words and people who know how to use them

This week I had a lovely conversation with an older dyke who reminded me how much a lot of people have always hated TERFs and SWERFs. 

She was talking about the time in the 1970s and 1980s when she was a young radical dyke and how many of the awesome dykes in the radical scene were trans women. So I asked her if there was ever any problem with TERFs and SWERFs. She didn’t know those words so I described them. Her reply was (paraphrasing a longer conversation):

“Oh, you mean the political lesbians? That’s what we called them at the time, no one really considered them radical. They hated everyone. They hated bisexual women who dated men. They hated us leather dykes and kinky dykes because they thought we were ‘copying the patriarchy’, they hated trans women. None of us in the radical scene liked them. A lot of them later left and admitted that they were straight but were presured to identify as lesbians in that group because being a feminist to them meant cutting all ties with men. They were like a cult. They often lived together and if you didn’t walk the political line you were dead to them. Intense stuff. ”

And like, I know her memories don’t have global relevance and there have also been places where TERFs had a much more prominent impact on the local radical women’s community, but still, to hear how despised these TERFs have always been by these truly radical dykes cheered me up a lot. 

 I’m so livid about this entire PewDiePie situation.

He’s been given so many chances, and yet he is still making loads of money with people protecting him and not once has he genuinely apologized or seemed sorry about the things he said. It’s always followed up with dubstep music, jumpcuts, and other sarcastic remarks and jokes.

The Firewatch creator also wants to take down Felix playthrough of the game, as well as ban him from buying/playing any other game by them and people are mad about that? Like, any sane god damn person would disassociate themselves with someone throwing the N-word around, as well as spreading anti-semitic bs

And some people will defend him with “Words are just words”, and I’m losing my shit over that. I’ve heard that excuse when using the n-word, the f-word and generally when saying other problematic shit. Words are NOT just fucking words. Words are what got humanity here, words are how we communicate, words are what keeps this fucking shit society moving. If you stand by the mentality of “Words just being words”, then you NEVER get to be emotionally affected by words every again. Because words are just words and hold no meaning or value to them right?

No, they fucking do, and the people who say this shit knows that, but it’s different when its racial slurs and general assholery, because they don’t want to look bad.

Words are not just words. Words hold meaning. Words hold history. 

Words define you. And if you throw them around without thinking twice and you don’t respect history and the people it affected and will affect, then you fucking don’t deserve an audience like the one Felix has.

“But PewDiePie doesn’t mean it! It’s just something he says”, cool, doesn’t make it better. Now he isn’t an ACTUAL™ racist, he is just, you know, normalizing racism

I know many of you are nostalgic about him, because he used to be a somewhat decent person who could apologize and all but y’all gotta realize that it gets to a point, where you can’t defend him anymore, and if the anti-semitic shit didn’t make it for you, then please let this be, because there’s nothing redeemable about this.

Undeveloped vs developed moon signs

Aries moon
Undeveloped: aggressive, too competitive, mood swings, childish and immature
Developed: goal-orientated, hardworking, but not too hard, funny and open

Taurus moon
Undeveloped: lazy, rude, holds grudges, judging, has to be right all the time
Developed: stable, good with money, great with kids and family, able to make compromises

Gemini moon
Undeveloped: shallow, two-faced, playing mind games, liars, selfish
Developed: great communicators, weird in a cute way, very intelligent and talkactive, social

Cancer moon
Undeveloped: manipulative, huffy, overprotective, possessive, jealous
Developed: caring, helpful, lovable, friendly, shy, but kind, a good friend, supportive

Leo moon
Undeveloped: egoistic, bossy, can be bitchy and rude, loud, tells everyone everything, can’t take critics
Developed: loving, radiates positivity, optimistic, adventurous, great actor and performer, knows how to handle people

Virgo moon
Undeveloped: pessimistic, too hard on themselves, but blames others for their own mistakes, critical, skeptic, boring
Developed: sweethearts, perfect organisators, handles mental health well, friendly

Libra moon
Undeveloped: superficial, indecesive, unsure about who they really are, nervous, manipulative, uses people for own good
Developed: a great friend and advisor, happy and optimistic, open, loves to talk, knows what they have and are happy with it

Scorpio moon
Undeveloped: grudge-holding, possessive and dark, often plays the victim, huffish, loners, sometimes even depressed
Developed: shy, but helpful and truly loves the ones that love them, knows how to be at peace, loves themselves and all their edges, friendly

Sagittarius moon
Undeveloped: fast-paced/hectical, too many thoughts they can’t put into words, can be clingy, do what they want, too loud
Developed: funniest people ever, adventurous, free, peaceful, optimistic, know their worth, can be super serious and deep

Capricorn moon
Undeveloped: flinty, cold-hearted, seems like they don’t have emotions, too hard on themselves, bossy
Developed: have goals that they aspire to reach, supportive, persuasive power, can inspire others

Aquarius moon
Undeveloped: rebellious, can’t find their place in the world, acts cold, uninterested, bored, hard to reach, delusive
Developed: almost a genius, show hidden talents, fun to be around, super practical and great worker

Pisces moon
Undeveloped: doesn’t care about anything, unrealistic life perceptions/ideas, lost their heads, moody, manipulating
Developed: kind hearts, want to help change the world, great with kids, emotional support, creative

Net Neutrality Information/Update

Guys, there are only 5 days until the FCC votes. The FCC vote on December 14th IS NOT THE DEATH DAY FOR NET NEUTRALITY!

The FCC votes then whether they will send their proposition/bill to Repeal Net Neutrality to Congress/The Senate for them to vote on.

The FCC CANNOT PASS/MAKE LAWS. The reason we email the FCC members was for making them vote to save Net Neutrality and vote against the repeal of it.

If enough members of the FCC vote against the proposition to repeal Net Neutrality, then it will not go up to The Senate/Congress to be officially voted on.

Important Information on USA Government:

•In America, The Legislative Branch is made up of Congress.

•The two main law making/passing parts of Congress are The Senate and The House Of Representatives.

•The FCC is not apart of Congress, therefore they cannot make/pass laws.

•There are 435 members in The House Of Representatives.

•There are 100 members in The Senate.

The Senate is considered to be higher up than The House Of Representatives.

•According to some articles and informative post I’ve found, 250/435 members in The House Of Representatives have been said to have been “bought out”. This means big business companies that want the repeal of Net Neutrality paid them money to vote for the repeal. ((Information like this for The Senate is unknown, but if I find out I’ll update this post/make another post))

((More information follows in smaller text, do not skip please!))

This is why the importance of calling and emailing both sections of Congress ((The House Of Representatives and The Senate)) is CRUCIAL TO SAVE NET NEUTRALITY!!!

We have to try and persuade our Representatives in The Senate and The House Of Representatives to be on our side if we want to save Net Neutrality!!!

Sad and Unnerving Realizations:

•America’s government mainly ignores it’s people and our opinions.

•Big Business and Money is clearly more important to most people in power in our government.

•Net Neutrality gives people freedom online, it lets users express themselves freely online, whether they are looking for help, finding friends, looking for a relationship, raising money, or creating a small business.

•Freedom is a natural right, not a privilage given at expense.

•Most users online, which is mainly social media, are to young are to poor to pay fees just so the website/video/specific web page on a website will load.

•Suicide rates will rise for those who loose contact with friends and lovers who they communicate with online. They will loose contact with people who can save them if they don’t have anyone in real life to turn to. That includes people in other countries around the world who loose contact to those in America.

•Fandoms (not all) can/will die out and loose their voices.

•It will be harder to share opinions, art work, OC’s, Ships, and OTP’s with others in your fandoms.

How you can help in America:

•Peaceful Protesting.

•Emailing your Representatives and Senators.

•Calling your Representatives and Senators.

•Sign Petitions.

•Spread the word online and in real life with friends, family, and followers.

•Translate this post and other information for those who don’t speak english.

How you can help outside America:

•Most online petitions allow people online from various parts of the world to sign them.

•Spreading the word online and in real life to friends, family, and followers.

•Translate this post and other information for those who can’t speak english.

What NOT to do:

•Send Threats

•Be Rude

•Panic

•Use improper grammer/spelling/text talk/abbreviations

•Contact Representatives/Senate without knowing facts, having supportive details, or doing research

•Do nothing to help

Some Relieving Information:

•December 14th is NOT the death day of Net Neutrality!

•We still have time to save it! The FCC just votes on officially presenting the proposition to repeal Net Neutrality to Congress on that date.

•We will still have Net Neutrality for Christmas.

•If we have a majority votes against the repeal in the FCC/House Of Representatives/Senate we will save it.

•We have the ability to boycott companies/ISP’s who cause problems if the repeal passes.

•There’s always a chance/hope for reviving it in the future, we are the generation that wants it safe. We can bring it back if we loose it even if it takes a long time.

•We can still be able to text message through phone numbers/emails and communicate through online games and servers ((not websites, downloadables like overwatch, minecraft, etc.)).

•Apps will probably be left alone since they aren’t websites and therefore have different rules

•It lets ISP’s/Companies/websites CHOOSE to cause certain places to go to the slow lane, some may not change if they like how things are now.

•Less people online means they make less money instead of more like they want too.

•WE STILL HAVE TIME TO SAVE IT!!!

If there are any questions, got incorrect/old information, or if I missed anything PLEASE LET ME KNOW.

My inbox is always open, anonymous questions are on, and tagging me/others in any post you think are useful I will see and reblog.

I hope this helped, the importance of spreading the word and speaking out is crucial. Your voice matters! All our voices matter!

Please reblog this information despite what your blog is or where you live. TRANSLATING IT AND SPREADING THIS TO NON-ENGLISH SPEAKING FOLLOWERS HELPS TOO!!!

Tag For Source (this post’s creator): @interstellactic-studios

yknow i was talking to someone a week or so ago and he kept using the word “triggered” in reference to LoL/online gaming etc.

now, i’ve had this guy in class before and overall he seems like a pretty good kid so i was equal parts perplexed and irritated by his use of this. i told him he probably shouldn’t be using that word in that context, and he didn’t seem to be getting it and kept arguing back that he was using it correctly. eventually he got to the point where he pulled up the definition of it on urban dictionary and explained why he was using it

“yes,” i said, “that is the way it’s used in the gaming community, but the fact is that it’s a word used for a legitimate thing in psychology and people using it in that way has taken it away from those who need it to describe things that happen wrt, for example, PTSD. now people who are legitimately ‘triggered’ get treated like a joke.”

“oh,” he said. “I had no idea that’s where it came from.” and he more or less backed off after that

and ive been thinking a lot about that recently.

about how if i should just started out with, “hey i’d rather you not use this, and here’s why,” that conversation would have gone a lot smoother than just my flat out insistence and non-explanation of why he shouldn’t

because people grow up using words a certain way, or learn to use them from communities and may not even know how they affect other people around them.

like i definitely could have left the conversation and decided i didn’t want to deal with it, that would have been valid, but i really wanted to figure out why he was using it and see if i could get him to stop rather than immediately deciding he was just a shitty person and a lost cause

it’s usually best to start off a conversation by assuming the person is benevolently ignorant and go from there

Famous Authors’ Signs

Aries: Robert Frost // “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” 
Arians always look forward to the next sunrise. They never give up hope for the future, and they roll with the punches. They know that things end, and, when they do, new things take their place. No matter what, they will keep moving forward armed with the knowledge that the future is uncertain but it is theirs to behold. 

Taurus: Charlotte Bronte // “I would always rather be happy than dignified.” 
Taureans honestly have no regard for what others think of them. They are self-assured and they live the life they want. Most often, they love the finer things in life, and they are unashamed to go after what makes them feel happy and comfortable. They are easy-going for the most part; they quietly live a life that fills them with warmth. 

Gemini: George Orwell // “In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.” 
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis speak their truth and do so loudly. Their truth evolves and changes, just as it does in the rest of us, but that doesn’t make it any less truthful. They know the power of words, perhaps more than anyone else, and they have a choice between using them righteously and using them immorally. Most choose to use their words for good. 

Cancer: Nathaniel Hawthorne // “Our most intimate friend is not he to whom we show the worst, but the best of our nature.”
Cancers have two distinct sides they show to people after the stage of acquaintanceship has been surpassed; one side is brash and defensive and the other is gentle and almost demure. It is those who bring out the latter side in them that get showered in the Cancerian love that is so well-renowned. Instinctively, Cancers know how they feel about someone by the way they make them want to act. Those that bring out the best in them are cherished. 

 Leo: Percy Shelley // “Fear not for the future, weep not for the past.”
Leos are brave souls that plate themselves in armor made of happiness. They focus on self-betterment and positivity, and they often tell themselves to perk up because they have so much to be grateful for. They are like the class president who gets everyone’s spirits up when they most need it. They live in the present as much as possible, always hopeful in the future they know they can create for themselves. 

Virgo: Agatha Christie // “Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that’s no reason not to give it.” 
Virgos want only the best for the people they care about; because of this, they are unafraid to give sound advice based on their own mistakes or successes.  They feel in their hearts a duty to speak up when someone they care about could be going down the wrong path, getting to know the wrong person, etc. They will always fulfill the obligation they feel inside them even if it continually goes ignored and unappreciated. 

Libra: F. Scott Fitzgerald // “I like people and I like them to like me, but I wear my heart where God put it, on the inside.” 
Libras are famously charming and likable, but they are always careful to keep some things only for themselves. Libras have many more secrets than people realize, and they know how much is too much when it comes to sharing personal stories/information. This is part of what can make Libras seem ‘perfect’; they know when to stop themselves in order to save face, and they aren’t afraid to pull back when something becomes too intimate. 

Scorpio: Sylvia Plath // “I desire the things which will destroy me in the end.” 
Scorpios are always in a delicate dance between protecting themselves and giving in to their longing for forbidden fruit. Things/people which could genuinely hurt them only intrigue them more, until they finally give in or move on. Perhaps why they are drawn to things which could ultimately hurt them is because pain is a transformative experience for them; in some ways, it sets them free. 

Sagittarius: Emily Dickinson // “Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.” 
Sagittarians are great adventurers, and they seek out experiences rather than material objects. They are eternal optimists, and they find life to be one big, fantastic opportunity. They want to do the most they can in their lifetime, even if, in the end, they just have a bunch of fun stories to tell their grandchildren. They know it all will have been worth it, because what is life anyway? It’s what you make it. 

Capricorn: J.R.R. Tolkien // “Faithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens.” 
Capricorns will follow their path through good times and hard times, never losing sight of their goal. With Saturn being their ruler, they are equipped from a young age to deal with hardship. They know that nothing worth anything will ever come from taking the easiest path and avoiding obstacles. For these reasons, it is always difficult for them to understand those who quit when the going gets tough.

Aquarius: Virginia Woolf // “I thought how unpleasant it is to be locked out; and I thought how it is worse, perhaps, to be locked in.” 
Aquarians, above all, need personal freedom and autonomy. They are made to march to the beat of their own drum, so being caged in someone else’s reality just won’t do. To them, it would be a fate worse than death to be unable to think, speak, and do as they please. To contain them would be to deny them the reality of who they are. 

Pisces: John Steinbeck // “I wonder how many people I’ve looked at all my life and never seen.” 
Pisceans often go through life in a dazed state of mind. They are receptors for emotions, and a lot of the time they turn their brain on autopilot so they can attain some semblance of peace, albeit in a numb way. When they begin to accept their feelings once again, they are left with the thoughts of all the people they failed to care about and it haunts them. 

On specific labels and the color blue

There is a trend of sorts I’m seeing, that of people arguing about the existance of certain gender labels because these labels would be “too specific”. That this creating more and more specific labels would be making things too confused or complicated or what have you.

Now, I’d like you to think of the color blue. But not just any blue, but azure in particular. Would someone say azure is too specific a word, because I could have simply said blue instead? Of course I might have just said blue, but that may have made you think of any kind of blue. Another person maybe would have just asked you to think of blue, but I wanted specifically azure now. Just like I could have asked for turquoise, or teal, or cerulean. Of course these in the end are all blue, but since there are many types of blue we felt the need to make words that refer to specific shades so that others may know exactly what we are talking about without getting into long descriptions.

Suppose now, for example, someone says they are genderfluid. You’ll understand that their gender is fluid, but not what genders they go between. They might go between male and female, or between agender, nonbinary and demigirl, or between nonbinary and female, you don’t know. And maybe they’ll be alright with you just knowing they are genderfluid and leave it at that. But someone else’s gender might never encompass masculine genders, and it may be important to them, and so they might use genderfae instead of genderfluid, so that there will be no doubt on the fact that they never feel male or masculine.

And, furthermore, these specific labels aren’t just used for tthe sake of using less words to communicate a concept, they are useful to the people who use them. If you want to paint your house’s fence azure, you’ll look for azure paint, but if the label only says blue instead of what shade of blue it is you’ll have a much harder time finding the paint you want. If that genderfae person wants to meet other people who share the same gender, or is looking for resources specifically for someone who doesn’t experience masculinity, they’ll do this much faster by looking up genderfae instead of the more vague genderfluid.

This isn’t to say broad labels aren’t useful, of course. Certain people won’t feel the need to specify their gender past genderfluid, or any other umbrella term for that matter. Others people do find comfort in more specific labels. 

“But,” you say, “how am I supposed to know all these labels? There’s so many of them!” Well then, did you know the word glaucous? It is apparently a type of pale grey-blue. I had no idea this word existed until about ten minutes ago. If someone had told me about something glaucous yesterday I would have had to ask what it meant, and they would have explained it to me so that in the future I could have understood it. And in the same way, no one forces you to learn every single gender label in existance, and if you ever meet someone using a label you don’t know, all you have to do is ask, and I’m sure they will be happy to explain it to you, so that in the future you will know what their gender is.

And frankly, after having looked up all possible names for blue, I assure you gender labels aren’t overly specific at all.

INTJs I’ve Met (by an INFJ)

What I noticed and observed about them: (TWO FEMALES & TWO MALES)

  1. They aren’t aware of their surroundings. When they’re walking in the halls, they will NOT look around and will just continue looking and walking straight. Their friends are usually the ones who snap them out of their mind. (It’s an Ni thing. They are in their own heads if they don’t give effort to notice what’s going around them). You just gotta say hi to them first most of the time. (Unless they’re comfortable around you–then you’ll be lucky enough to receive a greeting from them).
  2. Eye contact is difficult for them. Most of them stare at the ground or just focus on something else in the background when they talk to you.
  3. It takes awhile for them to learn dance moves. (Well, this applies to the ones who clearly aren’t dancers). We’d have these school dances and they’re the ones who needed help the most in remembering the steps. (I’m guessing it takes awhile for them to be fully “in sync” with their bodies…?)
  4. They dislike loudness and chaos. Also known as the classroom. And school itself. It’s a jungle out there.
  5. They are so informational and are easily Teacher’s Pets because of how much they raise their hands in class and pay attention to them. I don’t think they listen because they’re interested though–they listen to find flaws in their teachings. It’s their past time.
  6. They’re in school just to graduate. Making friends is just a bonus. (Or well, that’s what they want you to think, at least).
  7. They claim that they’re okay being alone. And well, they’re actually okay with being by themselves. But I know that deep down they’d like a close friend or two with the same intellect and interests.
  8. They are the nerdiest and dorkiest people with their friends. They suddenly become loud or just seem out-of-character. If you’re part of their friend-group, you will definitely see another side of them. Next thing you know they’re making bird-calls, mocking their teachers, and just bluntly voicing out their opinions.
  9. They are passionate about their interests, hobbies and talents. What they’re into keeps them sane. One of them is a varsity chess player who loves playing the bass and writing poetry, another one is a ballerina (she studied in a professional studio and all that) who does a ton of other stuff as well (her parents encouraged her to do a lot), another one is into hypnotism (he went to several conventions for it) and dances hip-hop extremely well, while the other one I know is obsessed with anime (porn).
  10. They may seem aloof and cold but are actually innocent people who aren’t aware of how they act. Which is why outgoing and talkative people get along with them well and manage to open them up. Opposites do attract (As long as they’re the complementing kind of opposites).
  11. They’re actually not as serious as they seem. They have a sense of humor. Either dark or corny humor. And they aren’t serious about their grades either; they’re already blessed with intelligence.
  12. Their words are sharp and can cut you, but they mean no harm. They just don’t really know which words are appropriate when talking to another human being. And which tone to use. And which facial expression to present.
  13. They get possessive. They research things about their close friends and feel super uncomfortable when they aren’t there anymore; since they have grown attached to them already. This will hurt them because had chosen them over being fully independent and it’ll just make them go internally crazy. Which is why they like keeping their friends close. Really close. (Speaking for the unhealthier INTJs)
  14. They like to “get a feel of people” before they truly open up. Typical introvert thing–but INTJs are extremely cautious when trusting people.
  15. They almost seem helpless when their close friends aren’t around. Even desperate. This is why it’s easier for them to just be alone. No expectations–and they only have themselves to blame–which is actually much easier to accept than feeling betrayed by their friends. Again, trust issues.
  16. They don’t mind talking about their opinions all day. (Fi thing) They would if they could. And they will, if they consider you as a close friend of theirs.
  17. They just want to get things done and over with. Which is why they rather finish their homework and projects in advance. And do all the group work. They don’t want others slowing them down.
  18. They are misunderstood. They are actually sensitive people who care and have feelings. Looks can definitely be deceiving.

Well, fellow INTJs, what can you say? :) Do you relate? Or do these statements fit the INTJs you know? :)

Again, these are about the INTJs I’ve met. So if it doesn’t apply to you–then it goes to show that despite sharing the same type, people still have their differences.

When you’ve had a lot of exposure to the SJ side of Tumblr, you’ll start to pick up common abusive tactics they use to instill control over people who are unsure of what side they want to be on.

The most common type I’ve seen was projection. It’s when someone wants to remove all accountability from the actions resulting from bad traits they hold by attributing those bad traits onto you. And I’ve seen it in this form the most: Somebody could go into hysterics about the supposed ‘self-hate’ you have because of certain political views you hold (that don’t apparently “line up” with your minority status), but a quick scroll down through their blog would either reveal those typical self-depreciating posts, how much they hate/want to kill themselves, or how nobody else likes them.

They tell you not to talk to certain people they perceive to be bigoted based on their very broad definition of one. If that doesn’t work, they’ll resort to toying with your emotions. I’ve talked about this before, but they’ll insist that nobody else (outside of the minority group they’re apart of) cares about them. Basically it usually goes like: “If you associate with them, they’ll drop you in a heartbeat when you don’t become useful to them anymore, but since we’re the only people who supposedly care about you, you’re better off staying with us no matter how much abuse we throw at you.” They feel threatened when anyone, especially other minorities who are expected to have camaraderie with them at all costs, point out faults within their mindset so they resort to this particular tactic.

There’s also the “Preemptive Defense” strategy which a lot of narcissists love to use. I didn’t know there was an exact word for this, but I’ve seen this one play out way too often on here. It’s when someone says you should trust them right off the bat because they’re a “nice person”. But on here it comes in the form of trusting someone - especially believing whatever they say without question - because they’re a minority of some sorts. Because they’re a minority and therefore inevitably ‘oppressed’, everything they say, they say with good intentions (or everything they say is right) even if it comes in the form of overtly abusive language.

And you can’t really do shit about it cause, “You gotta listen to them or else you’re speaking over them and denying their right to a voice!”

Another attribute that narcissists share (and lots of people on here) are subjecting people to “smear campaigns”. They control how others see you by making themselves out to be the good person while you’re the toxic one. A smear campaign is a preemptive strike to sabotage your reputation and slander your name so that you won’t have a support network to fall back on lest you decide to detach and cut ties with this toxic person. They may even stalk and harass you or the people you know as a way to supposedly “expose” the truth about you; this exposure acts as a way to hide their own abusive behavior while projecting it onto you. I think I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve seen this happen here.

They deliberately misrepresent your thoughts and put words in your mouth too. They’ll try their damn hardest to rephrase whatever you say to make your opinions sound like garbage. This gives them a sense of power as everybody comes running to their side and away from yours because they purposely misinterpreted the core argument you made in your post. One of their favorite approaches is finding something slightly off with your wording and using that to twist the point you made while moving the goalposts at the same time. I made a post that said ‘Radfems will call a transwoman a man because they raped somebody as if men are the only ones capable of rape’ and I got swarms of replies talking about how I didn’t care about the rape victim affected (which they ironically proceeded to deny his identity by referring to him as a ‘’female’’ because he was a transman) because I happened to bring up a different issue at that time. Either that or I was a rape apologist.

Once they lose that sense of control – because you disagree with their thought process – they’ll either try to strip of you of your identity or use fear-tactics (i.e: nobody cares for you except for us) as a consequence of not conforming to their political views. “If someone’s reaction to you setting boundaries or having a differing opinion from your own is to threaten you into submission, whether it’s a thinly veiled threat or an overt admission of what they plan to do, this is a red flag of someone who has a high degree of entitlement and has no plans of compromising.”

Then comes the oversimplifications and generalizations of complicated matters. They’re left-wing versions of reactionaries, they don’t bother to look at things from different perspectives; they instead apply their own bias where they see fit. They have no concept of nuance and dismiss people who point this out.

Sometimes I think about how in the span of like 5 years the word “daddy” as an inherently sexual term to refer to your male romantic/sexual partner became completely and totally normalized and how that’s left an entire generation of young people a little bit pre-trained to be targeted by really gross pedophiles within the ddlg kink scene and I just get…. really sad y’all 

I saw a like, 9 year old girl get side-eyed by her similarly-aged friends for calling her actual literal father “daddy,” you know, because that is a word used nearly exclusively by real actual little girls on their real actual fathers which is the point of the fetish, and told by them that it was gross and she couldn’t call her dad that. Her actual dad

And I hear from people who think the ddlg fetish is gross and disgusting but have this disconnect when it comes to calling their own bfs “daddy” because that’s been so pervasively normalized over the course of a few years and I could write an entire essay on how it happened and why. 

anonymous asked:

I trust nobody who says queer is a slur or says not to use it. They sound like a Terf and i dont fuck with terfs. And at the very least are adopting terf rhetoric and being willfully ignorant. Its always cis gay people saying this stuff too

A lot of people on tumblr are probably too young to remember this but every time I see arguments against the word queer I’m always reminded to back in the early 2000s when the most common slur used against us was not queer but gay.

This was SUCH a major problem and the use of gay as a slur was so widespread that there was an entire campaign made to get people to stop using it as a slur—celebrities who used gay as a slur got major backlash and had to go on Late Night shows to apologize, there were commercials on tv, posters in schools, a whole thing made specifically to get people to stop using gay as a slur.

Through alllll of that though? Literally I never heard a single person suggest that gay people should stop calling themselves gay. Never was it suggested that people should censor the word gay. Never was it suggested that people should stop using the word gay except to stop using it in a negative manner or as an insult. The onus on gay no longer being used as a slur was completely on the people who were using it as a slur, gay people were never painted as the ones who needed to change because it was clear that they were not the ones doing something wrong, and that campaigning? It worked. There are still people out there who use gay as a negative word, don’t get me wrong, but it’s certainly not as widespread now as it was then and the awareness campaign probably had a lot to do with that.  

And it just continues to strike me as totally odd that the debate over the term queer is happening on a total opposite level—the answer people have to queer being used as a slur is not to get people to stop using it as a slur but to apparently censor and punish queer people for being queer. The onus on change happening is not being put on the people who are doing something wrong (i.e. people who use queer as a slur) but on people who aren’t.

(Meanwhile, however, these people totally forget that not that long ago gay was being thrown around as the slur of choice, that many people have the same negative connotations with the word gay that they do with the word queer, and yet you KNOW that if anyone ever asked people to tag the ‘g slur’ that they would be going off in a hot minute and talking about how unfair that would be)

And to stop going off and actually finally reply to your message: queer IS a slur but it is not ONLY a slur. It has, on a large level, been reclaimed through many painful years. That doesn’t mean that EVERYONE has to reclaim it if they don’t want to or that people aren’t allowed to be uncomfortable with it being applied to them (because you don’t have to and you can be) but you cannot pretend that queer is, only ever has been, and only ever will be a slur and you cannot pretend that the work that queer people have put into reclaiming it and making a positive out of it did not happen because it did and it’s disrespectful as fuck to pretend otherwise.

And, yeah, a lot of the argument over the word queer—as well as so much of the 'disk horse’ quite frankly—is TERF rhetoric. That doesn’t mean that everyone who perpetuates this argument is a TERF (because they’re not) but r*dfem ideology is an honest to god poison that has infected tumblr and so many people who have consumed it don’t even realize it. They get fed this shit, they believe it because the people who feed it to them are very good at wording their shit in a way that makes sense to people who don’t know any better, and then they repeat it not realizing what the root of it is.

Anyway, here is an additional link to a decent post to read about the word queer if anyone is interested and I want to make it clear that while I won’t use queer as an umbrella term for the entire LGBTQIA+ community (because I respect how people identify and do not identify) and I tag all posts as #queer, I am not going to stop using the term entirely, I’m not going to stop making posts directed at/for queer people, and I’m not going to censor the word. It’s totally valid for people to be uncomfortable being called queer because they have negative connotations with the word but it’s important for people to realize that they’re experiences are not everyone’s and that just because something makes you uncomfortable does not mean that that something should not exist.

The answer to gay being used as a slur was not to punish gay people or to make them stop being gay and the answer to queer being used as a slur is not to punish queer people and make them stop being queer because someone being queer—using the word queer for themself, identifying with it, and finding positivity in it—is not a bad thing and treating like it is is to be ignorant of LGBTQIA+ history and to be callous towards other LGBTQIA+ people who identify as queer and who are not even remotely affecting you (much less harming you) by doing so.

What German is like

 Hey everyone! 

I know that there are a lot of stereotypes about all kinds of languages, and I thought I’d start with my own and explain a little about it. Even if you’re not aspiring to learn it, I hope this post might interest you. 

1. “German people always sound angry.” 

I don’t think this is true. German can sound angry, yes, because we have a hard pronunciation (I can’t think of a better description right now) and use a lot of nouns, which make everything sound more formal and less emotional (also known as “Beamtendeutsch” = official german). But I think the reason why people from other countries associate anger with the german language is because in the media, you probably only see german politicians in the parliament holding speeches - and, of course, 80% of them are yelling at other politicians and speaking in formal terms. 

Here are some music videos in which you’ll hear a different German: 

Sarah Connor’s “Wie schön du bist” (How beautiful you are) from her album “Muttersprache” (Mother Language);

Andreas Bourani’s “Auf anderen Wegen” (On different ways) (please also check out the english translation of the lyrics!)

Mark Forster’s “Au Revoir”

Adel Tawil’s “Lieder” (Songs) 

Of course there are tons of other German artists, feel free to browse Youtube or iTunes and I’m sure you’ll find something you like.

2. “German isn’t useful at all. “

Every language is useful! Secondly, German is among the 12 most spoken languages of the world, and it’s an official language in six countries. Almost 100 million people speak German as a first or second language. (x) It’s also a minority language in several other countries. 

Most importantly though: There are a lot of languages that are easier to learn once you speak German - Danish, Swedish, Norwegian, Dutch… I learnt Latin in school and everyone told me it was useless because literally no one speaks it. With the help of Latin, I’m now able to understand almost all Roman languages, like Spanish, Portuguese, Italian, and French. Learning a language always has more positive side effects than we think. Plus, German is a challenge! It’s different from English, it’s different from Roman Languages, but all in all it’s very consistent. 

3. “German is way too difficult to learn - even German people can’t speak German properly. “

Yes, it’s difficult to learn. What isn’t? We have tons of fun grammar and tenses and weird exceptions, but that’s what makes it cool. It will also improve your knowledge of grammar terms in general so you can apply it to almost any language in the world. (Worked for me that way with Latin, which has some big similarities to German.) Plus, the basic grammar you need to master daily situations isn’t all that bad. 

Well, there certainly are German people who aren’t as capable of German grammar as they should be - but I guess there are also British people who confuse affect and effect and forget to use the subjunctive. I can assure you that people whose first language is German are not bad at German. Not everyone knows the grammar rules, but we use them correctly subconsciously.

4. “I can’t pronounce most of the words.”

The wonderful ä, ö, ü, ch.. Yeah, I can see how the pronunciation can be a problem. However, rest assured that 

a) 80% of the German native speakers have equally as much trouble with the “th” in English and 

b) no one will judge you if you speak with an accent. We’re going to congratulate you on trying your very best to learn our language, and we certainly won’t mock you if you pronounce things wrong. 

Learning a second language (mostly English) is obligatory in Germany, so really everyone here can relate to having problems with foreign languages, no matter if the problem is grammar, orthography or pronunciation. I learnt three foreign languages in school. Half of my year is probably still trying to figure out how the famous english “if-sentences” work, which verbs are used with the spanish subjuntivo and what the hell a latin ablativus absolutus is. So yeah, don’t worry. We’ve all been there. 

5. “Even Germans sound so different, it’s like they don’t speak the same language!

True. We have so many dialects in Germany that I can’t even count them, and of course Austria and Switzerland probably have even more than we do. It’s said that people from Hannover speak the “best” German, but to be honest, I don’t know if that’s true. Maybe. I’ve never been to Hannover. 

The most famous dialect is probably Bavarian. Berlin and Cologne have their own dialects, as well as Sachsen, Hessen and basically every other city or region. If you wanna catch a glimpse of it, watch Peter Frankenfeld’s scene “Die Wetterkarte” (Weather Report). It’s really old and the content doesn’t apply to nowadays, but the dialects he does are really accurate and super funny - even I don’t understand everything he says tbh. Keep in mind though that most people don’t use dialects especially when they are in contact with people from all over the country and it’s necessary that they’re understood, like lawyers, doctors, teachers, professors et cetera. I don’t even really speak “my” dialect because we never used it at home. And don’t worry, most people will try to speak their best non-dialect German when they notice you’re not a native speaker! 


This turned out much longer than I thought, but I hope this was helpful in some sort of way. :) 

Any more questions? Ask me! x

How to Use Dramas to Study Korean

Originally posted by retrogamingblog

Books can be super helpful, but they don’t necessarily help with pronunciation, phrasing, or vocabulary people actually use on a regular basis. That’s where realistic or real-world-like experience comes in handy. Most people who are learning Korean don’t actually live IN Korea or are able to be surrounded by Korean speakers in general. So what should you do? DRAMAS~

Dramas, when used properly, can be an excellent learning tool. But just passively binge watching W may not (and probably won’t) be particularly helpful for most people. So I’m here to help give some tips for using dramas to learn in a fun, yet still educational, way!

~ Web Dramas Are Your Friends ~

For educational purposes, I prefer web dramas to full-length dramas. They usually run anywhere from 3 to 20 minutes long, which is perfect for a quick study session. They also have subtitles in Korean for both the dialogue and the narrator. 

My personal favorite channels are:

  • Dingo 딩고
  • Dingo Story 딩고스토리
  • Kok TV 콬TV
  • Beautiology 뷰티학개론
  • Love Playlist(?) 연애플레이리스트

But of course, simply typing in 웹드라마 into the search bar on YouTube will allow you to scroll through countless dramas until you find something you like. Once you find a drama you like, it’s time to get started!

Note: I recommend using the same drama/eps for studying until you fully understand each one before moving onto another one. Even if you might be an upper intermediate learner, starting at the beginner steps to make note of vocab or grammar is fine and even helpful! If you’re a beginner and wanna push yourself on your listening, go advanced. Do whatever works best for you. These are just my suggestions.

Level 1: Beginners

Try to find a drama that has both English (or whatever language you feel most comfortable with) AND Korean subs up. At the beginner stage, your comprehension and ability to keep up with fast, natural speech is a bit lower, so the subs in your native language will help.

Watch through once and make note of plot lines. What were some phrases that you want/need to know how to say? What were some phrases that you noticed get repeated? Now watch through that same episode again, and by using the Korean subs (to make sure you are spelling correctly), write down those phrases. Practice them aloud. If you feel discouraged, feel free to write down all of the words/phrases you DO know to see your progress~

Level 2: Upper Beginner

Same exact concept, but this is for people who have more grammar and vocabulary knowledge. You understand how sentence structure and basic grammar works.

During your watch-thrus, make note of specific words or grammar points you may not know. Do a quick google (or Naver) search after the episode is over.

ex: 몸치 definition; 으면 grammar

This is a good way to get yourself exposed to grammar in natural ways. Don’t overwhelm yourself though. Pick a grammar point or 2 a day to focus on practicing/researching.

Level 3: Intermediate

Now is a good time to turn those native language subs OFF. You should have a basic understanding of most conversational vocabulary by now and be able to distinguish plot lines and main points in speech. Focus through reading the subs and how they pronounce things. Is there an accent? Are they using formal or informal language? Which words are they emphasizing? Were there any words you had heard or read before but didn’t realize how they were spelt/pronounced? Write those down!

Try to repeat the dialogue. Pause as needed.

Level 4: Upper Intermediate

Work. On. The. Pronunciation! You should be able to get your sentences’ rhythm to match those of the characters. And by that I mean emphasizing the right words and being able to speak longer sentences.

This is when you can also really improve your listening skills. Those Korean subs can make you think you understand more than you do. Sure you know what some words are when you see them? But do you know when you HEAR them? Cover up or turn of the Korean subs. Right down any words or phrases you didn’t know by the sound only (go back and check the subs if you need to). Go through and watch again to see if you can understand more now that you know what to listen for.

Level 5: Advanced

Are you ready to listen? Turn that screen brightness down to 0, shut off your phone while the audio plays, turn your laptop around, do whatever you gotta do to NOT look at the screen and just LISTEN. Pick a shorter video and wait til the end (or a longer one and pause after 3-5 minutes) and write down what you heard in major plot points. Who are the characters? What were they talking about? What’s going on? Are there major plot points? A breakup? New neighbor? Job difficulties? How do they sound emotionally? Is there an accent? Are they speaking formally or informally? What setting are they in? What’s the relationship with the characters?

Start with a series you have seen (but maybe not that episode) and then switch to a drama that you have never seen. Hopefully you can still understand most, if not all, of a dialogue even without familiar context.


Extra Tips:

Writing out the entire script from the subs can be super helpful for you to have as a resource. Handwriting increases your memory more than typing does, but do whatever works best for you. Mark that puppy up! Highlight words you do know, circle ones you don’t, underline grammar you don’t understand, etc. Get yourself a system so you know how to better organize your studies.

Once you feel comfortable, try to write out your own dialogue of any scenario of your choosing to see how much conversational skill you ACTUALLY have. Are there words or phrases you want to say but don’t know how to say them correctly? This will help you know what to focus on during your next study session!

⭐️ shoutout to nonbinary people who are only attraced to men

⭐️ shoutout to nonbinary people who are only attracted to women

⭐️ shoutout to nonbinary people who are only attracted to other nonbinary people

⭐️ shoutout to those of you who are struggling with how to label your sexuality because you don’t know if straight, gay, or lesbian are words nonbinary people can use or if they’re the right ones for you

⭐️ shoutout to those of you who do identify as straight, gay, or lesbian even though other people say nonbinary people aren’t allowed to

⭐️ and shoutout to those of you who are creating new words to describe your sexuality and sharing them with other people who could use them

Pros and Cons: MBTI Edition

Submitted by: STEVE.

INTJ: Best: Insightful voice of reason who just KNOWS what is best for the rest of us and where we should be heading, can convince others with rational, relatable arguments. Worst: Misanthropic jerk who thinks he or she is just better than everyone and others are not worth helping because people are too stupid. Doesn’t see their glaring social shortcomings. 

ENTJ: Best: An inspirational leader whom is both calculated and bold in carving a better tomorrow. A bit cold, but does care for the ultimate welfare of others. Worst: Dictatorship-complexed who thinks he just knows better than anyone. Fails at actually doing anything worthwhile but places the blame elsewhere. 

INFJ: Best: A very inspirational motivational guru who understands all of your personal struggles and knows how to tap in that personal potential of yours. Very unassuming and law-abiding in a productive way. Worst: Delusional “knows what’s best for you” kinda person whom in actuality knows jack about your needs but is somehow convinced their words are gospel. 

ENFJ: Best: A rallying leader type who wants nothing else than unity and a better tomorrow, understands the different struggles and circumstances of people, able to link them together towards one common goal. Worst: Cult-like leader with a “You’re either with us or against us” mentality. Can be delusional and out of touch with reality and not realize how over-dramatic and theatrical they are. 

INTP: Best: Extremely wise and knowledgeable person who can come off as a borderline idiot savant knowing everything and anything. They can contradict your most cherished beliefs and turn them on on their head in a way that actually makes you think. Worst: Internet troll who probably lives in his parent’s basement attacking people behind the safety of a monitor all in the name of feeling intellectually superior because they haven’t actually accomplished worthwhile in their lives. 

ENTP: Best: That person who can literally find any solution to any of your problems, has a deep sense of community and unity. Their delivery is dry, but you’ll ultimately find it very helpful. Worst: A human troll who gets off on offending others and constantly questioning authority even if said authority is there for a really good reason. Can be smug and entitled. 

INFP: Best: Iconoclastic person who sees reality in a very unique and interesting perspective, super open minded and dreams of bigger and better things. Always optimistic. Weird in all the right ways. Worst: Uselessly rebellious and defiant and thinks they just know better than anyone yet have probably not accomplished anything in their lives because society just doesn’t “get” them. 

ENFP: Best: Surprisingly realistic person who just seems to have a grasp on the ins and outs of society and reality, yet pushes everyone to be themselves. Sharp, witty, can back up anything they believe in with a million arguments, leaving you with no possible loophole to burst their bubbles. Worst: SJW at it’s worst, aggressively attacking you if you don’t agree with them. ready for any argument yet will run around in circles without even realizing it. Think that spouting off ideals and arguments is just as effective if not, stronger than actually doing something about them.

ISTJ: Best: Extremely reliable person with unyielding loyalty who’s not afraid to lay out the facts out (in a cold manner) in order to help you and others. Will put up with circumstances they dislike for the greater good and you’ll never hear an ounce of complaint from them. Has surprising sharp, sarcastic humor that may catch others off guard. Worst: Narrow-minded follower of conventions who hates anything new and progressive. Very blunt about dispelling ideals but usually with ignorant, shallow arguments to back them up. 

ESTJ: Best: Contrary to popular belief, really fun and convinces others to let loose and be themselves, but does indeed buckle down and gets to business when it’s time, with not a single deviation of protocol going unnoticed. Exceptional family figures. Worst: Goes from dictator to hot mess depending on their mood. May struggle to understand what they stand for and make up for it by attempting to be more competent than others. Can easily get caught in a mid-life crisis when they reach their 40’s all of a sudden wanting to be a 21 year old ESTP :/

ISFJ: Best: Has exceptional balance between wanting to help you but not afraid to call out your bullsh*t. Surprisingly mysterious and deep (hence why many of them are mistyped as INFx). Knows their standards, live by them, yet have this way of gently influencing others without being overbearing. Worst: Thinks society works in a certain way and will recoil, if not, lash out when they meet someone who breaks those boundaries. Convinces themselves that they appreciate people, yet try to mold them into what they want. 

ESFJ: Best: Super fun loving, non-judgmental person who likes you for who you are and wants to know more about you, but MAY be critical about the way you socially conduct yourself, albeit in a way to help you grow as a person. Has a fun, whimsical side to them. Can spontaneously go off projects that are both on the spur of the moment, yet carefully planned out. Worst: Acts as a social dictator, rallying others against someone they subjectively don’t like. Will absolutely make everything about them and be unable to show one ounce of independence. 

ISTP: Best: That person you want around in the zombie apocalypse. No but seriously, they have this borderline superhuman ability to remain calm and calculated in all the worst situations, reacting in real time with the best course of action, in an almost mesmerizing way. Is extremely loyal to the few friends they have. Worst: Extremely rough, socially detached person who just seems to hate everyone. Lashes out at others constantly in impatience, probably with profanities. Very low emotional intelligence and impulsive behaviors. 

ESTP: Best: Extremely fun person who constantly wants to drag you out of your comfort zone, but actually knows how to do it without you breaking out in a panic attack. Very generous, charismatic and hell bent on making you the best you can be in the real world. Worst: Essentially the used car salesman prototype who uses their charm to get what they want from others, taking what they need and never looking back with an ounce of remorse, proceeding in self-destruction. 

ISFP: Best: Very kind-hearted and loyal person who expresses their affection to others in low-key but very authentic ways. Essentially embodies the motto “Live and let live” meaning they never ever, judge you if you don’t judge them first. Can be calm, artistic and realistic all at once. Worst: A spoiled brat who thinks they are justified in acting on their needs and breaking every rule they come across, yet will ask you for help to clean up their mess. 

ESFP: Best: Contrary to stereotypes, often a very business, sharp-minded person who sees things as they are and knows how to get ahead. Loyal, friendly no-non sense and knows how to fun with you. Worst: Self-destructive person who thinks they are beyond criticism or act very aggressively towards it. have this “Eternal child” syndrome to them. 

Magnificent Love

Warning! Mentions of homophobic idiots in this ficlet


Draco lay curled up in the corner of their sofa, with a now cold cup of tea on the side table. Harry was trying to give him a hug, but he stubbornly kept his ranks closed. No matter what his lover did, he couldn’t squeeze his hands between Draco’s chest and his knees, which he had pulled up high and tight.

“Draco, come on. I’m trying to give you a good evening how was your day hug here.” Harry sulked, and put on his puppy eyes. “Why won’t you let me?”

“I just don’t want one.” Came Draco’s weak reply. “I‘m not in the mood.”

“Why? What happened? Was it something at work?” Draco shrugged and didn’t answer. He wasn’t sulking though. He felt too awful for something childish like that.

“Babe, come on. You know I won’t drop it until you offer a better answer than shrugging.” Harry tried to look at him, but Draco didn’t notice. He was too busy staring at his knees without seeing anything. 

That was, until Harry waved his thin golden wedding band in front of his face. “I love you more than anyone in the whole wide world. You know that. I said that in front of all our friends and family. Now please let me help you.”

“It’s not something you can help with.” Draco finally pushed himself out of his silence. Then, he let out a choked sob. “I just had an awful day at work.”

Harry tried to hug him again, and this time Draco allowed himself to get pulled into his husband’s lap.

“Do you want to talk about it?” Harry asked, softly stroking his hair.

“‘S not much to say.” Draco forced himself to relax a little and lay his head on Harry’s shoulder. “My intern had forgotten her lunch, so her mom came by to bring it. On her way out I heard her talk about me to her daughter. And she wasn’t very kind.”

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Good Kid/Troublemaker AUs
  • You’re a rebel by accident cause you get really animated when you talk and hit people in the face leading to fights. Now you just roll with it. I know the truth though.
  • Totally saw you spray paint the principals car and you’ll have to buy me dinner to keep me quiet.
  • I pretty much live in detention and you’re a straight A student here on your first offense. Wanna add another and skip detention with me?
  • Every time I get in a fight you patch me up but now I’m the one patching you up after your tripped on thin air.
  • I’m a super tough punk who hates authority. Your parents are cops who have met me more than once but I like you a lot.
  • Me and my buddies vandalized your backyard trampling your mini garden in the process. Now I feel really shitty cause you’re really upset about this. Look I’ll help fix it okay just stop with the sad faces.
  • Accidentally knocked you out when you got caught in the middle of a fist fight between me and this other kid during school. So I sat with you in the nurses office. Shut up! Punks like me have consciouses to you know!
  • You’re always picking fights and I’m the one who has to use my charm and way with words to stop them from getting out of hand.
  • You’re a police officer and I’m constantly in and out of holding/jail and we get to know each other well so sometimes you give me my favorite treats when no ones looking.
  • I’m always fighting and getting in trouble at school so people avoid me. You frequent the small ice cream shop my parents own and know how kind I am to children and elderly people but I don’t realize this.
  • You give me a piggy back ride (or ride home) after I got out of a brutal fight and can barely stand.
  • I brought my new kitten to school hold her please while I kick this guys ass. 
  • Punks can get scared of thunder storms to

LOKI’S SPEECH

Am I supposed to be alive? Am I dead? To tell you the truth, I do not know it for sure,…I only know I’m here. I have always been here, and I will always be, laughing at the dark destinies of those who have summoned me.

Cheap writers have turned their attention to me, and have thought to tell my story through talking images …nice trick, fun, nothing to say. They summoned my name, my body, my voice, claiming to know the events, to be able to scrutinize Gods’ souls,…you foolish presumptuous!

But all they were able to do was telling my story through the pungent words of my brother, the cold gaze of my father, the harsh and free sarcasm of those who had labeled me since childhood. I watched them, these people, playing with my name, using it for their stories, to enchant and entertain, like the barking bards in my father’s Hall.

Loki Laufeyson, God of Mischief, Silvertongue, God of Chaos, the Deceiver, Sower of Discord. Some of the names with which men know me do not belong to me, …they have been given to me like fleas that a steed picks up along the way.

Only a few knew how to hear my soul go painfully shattered, the awful moment I understood the mountain of lies that my whole life was made of. 

They called me God of Mischief, but who had been the greatest deception? Who has deceived a child, misleads a boy, rejected a son, denigrated a God? The One whom the Nine Realms call with his endless, pompous names, he, the Old egocentric bastard: Odin, the Allfather… may Hel devour him!

He has turned my life into a vile and painful lie from the very beginning. Since his pathetic tale about how he had saved my life, when I was just a baby, in Jotunheim. This is what has been told, this is what people believe.

Yet I have always wondered if it was not just another well-designed lie to cover himself with glory, at my expense. What if I had not been abandoned at all, as he always made me believe? What if he had simply kidnapped me, instead, like a bird of prey does with a hare?

I lived eons of time with this doubt that tore my mind and soul. Despite this, I was stupid enough to love my father with a deep visceral love; I wished for years to be his worthy son, but he already had Thor and he didn’t know what to do with me. I would have given my life for a nod of approval, to know that he was proud of me … but when, perhaps, the events were making us get closer it was too late, and dark ghosts of our past had got in the way. I, who craved the love of my family as the dry land begs for water, I suddenly understood that I was nothing but a lonely soul, which belonged to nothing and no one. 

I was raised in deception and resentment, and for a while I also became what others had decided I should be. Just for a while.

Now I’m tired of hearing my life told by voices that aren’t mine, like the one, always sweetly arrogant, of my brother. I hated him with burning rage, then I desperately loved him as the most devoted brother, … I betrayed him but it was a deception too. 

In truth, behind his idiotic smile as a savior of the Realms, there was always my help, my skill, my presence. While he saw nothing but himself reflected in everything.

They told my own story using Thor’s words, Odin’s actions, the distorted image of a Frost Giant among the splendid Gods of Asgard. They took my name and then covered it with their malice, thrown it in the mud, exposed, humiliated and trampled for everyone to laugh at me. Suddenly I became Loki, the Jester, the unreliable and annoying brother. The buffoon who plays with knives and snakes, and who enjoys watching obscene shows of his own death, like a disgusting, depraved soul.

They evoked my name and presence as if I were a pawn to play with. I would have to disappear soon, their plans were very different and I was not part of it. Nothing that I didn’t know already. Loki was supposed to be nothing but the rough copy of himself, a banal stereotype, the villain of those legends that Midgardians like so much.

My purpose was to exalt Thor, because nothing could affect his glittering figure of hero of the Nine Worlds. They called me “murderer” but when he almost decimated my kin, a thousand voices rose to cheer him. They said that I betrayed him and yet it was him (along with my father) who denied me to attend at the funeral of my beloved mother; him who tortures me with a painful witchcraft of an alien planet, … leaving me alone, twitching on the floor waiting to die, while a stabbing fire devoured my blood made of ice. And that braggart knew it. Just as he knew that I would still come to his aid when there were no more ways out for him.

Nonetheless I could still be bullied and mocked, because I was “just Loki”, the second son, the adopted, the skittish, the deceiver, the jealous, the one who doesn’t deserve anything. I had to remain quiet, in my place in the background, mute, predictable in my unpredictability, plotting in the shadow like a Dark Elf, while the Nine Worlds melted in love for my precious brother, untarnished and invincible. But these sturdy storytellers didn’t summoned Balder the Sickly-Sweet, the accommodating Balder the Young; they wanted me, Loki God of Mischief and Chaos, so I have satisfied them.

And I messed up their plans, bringing that chaos they had tried to silence, and that they had deluded themselves to be able to control. I came out of the background, out of my place. Broken their rules. Rewrite their story, my story. I spoke aloud with my voice, and i touched deep and painful chords in those who knew how to find Loki Laufeyson among the bluster of the God of Thunder. People who understood my pain, saw the abyss of despair and self disgust where I had been thrown, heard my cries of suffering, touched my bleeding heart… and they were never the same anymore. They embraced my tragedy and tied it to their lives, recognizing themselves in my looks, in my silences, even in the sentences that were to serve to undress myself of all my dignity.

There’s a sentence that sums up all this, and it is the only truth that, in the end, has smeared the sheets on which they write. A phrase that opposed my phantom “army” to a green muscled monster who grunts like a primitive ape. He had to make people laugh, emphasize my inadequacy, highlight the uselessness of my supposed “plan”.

“I have an army!”, “We have a Hulk!” … I heard them, the mocking laughs at me. Yet now, that army exists and screams my name.

Proudly. Like Odin’s chosen warriors, who hails his name in the middle of battle. They’re people made of flesh and blood, and this thing amuses me and makes me proud at the same time. MY PEOPLE.

They are the last ones, those who have always remained in the shadows, in silence, voiceless; those who bitterly cried in the darkness of their rooms, all alone, scared, misunderstood; those who suffered,…no matter what, no matter how much. No one is competing, and no one can measures the pain. They called for the God of Mischief to belittle him and make fun of him, but without realizing that I am not the submissive puppet of whom they wanted to move the wires.

I am a God. And a Frost Giant.

I am powerful magic and ancient spells.

I am devouring fire, and a shape-shifter.

I am the shining God of Mischief in the golden citadel of Asgard, and the Lost Prince in the frozen land of Jotunheim.

I am a God, not a knife-thrower, a stupid buffoon. Nor I am the dark well to be filled with dung for my brother to shine.

Am I supposed to be alive? Am i dead? It doesn’t matter, it never had.

I’m Loki Laufeyson.

I am there since the beginning of time, and I’ll always be because a God rides life with no fear and laughs at death’s face.

Because even death, between my magic fingers, becomes deception itself, like the mist that hides the horizon, …a fleeting laugh on the wings of the wind. Maybe it exists, maybe not …

Or maybe it is me, who laughs at those who have summoned me to throw me into the mud of humiliation,…of those who now cringe in front of a growing army of voices that scream my name for vengeance. 

I AM LOKI LAUFEYSON, GOD OF MISCHIEF. I AM HERE AND I WILL LIVE FOREVER. 

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This is my contribution to Loki’s Army. I’d like the idea that is Loki speaking, for once, telling things through his eyes as he had lived it.

I’d like to tag some of Loki’s Army amazing people here on Tumblr @lokiloveforever @leenalee  @vesperazylra @lucianalight @the-lokis-queen @hisasgardianangel @latent-thoughts @mastreworld @whitedaydream @le-chat-sur-mars @nightcrawler0213 @nooo-body @mylittlesunshineblog @juliabohemian

I feel like one thing the “queer is a slur” crowd overlooks...

…is that the word gay has been used so overwhelmingly as a pejorative, as a slur, that most children in the U.S. in the past several decades likely grew up learning “gay” as a word for bad, strange, or wrong before they fully understand that there are “gay” people, and that it’s not just a word with negative connotations.

Kids grow up hearing “That’s so gay!” said with such vehemence relating to topics that those same kids aren’t remotely educated about, and they just internalize that it’s bad. This is how you get elementary schoolers saying, “Mr. Hopkins gave us homework, he’s so gay,” and the same elementary schoolers grow up to be high schoolers and adults who say, “What? I don’t mean gay like gay people, I mean gay like stupid or bad.”

And some of them aren’t overt homophobes in any other way… but dang, you teach little kids that a word that describes a class of people means “bad” and “wrong” before they know those people exist, and that’s bound to shape the way they think about things, isn’t it?

And in contrast you get queer kids who start to put 2+2 together about what “gay” really means a little bit faster than the kids around them because they’re desperate for some information, some hints of meaning… but they’re also hearing the same lessons as everybody else, that gay=bad, gay=wrong, gay=undesirable, gay=something no one ones and no one should be, gay is the worst thing you can be.

In the small town I lived in and the school I went to, nobody ever hit me and called me queer. No one ever shouted “queer” from a moving car while I was walking home. No one ever threatened or inflicted violence on me with the word “queer” on their lips.

Gay, though? Yes. And variations on the f-slur, but gay itself was enough of an invective, enough of a pejorative, to the people flinging it.

“Gay” was the slur that cishet people threw at me as a form of violence, often in corollary with physical violence. “Queer” is a word that I learned online, from members of my community. My experience of the former word is as an attack, while the other was as a sanctuary and respite from that attack.

Now, I’m not a gay man, but a bisexual trans woman. I was still sorting that out at the time, but I doubt it would have made a difference to many of my tormenters if I’d been able to explain it properly.

So when “gay” is used as the happy-go-lucky umbrella for what I would personally call the queer community, gay with even its positive connotations strongly coded as male, I’m not just being misgendered/swept under a default label of male along with a lot of other women and non-binary folks, I’m being forced to accept a label that I never sought, one that is definitely used as a pejorative and a slur, and a slur that was specifically used as a weapon against me.

Both “gay” and “queer” have the same problematic histories and problematic presents. They have both been subject to reclamation efforts. To me, the difference is how those efforts are organized. 

“Gay” is an attempt to normalize, to assimilate, to take the elements of our community that are most palatable to the heteronormative homogeneous hegemony and emphasize them, making those elements even more palatable and altering or hiding the other elements of the community. 

“Gay” is like trying to get into an exclusive school that you fear is likely to reject you for prejudiced reasons, so you keep your nose clean, make sure you take all the right extracurriculars, polish your cover letter and personal essay, and try to make the right contacts with influential people on the inside… and if you have to hide some of your past activities, break ties with friends who are less presentable, and de-emphasize your family to make sure the admissions office doesn’t get the wrong idea about what you’d bring to their institution, well, it’ll be worth it, because that’s what you have to do get a, you know, fair shake.

“Queer” rejects that. Queer rejects homogeny, it does not demand that we sand down our rough edges or smooth out our contours. It does not seek to reshape ourselves or our community to fit ever-evolving standards designed to keep us out, but it challenges those standards.

If “gay” is trying to appeal to a bigoted admissions board by being smooth and shiny enough to slip in, “queer” is challenging the admissions board to accept or reject you on your own merits as you exist, and challenging the bigoted assumptions that underline the power structure as revealed by this. It’s bypassing the admissions board by creating your own infrastructure for sharing resources and information. 

I have a suspicion that a certain percentage of the intra-community backlash against the word “queer” is not because the negative connotations of the word hurt us as listeners, but rather that the radical connotations of the word hurt the effort to make the community acceptable to a presumed default “general audience”, to assimilate gayness into heteronormativity. 

I.e., it is less, “Queer makes people think it’s okay to bash us.” and more “Queer makes people think we’re not like them.”

Most people end posts in defense of the label “queer” and the umbrella term “queer community” by saying “I won’t call queer if they’re not comfortable with it,” and most of them get told, “BUT THAT’S WHAT YOU’RE DOING WHEN YOU SAY ‘QUEER COMMUNITY!”

I’ve never yet seen anybody talking about the gay community have to disclaim that they’re not using the word to people who view it as unreclaimed slur or who just plain find it too hurtful to have even given that discourse any thought.

I won’t call someone queer if they don’t think of themselves a queer. I will use queer as an umbrella term. If that’s not you, you can cheerfully include yourself out of it. 

And heck, I’m doing you a solid. If you didn’t have a queer community to point to, you wouldn’t have anyone you could point to when you want to clarify that you’re not like those people.