women making moves

How do I get more assertive women to be interested in me I feel like I keep getting involved with extremely shy, reticent women who never make any moves and it stresses me out ): 

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I got to know the sky, but it didn’t know me. Got to see the light and land on top of the sea. 
        And be the bird, be the key.

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“When? When is my time coming?”

TWELVE ZODIAC TWEET-FACTS

ARIES
When warriors of House Aries die, their bodies are burned in the Everblaze (a fire that’s never gone out) so their souls can rise to Helios.

TAURUS
Taurians use their Blotters to award Star-Stock to people + businesses in the Star-Stock Market, ensuring consumers have all the power.

GEMINI
At the Geminin Zodai Academy, each Acolyte designs her own curriculum based on what she’d like to learn and who she’d like to become.

CANCER
House Cancer is a Matriarchal society where women run the household, women write the laws, + women make the first move.

LEO
When Leonines turn twelve, they embark on a walkabout through the Nine Prides of House Leo to discover where they belong.

VIRGO
On House Virgo, writers always self-publish their books on their Perfectionaries, + for every typo/error, the price gets discounted.

LIBRA
After a 12-yr-old Libran has her Scan surgically implanted, it’s tradition for her parents to take her out for a Cold Cream Cloud*.

SCORPIO
Scorps travel less than anyone in the Zodiac; almost 90% of Scorps have never left their own constellation.

SAGITTARIUS
Every structure on House Sagittarius is covered in holographic graffiti that can’t be erased but fades on its own over time.

CAPRICORN
Tierre is the largest inhabited planet in the Zodiac, so a day on House Capricorn lasts longer than anywhere else.

AQUARIUS
Aquarians harvest invisible ice from their moons that’s cold enough not to melt + use it to build their most important structures.

PISCES
There are no gender roles on House Pisces: Piscenes consider the body a vessel for the soul + pay little attention to physical attributes.

*Cold Cream Clouds come in every flavor; it’s ice cream that has the texture of cotton candy!

I feel like dudes that complain about women participating in “hoe culture” are really just upset that there are women taking control of their sexuality in a way that suggests that the males involved aren’t in control.

The idea that “it’s all fun & games til you end up with nobody that actually wants to be with you long term” is pretty stupid. If that’s true, the problem doesn’t lie with the woman, but how she’s perceived. And it’s not her job to care about how anybody thinks of her at the end of the day.

Nobody had a problem with “hoe culture” when it was just men participating in their own sexual freedom. It didn’t even have a name. It only became a thing once women started making moves centered on a man’s perception of what makes a “good woman”

As long as she’s being safe a woman can have as much sex as she wants with whoever she wants. We all know nothing keeps a man around you if he doesn’t wanna stay, so why limit yourself?

Even though people love to throw the word around, nobody has a concrete definition for what makes someone, particularly a woman, a hoe/slut or any other term used to judge how sexually active someone is. Which means that the concepts behind them are constructed. Which ultimately means a hoe is nothing but a tool people use in their gardens.

So for the people mad about “hoe culture” stay mad, have few seats and a nice day.

[fic, bagginshield] Popping the Question

Characters/Pairings: Bilbo Baggins/Thorin Oakenshield
Genres: Humour, Fluff, Fem!Bilbo, Outsider POV (Balin’s)
Rating: General (I think? There’s innuendo but not too obvious)
Notes: Because y’all who dislike fem!Bilbo/Thorin can suck it. 
Also because come on, what’s funnier than a culture clash when it comes to figuring out who proposes first? Thanks Dwarrow Scholar, for that delicious tidbit about Dwarf-women making the first move.
This is going on AO3 in the morning. I’m going to bed.


“Well, this is awkward,” declares Fíli one night, when they’re camping by the eaves of Mirkwood.

In Balin’s estimation, ‘awkward’ is hardly covering it. Just when the Company had thought they had finally prodded their leader and their burglar past the whole shy avoidance stage of affection and into a much more honest dialogue with one another about their feelings (though, based on all existing evidence, there wasn’t a lot of dialogue whenever the two had a moment to spare), they had to run into this problem.

Balin has to admit, it’s not a bad problem to face, considering that the previous ones had been ‘stop viewing each other with obvious disdain’ and ‘talk to each other in a friendly, or at the very least civil, fashion’, ‘make the first move’, and ‘Mahal wept, stop doubting yourselves and start a relationship already’. Now that Thorin and Billie had stopped dragging their heels and were actually very enthusiastically bounding into their (honestly very sickeningly sweet) relationship, Balin had to admit that he’s surprised this hadn’t come up earlier.

And now he and the rest of the Company have to watch as Thorin completely dances around the topic of marriage, dropping hints like anvils to a clearly oblivious Miss Billie Baggins, resident burglar whose current items stolen numbered one gold ring, three pieces of waybread, and the King’s heart.

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Why Big Boo’s Character is One Huge Lesbophobic Mess

So I promised a text post about this, and just fyi it contains a few spoilers specifically about Big Boo’s character. I’m only done with episode 6, so any spoilers will be from before episode 7.


First, I think I should establish that her character is a collection of all of the worst lebophobic tropes about lesbians broadly and butches in particular. She objectifies other women at every move, making repeated inappropriate sexual comments at other women who have given no indication to her that they are okay with that. She is cruel/mean/rude/nasty and often covers it with charm, as she did when she interrupted Dogget’s mourning of her own aborted fetuses to tel her, “They would have just grown up to be white trash like you!” She turns on the people close to her (including Red) for no reason, like any proper “bitch” character. Big Boo is a woman with no love and sisterhood for other women, but a mean, nasty person who seems to enjoy hurting people for next to no reason.


This is enough in and of itself to tip us off that her character is less a genuine human being with thoughts and feelings of her own, and more a hodgepodge of lesbophobic and misogynist tropes into a butch character. But her basckstory as we get it in 3.04 drives this home, by leaving the viewer with one message and one message only: Big Boo is a terrible person solely because of her butchness and by extension her lesbianism. These backstories have formal functions within the show, as they do within all pieces of media. The function of the flashback on OITNB is to tell as the why of a character- this is why Nicki did heroin, this is why this character seems angry but really isn’t. Boo’s flashbacks begin with a single scene many butches (myself included) can relate to- a young Boo being forced to make herself more feminine to appease others, by parents who seem more or less fully aware of her gender nonconformity. Like Nicki’s flashback to an early Mother’s Day, this first flashblack serves the function of telling us, “This is the seed from which this character grew.” The essence of Nicki’s wrongdoing (I would not say that drug abuse is a moral failure but I’m talking in terms of tropes here) is external- her problems often can be traced back to her mother. Big Boo’s is internal, and tied inextricably to her butchness.


This is bad enough, again. But the next flashbacks we get of Big Boo all include her own (valid) struggles with her butchness and living in the world as a visible lesbian. In one especially cringeworthy scene we see Boo attack a homophobe on her way home with a young femme who then tells Boo that the homophobe only bothered her because she is the “poster child for all things butch.” Firstly, the scene positions femmes as helpless, foolish women who don’t know anything about homophobia, poor fools being dragged along by terrifying and mean butches. Secondly, again this lesbian character is presented as a trope and not a real character. In what world does a woman obviously attracted to Boo’s butchness (this woman is literally about to have sex with her!!!) turn on her when she’s yelled at by a homophobe rather than comfort her? Not a world I’ve ever lived in, and certainly not one that any of the femme friends I have live in. The problem in the scene, as presented through the eyes of another lesbian so as to remove the actual writers of culpability even as they write a clunky, unreasonable scene, isn’t the homophobe. It isn’t the femme woman who is apparently ashamed of Boo, even as she’s headed back to her apartment. It’s Boo, and her very reasonable rage at a homophobe is positioned by the show as a terrible disgusting butch lashing out again. Again, when Boo is facing the prospect of her mother dying, the problem presented in the flashback isn’t her mother’s impending death, isn’t her mother’s massive homophobia, it is Boo! It is just the fact that Boo is butch!


There is absolutely no explanation given for the reason Boo is so manipulative and cruel, especially to other women, except….well she’s butch! She’s a bad person because that’s just what being a big tough bulldyke did to her! And the implication for women like me who have to live in a world where there are none of us on the screen or in popular books, is that inevitably people who watch these representations of butches generalize this onto the rest of us. I don’t think Boo is a bad character actually- I don’t think she’s a character at all, and is instead a big mess of tropes tossed together. throughmotion I promised to tag you in this so here it is!

How do black men on here go about disrespecting black women and then be like #BlackLivesMatter like that movement wasn’t co-founded by three black black women (Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi)?
Black women out here making moves for y'all and black men are on here insinuating black women are making shit up when we call out misogynior. I cannot.