Who we are is often defined by what we do. But it is not the only determining factor. What you do defines you in the eyes of those around you, but your true self is without form. It is deep within you, how you feel, who you relate to, and the things you like. Who we are is what makes up the souls we carry. Do not let others simply define you. Be the one you are meant to be.
The best way to discuss your distaste of a character is through respectful rhetoric. No one’s asking you to like every character in a serialization, but no one wants to see you piss on them either. It sounds ten times classier and people who like the character you don’t will respect you for respecting them.
I’m talking to you Kikyou and Kagome haters. Sit down and take a look at your vocabulary.