10 Reasons Why You Don’t Need To Care What Other People Say, Think or Do

1. It’s your life - no one else is living in your head. They are not living in the same headspace as us and therefore have no context on what we’ve been through, where we’re going and why we behave the way we do.

2. Projections - how you see me has nothing to do with me and everything to do with you. Often times the opinions of others are projections of their own beliefs, for example if someone tells you not to be an author because “you can’t make it” - this is a reflection of how they see themselves.

3. Judgements - you’re not on trial. Others may question our actions or judge our lifestyles because they want us to justify why we behave the way we do. We are not under any obligation to anyone to explain ourselves, therefore these judgements are meaningless and often a reflection of someone else’s insecurity.

4. Opinions - they only have the value we assign to them. If we were to take someone’s opinion down to the bank and ask the teller if we could pay our phone bill with it they would look at us as though we’re crazy. Keep this in mind next time someone offers their opinion.

5. Haters - they can’t stop your shine. A hater is just a confused fan because they’re giving us their energy by paying so much attention to what we’re doing.  The important thing to acknowledge here is that they are expressing their admiration for us in a disguised way.

6. One life - you’re not going to be here for long, might as well enjoy it. Life’s too short to spend it worrying about what other people say or think about us - as long as we’re enjoying our time here nothing else matters.

7. Self-love - the way you see yourself is more important than anything else. The opinion we hold of ourselves is the most important opinion of all because this is where our self-esteem comes from. When we love ourselves unconditionally we can hold our heads up high regardless of what others say, think or do.

8. Time - the time you spend worrying about what others think could be spent enjoying yourself. Time is the most precious asset we have, it’s more valuable than money because we can’t buy more time - hence why we need to be careful of how we spend our time. When we see our time as an asset to be invested we can spend it in ways that serve us rather than wasting it.

9. Focus - whatever you focus on grows. Paying attention to anything increases the power or influence it has in our lives - when we starve others of the attention they seek to gain from us they will eventually filter out of our lives.

10. Authenticity - behaving in a certain way for others makes us their prisoner. Doing what makes us feel good and being unapologetic about it is the way to absolute freedom and peace of mind - this is why it’s so important for us to prioritise how we feel rather than pandering to the expectations of others with the intention of receiving their validation.

How you see me has nothing to do with me and everything to do with you.

Peace & positive vibes.

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“Today and every day, I stand firmly against bullying and support LGBTQ youth. Proud to be a part of #SpiritDay @glaad Link in bio to learn more 🌈💜”

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anonymous asked:

im in a homestuck discord server that links to different cool pieces of art p often, and every once in a while someone else will go 'hang on dont rb that the artist ships johnjade' and im just. >follow. :)

they’re just so pure, am I right?

But honestly… I’ll never understand why people will reject ANYTHING done by someone because of a ship.
You’re just going to miss out contents :P

anonymous asked:

Your dude looks cool. 10/10 would RP with if wasn't nervous AF.

Originally posted by channelfrederator

aaaaaa thank you so much! ♥ I’m quite flattered you think so! I feel you with the RP anxiety though, it can feel very daunting to poke new people for RP. BUT I promise I am just a huge nerd, and I would love to hear about your character(s)! ♥ You can always message me here and/or request my Discord if you wanna brainstorm or just get to know each other! ^^

In the spirit of Furrycon 2017 All Saint’s Wake, I’m using a spoopy skeleton gif. Tis the season, heckers.

How to help someone who’s upset

I had to write this down before I forgot, but I wanted to type this out for people who want to help their friends but don’t know what to say. I’m gonna make this a metaphor cause those are fun.
Pretend your friend’s problem is represented with a rubix cube they’re trying to solve. 

You wouldn’t tell them about rubix cubes you did in the past, cause that doesn’t help! It’s like you don’t care about the one that’s being worked on now.

“I remember when I had a hard time with one of those, it really wasn’t fun…”

Don’t tell them how to solve it, because that’ll make them upset. It’s their rubix cube and they don’t want your help with it, they didn’t even ask! It may make them feel dumb because of it.

“You could just try switching it to the left, that’ll work”

If you just tell them it’ll get solved eventually, it doesn’t actually do anything. Sure that might be true, but they aren’t thinking about that, they want it solved way sooner.

“Don’t worry, it’ll get solved soon! It can’t stay unsolved forever!”

What you can do however, is support them while they solve it. Don’t offer any help unless they ask, and always be there to listen if they’re upset about it.

“I hope you solve it soon. I can keep you company while you work on it, if you’d like.”

At the end of the day, people sometimes want to solve their puzzles on their own, and the only thing you can do is let them.