women's rights

I think plural marriage empowered women in very complicated ways, and to put it most simply, it added to the complexity and the adversity they experienced, and we can argue that women who deal with tough things … develop certain strengths and aptitudes. It also reinforced an already well-developed community of women to share work, to share childcare, to share religious faith, to share care in childbirth and in illness. In some sense it strengthened bonds that were already very much present in their lives.
—  Historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich on Mormon polygamy & women’s rights

rainyfirefox  asked:

hey i'm a 17 year old guy and i care about women's rights but it seems like these days society only cares about women problems :/ is that true or do i only feel this way cause im a guy? is there anything i can do to help womens rights more? does it make me a bad feminist if i try to equally help men and womens rights or should i focus on womens rights?

Hey! This is a really fun ask to answer and I’m glad you asked. (This could be a troll seeing as this Tumblr has nothing on it; however, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt because I really think this is worth answering)

In short, yes, you only see that way because you’re a guy. At no fault of your own, you live in a male-centric society where your (“your” being “male”) problems have always been the top priority. 

Men’s issues aren’t any less important in the eyes of society. It’s just that now, other issues that don’t involve you are also coming up, and it’s completely natural to feel dismissed. 

However, you should acknowledge that this notion is incorrect, and work to fight against it. It’s not your fault that you are privileged and you see it this way, but you do have the choice to challenge that, and if you care about women’s rights like you say you do, you will absolutely challenge that. 

There’s a common saying that when you’ve been privileged all your life, equality feels like oppression. And this doesn’t only occur with gender - but with race and other such issues as well. I’m getting the sense that that’s what is going on here. 

To answer your question: the number 1 thing you can do to aid the women’s rights movement is listen. I know it’s hard, and I’m sure you have some very good opinions/ideas that you’d love to add. And that’s okay, sometimes. Just remember to give women the main priority and space within their own movement. 

Or course, this is easier said than done. When I first started identifying as a feminist, I was what a lot of people refer to as a “white feminist”. I saw all women in the same light and had no consideration for how different axes of oppression might intersect. 

Where I am going with this is, I get it. I get it, because I’ve been there. Sitting down and listening is hard, maybe one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. But you need to do it. 

Once you have listened and have gotten a general idea of what women want to begin with, you get to do the fun part (listening still applies though!). You have the privilege to use your privilege to create change. 

You can use the privilege you have as a man to call out other men when they are being misogynistic. You can use your privilege for small things, like telling your friend his sexist joke was not cool, or for bigger things, like getting involved in more serious activism. Every little bit helps. But however you use your privilege - which you do have - use it for the better. 

I’m including a few links from Everyday Feminism. Some have to do with being a male ally (I’ll get to that in a second) and others have to do with listening as a white feminist. The white feminist ones are directed more towards white women who need to work on listening to PoC, but you can also apply the same concept to men listening to women. 

- understand your privilege. Understand that not everybody sees the world through the same lens as you. This is the most basic step. 

- know how to listen when you get called out.

- a guide for male feminists 

- make sure you care about women’s rights for the right reasons. Avoid being like these types of male feminists. 

Now, about terminology, because this will most certainly come up in the articles. Some feminists will prefer that you only call yourself an ally because you are not a woman. Some feminists will be okay with you identifying as a feminist. I am of the latter group. But should you find yourself in a group of women that is more comfortable with “allyship”, please respect that. It is not worth making divisions over something so insignificant. 

To answer the other half of your question: you don’t ONLY need to focus on women’s rights. Here I am including the wheel of privilege/oppression. You can choose to focus on ANY of the things on this wheel - oppression always intersects! Some of these intersect with what are known as “male issues” - and all of these are good and valid causes to fight for. 

If you’re marching this weekend:

To All the marchers for this Saturday, especially those in DC:
Keep your cool.
Do not offer personal information to unsolicited requests.
Stay to the edges of the crowd.
Have a meet-up-if-you-get-separated plan. (Do not count on your cellphones for this purpose.)
Write important information on your forearm in Sharpie. (Emergency contact, drug allergies, etc.) It will wash off eventually. In fact, bring a Sharpie with you to share with others for this purpose.
Stay hydrated and never pass up an opportunity to use a toilet.
Wear the right shoes and don’t carry anything you can’t lose.
LISTEN to and FEEL the energy, and calmly leave the vicinity if you have any doubts about anything. (These are intended to be peaceful gatherings but there have been intimations that infiltrators will try to incite violence and make it look like the protesters caused it. Use your own judgment on this one.)
Please COPY AND PASTE to share.
I know a lot of you are planning to take part in these events in DC and your hometowns.
We all need you to return home safely.
I copied this from another page.
If you are marching - good advice.

-not mine, this came from Facebook!

Planned Parenthood reportedly blocked from delivering petitions to Paul Ryan’s office

  • Planned Parenthood volunteers arrived at House Speaker Paul Ryan’s office armed with nearly 90,000 petitions in response to GOP plans to strip the organization of its funding.
  • Ryan delivered the news at a press conference, announcing that the legislation would be folded in with the Republican bill to repeal the Affordable Care Act.
  • Apparently, the House speaker wasn’t quite ready for the impending backlash: According to tweets from Planned Parenthood’s official account, volunteers were greeted by a sign on Ryan’s door informing visitors that only “scheduled appointments” would be admitted into his office.
  • The organization also alleged that six security guards had been sent to physically block the delivery of the petitions. Read more.
Women who don't want babies

• are not selfish
• are not less of a woman
• are not weird
• are not immature
• won’t necessarily change her mind
• won’t necessary be a lonely old lady
• “a lonely old crazy cat lady” is a patriarchal asshole stereotype:):):):)
• doesn’t necessarily hate kids
• doesn’t need to give you an explanation

I’m so happy that Bernie Sanders is speaking up about this. I’m happy he is on our side. And yes, there are a lot of us that voted against “Donald” and if we fight together we CAN become his worst nightmare.