I 100% want to be told when I do something wrong. I want to fix it.
But if you open with “wow, way to not care about x people”, “hey why do you hate x?”, or “you obviously don’t care about x”, I’m going to be upset. Because I guarantee you that I do care about whatever people I hurt and I made a mistake.
Tell me how to fix it instead of claiming I don’t care about marginalized groups. I’m human. I overlook things. Help me change, don’t act holier than thou just to get your kicks.