I’ve had bad examples of marriages for most of my life, and the very few that have actually worked are too few and between. I don’t really believe in marriage. I believe in love, though. Weird as it my seem.
I don’t think it’s weird. I do understand where you’re coming from, ‘cause I definitely haven’t had good examples of it either but when I think about it, I don’t really have reliable criteria with which to judge the success of any given marriage.
Do I judge their marriage by of the amount of years they’ve been together? Do I consider any marriage that hasn’t ended in divorce a success? Is the marriage itself irrelevant to the relationship?
Since I’m obviously not married, I don’t feel like I should judge anyone who is, but the fact of the matter is that most of the people I know who are married are also very unhappy. Which makes me question whether it was the relationship that was faulty to begin with or whether the added stress of a more “permanent” commitment put pressure on a relatively good relationship.
And I do believe in love. I really do. I’m not sure where I’m going with this post. I guess my point initially was that I want love to be my primary reason to get married, even though I understand that saying “I love you” holds very little weight when compared to other more tangible problems that can arise at any given stage of a relationship, particularly in a marriage. But I also don’t think I should look to other people for what to expect in a marriage. I feel like that’s just dooming me to failure right off the bat.