I fear that I’ve had a false conception of what love actually is. I’ve always thought I knew, I’ve always thought I’ve been in love before. Perhaps I had, perhaps it was my adolescence telling me that the versions of love I’ve experienced were true. But then I met you and suddenly I’m not quite sure. Suddenly, I don’t think I’ve ever truly felt love before you.

what is love / ala series

You need someone who wants to be there when it’s messy and when it’s hard, not just when it’s fun and when it’s convenient. And you need someone who chooses you when it might not be the easiest choice. And you need someone who would rather do nothing with you than anything in the world with someone else.


Auguste Rodin, The Danaid, 1889,
Marble, Rodin Museum, Paris

“Anybody can look at a pretty girl and see a pretty girl. An artist can look at a pretty girl and see the old woman she will become. A better artist can look at an old woman and see the pretty girl that she used to be. But a great artist-a master-and that is what Auguste Rodin was-can look at an old woman, portray her exactly as she is…and force the viewer to see the pretty girl she used to be…and more than that, he can make anyone with the sensitivity of an armadillo, or even you, see that this lovely young girl is still alive, not old and ugly at all, but simply prisoned inside her ruined body. He can make you feel the quiet, endless tragedy that there was never a girl born who ever grew older than eighteen in her heart…no matter what the merciless hours have done to her. Look at her, Ben. Growing old doesn’t matter to you and me; we were never meant to be admired-but it does to them.” 

― Robert A. Heinlein

There’s always going to be someone else. Someone that’s better for you. I told that to my ex when he was crying for me to take him back, I tell that to my friends when they’re going through breakups, and I tell that to myself whenever I need to hear it-which is often and always the hardest. But we always, always move on and love again and those low points we thought we’d never get past, well they always become distant memories. Because the amazing thing about us as humans is we’re capable of loving more than one person in our lifetime and our feelings are capable of change. So even if you really did love someone with all your heart, it doesn’t mean you can’t use all your heart again to love someone else.

I am sorry someone loved you badly, and that they made you feel like you take up more space than you deserve. I am sorry they abandoned you when you need them the most and it has made you believe that love is an awful thing that hurts.
—  Nikita Gill @thelovejournals
Reading isnโ€™t important because it helps to get you a job. Itโ€™s important because it gives you room to exist beyond the reality youโ€™re given. It is how humans merge. How minds connect. Dreams. Empathy. Understanding. Escape.
—  Matt Haig, Notes on a Nervous Planet  |  @wnq-psychology

“i am finding my way back to myself again. slowly, patiently, intricately. i am finding roads in between my heart and my mind that connect. i am finding melodies that taste good on my soul. i stray and i take detours occasionally, but i am finding my way back to myself again.”