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Ultimate passing tips list for pre-t transguys (and some other tips too)

Yes passing is a social construct yada yada yada but if you want some tips to look like a average joe cis male and pass for say bathroom situations or in public this is for you. I know you can wear whatever you want and do whatever you want but these things can help you pass if that’s what you want. This is info I’ve gathered over the years and stuff I’ve learnt myself too so i thought i’d put them in one place. 

This stuff works for me, i pass all the time basically even if i am perceived as a younger guy that’s fine by me.

its pretty lengthy so the topics are facial hair, hair, jaw, voice, height, hips, packing, binding, swimming, working out, foods, body language, clothes and bathrooms.

FACIAL HAIR: shave your peach fuzz coz guys don’t have peach fuzz or…

you can make it pass for male facial hair by growing it as much as you can as a moustache and shaving the rest. You could even leave a lil at the sideburns. Once you’ve done that grab a makeup powder a bit darker than your skin tone and lightly brush on the areas with hair to darken it and tada you have facial hair. You could dye it but i’m not sure how well that would work. 

I’ve also heard coconut oil is good for facial hair growth. If you want to give that a try get a bit and slather it on wear you want the hair and massage it in and leave it. 

Coconut oil is a good moisturiser and can act as a shaving ‘cream’ and aftershave too. 

Also shaving to make hair grow thicker and darker is bs. 

You can ghost in the areas where facial hair would be with makeup too but it may look less natural. 

And keep eyebrows more natural just focus on the middle. You can darken them the same as your facial hair as men have darker, thicker eyebrows generally.  

HAIR: going tight on the sides can make your head look more square therefore more masculine. 

 Also keep it messy, women generally have smooth, brushed through looking hair. Get some clay or wax or whatever works for your hair type and texture and rub it in your hands till there’s no clumps. Then work it into ALL of your hair, just go crazy. 

 Also square off that sideburny bit don’t keep it pointy. 

Body hair is good to keep too coz most guys have a crap ton of it (leg hair, armpit hair) 

JAW: you can clench your jaw to make it more rigid and square. 

Also chewing gum more often to make you jaw muscles stronger can improve your jawline. 

Try out contouring if you want to (I understand if you don’t) 

VOICE: I’ve seen some exercises online like humming as low as you can for 30 seconds a few times a day; stretching your neck; stretching your neck while humming; singing male parts in songs; speaking more slowly and controlled; speaking from your chest or abdomen. One or a combination or these might work for you just give them a try. 

HEIGHT: there are short cis guys so don’t worry too much.

You can wear shoes with thick heels or wear inserts. I’m not sure about any other height tips as i don’t worry about my height.

HIPS: if you have a lot of weight around your hips that isn’t bone wear mid or high rise jeans and put them over that area with a belt on so you can cinch down the fat a lil bit. This could be dangerous so don’t do it too often or too tight.

Ty turner said boardshorts are good too because of the wide waistband so give that a try in the summer too.

PACKING: honestly packing isn’t a passing thing most people don’t pay attention to it but you can if you want to.

A sock in your briefs or boxers is good enough but there are packers and stps (stand to pee devices) you can buy too.

Tight briefs, a harness or a diy harness is best for packing.

To make a diy harness use a waistband from some underwear and either put a hole in them for the shaft to go through or you can attach a o ring or something similar to the waistband which will last longer.

If you have a freetom i made a harness out of womens underwear and a hair tie and it works really well. Just chop a hole in the front and sew the hair tie on as an o ring and tada!! 

I also did a review of that freetom (the sleek 2 in 1) that you can watch by clicking here, it is a lil long though. 

BINDING: DO NOT USE ACE BANDAGES OR WRAP ANYTHING ALL THE WAY AROUND YOUR BODY. Its extremely dangerous and you could break ribs and puncture organs.

Only bind with binders from trusted brands. A few that are well known are gc2b, underworks and flavnts bareskin binder. Ive used the gc2b binder and i can definitely recommend it it is extremely comfortable and the material is great.

To avoid the moob when you put on your binder put your hand under the bottom and push them either to the side or down. If you have a smaller chest you could go up but just fiddle around till it looks the best you can get it.

You can try kt tape but only use in small amounts. From over your nipple to your armpit with only a few pieces. This method can effect skin elasticity and cause irritation. Do not use more tape than what was just recommended as you don’t want to constrict yourself.

Also sports bras are good if you can’t buy a binder or it isn’t safe to. Wear one backwards or wear two (one forwards and one backwards) if wearing one normally doesn’t do the trick.

Layers and thick jumpers and jackets can hide your chest too.

Do not buy cheap ones on ebay.

Only bind up to 8 hours and try not to exceed that. If you have to bind for longer take regular breaks but 10 hours is the absolute max.

Don’t sleep in one either as you breath differently when you sleep and you need some time to breath if you wear it everyday.

Don’t buy one smaller than your size this can can serious problems. Your size will work very well and getting a smaller size doesn’t mean it will flatten you more. Most guys have pecs anyway so a lil bump is okay.

SWIMMING: again boardshorts with a wide waistband are great but also rashies (bather material t-shirts basically) are good too. 

If you wear a sports bra (fowards or backwards. Probably don’t try wearing two as that would be constricting) or a bareskin binder you can wear an over sized rashie over the top to hide some curves (when it isnt clinging to your body) and also hide the binder or sports bra. 

A wetsuit with a rashie also works well. 

No one will question you wearing a rashie but if they do just say its to protect from uv rays. 

You can also try binding with kt tape/sports tape with a rashie. 

WORKING OUT: strength/weight training your upper body can help make your shoulders look bigger and more masculine. Doing exercises regularly (a few times a week) for muscles like the triceps, biceps, chest and lats is a good start.

Have lots of protein to help build muscle.

Also shedding some weight can help with curves as well as help get rid of a baby face.

Working out also boosts testosterone.

•FOODS: there are natural testosterone boosting and estrogen blocking foods you can try. These are some i found but there are others. 

Some boosters are tuna, egg yolks, oysters, shellfish, garlic, coconut, beef and beans.

Some estrogen blockers are kale, cauliflower, broccoli, mushrooms, whole grains, pomegranates, grapes, olive oil, spinach, onions and citrus.

BODY LANGUAGE: be confident. This is very important. 

Shoulders back, chest out. 

Walk with a slightly wider stance (coz most guys have some junk down there ya know so just imagine that or buy a packer to help with that) and also sitting down with your legs slightly apart (coz again junk down there). 

Try not to talk with your hands too much but if you do, do it less with your wrists and maybe more slowly and with your whole arm. 

Hands in pockets is also a masculine mannerism.

CLOTHES: wear masculine (or androgynous) clothes that are a lil oversized. T-shirts that are wider in the torso and longer are best. Tops with a standard neck opening are better than wide neck openings too as it makes your neck look thicker. 

Rolling up sleeves is a good idea too coz if you have a big shirt the sleeves are going to look a bit funky. Sleeves that are fitted on your arms and show your mid upper arm give the illusion of bigger arms therefore more muscular arms. To tighten them and shorten them just roll them up a few times. This won’t look weird or suspicious either coz it’s a trend that’s happening anyway. 

Patterns, dark clothes and layers are good for hiding your chest and curves too. 

Muscle tank tops are good in general so wear them. 

In terms of accessories a watch is great and maybe a leather or wood bead bracelet or a plain ring. Keep it minimal. 

BATHROOM: in and out just do what you’ve gotta do. Don’t look around and chat or whatever. 

Keep your head down if you’re worried you don’t pass enough. 

The time I stole from a Monk and got away guilt free.

The whole thing starts when @zidynnala and I are in Paris, sitting behind Notre Dame, eating macarons for the first time. One of the warnings we got was about people asking us to sign stuff as a distraction for being pick-pocketed. 

So when we were approached by a trio holding clipboards, I was a bit paranoid about it. They wanted to know if we spoke English, and when we confirmed we did, if we would donate to a charity to help deaf people.

 They hand me the clipboard to sign, which I did, then pulled my wallet from my bra, and noted that they looked disappointed at that. I gave them 2€, note it down, and put my wallet back, hoping they’d move on. @zidynnala, being smart, gave them nothing.

The lady tells me that to have my name on the clipboard as a supporter, I need to give them a minimum of 10€. Looking at the clipboard, I can see the lists of names, and realise that they’re all 10€, 20€, 50€ donations. 

And they start getting mad, because I SIGNED it, I owe them a 10€ donation now, right?!

No. We eventually get them to shove off, and I saw one add a zero to my donation tally. 

 Several days later, we’re in New York with @savvyliterate, and there’s a yellow robed Monk wandering around trying to offer something shiny to people. Being polite, I take it, and he slips a wood prayer bead bracelet on my wrist, and asks for a donation. So I pull out a dollar.

 He pulls out a clipboard. 

 List of names. Minimum donation amount $40. 

I place the dollar on the clipboard, quickly turn and nope! on out of there, walking briskly to catch up with @savvyliterate​ and @zidynnala​, who informed me that he chased me for part of the block before giving up.

And that is how I stole from a monk and escaped guilt-free.

(the bracelet eventually went to someone who I knew would like it, and would enjoy the story behind it)