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Transference (M) – Chapter 05

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Summary: Hoseok struggles to process his feelings as he is haunted by his past.

Pairing: Hoseok x Reader

Genre: Angst, Smut

Word Count: 10,216

Warning: Tantric!Hoseok, therapist/client relationship, sexual themes, BDSM, shibari, dom/sub roleplay, profanity.

A/N: Here is the long awaited Hoseok POV chapter. If you haven’t read Chapters 1-4 already, I highly recommend doing so by using the links below.

Chapters: 01 | 02 | 03 | 04 | 05 | 06 | 07

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🔮A Huge Tarot Master-Post🔮

Hello~ I figured I’d make my first master-post about Tarot! This is my interpretation, so I don’t ask that you just go by my word. It’s your path! I’m just here to try to help.

This will be VERY in-depth. So I apologize in advance for the lengthy post, but I hope it will help. 


What is “Tarot”?

Personally for myself I see Tarot as a tool. I use it to help myself and others with some guidance with their lives; however, when it comes to Tarot, don’t let it rule over your decisions in your life. It is a tool but that does not mean that you should only go by what it says.

Types of Readings

There are two types of readings when it comes to Tarot: Question readings and Open Readings.

Question Readings

Just as the title says Tarot involves answering questions. Yes or No questions aren’t meant to be answered by Tarot. When it comes to Yes or No questions pendulums are used with their corresponding charts. Like I stated before, you shouldn’t use Tarot to make decisions but to guide you to help you make the decision yourself. The way a question is stated is important for Tarot readers. Here’s a few tips on what you should look out for:

🔮 Keeping your options open: If you already have an answer for your question, then you’re not really letting yourself allow the cards to guide your decision.  Asking how you could encourage your mother-in-law to move out, as opposed to asking how you can get along better with her, is narrowing the scope of the true question by answering it before you even get started.

🔮 Details: Your question should be focused, but not overly detailed. Rather than looking at one particular aspect of a problem, find a way to look more broadly at it. For example, rather than asking how you can make your home life less chaotic, ask how you can better balance work schedules and school schedules. That is a focused question. But do not go so far as to ask how you can coordinate baseball, soccer and karate schedules and still have family time – that’s too detailed. Only include the minimum level of detail needed in order to express what you want to learn from the cards.

🔮 Focus on Yourself: If the reading is for yourself, make sure your question focuses on you rather than on someone else who you think may be the root of your problem. If you’re wanting to help someone, for example, ask about what you can do to help them.

🔮 Stay Neutral: Basically be unbiased. Don’t come off with the notion that your POV is the “right” one. Asking why you’re always the one getting yelled at between you and your parent(s) isn’t neutral; instead, ask how you can prevent future arguments with your parent(s). That’s neutral!

🔮 Be Positive: When it comes to Tarot, and anything really, you’ll want to always try to be positive. Instead of asking why a specific event didn’t happen, ask about what you can do to make that event happen. Positivity is always great!

Open Readings

These are also known as “General” readings. They address the larger aspects of life rather than a question or a specific area. I’ve found that Past, Present, Future readings are very popular since it talks about people’s lives. They’re always eager to see if the cards can truly tell about their life! You can also direct the General readings towards a basic “genre”. Career, Health, Finances, Love, etc.


The Tarot Deck

There are many varieties of Tarot decks, and there is no standard number of cards across all decks. While the types of cards, the suits and their meanings are the same, the illustrations vary greatly. Decks are based on various themes such as nature, animals, fantasy, dragons, etc.

When it comes to finding a deck of your own, don’t just choose one based on the design. Focus on the connection between you and your future tool, your future guide. I have the Tarot Draconis Deck that called to me. It’s a beautiful dragon based deck that has connected with me. The bond we have today is inseparable!

I say “bond” because each deck has it’s own personality. That’s why Tarot readers do interview “spreads” to help them get to know their decks a bit better. I’ll explain spreads more thoroughly later on in this post. When it comes to their personalities, some decks are blunt, some are meant for giving other people readings and others could be laid back.

The Major and Minor Arcana

When you look through a Tarot Deck, there will be two different sets of cards: Major Arcana and Minor Arcana. Let’s look at the Minor Arcana first. You’ll find that like regular playing cards there are four suits; however, instead of hearts, spades, diamonds, and clubs there are Wands, Pentacles (Circles), Cups (Chalices), and Swords. Each of these represents an element.

Each suit has meaning regarding a specific approach to life. The cards within these suits are numbered one through 10 and also include the court cards – the king, queen, knight and page (knave). The Minor Arcana cards represent the more minor, practical daily ups and downs in life.

The Major Arcana are not associated with the suits. They include the picture cards that represent principles, concepts and ideals. They are numbered one through 21, with the 22nd card (the “Fool”) marked as zero. The Major Arcana cards represent strong, long-term energy or big events in some area of life.

Minor Arcana and the Four Suits

As I stated before, each of the Suits represents an element. Let’s talk about each one and break down what they mean, as well as the cards within them. Then we’ll move on to the Major Arcana!

When it comes to the different cards, there are negatives and positives. When a card is upside-down, the term being “reversed”, then it represents negative attributes of that card. When it’s upright then it represents positive attributes.

For myself, I don’t read reverse cards. I base it on my intuition. I’ll explain how your intuition is used with tarot later on in this post.


Suit of Pentacles

🌱Also known as Coins, Disks, or Circles.

🌱Represents the element Earth.

🌱Covers material aspects of life including work, business, trade, property, money and other material possessions.

🌱 Pentacles deal with the physical or external level of consciousness and thus mirror the outer situations of your health, finances, work, and creativity. They have to do with what we make of our outer surroundings – how we create it, shape it, transform it and grow it.

🌱 On a more esoteric level, Pentacles are associated with the ego, self-esteem and self-image.

🌱 The positive aspects of the Suit of Pentacles include manifestation, realization, proof and prosperity.

🌱 The negative aspects of the Suit of Pentacles (i.e. when the Pentacles cards appear reversed) include being possessive, greedy and overly materialistic, over-indulging and not exercising, not effectively managing one’s finances, and being overly focused on career to the detriment of other life priorities.

Often what is required to counteract these negative aspects is a return to nature to ground oneself and rediscover what is truly important. In addition, there may be blockages in being able to manifest ideas and plans resulting in a lack of success. Better goal-setting and planning is required.

🌱 When referring to timing in a Tarot reading, the Suit of Pentacles traditionally represents Winter or years.

🌱 In a deck of playing cards, Pentacles corresponds to Diamonds.


🌱 Court Cards // 1 - 10 🌱

King of Pentacles:

Upright - Security, control, power, discipline, abundance

Reversed - Authoritative, domineering, controlling

Queen of Pentacles:

Upright - Practical, homely, motherly, down-to-earth, security

Reversed - Imbalance in work/ family commitments

Knight of Pentacles:

Upright - Efficiency, routine, conservatism, methodical

Reversed - Laziness, boredom, feeling ‘stuck’

Knave/Page of Pentacles:

Upright - Manifestation, financial opportunity, new job

Reversed - Lack of progress and planning, short-term focus

10 of Pentacles:

Upright - Wealth, inheritance, family, establishment, retirement

Reversed - Financial failure, loneliness, loss

9 of Pentacles:

Upright - Gratitude, luxury, self-sufficiency, culmination

Reversed - Over-investment in work, financial setbacks

8 of Pentacles:

Upright - Apprenticeship, education, quality, engagement

Reversed - Perfectionism, lacking ambition or focus

7 of Pentacles:

Upright - Vision, perseverance, profit, reward, investment

Reversed - Lack of long-term vision, limited success or reward

6 of Pentacles:

Upright - Generosity, charity, giving, prosperity, sharing wealth

Reversed - Debt, selfishness, one-sided charity

5 of Pentacles:

Upright - Isolation, insecurity, worry, financial loss, poverty

Reversed - Recovery from financial loss, spiritual poverty

4 of Pentacles:

Upright - Control, stability, security, possession, conservatism

Reversed - Greed, materialism, self-protection

3 of Pentacles:

Upright - Teamwork, initial fulfilment, collaboration, learning

Reversed - Lack of teamwork, disregard for skills

2 of Pentacles:

Upright - Balance, adaptability, time management, prioritisation

Reversed - Disorganisation, financial disarray

Ace of Pentacles:

Upright - Manifestation, new financial opportunity, prosperity

Reversed - Lost opportunity, lack of planning and foresight


Suit of Swords

🌫️ Represents the element Air.

🌫️ Associated with action, change, force, power, oppression, ambition, courage and conflict.

🌫️ Action can be both constructive and/or destructive, sometimes resulting in violence.  This suit can also mean hatred, battle, and enemies, and of all the suits, this one is considered to be the most powerful and dangerous. 

🌫️ The Suit of Swords deals with the mental level of consciousness that is centred around the mind and the intellect. Swords mirror the quality of mind present in your thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs.

🌫️ Swords themselves are double-edged and in this way the Suit of Swords symbolises the fine balance between intellect and power and how these two elements can be used for good or evil. As such, the Swords must be balanced by spirit (Wands) and feeling (Cups).

🌫️ The negative aspects of the Suit of Swords (i.e. when the Swords cards appear reversed) include anger, guilt, harsh judgement, a lack of compassion and verbal and mental abuse.

🌫️ When referring to timing in a Tarot reading, the Suit of Swords traditionally represents Autumn (Fall), or months.

🌫️ In a deck of playing cards, Swords corresponds to Spades.


🌫️ Court Cards // 1 - 10  🌫️

King of Swords:

Upright: Clear thinking, intellectual power, authority, truth

Reversed: Manipulative, tyrannical, abusive

Queen of Swords:

Upright: Quick thinker, organised, perceptive, independent

Reversed: Overly-emotional, bitchy, cold-hearted

Knight of Swords:

Upright: Opinionated, hasty, action-oriented, communicative

Reversed: Scattered thought, disregard for consequences

Knave/Page of Swords:

Upright: Talkative, curious, mentally restless, energetic

Reversed: All talk and no action, haste, undelivered promises

10 of Swords:

Upright: Back-stabbed, defeat, crisis, betrayal, endings, loss

Reversed: Recovery, regeneration, fear of ruin, inevitable end

9 of Swords:

Upright: Depression, nightmares, intense anxiety, despair

Reversed: Hopelessness, severe depression, torment

8 of Swords:

Upright: Isolation, self-imposed restriction, imprisonment

Reversed: Open to new perspectives, release

7 of Swords:

Upright: Betrayal, deception, getting away with something, stealth

Reversed: Mental challenges, breaking free

6 of Swords:

Upright: Regretful but necessary transition, rite of passage

Reversed: Cannot move on, carrying baggage

5 of Swords:

Upright: Conflict, tension, loss, defeat, win at all costs, betrayal

Reversed: Open to change, past resentment

4 of Swords:

Upright: Contemplation, recuperation, passivity, relaxation, rest

Reversed: Restlessness, burn-out, lack of progress

3 of Swords:

Upright: Painful separation, sorrow heartbreak, grief, rejection

Reversed: Releasing pain, optimism, forgiveness

2 of Swords:

Upright: Indecision, choices, truce, stalemate, blocked emotions

Reversed: Indecision, confusion, information overload

Ace of Swords:

Upright: Raw power, victory, break-throughs, mental clarity

Reversed: Confusion, chaos, lack of clarity


Suit of Wands

🔥 Represents the element Fire.

🔥 Associated with primal energy, spirituality, inspiration, determination, strength, intuition, creativity, ambition and expansion, original thought and the seeds through which life springs forth.

🔥 Wands deal with the spiritual level of consciousness and mirror what is important to you at the core of your being. 

🔥 They address what makes us tick – our personalities, egos, enthusiasms, self-concepts, and personal energy, both internal and external.

🔥 Wands are also indicative of all things that you do during the day to keep you busy, be it working at the office, home or the great outdoors. 

🔥 Wands have to do with movement, action and initiatives and the launching of new ideas. 

🔥 They may be indicative of a never-ending ‘Ideas List’ or ‘To Do List’, whereby the client has many projects on the go to keep them busy.

🔥 When referring to timing in a Tarot reading, the Suit of Wands traditionally represents Spring or weeks.

🔥 In a deck of playing cards, Wands corresponds to Clubs.


🔥 Court Cards // 1 - 10  🔥

King of Wands:

Upright: Natural-born leader, vision, entrepreneur, honour

Reversed: Impulsiveness, haste, ruthless, high expectations

Queen of Wands:

Upright: Exuberance, warmth, vibrancy, determination

Reversed: Shrinking violet, aggressive, demanding

Knight of Wands:

Upright: Energy, passion, lust, action, adventure, impulsiveness

Reversed: Haste, scattered energy, delays, frustration

Knave/Page of Wands:

Upright: Enthusiasm, exploration, discovery, free spirit

Reversed: Setbacks to new ideas, pessimism, lack of direction

10 of Wands:

Upright: Burden, responsibility, hard work, stress, achievement

Reversed: Taking on too much, avoiding responsibility

9 of Wands:

Upright: Courage, persistence, test of faith, resilience

Reversed: On edge, defensive, hesitant, paranoia

8 of Wands:

Upright: Speed, action, air travel, movement, swift change

Reversed: Delays, frustration, holding off

7 of Wands:

Upright: Challenge, competition, perseverance

Reversed: Giving up, overwhelmed, overly protective

6 of Wands:

Upright: Public recognition, victory, progress, self-confidence

Reversed: Egotism, disrepute, lack of confidence, fall from grace

5 of Wands:

Upright: Disagreement, competition, strife, tension, conflict

Reversed: Conflict avoidance, increased focus on goals

4 of Wands:

Upright: Celebration, harmony, marriage, home, community

Reversed: Breakdown in communication, transition

3 of Wands:

Upright: Preparation, foresight, enterprise, expansion

Reversed: Lack of foresight, delays, obstacles to long-term goals

2 of Wands:

Upright: Future planning, progress, decisions, discovery

Reversed: Fear of unknown, lack of planning

Ace of Wands:

Upright: Inspiration, power, creation, beginnings, potential

Reversed: Delays, lack of motivation, weighed down


Suit of Cups

🌊 Represents the element Water.

🌊 Also known as Chalices.

🌊 Deals with the emotional level of consciousness and are associated with love, feelings, relationships and connections.

🌊 Cups are about displays of emotion, expression of feelings and the role of emotions in relation to others.

🌊 The Cups Tarot cards indicate that you are thinking with your heart rather than your head, and thus reflect your spontaneous responses and your habitual reactions to situations.

🌊 Cups are also linked to creativity, romanticism, fantasy and imagination.

🌊 The negative aspects of the Suit of Cups (i.e. when the Cups cards appear reversed) include being overly emotional or completely disengaged and dispassionate, having unrealistic expectations and fantasizing about what could be. 

There may be repressed emotions, an inability to truly express oneself and a lack of creativity.

🌊 The Suit of Cups traditionally represents the west and Summer. If using an ordinary deck of playing cards,

🌊 Cups are represented by the Suit of Hearts.


🌊 Court Cards // 1 - 10  🌊

King of Chalices:

Upright: Emotional balance and control, generosity

Reversed: Emotional manipulation, moodiness, volatility

Queen of Chalices:

Upright: Emotional security, calm, intuitive, compassionate

Reversed: Emotional insecurity, co-dependency

Knight of Chalices:

Upright: Romance, charm, ‘Knight in shining armour’, imagination

Reversed: Unrealistic, jealousy, moodiness

Knave/Page of Chalices:

Upright: A messenger, creative beginnings, synchronicity

Reversed: Emotional immaturity, creative block

10 of Chalices:

Upright: Harmony, marriage, happiness, alignment

Reversed: Misalignment of values, broken home or marriage

9 of Chalices:

Upright: Wishes fulfilled, comfort, happiness, satisfaction

Reversed: Greed, dissatisfaction, materialism

8 of Chalices:

Upright: Escapism, disappointment, abandonment, withdrawal

Reversed: Hopelessness, aimless drifting, walking away

7 of Chalices:

Upright: Fantasy, illusion, wishful thinking, choices, imagination

Reversed: Temptation, illusion, diversionary tactics

6 of Chalices:

Upright: Reunion, nostalgia, childhood memories, innocence

Reversed: Stuck in the past, naivety, unrealistic

5 of Chalices:

Upright: Loss, regret, disappointment, despair, bereavement

Reversed: Moving on, acceptance, forgiveness

4 of Chalices:

Upright: Meditation, contemplation, apathy, re-evaluation

Reversed: Boredom, missed opportunity, being aloof

3 of Chalices:

Upright: Celebration, friendship, creativity, community

Reversed: An affair, “three’s a crowd”, stifled creativity

2 of Chalices:

Upright: Unified love, partnership, attraction, relationships

Reversed: Break-up, imbalance in a relationship, lack of harmony

Ace of Chalices:

Upright: Love, compassion, creativity, overwhelming emotion

Reversed: Blocked or repressed emotions


🔮 - If a Tarot reading is predominantly made up of the Minor Arcana Tarot cards, you are dealing with day-to-day issues which will not necessarily having a lasting influence on your life. 

These issues are passing through, presenting you with an opportunity to learn from these experiences (look to any Major Arcana cards to identify and understand these lessons and how they may impact your life in the long-term).


Major Arcana

The Major Arcana Tarot cards (also known as the trump cards) form the foundation of the Tarot deck and consists of twenty-one numbered cards and one unnumbered card (the Fool).

They represent a path to spiritual self-awareness and depict the various stages we encounter as we search for greater meaning and understanding. In this way, they hold deeply meaningful lessons.

The Major Arcana Tarot card meanings illustrate the structure of human consciousness and, as such, hold the keys to life lessons passed down through the ages. The imagery of the Major Arcana Tarot cards is filled with wisdom from multiple cultures and esoteric traditions, including the Egyptian, Buddhist, Hindu, Sufi, Hebrew and Christian religions.

The Cards

0 // The Fool -

Upright: Beginnings, innocence, spontaneity, a free spirit

Reversed: Naivety, foolishness, recklessness, risk-taking

I // The Magician -

Upright: Power, skill, concentration, action, resourcefulness

Reversed: Manipulation, poor planning, latent talents

II // High Priestess -

Upright: Intuition, Higher powers, mystery, subconscious mind

Reversed: Hidden agendas, need to listen to inner voice

III // The Empress -

Upright: Fertility, femininity, beauty, nature, abundance

Reversed: Creative block, dependence on others

IV // The Emperor -

Upright: Authority, father-figure, structure, solid foundation

Reversed: Domination, excessive control, rigidity, inflexibility

V // Hierophant -

Upright: Religion, group identification, conformity, tradition, beliefs

Reversed: Restriction, challenging the status quo

VI // Lovers -

Upright: Love, union, relationships, values alignment, choices

Reversed: Disharmony, imbalance, misalignment of values

VII // Chariot -

Upright: Control, will power, victory, assertion, determination

Reversed: Lack of control and direction, aggression

VIII // Strength -

Upright: Strength, courage, patience, control, compassion

Reversed: Weakness, self-doubt, lack of self-discipline

IX // Hermit -

Upright: Soul-searching, introspection, being alone, inner guidance

Reversed: Isolation, loneliness, withdrawal

X // Wheel of Fortune -

Upright: Good luck, karma, life cycles, destiny, a turning point

Reversed: Bad luck, negative external forces, out of control

XI // Justice -

Upright: Justice, fairness, truth, cause and effect, law

Reversed: Unfairness, lack of accountability, dishonesty

XII // Hanged Man -

Upright: Suspension, restriction, letting go, sacrifice

Reversed: Martyrdom, indecision, delay

XIII // Death -

Upright: Endings, beginnings, change, transformation, transition

Reversed: Resistance to change, unable to move on

XIV // Temperance -

Upright: Balance, moderation, patience, purpose, meaning

Reversed: Imbalance, excess, lack of long-term vision

XV // Devil -

Upright: Bondage, addiction, sexuality, materialism

Reversed: Detachment, breaking free, power reclaimed

XVI // Tower-

Upright: Disaster, upheaval, sudden change, revelation

Reversed: Avoidance of disaster, fear of change

XVII // Star -

Upright: Hope, spirituality, renewal, inspiration, serenity

Reversed: Lack of faith, despair, discouragement

XVIII // Moon -

Upright: Illusion, fear, anxiety, insecurity, subconscious

Reversed: Release of fear, unhappiness, confusion

XIX // Sun -

Upright: Fun, warmth, success, positivity, vitality

Reversed: Temporary depression, lack of success

XX // Judgement -

Upright: Judgement, rebirth, inner calling, absolution

Reversed: Self-doubt, refusal of self-examination

XXI // World -

Upright: Completion, integration, accomplishment, travel

Reversed: Lack of completion, lack of closure


Tarot Spreads

Now that we’ve talked about the Minor and Major Arcanas, let’s talk about Tarot spreads! Before any Tarot reader does a reading, they shuffle their cards. This allows them to transfer their energy into the deck.

Once the cards are shuffled and the deck has been cut, the reader lays out the cards in a pattern called the spread. Each position in the spread has a meaning, and there are many different types of spreads, ranging from those that incorporate a single card to spreads that include all 78 cards of the deck. Which spread is used is up to the reader and the specific type of question or reading. Some spreads focus more on a specific type of information. For example, one spread might focus more on emotional matters, while another might bring in more information about the influences of others. One of the most common spreads is the Celtic Cross.

Interpreting the Spread:

Once the cards are laid out, their meanings are interpreted based on their positions and their neighboring cards. Let’s look at the Celtic Cross spread:

  1. Begin by looking at the Circle/Cross section. The cards in this position represent what is happening in your life at the time of the reading.
  2. Next, look at the first six cards in pairs. These cards paint a picture of your immediate situation. The cards in position 1 (the central issue) and position 2 (the secondary issue that can either be opposing or reinforcing) will identify the central theme of the reading. The cards in position 3 (the root cause that can be an unconscious influence or deeper meaning) and position 5 (your attitudes and beliefs, a conscious influence, your goal or an alternate future) represent things that are going on within you at different levels. And, the cards in position 4 (your past, a receding influence or something that has been resolved) and position 6 (the future or an approaching influence or unresolved factor) represent how people and events are flowing through your life.
  3. Next, look at the Staff section of the spread, again considering cards in pairs. Looking at the cards in position 7 (as you are, as you could be, as you present yourself and as you see yourself) and position 8 (your outside environment, someone else’s point of view and you as others see you) tells you about your relationship with your environment.
  4. Finally, look at the card in position 10 (the outcome-overall, your inner state, your actions or effects) to see the projected outcome.

Ask yourself how you feel about the projected outcome. What does it say to you?

  1. Go back and review the cards that led up to that outcome, and see if there is a card that stands out as they key to that outcome. Then, look back at card 5 to see if the projected outcome is also shown as an alternate outcome there. Look at the card representing the near future in position 6 to see if it supports or contributes to the projected outcome. Finally, look at the card in position 9 (guidance, key factors, hopes and fears or overlooked factors) to see there is any relevance there.

This is one of many different spreads. You can even make your own spreads! Ultimately, start small and learn as you go. Spreads are very easy once you get the hang of it.


Intuition

Last but certainly not least, we’re going to talk about Intuition!

What is intuition?  A thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.

When it comes to Tarot cards, and giving out readings or doing one for yourself, intuition is key. Witchcraft in general involves intuition 9 times out of 10! For example, when I do my readings for people, I don’t just go by what the cards mean. I trust my intuition about what it means, with my gut feeling. If I feel it’s something to do with family, I go with it. If it has something to do with an important event coming up in the future, I trust it.

You may not get it down right away, and that’s perfectly okay! It’ll take some time to get it down pat. Just don’t forget to listen to your gut!


There you go! I hope this Master Post helps you guys learn a little more about Tarot. I’ll be posting another one later for in-depth descriptions of all the cards!

Brightest blessings!

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listen im not much for or against any particular relationship happening but can we please stop painting rey as some abuse victim/under the thumb of kylo ren? like he reads her mind in tfa (PLEASE stop comparing that to rape), and she reaches right back into his mind - and she manages to do it better than he did! he knocks her out in the forest and she wakes up and beats his ass. it is snoke that connects their minds and gives rey a false vision to lure her in, not kylo. and saying “you’re nothing, but not to me” is a shitty way of conveying attachment! and you know what?? she rejects him! kylo ren is a piece of shit but they are equally strong in the force, and there is nothing to imply that this is an “abusive relationship.” they’re on opposite sides of a war. stop victimizing rey.

Transference (M) – Chapter 02

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Summary: You have your first session with Mr. Jung and discuss the details of your intake paperwork outlining your future relationship.

Pairing: Hoseok x Reader

Genre: Smut, Angst

Word Count: 4,877

Warning: Tantric!Hoseok, therapist/client relationship, sexual themes, discussions of BDSM, shibari, profanity.

A/N: Thank you everyone for the outpouring of love and support for our favorite therapist. I sincerely hope you all enjoy this next installment.

Chapters: 01 | 02 | 03 | 04 | 05 | 06 | 07

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TAROT CHEAT SHEET #5

PENTACLES - material, physical, sensual, ordinary, money, domestic

PAGE | new opportunity, desire, material venture, enthusiasm
®* | enthusiasm tapered off, daydreaming instead of action
KNIGHT | hard worker, extreme efficiency, not giving up
® | work without reward, not seeing the big picture
QUEEN | domestically talented woman, provides material comfort
® | imbalance of work and home life
KING | abundance, security, financial success
® | greed, temptation, infinite desire for more things
ACE | new opportunity for material gain, prosperity
® | lost opportunity, blocked path
II | balance, adapting to quick change, priorities
® | loss of balance, overwhelmed, disorganized
III | teamwork, collaborative building, swift progress
® | lack of teamwork, group conflict, self-interest
IV | frugality, conservation of accumulated wealth
® | stingy, possessive, miserly, hoarding
V | need, poverty, desperation, but help is available
® | recovering from poverty, seeing chances you can use
VI | charity, generosity, sharing, earning good karma
® | unwillingness to help those in need, selfish, stingy
VII | perseverance, almost ready to harvest rewards, a little more work left
® | work without adequate rewards, frustration, distraction
VIII | time to buckle down and study, achieve new skills
® | lack of focus, ambition, or motivation
IX | fruits of labor, rewards, luxury, satisfaction and peace
® | mistakes that have set you back
X | legacy, culmination of life’s journeys and work
® | failure, lack of stability and riches, not much to show

*® = reverse card meaning

Tarot Cheat Sheet #1 - Major Arcana

Tarot Cheat Sheet #2 - Wands

Tarot Cheat Sheet #3 - Cups

Tarot Cheat Sheet #4 - Swords

Tarot Cheat Sheet #5 - Pentacles

(tiny brain) dirk and jake are the lovers in a tarot deck

(big brain) rose and kanaya are the lovers

(ascending astral brain) vriska and terezi are the lovers

You await, blood rushing- no, pounding, under the skin of your temples, the tiny seeds of hope nestled shallowly in the skin of your lungs. Your leg bounces, chipped and bitten fingernails tap against the toughened, bruised skin of your kneecap. You wait.
He walks in, and instinctively everyone knows, their eyes pinned to him. His face is divine, ethereal: each perfect feature crafted by the nimble digits of long-dead old masters; his sumptous clothes simply adornments on his godly form.
Your eyes are still stuck, mind fuzzy with static, on his stride- you dare not look up. Around you, every person kneels, head bowed. You don’t dare do any differently.
When his fingertips brush your cheekbone and lift your face, you finally look into his eyes. Pools of black glint back at you, familiar in their strangeness. Flowers bloom from inside your ribcage, the exquisite flora nearly choking you.
“You’re mine…”

Don’t tell me to “calm down”
Don’t say, “it isn’t that serious”
Don’t repeatedly say “just relax”
I have panic disorder, IT DOES NOT WORK LIKE THAT.
Chemical imbalances are real, and I can’t control when my mind is thrown out of whack.
I can not control when my body goes into fight or flight mode.
What you can do:
Distract me by watching a funny movie, go on a walk with me, talk about a book you’re reading, or we can even bake some cookies.
Never tell a person with anxiety that it’s not that serious, because mentally they feel like they’re in a life threatening situation.

To all the new people thinking about starting up in the gym this year:

Firstly, let me apologize on behalf of all of us for the few people who make you feel self conscious or nervous in the gym. I never understood the people pointing and laughing at the overweight men or women sweating it out on the cardio machines, or the small guys and girls attempting weights for the first time.

Let me give you a few bits of advice that I wish I’d been told before my first trip to the gym:

1) Get comfortable - I know it’s easier said than done, I definitely felt self conscious and awkward my first time. Do anything you can to make yourself feel more comfortable. Whether it be spending your Christmas money on nice gym clothes, wearing vests that show off your guns or wearing a hoodie to cover up. If ever I’m feeling like I don’t want to see people in the gym, I wear a big hoodie, beanie hat and headphones with loud music.

2) Get some knowledge under your belt beforehand. Don’t turn up with no concept of what you should be doing (unless you’re doing a PT session or a class etc). Get a rough idea of exercises for different muscle groups, and of course keep good form - cheat reps have a place, but not when you’re just starting out. If you’re going with a friend, don’t try and keep up - go at your own pace and focus on getting the movements right rather than heavy weight. That’ll come soon enough.

3) Train at regular times and consistently. Not only is it good to get into a routine, but you also start to recognize people around you. It might start with a simple nod of acknowledgement, but eventually you’ll form friendships and potentially training partners. If you’re self conscious, I recommend training early mornings or late nights. Avoid 5-7pm, the gym will be full of people after work or school.

4) Music. Find a decent pair of headphones that can play loud. And find a genre that gets you pumped. I recommend metalcore or hip hop. You’ll thank me.

5) Watch other people. You can learn a hell of a lot from other people. It’s always good to mix up your training, and I often get ideas for new exercises by watching other people.

6) Ask for a spot when you need it. It doesn’t matter on the weight, would you rather be pinned under 80lbs or ask someone for a spot?

7) Start your training utilizing more Dumbbells than barbells, and free weights over machines. This will help to work out any minor imbalances and also improve mobility. Exercises that feel a bit awkward will start to feel more natural. Don’t forget to stretch!

8) Take progress pictures! And track your progress. I was never one to keep a direct training log, but I have progress photos going back over 3 years. It fantastic to go back and look at where you came from. If you feel embarrassed about how you look, you don’t have to share it - but in 6 months time and you feel like you haven’t progressed, you can look at the photo and see just how far you’ve come.

9) Learn about nutrition. Training hard is all well and good, but if your diet is poor you won’t progress anywhere near the rate you should. You can’t out train a poor diet. As a general rule, stick with chicken breasts, turkey, lean mince, white rice, brown rice, yams, oats etc. You’ll get the hang of it soon enough.

10) Don’t quit. Don’t think of it as a chore or something you have to do. Enjoy it. I can’t tell you when I realized this, but training should be a joy.

Hope those aren’t too patronizing or too cheesy - good luck!

So as a person who was in a relationship with a 32 year old when I was 20 and extremely socially inept this last episode felt like a stab in the guts for me. Let me explain how.
Jack spent the last 50 years by himself in a cyberpunk world, there’s no way in hell he didn’t interact with people at least to a minimum in that time, right? I mean, 50 years is a fucking long time. Let’s stretch a little bit and say he could have even had some sort of romantic/sexual interaction during that time. But even that is besides the point; being that he was probably in his twenties when he got stranded on this aku-reigned apocalyptic future, he has around 70 years of life experience. Let’s move to Ashi for a bit. Ashi was born into captivity, destined to train and become an assassin together with her sisters. Assuming she’s at most 25 (which I honestly doubt, she looks 15-20 to me, but that’s besides the point), she spent more than 2 decades being denied of social interaction with anyone except her sisters and her mother, even then one could hypothesize friendly interaction between the sisters was probably highly discouraged. The only person she ever came into contact that she could be herself with and with whom she could like actually socialize, for the first time in her life, was jack. Do you see the imbalance here? How fucked up it is that a 70 year old person, portrayed still as a 20-something overly naive guy, to be in a romantic relationship with a young girl who hasn’t had an actual relationship, romantic or otherwise, ever before? Where jack had 50 years to mingle about, collecting social and life experience in general, Ashi had little to none. I’m not even against jashi honestly, but Genndy could have worked on it in a far more responsible way.

I’ve seen this issue come up a lot among my friends with more liberal parents so I wanted to address it here.


If you’re kid is trans and uses a set of pronouns associated with their actual gender with everyone else in there life, but then says to you “it’s okay mom/dad, you can use the pronouns associated with my assigned gender” that should be a big red flag to you that you’re not being a good trans ally for your kid.


I can not express to you how many of my friends have come to me and said something along the lines of, “mom keeps using the wrong pronouns for me, and it makes me really dysphoric, but she keeps saying how hard it is to adjust to my new pronouns so I guess I’ll just let her do it.”


Listen to me, if you’re kid has made you an exception when talking about pronouns then it’s because they don’t think you’re willing to try. There is a power dynamic between parent and child and a power dynamic between cis and trans people. A trans kid, especially one who is still financially dependent, is probably not willing to have a huge fight about their pronouns with their cis parents because it’s generally not safe to do so. And especially for kids who’s parents are at least marginally accepting to begin with, there’s a big feeling of ‘I’ve got it better than a lot of trans youth already, I shouldn’t ask for more’ that prevents self advocacy. You can not expect your child to advocate for themselves when they are working within a power imbalance that, statistically speaking, will leave them without shelter if they make the wrong move.


If you are trying to be a loving and supportive parent to your trans kids then the words “yeah I guess you can still use x pronouns for me” should be a wake up call that you need to do better, not a free pass for you to sit back and relax.

Ωmegas at work
  • On average are paid less than alphas and betas, are less likely to receive promotion, less likely to be hired into senior positions, and less likely to be given responsibilities seen as ‘challenging’. 
  • They are more likely to have their wardrobe commented on (whether or not their job includes a uniform) and receive more resistance than alphas and betas when negotiating for promotion. 
  • These discrepancies are especially pronounced for omegas of colour. 
  • Those in better paid professions may be given the same amount of biannual leave as their colleagues, but in practise it amounts to as much as two weeks less, since they will have to use that time on heat. 
  • The proliferation of straight white alphas in positions of authority means alpha employees will rarely be chastised for their personal life interfering with their work (ie. when it’s omega related.)
  • Whereas omegas will often be made to feel in danger of losing their job if, eg. their over-protective alpha keeps swinging by, or they need to take extra days off for a bad heat. 
  • It is common for omegas in work to feel invisible; that their contributions are not being recognised, and their ideas not credited. 
  • But omegas’ greater share of home and family duties (than their alphas) outside of work often means they will be willing to curb their ambitions. 
  • This imbalance of work/life responsibility is often more pronounced after an omega has taken maternity/paternity leave and returned to work, when they will continue to do the tasks they were doing at home, but in addition to their work. 
  • It is illegal to discriminate against employees on the basis of sex or marital status. 
  • Though this is the case in America, there are still notable exceptions. One such is the controversial ‘Honkers’ chain of restaurants, whose young attractive omega waitstaff are required to don skimpy uniforms and wear their hair short, or tied up, in order to show off their bite-free necks. (One side effect of this is that Honkers has gained a reputation as a rough brand, since deluded alpha customers will often pick fights over the staff.)
  • Due to the inequalities they often face, many omegas find it easier to pass for beta in work when possible; taking suppressants, wearing scent masks, and sober, beta styles of clothing, even altering their posture or demeanour. For this reason, office wear is often thought of as beta-ish.

“Postgraduate training was characterised by work-life imbalance. Long hours at work were typically supplemented with revision and completion of hte e-portfolio.

Trainees regularly moved workplaces which could disrupt their personal lives and sometimes led to separation from friends and family. This made it challenging to cope with personal pressures, the stresses of which could then impinge on learning and training, while also leaving trainees with a lack of social support outside work to buffer against the considerable stresses of training.

Low morale and harm to well-being resulted in some trainees feeling dehumanised.

Work-life imbalance was particularly severe for those with children and especially women who faced a lack of less than full time positions and discriminatory attitudes. Female trainees frequently talking about having to choose a speciality they felt was more conducive to a work-life balance such as General Practice.

The proposed junior doctor contract was felt to exacerbate existing problems.”


Well, at least my peers are getting some papers about how bad our work-life balance is becoming. I don’t know what we’re actually going to do about it, but it’s a start…


(Photo and transcription from the Junior Doctor Contract Forum)

This is the letter I wrote to my friends and colleagues regarding my resignation

Friends.

As some of you have heard, I recently resigned from surgical residency, and am leaving clinical medicine.

Ten years ago, I decided to be a doctor. It was a decision that made perfect sense at the time: I wanted to help people who were suffering, and I was fortunate to have the ability and resources to gain entry into medical school. I wasn’t sure which specialty would be my calling, but shortly after starting my clinical rotations I fell in love with surgery. I loved seeing and evaluating patients who had a very clear and usually dramatic surgical problem that I knew could be solved by an operation, by putting hands on the patient and potentially curing them of whatever it was that was ailing them. 

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anonymous asked:

Kayn with a Zed who appreciates him and treats him right

Fuck dude imagine that.

I have a little something going with @the-shadows-beckon but I still want to explore this more. I do like the ship and it can work in a healthier kind of way if handled carefully? Like very carefully. There’s a lot of power imbalances to work out and other things but. It’s not impossible.

Welcome to the inaugural installment of The 100 Femslash Challenge!

As most of us know too well, femslash is drastically underrepresented in fanworks. Even in our fandom with a canon primary F/F ship, less than a third of the works on AO3 feature a femslash pairing! Let’s work on this imbalance and flood our fandom with femslash!

The 100 Femslash is a fic and art challenge that seeks to increase the amount of femslash in the fandom. Any and all female-only ships are welcome!

If you have questions, check out our FAQ and rules pages, and if you’re interested in joining, sign up here. You’re also welcome to sign up as a beta! Sign ups close before midnight central time on November 2nd. Works are due December 28th by midnight, and will be posted on January 1, 2016.

We look forward to seeing what you guys come up with. Let there be femslash!

April goals.

1) Focus on self love, confidence, and body positivity.

2) Focus on establishing a healthy relationship with food. Go at least one day of intuitive eating/not measuring food.

3) Make April a binge-free month.

4) Continue to work out consistently; make progress with lifts.

5) Continue to work on my muscle imbalance by incorporating more stretching.

6) Spend a lot less time on fitness-related social media and focus on MYSELF.

New month, new goals. Some of them will be really challenging for me, but I have faith in myself and I have amazing support from friends and family. Trying to make April the best month of 2015 yet!

Andy on Pseuicide

This will be an extremely long post.

In response to an anon ask pointing out that at least one (eventually revealed to be more) of the SPN fandom “suicides” was a fake, Andy immediately leaps to the trolls’ defense, insisting that no one has any way to know whether those people really tried to kill themselves. Never mind the medical misinformation and patently ludicrous hospital room scenarios that were being spun out by the trolls’ “friends”, or the obviously false claims of hacking. You weren’t PHYSICALLY THERE, so you can’t KNOW what happened.

Then, regardless of the trauma and upset that has been caused by the whole mess, Andy tells the anon that the only thing that matters is that, “The hate was real. The intent to try to fucking murder someone with words was real.” Even at the point that Andy posted this response, people were pointing out that the anon messages the “victims” had received pre-pseuicide were implausible at best. That internet bullying has led to real suicides in the past has nothing to do with the fact that in this case, the hate messages and the suicides were fake and followed a pattern that is clear and obvious to most people who have been through similar fandom upheavals before. But Andy has a vested interest in backing up others’ claims of receiving hateful anonymous messages on tumblr, as this is a tactic that he frequently uses to make himself look like a martyr or to bring up topics that he wants to discuss.

Andy goes on to say that the people who committed pseuicide were:

in such a dark and painful place that it is not simply understandable or excusable, we should be on our knees fucking grateful that they didn’t do something so permanent that we wouldn’t have the chance to pull them back from that edge.

That’s right. He is saying that their behavior was completely, 100% acceptable. He is saying that no one is allowed to be upset or angry with them for manipulating their friends and followers in this way. He is saying that the only appropriate response is to be GRATEFUL to them for faking their suicides on the internet because now we can help them–and that it is fandom’s responsibility to help them. He is making the pseuicide bloggers’ victims responsible for their abusers’ emotional well-being. That is disgusting.

Moreover, he says:

The only, THE ONLY people who did an evil thing in that hypothetical instance are the Anons.  If someone is being bullied and commits an act of desperation because of it, no matter how foolish, THEY ARE THE VICTIM.  This is NOT the victim’s fault.  It is NEVER the victim’s fault.

Carlanime and Valancyredfern have responded to this very well.

Then Andy talked about his own pseuicide.

(Cut for potentially triggering/distressing content.)

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