every once in a while u see pissed off people of X majority group because someone from Y minority said “wow fuck X people” or “i hate X” or something
I don’t get hate for that because I don’t do it. It’s not because I don’t want to, it’s just that I was conditioned from years of abuse to the point where I have trouble expressing those things.
So I use diplomacy instead, I write long polite explanations, because I grew up in a situation where if I didn’t do that, I would be literally actually abused by people with power over me. Because I am deaf and that made me, a child, almost totally powerless. I learned how to write perfect, polite English responses as a way to survive.
But people like to see that kind of response, they look at it like it’s the norm and those “rude guys who get pissed off at X majority group omfg” are such bad people.
But, no, it’s the opposite, can’t you see? I’m no less angry. And honestly, my answers aren’t how we should be responding. They’re the result of trauma and abuse, nothing else.
I’m Deaf. We have reason to be angry and we live in a world that systematically works against us and tells us we don’t have the right to exist.
So if we say “fuck hearing people” instead of politely muttering about how mean the Flavor of the Week ableist person was, I don’t care if it hurts your feelings.
We aren’t obligated to take care of you. You don’t get to be the priority here. And we aren’t any less good or right for being angry.