Can you help my friend with her fear of butterflies or anything that flies in general.
The way I’ve always done it was with gradual exposure, as well as getting people to realize how fucking cute they are close up. A lot of people are put off by the flapping and the close proximity to their face, which does take a bit of getting used to, but butterflies are large enough that you don’t have to worry about them I don’t know, crawling in your ear or nose or whatever it is people worry about. Generally they’re just curious or looking for a place to land. They’re totally harmless, too, so once you get used to the fluttering around you don’t really have much to be concerned over.
Really it is just about getting used to something, though. The more you’re around something, the more you learn, and the more normal it becomes. Any concerns about the unknown or worst case scenarios vanish, and suddenly whatever it is isn’t as scary anymore. I’ve seen this work with all manner of animals from butterflies and moths to larger winged things like birds, and even classic fears like spiders or rats. I can understand some of them, but really, you have nothing to fear from butterflies. They’re just colorful little guys who love sugar.
In order to better understand my character, Ophelia, I think that it is best to start with her given circumstances. The key point to her character centers around the fact that she does not know who she is. Through my development of Ophelia so far I’ve discovered that the central moment in her life was when her father left her and Susan at the brothel to be sold by their mother, yet took Soren with him to be spared. As a result to this, Ophelia becomes submerged in heartache and self loathing. She has never been able to grasp any sense of closure and fills in the blanks with worst case scenario. Furthermore, this abandonment leads her to cling to the only good thing she has, her siblings - holding no love from her mother and therefore makes her extremely protective of them.
“I wish I was as tough as I always wanted you to think I am. I think I showed that in these past few days I’m nothing short of pathetic. Your sister is a coward, Susan. I know you’ve felt heartache. You’re so much stronger than me, you always have been and I am so sorry that I have put our family through this. I was in this stagnant, still space in my head and heart that I couldn’t break out of and it started long before I came home. I didn’t expect for all of this to explode the way it did, seeing Anthony triggered so much confusion, anger, hurt, and desperation. Every horrible thing I’d been thinking was confirmed. Not being wanted by your soulmate is the most world shattering realization anyone can have. Especially when you’re us. We do things passionately.” -Ophelia to Susan
Ophelia’s father held a strong influence in her life, he being the reason she loves the ocean, she found a lot of herself with him and his absence so prematurely in her growth left her emotionally and physically homeless. This is where we find that home is more than just a place to Ophelia but a sense of comfort and security in which she has never had since.
She doesn’t feel as if she, in any way, has progressed in life. Without a formal education or combat training, Ophelia feels she has no other option but whoring. She doesn’t hold the capacity to see greater things with in herself, she talks about getting out of the business and thinks on other things she could do but never acts on these emotions due to fear of the unknown. This drowns Ophelia in guilt and disgust with herself, which drives forth a lot of her decisions. For instance, she tries to escape her suffering with drinking, drugs, and sex. And so she is impulsive, doing little things to make quick decisions, get feelings of euphoria, adrenaline, living dangerously in order to fill in this space and knowingness that she isn’t really living at all. She has a high need for intimacy. That feeling of being loved unconditionally, she craves it - even silently.
“Anthony,I have never lied to you. And I mean it when I say that I would have never left your side. I can’t keep asking you why. Or how this could have happened. But I can tell you that deep down inside of my core I feel sick to my stomach. I can’t believe that six, ten, twelve months ago we were right here, the happiest people on the fucking planet and now you can’t even –…Everything about you makes me weak, and strong, and deadened and so so alive. You’re my whole heart - and you’ve been selfish with me. So why can’t you be selfish with me now? Of all the fucking times?” - Ophelia to Anthony
She is obsessed with the ocean and the idea of death. These two things symbolize her vibrant need to be free of whatever it is that’s chaining her down, hence explaining her method of suicide to be drowning. The ocean is something she relates to and sees a lot of herself in, deep, vast, emotional, reckless, serene, calm, unpredictable. Death, on the other hand, ties into her curious and impulsive nature. Perhaps she is overcompensating for the abandonment of her father, rather thinking he died than left them at all to be fucked by the highest bidder.
“But what about the moment, the exact moment that you realized what death was - I mean, think about it. You couldn’t have known before, you must have been born with some sense of intuition that whatever this is, is eternal – even before you knew what that was or could formulate the proper thought. You had to have had a moment where you realized that this isn’t forever. That is such a massive striking, terrifying realization in a child’s lifetime and I can’t even remember it happening.” - Ophelia
Perhaps when Ophelia is conducting these self destructive tendencies (drugs, smoking, drinking, whoring, cliff diving, etc.) is when she feels most alive.
Ophelia wants simple things, like to try everything on the brothel menu at least once, or to finish all of the books on her shelf, or see how long she can grow her fingernails out before biting them off, and this all may be simple, what it means is that she has some sense of love for life enough that she has plans for her future that don’t have to do with those big life issues that she bottles deep down inside of her until she folds inward and self destructs.
That’s the tragedy of Ophelia is that she doesn’t feel secure enough in herself to admit when something is wrong and begins to decline inward until she’s desperate for a relief from her suffering and pain, entering this endless cycle of bad habits.
But the central desire that directs Ophelia’s actions is her need for intimacy and self identification. Sadly, however, she never gets this for several reasons. First of all, she’s never able to let herself take risks where it matters. Secondly, she refuses to let herself just go out the same way she came in- as Ophelia the whore. So without the courage to go forward and the acceptance of her circumstances she will never be able to truly form an idea of who she is. She is incapable of being genuinely happy and therefore won’t be able to find her way out of her personal labyrinth of self destruction.
“Sassy, witty, charming, electrifying, spunky. That’s what I get the sense of when I interact with Ophie.” - @susan-gampre
“A smidge demure, devoted, minx. She’s a wild, lush, sensual spirit
that throws her adoration into her occupation and the love for her family and clients. She wears sensuality like an outfit.” - @ivosar
“Compassionate, empathetic, loving, worrisome, sometimes she needs guidance.” - @ralleigh-breakridge
Love your blog <3 I can't stop thinking of how tlj is going to end. I mean it can't end good since we have ix left :( How do you think tlj is gonna end?
Hi anon and thank you!^^
That’s a good point…but I don’t think TLJ will end THAT bad. Worst case scenario for me is if they get separated AGAIN. Even worse - I think that’s what’s going to happen. Either with Rey going dark - switching place with Kylo or Kylo being dragged back to Snoke after trying to escape that hell. But then I think of Reylo needing time to develope a great love story - so if a woman can dream - I would love for them to leave everything together and go somewhere safe where they can train to defeat Snoke in a final battle in Ep.IX.
If we get a predictable ending - we’ll see Reylo fight Snoke, and kill him, but also see him wounding Kylo badly to the point where Rey thinks he’s dead and then she cries and kisses him and whoopsi doopsi he wakes up alive and they live happily ever after!^^
okay so where do I begin…WOW.
okay so… on Monday October 3rd at 10:25pm, I was sitting on my phone in my room listening to holy ground and I was on twitter and BOOM. “TAYLOR NATION SENT YOU A DIRECT MESSAGE” I STARTED SHAKING AND CRYING WHEN I READ THE CONFIDENTIAL MESSAGE I WAS SO CONFUSED BECAUSE THEY DONT EVEN FOLLOW ME (yes I’m still trying to work out technology ok) AND I FLIPPED OUT AND I RAN INTO MY MOMS ROOM SOBBING AND I TRIPPED OVER THE HOOVER BUT ITS OKAY. MY MOM WAS SAYING ALL SORTS OF THINGS LIKE SOMEONE MAY HAVE HACKED INTO TAYLOR NATIONS ACCOUNT (?????? idk). Anyway I died and my mind was a mess and I couldn’t control myself at all, I had knew what it usually meant when people got these messages and I explained everything to my mom ( she is genuinely worst-case-scenario-Christine ) and she started crying with happiness for me. THAT DAY WILL ALWAYS BE REMEMBERED.
The next day October 4th at 5:27pm, I was (trying) to study when BOOM. I RECEIVED THE CALL. Ali phoned and told me about a special secret event on Friday the 13th of October and I was shaking so so much and could barely even talk but she was honestly the nicest ever (I noticed she said “wonderful” about a million times and I’m now so in love with that word). Side note: My mom still wasn’t really convinced this wasn’t a set up to get me kid napped but SHE FINALLY CALMED DOWN A LITTLE AND MEANWHILE I WAS SHAKING, CRYING AND BASICALLY DEAD.
Okay so then it was the waiting game…the days DRAGGED in as I found out a whole 10 DAYS before the event and I saw Taylor lurk people on tumblr/Instagram AND she liked the post about me and my best friend Eve. PEOPLE WERE ALSO TALKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HAPPEN ON THE 13TH AND I WAS JUST SITTING THERE LIKE HELP ME WHATS GON HAPPEN.
Fast forward to Friday…so because I live in Glasgow I had to fly to London… I COULDNT SLEEP AT ALL AND I ONLY GOT 4 HOURS SLEEP LOL BECAUSE I GOT UP AT 4AM. We went to the airport and I was genuinely so nervous and excited about what could possibly be happening. We then got a bus and then a tube and wandered about Covent Garden and EVERYTHING kept reminding me of Taylor. We then got a tube and another bus ( NUMBER 13 ) to our hotel. I got really stressed out because I opened up my case and there was makeup spilt on my dress BUT MY MOM CAME TO THE RESCUE AND FIXED IT FOR ME. I curled my hair and fixed myself up then I went to out to the secret meeting point and recognized so many people from tumblr/twitter etc and it was SO surreal. ALSO A FEW PEOPLE CAME UP TO ME AND WERE LIKE OMG ABBIE I KNOW YOU AND THAT MADE ME FEEL SO SO SPECIAL SO I LOVE YOU FOR THAT IF THAT WAS YOU. We checked in and got really cool wristbands saying United Kingdom (IN THE REPUTATION FONT) I WAS ALREADY DEAD.
We went to drop off our bags and me and I met 2 beautiful, amazing girls called Emma ( @taylorsmusic ) and Flora ( @spoookyswift ) and we were FREAKING OUT TOGETHER. We just couldn’t comprehend that we could potentially meet our idol. We talked about everything and I genuinely think I have 2 new best friends for life. I LOVE YOU GUYS. We were on the last bus to leave so we waited foreverrrr and my nerves were building up so much and I was FULL ON ALL OVER SHOOK.
Everyone on the bus was SO EXCITED and we were all dying together. It was such a combination of nerves and excitement like I can’t even describe it. So we FINALLY arrived at our secret destination and were escorted to the entrance to be searched etc (there was a big box of socks for some reason and it made us laugh so just thought I’d add that in and also a few half finished smart water bottles👀).
Okay so then we went through to TAYLORS HOUSE. It was beautiful and there was so much food laid out and I had a REPUTATION COOKIE and CUSTOMIZED REPUTATION M&MS and CHICKEN TENDERS. Taylors playlist of the songs she loves was playing in the background and we were LOVING LIFE. (Side note: my mom loved the olives you put out taylor so thanks for that) So basically me, Emma and Flora were chilling together (we were not chill at all tho) and everything was fine THEN Flora goes “oh my god, that’s Scott” AND IM LIKE WTF AND WE ALL LOOK OVER AND DIE LIKE WHAT WAS HAPPENING BEFORE OUR VERY EYES THE KING OF GUITAR PICS WAS HERE. We went and spoke to more amazing people and life was good…THEN TREE COMES THROUGH AND IM LIKE WHATATSTSS THATS A LEGEND THEN NOT LONG AFTER THAT WE SEE ANDREA AND WE ALL DIED. I CRIED WHEN I SEEN ANDREA IDK WHY IT JUST GOT TOO MUCH AND SHES MY QUEEN. IT GENUINELY FELT LIKE A DREAM LIKE SURELY THIS WAS NOT REAL.
Finally, after a while, we went through to THE LIVING ROOM. YES. A CHAIR. A SPEAKER. WE ALL KNEW WHAT THIS WAS. ME, EMMA AND FLORA HAD A LITTLE SUPPORT NETWORK GOING ON BECAUSE WE WERE ALL HOLDING HANDS BECAUSE WE WERE NOT PREPARED AT ALL. I cried - yeah she wasn’t even here yet and I cried. So anyway THEN I’m like I can’t even do this and my heart is beating abnormally fast. And that’s when she appeared…
I COULDNT BELIEVE MY EYES. MY ANGEL. MY EVERYTHING. GENUINELY LIKE A METER AWAY. NO WAY. Okay so then I SOBBED even more and I was uncontrollable (I finally did calm down but omg it was so hard I couldn’t stop crying) - thank you Emma and Flora for helping me LOL. Side note: her hair was so curly and pretty and she wore this camo dress thing and SNAKE BOOOOOOTS and a snake ring and yeah I was like GO GURLLL. IN THAT MOMENT I DIED IT WAS ACTUALLY HAPPENING.
On to the album, obviously you guys understand I can’t say much at all BUT REPUTATION IS MY FAVOURITE ALBUM BY FARRRRR. Like it’s genuinely so different but so genius - it’s incredible. She’s so talented and you can tell she’s worked so super hard for it and I can tell she’s happier than ever through the way she talks and she just seems so content with life and it makes me so proud and happy of how far she’s came. It’s so emotionally complex and THE LYRICS (she’s a genius okay). But there was one song that made me full on SOB and everyone in that room felt something…ANYWAY Taylor herself, during the whole of the session, she was so funny and she’s just so genuine…it was unreal. UNREAL. Some highlights that stand out to me include when during one of the songs she looked right at me for about 20 seconds or so and we just danced and smiled at each other. IVE NEVER FELT SO LOVED IN MY LIFE. To say I’m proud of her for this album is an understatement.
okay so then….IT WAS MEET AND GREET TIME. We were all sitting reading the magazines and talking to each other and it was adorable and even though I was a nervous wreck, everyone was so nice and amazing towards me. When it was time for the picture I was at the waiting point I can’t tell you how I felt. It was indescribable. I seen the 2 girls before me hug Taylor goodbye and it was my turn. I ran up to her and hugged her so hard and she looked at me and went “ITS ABBIE ISNT IT?” AND I WAS NODDING AND I WAS LIKE YEAH ITS ME and she was like “NO WAY I CHOSE YOU LIKE A YEAH AGO LIKE SOOOO LONG AGO” and I was like NO WAY and then I was like “THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR EVERYTHING YOUVE HELPED ME THROUGH, YOU’VE HONESTLY GOT ME THROUGH SO MUCH” and she was listening so intently and she smiled at me and hugged me and we held hands for a few seconds which was BEAUTIFUL and she was like “you are SO beautiful like SO beautiful and you are SO funny like you’re posts are hilarious” and I started shaking and I told her she was like a big sister to me and then we got a really cute huggy picture and then we got one with my mom which was cute and THEN (THIS WAS THE FUNNIEST MOMENT) the camera guy said to my mom “do you want a pic alone with her” and my mom was like “oh it’s okay I’m just her mom” and TAYLOR WAS LIKE" OH WELL THANKS" IT WAS SO FUNNY. THEN I told her I loved her and she was like I LOVE YOU BUDDY and I gave her one final hug before I left which was MAGICAL (I swear we hugged about 27468273 times).
As soon as I left the room, I BURST INTO TEARS I COULDN’T BELIEVE I HAD JUST MET MY IDOL AFTER LIKE 6 YEARS OF LOVING HER AND FANGIRLING OVER HER. My mom went to talk to mama swift and she said to her “thank you so much for making a beautiful, amazing role model for my daughter” and mama swift was like AWWW THANK YOU SO MUCH THEN MY MOM GAVE HER A HUG AND THEN I GAVE HER A HUGE HUG AND MAMA SWIFT WAS LIKE THANK YOU FOR SUPPORTING HER AND DOING THE CRAZY THINGS SHE MAKES YOU DO AND I CRIED MORE.
WE THEN WENT TO GET OUR MERCH AND GET ON THE BUS AND I WAS GENUINELY STARSTRUCK AND ME AND EMMA JUST KEPT LOOKING AT EACH OTHER AND BEING LIKE DID THAT REALLY JUST HAPPEN?!?!?!
Thank you so so so much for inviting me to your London Secret Session - it was an HONOR to be there. I can’t believe I was given such a beautiful, amazing opportunity and I meant everything I said to you in there and it truly came from the heart. I love you so much and I can’t wait to hopefully see you on tour. You mean the world to me and I can’t wait to hear reputation again and DIE ANOTHER MILLION DEATHS.
I love you so much girl.
Whether it runs in your family or you are self taught, a witch is a witch is a witch. Many practitioners of the craft do, however, show signs of the gift in early childhood. For people born in families either unfamiliar or opposed to the craft, these signs often go unnoticed, neglected (or in the worst case, punished). For those who are familiar, it can be heartwarming to see a child take after you, or at least witness a free spirit thrive.
Here are common signs NBWs sometimes experience as children :
Odd dreams/sleep habits:
*Not to be confused with any underlying health conditions* I’ve heard many people say that one of the earliest signs that they (or their parents) noticed was abnormal dreams or sleep. Although all children usually experience odd dreams/nightmares/sleepwalking, there may sometimes be more too it than meets the eye. This can start anywhere from the infant stage to young adulthood. For me personally it started out as “sleepwalking” while still in the crib, which later turned into strange dreams and eventually clairvoyance. Chronic or reoccurring odd dreams are probably the most common sign for many. Dreams with strange figures, creatures, individuals, symbolism, or even unfamiliar languages and deceased ancestors are potential flags.
Children getting Deja Vu in excess, or having the ability to obtain strange knowledge from seemingly nowhere may be showing signs of clairvoyance. This goes beyond basic intuition. Clairvoyance can manifest in many different ways. It could be from dreams, or simply getting “feelings” (good or bad vibes) in certain situations. This typically gets stronger throughout puberty, but may develop much earlier or later in some.
A child taking a natural interest in witchy things is a pretty solid sign. For instance, when I was in third grade I became completely obsessed with herbal medicine for no apparent reason. I was just great at memorizing plants and their uses. Other common obsessions may be the supernatural in general, or perhaps the use of certain symbols in art. Young children may scribble pentagrams or other symbols they feel drawn to in excess. A child may draw strange or reoccurring art of otherworldly places, things, and beings.
*not to be confused with symptoms of mental illness! This is most common with very small children that typically outgrow it. Older children who ‘keep’ imaginary friends are usually evaluated by medical professionals to insure health.*
When people think of imaginary friends they often imagine a pegasus or a quirky, colorful character. These would be considered normal to most, but some “imaginary friends” could be described as… unsettling. A child may claim to speak to one or many different imaginary friends. These beings are sometimes described as resembling people or animals that once existed. A child may also describe what these characters say and do. Children may mysteriously have knowledge about something odd, and claim that their “imaginary friend” informed them. There are some who believe that small children can easily see through the veil, and therefore are able communicate with the other side more effectively than adults.
Signs of being an ‘empath’ can start very young. Children with the ability to easily tame wild or feral animals may be using these skills to do so. These children often come off as being mature for their age. They are usually levelheaded and caring of others. Their understanding of emotion may also make them good at lying, or occasionally manipulative. Negative energy affects them very badly, causing stress. This often causes these children to be more fond of animals than other children. Children with strong empathy usually enjoy pleasing others and making others happy. They thrive best in positivity and don’t take criticism well. This trait follows children into adulthood and can sometimes be difficult to manage.
Other General Signs:
A deep love for nature. A highly active imagination. A fascination with the unknown or supernatural. The urge to heal. An effortless respect for plants and animals. Appearing to be ‘lost in their own world’. A natural knack for herbalism, divination, ect. Seeming wise beyond their years. Abilities that appear otherworldly. Creating strange superstitions or stories, and probably much more that I haven't covered.
–look at sun/moon/house stelliums/rising/6th house and anything else you find important–
Aries: feeling raw and overwhelmed, headaches and exhaustion, redness, over-excitability, feeling left out, escapist tendencies and recklessness, isolation, a refusal to show weakness, pushing self too hard
Taurus: safety fears, doing inventory of their objects, anger outbursts, defensiveness, refusal to leave the house, sweating, weight fluctuation, conspiracy theories, walling self off from others, soreness and stiffness
Gemini: overly-scattered, uneven breathing and nervous exhaustion, not eating anything of substance, flakiness, confusion and getting caught up in elaborate tales, avoidant, loss of sleep, paranoid episodes
Cancer: hypochondria, wallowing in the past, refusing to leave the house, complaining but not doing anything to fix it, weight fluctuation, lack of energy and exercise, desperation, chest and stomach pain
Leo: feelings of being unloved, heart problems, redness, melodrama & clinginess, recklessness and cries for help, mutilation of ego, usual passion had dimmed, manic episodes, self-sabotage, purposeful detachment
Virgo: paranoia, being trapped in the smallest of details, blatantly ignoring their own needs, isolation & clamming up, stomach pain and fluttering sensations, tension, sleep loss, nerve disorders, erratic breathing
Libra: not bothering eating, wallowing in loneliness but not reaching out, stomach pain, feelings of weakness, looking for a savior, clinging to unhealthy relationships, convincing themselves that they’re unworthy of love
Scorpio: fluctuates between being clingy and pushing others away, performs cruel tests, self-sabotage, denies self satisfaction and then goes on binges, infections, graphic mental images, substance abuse
Sagittarius: RECKLESSNESS, masking pain with consumption, acid reflux, thigh pain and hips popping, fluctuating weight, manic highs and lows, unreliable with constantly changing plans, overly-pompous, caught up in an ungrounded dreamland
Capricorn: pedantic, work obsessive and overly-concerned, migraines, muscles tension and calcification, bone problems, cruelty(towards self-especially), apathy, imagining the worst case scenario
Aquarius: frantic nerves and uneven breath, tingling or loss of sensation(poor circulation), predictions of doom, emotional outbursts, recklessness, highly erratic behavior with no basis on reality
Pisces: feeling waterlogged and weak, sore feet, infection, heartache and dread, refusal to eat anything of substance, breaks from reality, overwhelmed, strange memories and psychic experiences
here’s a not so fun possibility to consider that I want to at least put out there so we’re not blindsided if it happens:
syco bring back babygate for another full wave including pap pics and insta pics and making it the cornerstone of louis’ promo (again) with the intention of continuing to drive away his fans and devalue his brand because they want him to fail and purposefully chose to sign him not because they value him at all but so they can control him and ruin him (much like they tried to do with the 1D brand ie “we don’t want him to succeed but we don’t want anyone else to have him and profit off of him either”).
this is like a worst case scenario and I desperately hope I’m wrong but we saw how jho promo played out, we saw how the arrest coverage played out, we saw how all of 2015 and 2016 played out, and more importantly we can see as of the past few days that the subtle smearing of louis in the press and towards the fandom is back full force.
simon and Sony have been waging war against him for ages and it’s entirely within the realm of possibility shit’s going to get really ugly again.