nothing irritates me as much as anti choicers calling pregnancy an inconvenience like.. no. my shoes coming untied is an inconvenience. forgetting my wallet is an inconvenience. having to go through 9 months of pregnancy, morning sickness, pain, child birth and the cost of all that (not to mention the mental toll it would take on me) is quite a bit more than an “inconvenience”
Look. The product of my own pregnancy is playing in the next room and is a blessing to my life every day, despite the mountain of difficulties in being a parent. I waited eagerly for my pregnancy and was overjoyed when it happened, luckily without much difficulty or waiting. My pregnancy was probably one of the easier ones–I worked full-time, carried heavy weights when needed, wrote my thesis long into the night, and gave birth to a healthy baby a month after getting my degree.
But even so anyone who would call my pregnancy, or anyone’s, an “inconvenience” deserves to have the shit kicked out of them. Even the easiest, happiest pregnancy is a life-changing experience with serious consequences. Even while joyously anticipating my baby’s arrival I was overcome at the thought of the changes a baby would create in my life, all the uncertainties and everything that could go wrong. I can’t even imagine what it’s like for pregnancies that are more difficult than mine, that cause health problems, where the fetus might have problems, or that are unwanted for any reason.
Maybe some consider their own pregnancy no more than an inconvenience, and bully for them. But you never get to define what someone else’s experience means to them, especially something as major as having a baby. Anyone who downplays the seriousness of pregnancy and childbirth automatically proves themselves someone not worth listening to on the subject, and a shitty human being besides.