okay i am going to reach into my sociology knowledge bank to try and briefly explain a thing because a lot of understandings seem to be, to some degree, misinformed:
what the wage/pay gap isn’t: an employer literally handing seventy-seven cents to a (white) woman and one dollar to a (white) man. i mean, c’mon. think a little harder.
what the wage/pay gap is: the consistent pattern of the average of men’s incomes (both in general and in specific fields) being higher than the average of women’s incomes (this is the basis of the seventy-seven cents to a dollar model). no, this pattern is not caused by ~women’s choices.~ it is linked to several different (STRUCTURAL; again, NOT choice) factors, including (but not limited to): men being more likely to receive promotions and therefore move higher up the ladder (glass ceiling [glass escalator in female-dominated jobs]); occupational sex segregation, which sees men and women within the same field tracked towards different roles that typically place men higher up in terms of status and pay than women; gendered socialization forces that encourage men towards subjects that lead to higher paying fields (such as STEM fields) and women towards subjects that lead to lower paying fields (such as humanities, liberal arts, et cetera); the devaluation of “feminized” (read: female-dominated) jobs that results in lower pay in those fields (check out the history of teaching for very stark proof of this); continued gender expectations rooted in traditional patriarchal roles that encourage (and, frequently, push) mothers to take more time away to raise and care for children while encouraging fathers to do the opposite; the motherhood penalty, which is the phenomenon of employers seeing mothers as automatically less dedicated to work and therefore choosing not to hire/promote them (there is no fatherhood penalty; studies have found that fathers are actually seen as better job candidates)(this also affects women who are not mothers because employers view them as people who will inevitably become mothers and will therefore be less dedicated, etc) and so on and so forth.
(it’s also super important to remember that the gaps become even wider when race is factored in, meaning that women of color earn even less than white women in comparison to white men).
Today is Equal Pay Day, the symbolic date representing how far into the year women have to work in order to catch up to what men were paid by the end of last year—and that date is even later for women of color.
Actually, I totally understand the gender wage gap. I mean, come on, it makes total sense!
Men need that extra money for all the tampons they need every month. I mean they can’t control their normal bodily functions, can they?
Men need that extra money for all the makeup they need. I mean if they don’t wear it, they get socially shamed, and thats not exactly fair.
Men need that extra money for all the clothes they buy that they have to cover themselves in so it’s not their fault if they get raped. I mean, it would be their fault if they didn’t anyway, you know? It’s bad enough that they have to walk down the street and get harassed no matter what they’re wearing. And women probably have NO idea how expensive bras are.
Men need that extra money for all that extra pepper spray they need for walking home all alone at night. How else are they going to keep themselves safe???
Men need that extra money for all the birth control they have to take. I mean, women couldn’t possibly understand the struggle of taking the pill every single day at the exact same time or else they might get pregnant, or having to schedule a shot every 3 months. All women have to do is pick up one of those free condoms that come in almost all bathrooms and are handed out free at clinics. Not to mention the weight gain!! Women should seriously have more sympathy.
Men need that extra money for all the gynecologist appointments they need to go to. Ladies, Pap smears aren’t free you know!!! Men need that extra money for all those waxing appointments and razors they get shunned for not getting. I mean, hair on women isn’t even half as gross than when it’s on a man.
Men need that extra money for the pain medication for their menstrual cramps. Think about it, if they didn’t have them, they’d be bed ridden. They wouldn’t be able to go out, or move even. Women don’t know half that pain.
Women, you don’t even know half the struggle, so stop whinging about it.
“My mother used to tell me, ‘You may be the first to do many things, but make sure you’re not the last.’ I feel a responsibility to show young women what’s possible and to mentor them to own their power and fulfill their promise.”
1. They constantly victimize Women, and I find it insulting. Treating women like victims instead of empowering them does nothing but hold them back. Many don’t feel disadvantaged as a woman and no one needs other women making them feel like a victim when they’re not.
2. They try to convince me that I’m a feminist when I tell them I’m not. “Oh you’re not a feminist? So you don’t believe in equal rights for men and women?” “No. That’s not what I said.” “Well if you believe in equality, then you are a feminist.” “But I’m not a feminist.”
3. They claim to want equality, but expect special treatment.
Feminists like to think men and women are the same, but freak out the second men start treating them like men and don’t pay for their meal on a date. Feminists want men to become feminized and sensitive, rather then masculating themselves for equality. Then they end up losing interest in these feminized men because deep down they’re biologically repulsed by them.
4. They trivialize rape by broadening it’s definition into the grounds of consensual sex. Feminists claim drunk women can’t consent to sex, and if a woman has sex while while intoxicated and regrets her decision afterwards, she might as well consider herself raped. Feminists also refuse to acknowledge false rape accusations by women and female perpetrators of rape.
5. A lot of them are Marxist socialist vegans. I don’t really have an issue with this at all, but has anyone else noticed this correlation? I find it peculiar.
6. They get offended too easily and make women look crazy. Feminists make everyone walk on eggshells and are constantly awaiting the opportunity to show everyone how educated they are about the evil patriarchy and feminism in general. Anything negative said about women will be promptly used as a feminist’s platform to tell everyone how misogynistic and brainwashed they are.
7. Feminists fail to see the redundancy in the modern-day feminist movement. The world’s most annoying feminists usually come from countries where women are not even disadvantaged. Countries where there are laws against rape, harassment and abuse. But what about the gender pay gap? Well, That brings me to my next point…
8. Feminists refuse to acknowledge that the gender pay gap is the result of women’s choices, not sexism. You’ve probably heard it a million times; women get paid 77 cents for every dollar a man makes. It’s been used time and time again when feminists talk about how women are still unequal in modern-day Western societies. What they’re not telling you is that these wage gaps are not the result of gender discrimination, but the result of women’s choices. Women are less likely to take dangerous, high-paying jobs and less likely to work in high-paying computer and engineering fields. Even in the same field, men are more likely to pursue specialized careers with higher levels of stress. Men are also more likely to pursue dangerous jobs that involve demanding physical labor, which generally pay more than less taxing jobs. Men also work an average of 9% more hours than women.
9. Feminists refuse to acknowledge that men and women are different. Unless they’re talking about what evil rapists and murderers men are. Neither gender is better than the other. Our differences work together in a beautiful symbiotic way, and feminism, for whatever reason, is essentially destroying that. Men and women have different priorities, we have different strengths and different weaknesses. There is nothing wrong with that, and the sooner feminists realize this, the better.
And yes I realize not all feminists are like this. But far to many are.
Sometimes we feminists really need to understand that the majority of feminism is infected with White Feminism™, and a lot of the problems that center around female oppression originate from racism. You know who receive even less money then the general gender wage gap? Women of color. You know who face racially charged sexual harassment in work places? Women of color. You know whose bodies are actually perceived as ‘dangerous’? Women of color.