Here are a few things I have learned to keep my partner safe while using. This may be controversial to some people or described as ‘enabling’ but I think knowing what to do and what not to do will save lives for sure.
Drug addiction is a crippling, awful thing and I do not advise anyone to take any drug without extensive knowledge and precaution.
However if you want to keep the people you love safe then these things may really help, especially in life saving situations.
1. NEVER LET THEM SLEEP ON THEIR BACK.
This has caused deaths in many cases because when using opiates the body goes into respiratory depression (slowed breathing) and it makes it much harder for them to breathe and much easier for them to choke if they sleep on their backs.
Wake them up if you have to. Turn them into the recovery position (on their left or right side, hands away from the face, legs crossed) and make sure there is no obstructions in their mouth. Keep checking up on them throughout the night, if you can, invest in a blood pressure monitor just for peace of mind to check their pulse isn’t too low. I know the normal range for my boyfriend, and can see on there if it’s anything abnormal.
2.MAKE SURE THEY GET PLENTY OF WATER.
Whilst using, they are not in a normal frame of mind, ie: breakfast lunch or dinner aren’t going to be a priority when they are withdrawing or high / fully sedated. The ideal amount of water to consume in a day is 2.2 litres so try and get them to have a few glasses of water every now and then. Check their temperature and if needed get a cold flannel to cool them down, this can help with withdrawal.
3. BE AS SUPPORTIVE AS YOU CAN.
This may seem obvious, but those trips to the clinic or the hours trying to score can be really draining mentally as well as physically for someone, especially when they are withdrawing. Knowing you are there for them, holding their hand and being there will make a world of difference. Your love and support will encourage the person in recovery because it will give them something to fight for if they know you are there helping them and shining a small light on a really dark situation.
4. KNOW THE WITHDRAWAL SIGNS FOR YOUR LOVED ONE.
These are a list of basic symptoms my partner experiences and are common as well.
- irritation/irrational anger
- nausea and diarrhoea
-high blood pressure
5. HELP THEM WITH BASIC NEEDS.
What I mean by this is, most people using drugs have pretty bad mental health and are struggling mentally foremost, but this is a catalyst for poor hygiene, bad physical health and emotional withdrawal.
Try and get them to go for a walk every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes. Fresh air and exercise is the best medicine next to good nutrition.
Help them tidy up, wash and clean themselves. It’s likely their living space is going to be dirty so where you can, put things in the bin, get rid of any used needles or bloody tissues and make sure they are tied up in a big rubbish bag and disposed of. Get them any deodorant or nice products to help them with good self care as this can be a real help in recovery as well. When I’m not feeling good a shower and a shave always makes me feel better.
Try and get them to talk about how their feeling, if it’s good or if it’s bad, and just listen. I’m not asking you to be a therapist, just be there when they need someone to share their pain and to emotionally support them. It will do wonders for their self esteem and also recovery.
6. UNDERSTAND YOU MAY HAVE TO PUT THINGS ON HOLD.
Drug addiction is a life long battle this person is going to have to deal with. Just like any disorder or addiction it is going to take a lot of work and a lot of time and effort and a want to get better. This means their needs will have to come first when they are seeking help, especially in the beginning. If you want your loved one to get better you are going to have to accept your me time will be put on hold for a little while and things you have to do will have to be moved around in order to help the person suffering. Remember it is them going through this, but also you, so when you get a chance do take some time for yourself and remind yourself what a great job you are doing by taking care of them in this time if need. You are literally saving a human beings’ life, I don’t know anything more rewarding than that.
7. RESPECT YOUR LOVED ONE.
What I mean by this is, don’t shout about it to everyone you know that this person is going through drug addiction. It’s terrible enough as it is, without people talking about it and making them feel even worse about themselves. They will be much more likely to use / hurt themselves if they are made to feel ashamed or guilty about their problems. That’s not a place I would wish anyone to be. The people they care most about will be informed, and if that’s you then consider it a privilege that they have chosen you to be someone they can confide in.
8. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO CALL AN AMBULANCE.
If you see any signs in your loved one which worry you or make you feel concerned, do not hesitate to call the emergency services. That is what they are there for.
If someone is nodding out on opiates (heroin, morphine, codeine,
oxies etc) check their breathing and shake them a little just to make sure they are okay. If they go anywhere by themselves whilst high be sure to check on them for example in the bath they could nod out and drown if left alone for too long.
If you know they are on drugs and have passed out on the floor and aren’t responding, check their pulse and immediately call an ambulance. This is when it is essential to get help. Do not hit or try and shake them vigorously as this can cause brain damage. Wait for the emergency services to arrive.
If your loved one is an opiate user, CARRY NALOXONE! And learn how to administer it. Naloxone will completely reverse all side effects so if they are not responding this will bring them back to a sober state but they will be fully withdrawing. Call emergency services straight after administering the naloxone.
I can’t think of anything much more to add other than just to love these people and to treat them as you would anybody else who is suffering and in pain. Your love will help them, no matter how tough it seems, no matter how many sleepless nights and no matter how drained you may feel, I promise you it is worth it when you keep these people safe and alive.
From A, with love x
P.s my ask box is open for any questions or help with keeping your loved one safe through drug addiction.
Disney’s live action remake of Beauty and the Beast has topped the billion dollar mark worldwide, grossing a magical total of $1,000,039,193 in the box office in its fourth week. It’s the 29th movie to ever cross this mark.
This kit was put together for those who are strongly connected with the night. The darkness of night will grant you protection and soothe your nerves. All the items inside will help you deflect negative energy and find some rest for your body and mind.
When the letter arrives, Lily is almost as excited as Petunia. She writes Albus Dumbledore to ask if she can go to, and if she cries a little when the answer comes back no she doesn’t tell anyone. Lily waves from the train platform, writes diligently, and listens with excitement whenever her big sister deigns to share stories of magic.
Petunia gets Sorted Slytherin, where she falls into a mutually-venemous friendship with Severus Snape, who she had considered dirty and poor when he was skulking around Lily in their little neighborhood, lighting leaves on fire like a baby arsonist, but who now seems like the best ally in a pool of ugly little fish.
The blood-purists are their normal asshole selves, which Petunia responds to with busybody eavesdropping, cruel gossip, and manipulative emotional bullying. Severus calls her mudblood in their fifth year (it’s not the first time) and joins the Death Eaters. Tuney calls him a greasy git of a wanker and they still have lunch away from prying eyes now and then.
When the war comes, Petunia does not fight in it. She marries a Hufflepuff boy named Vincent Dunsley who spends their entire first date telling her about his junior position in the Ministry and his planned thirty-six bureaucratic steps to the top of the food chain. Vincent has no problem with Muggleborns, or at least not ones who behave as properly as Petunia.
Lily does fight. She’s been reading the Daily Prophet for years as she sits through history class dreaming of brooms and punching bullies on the playground. At seventeen, she writes Albus Dumbledore again. When he still writes back no, she packs a bag and shows up on the Order’s doorstep.
Alice Longbottom gives her a place to stay, some spare robes, and teaches her how to fly– Lily hopes, wrapped in a warm blanket while they sip cocoa and discuss action plans, that if she’d gone to Hogwarts she’d have been good enough to get Sorted Hufflepuff. Frank beams at his wife in the dim yellow light.
Of the Marauders, Lily meets Sirius first– shaggy hair and strong bones, he’s a tall glass of water and he’s anxiously watching a skinny, scarred boy sleep on the sofa. They’re an hour off a mission and Remus crashed as soon as they got back to headquarters. The first thing Sirius Black, troublemaker and risktaker, says to her is “Shh! You walk like an elephant.”
She’d snap back, but Remus does look that worn down, curled on the cushions.
Peter and James are in the kitchen, shoveling sandwiches down their gullets that are the size of their heads. James staggers to his feet when she comes in. “Hi. Uh, new recruit?”
“Something like that.”
James shoves his hair out of his eyes with one hand and thrusts the other one out in her direction. “James Potter,” he says. “Beauxbatons? I don’t think I ever saw you at Hogwarts.”
She grins. “Lily Evans,” she says. “Cokeworth. And I’d shake your hand, but you’ve got mustard on it.”
Lily defies the Dark Lord and his forces three times, with James’s wand at her back, with Remus’s and Sirius’s and Peter’s. They tell her about Hogwarts and its secrets, and she brings them Muggle candy bars and the boxes of X-Men comic books from under her bed. No one gets chocolate smudges on her pages, under threat of James’s disappointed-in-you face, which he’s been practicing.
Severus Snape hears about a Muggle Evans on the warfront. “Petunia’s not a Muggle,” he snaps when Dolohov mocks him for it, but Crabbe cradles his broken arm and keeps talking– about green eyes, red hair like a war banner– and Severus’s stomach sinks low in his gut, cold and aching.
Severus Snape overhears a prophecy and he tells it to his Lord. Lily Evans Potter is the mother of a halfblood boy with a mess of dark hair. Lily is in Augusta Longbottom’s living room, playing peekaboo with Harry and Neville, because Alice and Frank are already in St. Mungo’s, because she does not know that she is soon to be not a soldier but a fugitive. Her child has no scars, yet.
On Halloween night 1981, Tom Riddle goes to the Godric’s Hollow home that Peter Pettigrew betrayed. He kills James in the front room, wand in hand. He kills Lily in the nursery, after giving her a chance to step aside. He tries to kill Harry, but he fails.
Harry goes to his closest living relatives– his aunt Petunia, uncle Vincent, and cousin Dudley. He sleeps in a little room just off the kitchen, which he thinks used to be a broom closet. They hate the attention he brings when he’s dragged behind his aunt at the grocery store, so they leave Harry home when they go to Diagon Alley, Ministry potlucks, or the evening shows that Dudley fusses through, fists full of pumpkin pasties.
Harry knows how to wash dishes by hand, how to cook bacon without burning it (most mornings), and how to capture the spiders in the broom closet and escort them carefully outside. For his birthday Dudley gets a toy broom. For his, Harry gets an Albus Dumbledore Chocolate Frog card because Dudley already has fifteen and didn’t want that one. Petunia likes to peer over the hedge into the yard of Mrs. Figg, the squib who lives next door, and snigger about how she has to do her laundry without magic.
When Harry is ten years old, his Hogwarts letter comes in the mail and the Dunsleys are surprised. “I wasn’t sure,” Petunia sniffs. “I mean, with my sister’s blood in you and everything, anything could have happened.”
Imagine: You and Dan decide to give the fans what they want, and cute video of the internents favourite couple
A/N: I know this isn’t any thing about marvel but I couldn’t help myself, I’ve been watching all of Dan and hil’s videos and getting so many feelis. I just had to. Also I really should be doinf my German coursework, bit too late, Dan is more important
Warnings: Some swearing, implied smut but just fluff really
Word Count: 1955 (got a little carried away)
“Hello internet” Dan
starts off with his iconic opener
“Today, I am joined by the
wonderful Y/N, who you may also know as my girlfriend!” He exclaimed, giving
out a laugh as your cue to jump into the camera view.
“Hey guys” You giggled,
getting comfortable next to Dan
“Now you may be wondering
what original video I have for you today, and let me tell you, it doesn’t get
more original than this”
“We are doing the
girlfriend tag!” You almost shouted, causing Dan to let out a rather loud
“Jeez, lets tone it now my
channel isn’t used to your happy attitude just yet” He joked, covering his ears
“Just because you literally
only have the feeling of embarrassment, doesn’t mean I can’t be happy” You fire
back, sending a smirk in his direction.
“Oh God, too much sass. I
want Phil back” Your dork of a boyfriend joked
“Shut up, we kind of have
a part of Phil with us now” You explained
“Really how so?” Dan
“Well, he did do the
questions for us to answer”
“God knows what kind of
weird stuff he has put in here; I don’t know if you guys have noticed but Phil
is like obsessed with sharing our relationship with others. If he isn’t taking
sneaky photos of us and tweeting them, then he is jumping into a room when we
are together doing a live stream of us.”
As Dan continued to talk
about his best friend, you couldn’t help but admire his perfect features. His
big, wide smile that would light up a room. His unusually large dimple that you
found so adorable. How he is constantly touching and checking if his hair looks
okay, which of course it does. And his dark drowns eyes, that you could stare
into for days.
“..Y/n?” You were abruptly
ripped out of your thoughts by Dan waving a hand in front of your face
“Sorry” You blushed, red
staining your cheeks as you realised Dan caught you staring at him and will
most definitely keep this part in his video, because, well let’s face it, a bit
of an arse.
“What were you so caught
“Just admiring the view”
You jokingly sent back and big wink. Now it was Dan’s’ turn to blush, whist
also letting out a laugh
“That was so cringe, I
might just have to take it out of the video.” Dan spoke to the camera; he was definitely
not taking that part out.
“Right so to start this
video I’m going to put my hand into the hat and pull out a question. The
questions are basically letting you guys know even more about our relationship
and hopefully teaching us a bit more about each other” Dan explained.
“Ohhhh can I go first?”
You excitedly asked. You couldn’t help it, there was something so fun about
doing a video with your boyfriend.
You dove your hand into
the hat, grabbing the first folded piece of paper you felt and pulled it out.
says, ‘Where was our first kiss?’” For the second time you felt your
cheeks heat up.
“I’m going to be so red
this whole video, reckon you could like put a filter on me to make me look
better?” You joked, however it wasn’t such a bad idea.
Dan laughed, before saying
“So do you want to answer
“You do it” You always
loved hearing Dan talk about your relationship
“Alright, I remember it
was our second date and we were just hanging in the living room eating pizza
talking after just finishing up on the X-box. I was so nervous, just thinking
about leaning in and possibly facing rejection and ruining it all. But then you
made a joke out about anime and I knew I had to do it before someone else
snatched you away” Dan smiled at the memory, you beaming right back at him.
“Then he just leant in and
kissed me, obviously I didn’t turn down that face and now here we are two years
later” You finished, butterflies erupting in your stomach at the fond memory.
“OK, next question” Dan
stuck his hand in the hat rather ungracefully causing a few questions to topple
“Shit” he mumbled, throwing
back three in the hat and reading out the remaining one on the floor.
sentence ‘My girlfriend is a complete…..’” Dan stopped to think for a
minute, you couldn’t help but anxiously wait for what he was going to say
“…..twat” He finally
spoke. This caused you both to simultaneous burst out into a fit of laughter,
clutching your stomach you couldn’t be surprised at what Dan said, it was so
him. You knew Dan loved you with everything he had, it was very obvious. You
guys didn’t have a mushy gushy relationship, it was more full of lots of jokes
and banter, you guys were basically best friends,
“You are such and arse, why
am I dating you?” You tried to sound upset, but the smile that you couldn’t
wipe off your face gave it all away.
“You loveeeeee me really”
He rather obnoxiously sung
“Actually Babe, I’m
secretly in love with Phil and I only come round to your house on the chance
that I will see my one true love” You lied, not helping but feel a bit weird by
saying you like Phil, who was basically like a brother to you.
“That’s just mean, and a
little gross” He complained
“Yeah I know; I have no
clue why I said it” you giggled
“Right, my turn” You plunged
your hand into the hat, pulling one out to read.
“‘Who wears the pants in
the relationship?’ Ohh that’s hard” You thought.
“I know my answer” Dan
“Really? Alright let’s say
our answers on three. One, two, three.”
This caused both of you to
say ‘me’ at the same time.
“You’re kidding me right?”
You said in disbelief to Dan
“What? Love, I’m always making
“Babe, I literally always
have to order for us at the cinema because you’re ‘too awkward to talk to new
“Alright, alright I’ll
give you that one, no need to share all my secrets on my channel”
Dan took out another piece
of paper from the hat, causing yet again one to fall out.
“God, it’s clear to see
who the clumsiest one of us is. And that’s hard because I could fall over
standing still” You poked out at Dan.
“Leave me alone, you are so mean. So it says, ohhh this is interesting, ‘who is
more jealous’?” Dan read.
“Ohhh, that is” You both
took a minute to think about it, recalling moments when the other has been
jealous. Most of these moments resulting in some seriously fun times together,
and just by looking at Dan and the lazy smirk he wore you knew he was thinking
about them. You kicked him in the shins, under the view of the camera causing
him to jump a little, then answering.
“I feel like you get
jealous more often, but it’s not as intense as when I get jealous.”
“Hmmm, yeah I reckon that’s fair to say.” You repeated, it wasn’t hard
constantly having beautiful girls running up to your boyfriend, telling him how
hot and sometimes the daring ones flirting with him. However, it had happened a
few times when we were hanging around with Dan’s friends and one flirts with
you, he gets mad.
“We only have a couple
questions left” You sadly exclaimed, not wanting this video to be over.
“Let’s hope we haven’t
saved the weirdest till last then!” Dan deadpanned
Grabbing one of the last
pieces of paper you unfold it and read,
“‘what do I find really
fun, that no one else really does?’” You laughed lightly at this weird
question, thinking Dan would need a while on this one.
“You watch pimple popping
videos” He answered straight away. You sat there with your mouth hanging open,
a blush adorned on your cheeks,
“How did you know that? I
always try to keep it on the down low” You exclaimed, shocked and slightly embarrassed
that he knew
“Sweetheart, we’ve been
going out for 2 years, we’ve been living together for 1, there is little that I
don’t know about you”
“That’s kind of creepy and
really cute at the same time. I knew I chose you for a reason” You hummed
“I’m not some Pokémon
woman, don’t objectify me like that” He fired back
“Shut up and read the last
question. Because as much as I love doing videos with you I need to cook us
dinner, and get it done so it’s ready when Phil comes back from visiting his
“Aw look at you, you are
literally the only reason we have survived this long. Anyway, here we go and I won’t
knock out another question this time.” He took his time in dramatically picking
out the question.
“Oh for god’s sake Phil,
he’s such a child. It says ‘when did the two of you first sleep together?’”
A deep shade of red
engulfs your face and you looked over at Dan with your mouth wide.
“What the hell, he did not
just ask that?” You said shocked.
“Yeah you’re right, I’m
joking. Lol” Dan admits, handing over the question for you to read aloud.
“It says, ‘Who/When fist
said I love You?’ Now that is a cute question” You cooed, recalled that
cherished memory that you held very close to your heart.
“Well, I don’t want to
spill all the beans about our relationship just yet, so all that you guys will
be knowing is that, Y/N said it first. Maybe we can do another gushy relationship
story about that some other time. But for now that’s it.” Dan finished off the
video and looked at you to continue.
“Thanks guys for watching hope
you enjoyed it, and if you did please subscribe and request some more ideas of
what we can do next. Byeeee” You finished
“That was so much fun” You
turned to Dan, who was already lovingly gazing at you.
“You know I love you
right?” He spoke
“Of course, and you know I
love you too, so much” You replied inching your face closer to his.
“You know when you told me
you loved me, when we were just lying in bed cuddling watching Breaking Bad, I think
that that’s the happiest I’ve ever felt.” He confessed. As much as you loved
the banter and jokes in this relationship, nothing felt better than Dan
confessing his feelings to your, he really did complete you.
“I was so nervous that I
had said it too soon, but I’m so glad one of us plucked up the courage to say
it” You murmured, now lips a mere centimeter away from each other.
Dan quickly closed the gap
between the two of you and soon had his hand on the back of your head pulling
you closer. Automatically you brought your hands up to caress his cheeks and
you two shared one of the most passionate kisses in your relationship.
Dan gently pushed you back
onto the bed and slipped his hand down to your waist, when you suddenly
“Dan the camera is still
“Oh fuck yeah, thank God
it isn’t a live stream” He jumped up to turn the camera off, leaving it on the
side to edit later.
But he only had one
thought on his mind now. You. Jumping back next to you on the bed you two
finished off what you had started