women at risk

on the “its acceptable for women to wear men’s clothes but not men to wear  women’s clothes” thing- its always forgotten that women and girls have been fighting in small but organised ways to wear “masculine” (mostly read practical) clothing from at least the 1870s.  I know women in their 80s and girls in their tweens who at some time in their life have organised in order to wear the clothes they want - from making petitions to persuade their school to let them wear shorts not gym skirts, to trade union organising at work to make sure overalls and workboots are available in women’s sizes, to being the first women in the office to wear trousers, to just turning up at social events in the clothes they want to wear - and getting solidarity from other women doing the same thing - and of course not forgetting the women who risked violence, losing their job or families, or being arresting for cross-dressing laws because of what they wore.

There just hasn’t been such a widespread and longstanding organised push from men to wear skirts or other clothes coded feminine in everyday life.  That isn’t women’s fault.

Of course it’s unhealthy to be fat.

If you’re fat, you’re going to have a rough time getting health insurance. You probably won’t get regular checkups and preventive care, and any health problems you might have (completely unrelated to your weight) will be a lot worse whenever you finally do see a doctor.

Even if you have health coverage, you probably avoid going to the doctor if you’re fat. So you’re in the same situation. Why do you avoid going to the doctor? Every time you walk into a doctor’s office, the first thing they want you to do is step on a scale. Then you get the lecture, or the belittling remark, or worse, the weight loss advice. You figure, as long as you feel okay, why risk it? You don’t pay for abuse in any other setting, right? You value your mental health, so you stay away.

If you’re fat and you do visit the doctor, he or she might decide to treat your weight, rather than your symptoms. You get a diet, rather than a diagnosis. The doctor says all your ills are caused by your fat. Six months later, you still have sharp pains in your heel or nasal congestion or shooting lights in your vision. So you find a new doctor. This time you actually get treatment for your plantar fasciitis or your sinus infection or your brain tumor. (These examples are based on actual cases.)

Your doctor may not like fat people. A recent study found that fat women are a third less likely to get breast exams, gynecologic exams, or Pap smears. An exception: Fat and thin women get mammograms equally often. (The authors said that doctors may do exams more readily if they don’t have to touch fat patients.) Fat women are at increased risk for certain scary cancers (breast, cervical, endometrial, ovarian). Getting less preventive care, researchers concluded, may “exacerbate or even account for” this increased risk. It’s not the fat that kills us, it’s the fat hatred.

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But What About Your Health?

By Marilyn Wann

From Fat!So? Because You Don’t Have to Apologize For Your Size

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Aliya Mustafina Successful Acro Series

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From Paper Mill to Broadway, congratulations to everyone involved with Bandstand for an incredible run. Thank you to Richard Oberacker, Robert Taylor and Andy Blankenbuehler especially for dedicating yourselves to this project. The story that Bandstand tells is one of passion, determination and faith. It has helped so many people and will continue to help people for years to come. Thank you for reminding us that music can heal people, that it can save lives and that the men and women who risk their lives for our freedom every single day deserve to have their stories told. 

October 8th 2015 - September 17th 2017

…“But if that’s true, they should be extra double going to yoga classes. Why is the less violent gender the one learning all the emotional self regulation?
Because women are expected to regulate the emotions of men as well as themselves. They have to sharpen their emotional regulation skillz because they’ll be regulating for two even when they’re not pregnant. This has been a thing that’s starting to get noticed in feminist circles; the concept of unpaid emotional labor that women are expected to supply. This takes many forms (and I’ve written about this before) and at its most benign looks like listening, support and empathy. However, as it becomes more noxious, women are expected to read the emotions men and proactively protect them from their own negative emotions.
In my personal life, I remember a man telling me that women should reject men’s sexual advances in a way that won’t hurt the man’s feelings. And, that sounds reasonable on first glance. However, unfortunately, honest communication of the feelings “I am not sexually attracted to you” is considered hurtful to most men. So, women are forced to not communicate their honest feelings in order to protect the man from feeling anything bad.
For me, this need to protect men from the truth of my reality if it will hurt them has extended so deeply that I have laughed off sexual assault so that I would not hurt the feelings of the man who assaulted me. At great personal cost, I should add. A few years after that, I asked someone out, and was rejected by them and that experience split me wide open. Yes, being rejected was painful, but it was nothing — nothing — compared to the pain I absorbed trying to save men from the pain of rejection. Being rejected by someone I had a crush on led to my being sad for a few months. My absorbing sexual harassment from men so they wouldn’t have to face rejection led to years of flashbacks, depression, and an inability to work in my chosen profession.

Instead of learning how to take a rejection gracefully, men will claim women should “let them down easy.” It comes right down to that Margaret Atwood quote “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” Men are so terrified of being laughed at, rejected or absorbing indignity in any way that they demand women risk physical violence so they don’t have to face the pain of rejection.
This is an unfair trade, and one that women only make because historically men have had power over us. If you need to rely on a male income for your livelihood, you have to make sure your presence improves the lived experience of your husband. Otherwise, he might kick you to the curb and you’d be fucked. Even now, with a continued disparity in earning potential, women will often manage male emotions so that a woman can be assured of material support by providing emotional value to her partner. Often, this goes beyond the conscious recognition of the men who receive it.
I remember one of my male friends was a complete wreck during his divorce. He relied on me so much emotionally after he lost the support of his wife (wanting to talk with me, wanting to cuddle with me, etc.) that I completely started to break down. I had to set some hard limits (like, not seeing him for a week) that didn’t go over very well. Our friendship was severely strained until he started seeing a dominatrix whose demands included health conscious things like getting him to quit smoking and going gluten free. What I see now, in retrospect, is that this dominatrix did a bunch of the emotional management he had received from his wife, and that I was not willing to provide. Ultimately, my friend got a new girlfriend (who he’s now married to) and stopped seeing his dom.”

https://medium.com/@emmalindsay/men-dump-their-anger-into-women-d5b641fa37bc

emrata: This culture of abuse, harassment and sexual expectation has to end now. I am tearful thinking of the decades of women who have been made to feel guilty, embarrassed or ashamed by experiences that they had no responsibility in. The times are changing, and I applaud the extremely brave women who risked so much to be the first to speak out. Young girls of the world: wear what you want, pursue what you want, live life on your terms. Never let anyone make you feel guilty for it. You have no need to apologize or adapt. It’s their problem, not yours. @badasscrossstitch

As Feminists, We Need To Be More Inclusive

Feminism should be inclusive to ALL people/people groups. As a disabled feminist, I think we need to improve:

Accessibility in protests/demonstrations

Recognition that disabled women have a higher risk of sexual harassment and assault

Our efforts to advocate for disabled people

Participipation in intersectional events

Awareness of impending legislation that would hurt disabled people

There are more things we should do as feminists, feel free to add more to bring more awareness.

On March 8th, we strike together

This Wednesday, I will join other women at Tumblr and those across the world in striking on International Women’s Day, a commemorative day honoring the anniversary of the 1909 strike of the Ladies Garment Workers Union. With more than 20,000 women demanding better and safer working conditions in an unjust system, it was one of the largest union strikes in history.

A strike is not undertaken lightly, and many of the women on the front lines risked their lives in fighting for this deserved justice. It is crucial we acknowledge that strikes and human rights movements of the past have been predominantly led by low income women, immigrants, queer women, and women of color. They led, and are leading, the way to true equality.

For us, employees of Tumblr in 2017, a strike isn’t as risky. Tech is a male-dominated field, so a single day without women at Tumblr may simply mean a few empty chairs in meetings.

Tumblr provides good living wages, extensive health care coverage, and parental leave. In the United States, what should be human rights are instead considered benefits and perks associated with the tech elite and corporate class.

These privileges are why it’s imperative that we strike in solidarity with and for those who have more to lose.

On March 8th, we strike for women less fortunate than us. We demand public policy that guarantees equal pay for equal work, paid family leave, access to affordable health care, a safe workplace  and basic human rights for all women, regardless of race, religion, sexuality, disability, and gender preference. We strike in solidarity with low income women, native women, Muslim women, immigrants, LGBTQ+ and women of color who risk more than we do today.

We call for the male-dominated tech industry to hold themselves accountable for advocating for these policies. We urge all involved to use the power they have to pressure the current administration to advance equal rights for all women.

At 4pm on Wednesday, we’re attending the Women’s Rally in Washington Square. We hope you’ll join us.

Anna Niess
Caragh Poh
Katie Barnwell
Lily Derella
Lydia White
Davina Kim
Anela Chan
Megan Leet
Mary Cannon
Tiffany Chiu
Amelia Gapin
Bryana Sortino
Becca Bainbridge
Micaela Roberts
Michelle Johnson
Shubhra Kumar
Holly Tancredi
Margaux Olverd
Tanya Lett
Sarah Won
Jess Frank
Connie Li
Tamar Nachmany
Seda Yakamercan

Molly Pitcher in Turn: Washington’s Spies

I kinda consider myself an expert on Molly Pitcher. I did a report on her in third grade where I had to go on stage dressed as her, holding a pitcher and everything, and recite a speech about her life from memory. Since then, she’s always been my favorite woman from history and my role model. So, lemme tell you guys a little about what was going on in last night’s episode…

First some background! This is the real Molly Pitcher. Her actual name was Mary Ludwig Hays. During the winter of 1777, Mary Hays joined her husband at the Continental Army’s winter camp at Valley Forge, Pennsylvania. She was one of a group of women, led by Martha Washington, known as camp followers, who would wash clothes and blankets, and care for sick and dying soldiers (x).

At the Battle of Monmouth in June 1778, Mary Hays attended to the Revolutionary soldiers by giving them water. Just before the battle started, she found a spring to serve as her water supply. Mary Hays spent much of the early day carrying water to soldiers and artillerymen, often under heavy fire from British troops.The weather was hot, over 100 degrees Fahrenheit. Sometime during the battle, William Hays, her husband, collapsed, either wounded or suffering from heat exhaustion. As her husband was carried off the battlefield, Mary Hays took his place at the cannon.

After the battle, General Washington asked about the woman whom he had seen loading a cannon on the battlefield. In commemoration of her courage, he issued Mary Hays a warrant as a non commissioned officer. Afterwards, she was known as “Sergeant Molly,” a nickname that she used for the rest of her life.

Following the end of the war, Mary Hays and her husband William returned to Carlisle, Pennsylvania. In late 1786, William Hays died. In 1793, Mary Hays married John McCauley, another Revolutionary War veteran. On February 21, 1822, the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania awarded Mary McCauley an annual pension of $40 for her service. Mary died January 22, 1832, in Carlisle, at the approximate age of 78. She is buried in the Old Graveyard in Carlisle, under the name “Molly McCauley” and statue of “Molly Pitcher,” standing alongside a cannon, stands in the cemetery.

On a personal note, Molly has always been a role model to me, especially since I’ve wanted to join the Army. Besides the fact we have the same name, she also spent her life in Carlisle, Pennsylvania, which is where I was born. I’ve actually visited her grave before in my hometown. I’ve always felt a connection to her and admired her bravery. I hope I can make her proud one day when I’m an officer in the U.S. Army.

In Turn, you may have noticed that a soldier called Anna over to him by saying “Molly! Pitcher!” This is how the real Molly Pitcher got her nickname. The soldiers would call her over for water from her the pitcher she was carrying, and the nickname stuck. During every battle after Monmouth, the soldiers would call any woman to help by asking for Molly Pitcher, so that was every woman’s nickname on the battlefield from this point onward. I love that they added this to the show, because there were so many women, not just Molly, who risked their lives to help the Army, and I thought this was a nice homage to her. 

no fear

- the yoi writers continuing on this fanservice-y path with ota //.yuri, effectively sidelining a healthy gay relationship in favor of a forced relationship between a minor and a friend he made after sharing 5 mins of screentime, thus also disallowing the chance for them to develop a well-written friendship - 

one fear

lesbiain-deactivated20170309  asked:

marsha p johnson wasn't a transwoman, he was a gender non conforming gay man/drag queen, he even said (shortly before his death no less) 'i am a man' like you don't have to strip gay men (especially dead ones, which is incredibly insensitive) of their identities to make a point :/

Miss thing I know the tumblr feminists you hang around with get hyped up on kilos of sherm and bathsalts before they type into this putrid site and whatnot but I am not the one. Marsha was a pre-op transsexual and she wanted to transition, but due to poverty, the criminalization of prostitution, her deteriorating mental health, antiblackness, homophobia, and transmisogyny, she could not. Trans identity politics did not exist in the united states when she was alive as they exist today (because things evolve) and she described her transition in ways that would be considered controversial on tumblr dot com but they ought to be acknowledged. Interesting enough, tumblr feminists like your ilk and some trans activists here both have that refusal to acknowledge complex history in common. You people always want to deny parts of her existence to fit your compartmentalized narratives. Trust me you’re not much better or different than your imagined enemies so jot that down.

Moving on, Marsha was a transsexual woman and she described her biological sex as being male (a trans person describing themselves in this way wasn’t considered as much of a controversial act back then as it is now). She called herself a woman and a man (referring to how she described her sex or lack of access to HORMONES AND SURGERY), and it is clear that her existence was one rife with transmisogynoir and hostility due to her engagement in prostitution so she could have money to support herself and to fund her transition, which, sadly, didn’t happen because of, in part, the very same sentiments expressed in this dumb ass message u sent me girl. She experienced violence in the same patterns as any other transsexual woman in prostitution. Read Viviane Namaste to learn more about how transsexual women specifically are most at risk for violence that results in death when they engage in prostitution.

From Rapping with a Street Transvestite Revolutionary, an interview originally done by Bob Kohler on August 20, 1990, reprinted in Out of the Closets: Voices of Gay Liberation. Can be read in full here for free.

Kohler: When you hustle on 42nd Street, do they know you’re a transvestite, or do they think you’re a woman? Or does it depend? 

Marsha: Some of them do and some of them don’t, because I tell them. I say, “It’s just like a grocery store; you either shop or you don’t shop.” Lots of times they tell me, “You’re not a woman!” I say, “I don’t know what I am if I’m not a woman.” They say, “Well, you’re not a woman.” They say “Let me see your cunt.” I say, “Honey, let me tell you something.” I say “You can either take it or leave it,” because, see, when I go out to hustle I don’t particularly care whether I get a date or not. If they take me, they got to take me as I want ‘em to take me. And if they want to go up my dress, I just charge them a little extra, and the price just goes up and up and up and up. And I always get all of my money in advance, that’s what a smart transvestite does. I don’t ever let them tell me, “I’ll pay you after the job is done.” I say I want it in advance. Because no woman gets paid after their job is done. If you’re smart, you get the money first.

Kohler: What about the term “drag queen?” People in STAR prefer to use the term “transvestite.” Can you explain the difference? 

Marsha: A drag queen is one that usually goes to a ball, and that’s the only time she gets dressed up. Transvestites live in drag. A transsexual spends most of her life in drag. I never come out of drag to go anywhere. Everywhere I go I get all dressed up. A transvestite is still like a boy, very manly looking, a feminine boy. You wear drag here and there. When you’re a transsexual, you have hormone treatments and you’re on your way to a sex change, and you never come out of female clothes.

Kohler: You’d be considered a pre-operative transsexual then? You don’t know when you’d be able to go through the sex change? 

Marsha: Oh, most likely this year. I’m planning to go to Sweden. I’m working very hard to go. 

Kohler: It’s cheaper there than it is at Johns Hopkins? 

Marsha: It’s $300 for a change, but you’ve got to stay there a year.

She wanted to transition. She planned to transition. She was a pre-op transsexual woman and a drag performer. Tryda disrespect a dead black woman in my inbox again girl and I implore you not to come for me if you glean all of your politics off your dashboard and sleazy wordpress blogs.

I don’t know y'all….but the world gotta be ending or something. You couldn’t tell me a few days ago that Jackson would be in the middle of something like this. You just couldn’t. Jackson? No way. Not him. So I definitely understand the fans who are shocked and surprised by this happening. It’s just wild as hell.

Also to the people saying it’s just a hairstyle, go tell that to the countless number of black women and men who have to either shave their heads or relax their hair in some way because they’re told that H A I R S T Y L E isn’t suitable for the workplace. Or the children that have to do the same because it’s too “unkept” and isn’t appropriate for school. If it’s just a hairstyle why are black children being suspended from school until they get rid of said hairstyle? If it’s just a hairstyle why do black men and women risk losing possible job opportunities for simply having it? If it’s just a hairstyle why is it “bohemian chic uwu” when non-black people do it, but “ugly”, “unkept”, “thuggish”, and “inappropriate” when black people do it?

Ask yourself why we have rules and shit for a “"hairstyle”“ and maybe you’d get why some people are upset.

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"I'm a black Southerner. I had to go abroad to see a statue celebrating black liberation."
Why aren’t there more statues memorializing slaves?
By Samuel Sinyangwe

This July, I traveled to Barbados to unwind and get away. I didn’t know I’d encounter a monument that would help me understand how America processes our history.

Heading into town from the airport, we circled a statue situated in one of the most prominent intersections in town. It depicts a black man, Bussa, breaking the chains that bound his hands in slavery. In 1816, Bussa, an enslaved African, organized enslaved black people across every major plantation to stage a nationwide revolt in what is now known as Bussa’s Rebellion. His actions were instrumental in bringing about the abolition of slavery in the British West Indies.

As someone who grew up in Florida, I had never seen anything like it. For me, a racial justice activist, it communicated viscerally what no study or analysis ever could. It helped me imagine a landscape of liberation.

That night, I tweeted an image of the statue. People began tweeting back pictures of others just like it. Statues in Brazil, Guyana, Suriname, Colombia, Jamaica, Saint Martin, Haiti, Mexico, Cuba, the Dominican Republic, and Curaçao — all of black men and women who organized, fought, and risked their lives for emancipation. Free. Fearless. Empowering by design.

These statues represented a reality I did not experience growing up. The monuments in my hometown celebrated the men who fought to keep those who look like me enslaved, not those who fought for freedom. A monument in downtown Orlando where I grew up depicted a Confederate soldier, rifle over his shoulder and towering above his surroundings. At its base was a plaque celebrating the “heroic courage” and “unselfish patriotism” of their cause. A few miles down the road, children spent their days learning in the classrooms of Robert E. Lee Middle School.