to da ladies whose big ol’ thighs eat your shorts and da shorts be ridin’ up in the middle while you walk:
1. da little coochie-shorts-tug ain’t awkward, it’s glorious
2. you is beautiful
3. you is smart
4. you and your thighs is important
I am a queer woman. I flip-flop between identities. I have been “straight,” then “bisexual,” then “pansexual,” then a weeping puddle in the middle of the floor (which has occurred frequently enough to be considered an identity, in my opinion).
I often feel “not gay enough” to hang out in queer spaces; I feel like an intruder or a wannabe…
It gets even more confusing when it comes to people who don’t fit into either “box.” I’ve dated FTM trans* men, and I’ve been attracted to MTF trans* women, as well as a handful of androgynous/non-binary people. If I didn’t have internalized biphobia and confusion before, I really have it now…
But I have figured out a few things (probably):
Sexuality is fluid.
Sexual fluidity varies in viscosity for different people.
If you identify as something, it doesn’t matter who you’re dating/have dated/have never dated. You are who you decide you are, and nobody should be able to tell you otherwise.
Don’t make assumptions about other people’s sexualities. I don’t care if you know a boy who has been in a three-year relationship with another boy. He might not be gay (or even a he).
Not a lot of people have it all figured out. As I’ve shared my personal confusion, a lot of people have confided their own struggles to me as well.
Living in a binary-obsessed society is the pits.
So go out there and make out with whomever you please. Or with no one at all. Your call.
Yes it fucking does, people are smart and aware of media propaganda outside of the bubble of this particular college, just because you go to a women’s college doesn’t mean you’re more aware of privilege than everyone else, don’t put yourself on a pedestal and DON’T SHARE YOUR FEELINGS IN AN 80-PERSON LECTURE.
More than anything, I hate the false elitism of “the doesn’t happen everywhere.” Yeah, if you use the passive voice, you’re right. Media literacy doesn’t just happen. You have to teach people. You have to seek out people who are interested in listening to you. You have to stop addressing people as though you’re the better, smarter, more valuable contributor to your discussions. You have to actually have discussions! NOTHING JUST HAPPENS. YOU HAVE TO DO IT.
And many Smithies I’ve met are blissfully ignorant about many a subject addressed in the SWG class. Many more non-Smithies I know could fucking teach this class. Don’t take this “more educated than thou” attitude. It won’t get you anywhere.