Departing from the negative today, I want to talk about the positive things in dating a Vietnamese boy! If you look up this topic on YouTube, it’s riddled with girls talking about how they love how Asians spice their food, rather than how it actually is dating an Asian. While I can’t deny it…food will be a topic here… (don’t kill me!) I’ll try to diverge from those stereotypical and offensive topics!
All the looks we get
Usually this is a negative thing, but I’ve come to actually enjoy it. You never know if someone is looking at you because ew, weird? are they dating?? or because wow, I’ve always wanted to date someone who wasn’t my race. I feel very proud when I get these looks because I know I’m doing something admirable. It’s a brave thing to date someone of another race, though it definitely feels like there’s no other way.
This also can be a huge, huge con! Due to experience, I’ve learned that Asian families are not quick to accept their son’s girlfriend or wife. But once, and if, they warm up to you, their company can be a pleasure. It seems very hard for Vietnamese families to open up to “outsiders.” Once they accept you, it will go a lot smoother. While there are still negative people in his family, for the ones who are not, I’ve learned to accept and love their culture.
If you’re dating an Asian, you know what I’m talking about. When you date an Asian, you get to try a lot of new things (food! yas!). I didn’t even know what pho was before I dated my boyfriend. Now, I love it. I get to immerse myself in a different culture without shame. And that’s a relief, because people are quick to judge Caucasian girls who have an interest in Asian cultures. To that I say: phooey! My boyfriend is Asian, I can eat pho whenever I want!
L I B E R A T I N G. (because you don’t get judged as harshly for eating at a pho place when you’re with your vietnamese boyfriend. Boba! Boba for everyone!)
The moral of the story is to not be scared to date someone of another race. While there are cons- huge cons - the subtle little pros even it out. What really tips the scale is being with that amazing person every day.