women's kicks

I was really struggling this week. Working way too hard, skipping breaks and meals, not staying hydrated, not showering, not taking my meds. it was bad. even at the busiest times, self-care is so so important. if I needed help, then I’m probably not the only one. all of these lil ideas are small and relatively easy and I highly doing something nice for yourself, even if it’s not on the list. hope you all have a wonderful day/week/year. 

(my personal favourites in bold)

  1. drink some cold water
  2. wash your hands and face with cool water
  3. make some tea
  4. get a blanket and snuggle it around you
  5. snuggle an animal/stuffed animal
  6. buy your favorite candy from the gas station
  7. close your eyes and listen to your fav song on repeat for 10 mins
  8. put on some throwback jams (high school musical, mamma mia, 90s, u do u) and dance around ur room in ur undies 
  9. make a calming playlist
  10. call a friend/relative just to say hi and hear someone else’s voice
  11. rewatch cute/funny/happy clips from ur fav tv show/band/movie on youtube
  12. put on a skirt and twirl (yes boys/agenders/trans u can do this too)
  13. scribble really hard with black pen on a blank page and scream
  14. look at the sky/moon/sunset/sunrise/stars
  15. write
  16. watch kitten/puppy/small animal live streams on youtube
  17. go outside, even if its just by ur front door, and take some deep breaths
  18. eat something - fruit, veggies are best
  19. change ur contacts/clean ur glasses if you wear those
  20. change your underwear
  21. if u can’t get urself to shower, wash off w a damp washcloth/baby wipe
  22. put on a cute/comfy outfit that makes you feel good about urself
  23. dont put eye makeup on so you can rub your eyes & they wont feel heavy
  24. stretch, do some yoga or meditate
  25. get a breathing/meditation app and use it (headspace is gr8)
  26. take a nap
  27. go to bed before 11 pm
  28. brush your teeth
  29. turn off bright harsh lights and use smaller, warmer lamps
  30. unplug. give your eyes/brain a break from screens for a half hour
  31. get one of those pet/family apps/games and care for someone else for a change
  32. find cool people on tumblr and send them anonymous compliments (that you actually think are true - spread love)
  33. find a quote, write it/print it nicely and stick it on ur wall
  34. watch a new movie
  35. boil some cinnamon sticks/vanilla bean for 5 mins so ur house smells pretty. if in ur room, use essential oil drops or candles
  36. make your bed
  37. vacuum 
  38. wipe down ur desk w some disinfectant
  39. clean something - a backpack, small area, fluff ur pillow, put away one shirt
  40. do your makeup all pretty and nice just because/dress up just because
  41. research into your dream job/vacation/city/whatever
  42. open up pages/canva/photshop/etc and make something just for fun
  43. build a fort and crawl under it
  44. find an easy diy and do it/ be proud of ur creative genius
  45. make a list of things that make you happy. stick it somewhere you’ll see it all the time
  46. print a picture of someone/thing that’s pissing u off and throw things at it (tape it to a dart board if u have one)
  47. reread a book that makes you happy
  48. clip your nails, clean the dirt from under them
  49. send some good old fashioned snail mail to someone u like just for fun
  50. take some selfies if you’re feelin it (see #40)
  51. fuzzy socks. enough said. 
  52. make yourself a fancy meal/cocktail/coffee/tea latte/drink/whatevs
  53. open ur window or put on a fan/air purifier. get some air circulating
  54. draw, even if u think u suck. 
  55. reach out to kids help phone (canada) or a suicide hotline if you need to talk to someone about more serious matters. you deserve help and care and support. (message me if you need resources)
  56. donate to a local animal shelter (if u have the means obviously)
  57. go for a walk/run/bike ride
  58. put on a face mask
  59. take a bubble path
  60. shave ur legs and moisturize
  61. moisturize 
  62. bake some cookies
  63. go on spotify/youtube and find some new music you love
  64. make a really fun upbeat playlist for next time u get the aux cord
  65. scroll through some wholesome or funny meme accounts. whatever you’re in the mood for. 
  66. take some cool pictures of whatever you want
  67. change up your room in any small ( or big) way that you can
  68. teach urself a new skill on youtube (simple like a hair style, or complicated like an instrument, whatever u want)
  69. sign up to volunteer at a library/homeless shelter/soup kitchen/retirement home/daycare center/etc. help those who need it. be giving. 
  70. put on sad music and cry. let ur mascara run. be dramatic. let it out.
  71. put rock music on and stomp and scream throw (soft) things. let it out. 
  72. teach urself the words to a fast rap song thats cool right now so you can impress ur friends/classmates/family
  73. print off some kid colouring pages and dont stay inside the lines
  74. brush your hair, take it out of a ponytail if its been like that for a while, or put it up if its down and in ur way
  75. diy a hair mask (coconut oil) and do that
  76. exfoliate ur whole body and feel like a whole new person
  77. clear out ur phone/laptop. delete old messages, numbers of people u dont like/hang out with, get rid of photos of shitty friends, apps u dont use, etc
  78. find cards against humanity online (or if u have it use the cards) and play with urself - make funny matches just because
  79. empty a drawer (or multiple) and fold ur stuff neatly
  80. do something that will make u sweat (gym, dance, clean) then take a nice shower
  81. take a second to listen to ur body. unclench muscles that are clenched, fix ur poster, massage/stretch tight areas
  82. move to a different area of the house for a little while. clear ur head. 
  83. go out, anywhere. window shop, go to a coffee shop/library and work. people watch if ur broke. 
  84. update your planner
  85. make Pinterest board/real life vision of things that make you happy for when in this situation again
  86. find a youtuber you like and watch their videos
  87. lie on the floor, listen to music and do nothing for a while
  88. give yourself a pep talk in the mirror and then stand like superman for a few mins. sounds silly but it works. its called powerposing. look it up. 
  89. repeating this bc important: hydrate!!!
  90. start a new tv show
  91. order something online so u have something to look forward to
  92. go sit with a family member and keep them company. u dont have to talk to them. 
  93. the app ‘trump dump’ will make u feel better about the current us political situation
  94. read happy news: find stories of students doing something cool, women kicking ass, men being amazing, whatever. bonus points if this inspires u
  95. sort your garbage from recycling and help the environment
  96. smile at people you see just because. smiling is good and nice. 
  97. look at old pictures of u and ur fav people
  98. go through old yearbooks and take a second to appreciate how far you’ve come
  99. go to a park and watch kids play. remember what it’s like to be young. realize you are still young. go on the swings and go as high as u can
  100. play in a sandbox just because u still can

xo soph

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Notable Female Lead Action Movie Heroines.

“I think in the world today we’ve had plenty enough of male-driven everything and it’s finally time to see how wonderful the world can be with beautiful, strong intelligent women kicking some major ass.” - Chris Pine on Wonder Woman (2017)

Honorable Mentions: Yuki Kashima in Lady Snowblood (1973), Coffy from Coffy (1973), Fox in Wanted (2008), Alice from The Resident Evil Series (2002), Selene in Underworld (2003), China O Brien from China O Brien (1990), Xiao Mei in House of Flying Daggers (2004), Cheng Tai-Nan from My Young Auntie (1981), Azumi in Azumi (2003), Chang Hsuan-yen from Come Drink with Me (1966) and Harley Quinn in Suicide Squad (2016).

NOT a Disney Girl: strong female characters who are not Disney’s

Here are just a few strong, badass, and generally awesome female animated characters who are NOT from the House of Mouse:

Anastasia/Anya from Anastasia

She’s street-wise, sassy, and smart, as well as beautiful in both hand-me-downs and dresses. She broke the idea that “princesses can’t be tough” before Merida even got a shot. What more could you ask for?

Kayley from Quest for Camelot

She rides a horse, uses a sword, and goes on a quest to save Camelot. She becomes the first lady-knight, and she was sporting the tunic/leggings combo before it was a thing.

Tzipporah from The Prince of Egypt

This movie is full of strong women, but Tzipporah was always my favorite. She’s sexy, strong, clever, and doesn’t put up with anybody’s sh*t. Don’t believe me? Go watch it again.

Chel from The Road to El Dorado.

She uses all her assets to get what she wants. Shady, sexy, and smart–she can hold her own in a scam. Far from the goody-good-doing princesses of Disney.

Akima from Titan A.E.

Steampunk, kick-ass, beautiful pilot who stole my heart when the “Steampunk” genre was still in its infancy. Also, she’s Asian and she has purple hair. I wanted that hair, guys… I wanted it so bad.

I’m glad Disney is choosing to portray more empowered female characters–but they’re not pioneering this movement. Notice that these movies are mostly from the 90′s and 00′s.

Things I Want From Stranger Things 3:
  • More Nancy/Will and Jonathan/Mike interaction
  • Eleven and Will (they haven’t officially met yet, right, or am I mistaken?)
  • Dad!Steve, involving carpooling the kids to school or the arcade, which leads me to…
  • The kids and the teens all hanging out together, maybe going to the movies or bowling
  • Steve to still have the nail bat, because by now, he just knows, he knows he’s gonna need it
  • Mike to drop the F-bomb (Just once and I’ll be satisfied! It has to be Mike, though, just because Finn was swearing up a storm after he got back from filming It and I think it would be a funny little Easter egg for the people that know about it)
  • Some cute fluffy Mileven, preferably playing in the snow at some point
  • Dustin purring some more because he’s precious and it’s hilarious
  • Will having a burn scar on his side and asking how exactly he got it and Joyce and Jonathan not wanting to explain that he was literally choking his mother
  • All the kids hanging out together, preferably at Hopper’s place. Maybe the boys teach Eleven and Max how to play D&D
  • For them to not start calling Eleven ‘Jane’
  • Eleven and Hopper being adorable and familial
  • A reference, NOT EVEN A CONFESSION OR A FLAT OUT STATEMENT BUT JUST A SMIDGEN OF A NOD TO WILL’S SEXUALITY
  • Even just a cute smile shared with a boy across the arcade
  • SOMETHING!
  • Will, Joyce and Jonathan sharing fond memories of Bob
  • More awesome 80’s music, because there’s SO MUCH
  • El hanging out with her fellow kick-ass women, i.e. Joyce and/or Nancy
  • As much Dustin/Steve brOTP as is humanly possible!
  • More fluffy and sweet Mike/Will moments, platonic or otherwise

lernonys  asked:

okay but if someone doesn't experience homophobia or transphobia then they're not lgbt it's as simple as that.... the lgbt community doesn't exist for the purpose of being "inclusive" it literally is by nature exclusive to people who experience homophobia and/or transphobia

No, I’m sorry, that’s simply not true. I’ve written an awful lot about this, which you can find under my ‘ace exclusion’ tag. But since there’s a lot under there, let’s hit all the highlights. Frankly, it’ll be nice to have an omnibus post I can just pass to people from now on. 

This post is not an argument of your point, it is a reference post, because you are simply wrong.

This post is going to be very, very long, and very, very US-centric. It is important to state right up front that this discussion is extremely Western-centric. I do not have the right personally to speak on gender and sexual orientations from indigenous communities of which I am not a member, but it is absolutely important to acknowledge that the colonization of gender and sexual identity of non-Western peoples is a) wrong as fuck and b) we need to knock it off and c) none of the stuff I’m writing necessarily applies to non-Western peoples/indigenous peoples. 

1) This ‘formed to fight homophobia and transphobia’ definition of LGBT is literally and completely an invention of Tumblr. It started on Tumblr, it really only exists on Tumblr, and it only exists for the sole purpose of excluding minority sexualities and orientations (not limited to but currently focused on asexuality). It’s a very recent invention and this specific definition is less than eighteen months old. Probably less than a year old, but I’ll be honest: I don’t have the time or patience to go through the history on Tumblr and read all the hateful stuff that I’d have to in order to find the first use of that particular little piece of nonsense.

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