I think MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) needs a major reform movement. I’ve got a few starting ideas.
MGTOW has begun to catch fire as a movement. Its google presence has exploded in the last 2 years and more men are silently starting to consider the facts and belief system behind MGTOW. As MGTOW marches inexorably toward numerical legitimacy, however, it suffers from a toxic level of anger that threatens to destroy its credibility.
Serious reform of the movement is desperately needed, now, so MGTOW can free itself from the male version of the “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” radical feminist mindset. Only through reform can we achieve the success that the Herbivore Man has achieved in Japan.
Here are a few of what should become many, many reform ideas, as other MRAs see this and add in their own ideas.
1) Completely refuse to accept the separation of men into hierarchies (alphas, betas, etc.) even as we acknowledge and point out the fact that women do separate men into these hierarchies. “He’s a beta” is not something we should ever think or say; “women classify non-aggressive men as betas” is something we should point out and use as a starting point for explaining why this hierarchal system is wrong.
1a) Clarify that men are not things and should not be classified into hierarchies. MGTOW is about freedom from such things, and avoiding women who (verbally or nonverbally) classify men in such ways.
2) Completely abandon the classification of women by their weight and/or looks. Referring to women as a 3/10 or a 10/10 according to her looks is treating her like a product or a thing, which is what we’re trying to free men from. Plus, rating a woman in this fashion means we are ignoring her personality altogether. If we cannot outgrow this silliness, how can we expect women to outgrow it?
2a) Put an end to comparing Western women against foreign women. There are only three types of women - hypergamic, misandrists (the “I hate men” crowd), and egalitarians.
3) Abandon the notion that all marriage is bad and all female companionship is risky. This is identical to feminism’s “don’t tell me all men aren’t like that” madness. MGTOW needs to continue to point out the fact that the system is biased against men, but without broadbrushing women. This broadbrushing blinds them to the good women who don’t practice hypergamy and indulge in the female privilege incurred by male expendability. Some women even vehemently oppose that culture - these women are our allies. Saying no to all long term relationships unfairly tars them as well.
4) MGTOW should focus on the message that:
A) Each individual man is free to define masculinity by his own terms, and no one else has the right to decide that for him.
B) Women who subconsciously or verbally classify men into alpha/beta/etc hierarchies should be avoided. They cannot be reasoned with, the only thing a sensible man can do is keep his distance from this toxic creature.
C) In the context of romantic relationships, men need to focus on egalitarian women, instead of writing off all women.