new take on the Super Hero trope that I hadn’t seen before. It also has an amazing cast of well-developed, interesting characters. And it has one of the most inclusive casts I have ever seen in any show: kickass ladies, kickass people of color, kickass canonically gay characters—and all of them were well-developed, complex people. The story itself had a lot of interesting twists and has a really refreshing look into the Revenge Motive. The villains are all kind of fascinating too. Plus, Kotetsu and Barnaby are married af, and that’s always nice.

(Also, I just watched the Movie for the first time last night and I’m still sobbing. I have never seen such a respectful focus on a genderqueer character in a movie/show where being genderqueer was not the focus of the movie/show.)

2) Princess Tutu

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If you like: Fairy tales, or you’re interested in story-telling, you really have to watch this anime.

Why: I periodically rewatch this anime because I just love it. So. Much. It really is like watching a new fairy tale. It’s also an amazing metafictional look into what it means to tell a story, and what it would be like to rebel against the story and the role that is written for you. And it’s probably the only anime I’ve ever watched where the ships I shipped in the beginning are definitely not the same ships I shipped at the end. Also, you should watch this AMV, if you’re not convinced.

3) Erased

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If you like: Time travel, or complex psychological dramas, this anime is for you.

Why: Yes, I am slightly biased, because I just wrote a fanfic about this show, but I really do think it’s amazing. I think in so many stories we are used to hearing, the story is about how things started out Right and then they all went Wrong. And this anime is the story about how things were Wrong, and one man does everything he can to make them Right again. And I really like that.

4) Ore Monogatari!!

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I saved this one for last because it’s going to be long. Largely because I just re-watched it and I have ALL THE FEELS. And I’ve been wanting to talk about it.

If you like: Pure, fluffy, romance. This is the anime for you.

Why: This is the story of how Two Cinnamon Rolls Too Pure, Too Good For This World, fall in love with each other. And their salty asexual friend who will shank anyone who gets in the way of his cinnamon roll friends’ love.

So, OK. I have read a lot of romance, either in shoujo manga/anime or in YA lit, or chick lit, or just unrepentant romance novels. And my biggest, biggest problem with romance (especially in shoujo manga and YA) is the fact that I almost always hate the love interest hero. Because I just hate, hate the trope of “beautiful, mysterious man who is an asshole, but everyone falls in love with him anyway.” And I hate that these women keep falling in love with beautiful men who are assholes to them. And I also kinda hate how there’s never really a reason why the beautiful asshole likes this woman in particular? It’s always like, “Oh, this girl. She’s different than the rest.” Because of course everyone is in love with the beautiful asshole, but only the heroine Can Win His Heart.

Takeo completely subverts that trope. He is set up as a guy who is not good-looking, no girls ever fall in love with him, but he is just genuinely kind. He’s nice to everyone, he’s 1000% respectful towards women, and he’s always happy to help anyone in need.

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I also love Yamato, because you never wonder why he would fall in love with her in particular. She is pure sunshine, but at the same time, she is also very assertive, and that is *so* rare in romance stories. This girl sees her man, wants her man, and does everything she can to *get* her man. Like, damn, Yamato. Girl knows what she wants. And I just love how she is always the one to make the first move in their relationship. I also love the fact that she clearly has a libido and openly lusts after her boyfriend. It is amazing how often women aren’t allowed to feel sexual attraction in their own romance stories.

This show also challenges the idea that established relationships are boring. And the idea that a good romance story has to have a lot of drama before the couple can get together. These two refreshingly love each other, trust each other, trust other people, and communicate their concerns when they have them and it is just So. Nice. Not to have needless drama in a love story.

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Equally important, I love asexual best friend Suna. One of the things this anime does is that it emphasizes that Takeo’s friendship with Suna is as equally important to him as his relationship with Yamato. And I just wish that was emphasized more in romance? Because it really seems that in a lot of other romance stories, True Love is the most important thing, and everything and every one else can go to hell. But Suna’s platonic love for Takeo is as defining as Yamato’s love for Takeo, and Takeo’s love for both of them is the most important thing to him.

And I’m going to have to stop myself there, because I could seriously go on and on and on about how Ore Monogatari!! Is the best love story ever and I could keep going. (And I want to, I waaaant to) but this post is already long enough and I apologize to everyone on my dash.

Thank you again for asking! Please ask me for recommendations! I have so many!! Also, if you want to recommend me anything, please do so!!

I don’t want to be with a boy whose heart belongs to somebody else. Just once, I want to be somebody’s first choice.
—  Jenny Han, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
You’ve got your shit together, you’re not scared of anything. I’m scared of everything. And I’m crazy. Like maybe you think I’m a little crazy, but I only ever let people see the tip of my crazy iceberg. Underneath this veneer of slightly crazy and socially inept, I’m a complete disaster.
—  Rainbow Rowell, Fangirl p. 184
See, she goes places when she reads. I know all about that. When I’m reading, wherever I am, I’m always somewhere else.
—  Rebecca Wells, Little Altars Everywhere

The complaints about books where the romance is the primary plot everything revolves around regardless of a corrupt government frustrates me. 90% of the time y'all are eyeballs deep in YA, NA, or chick lit. Many genres do not focus so much on romance and it is either nonexistent or a subplot. There are always exceptions in every genre, but if you are sick of the repetitive romance, then try something new?!