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anonymous asked:

I'm gonna vent my frustration a bit, if that's okay. So I have anxiety and I mainly stim when I'm feeling anxious by rocking and flapping and pacing. My family notices this, and they then associate stimming with me feeling bad, then stop me from stimming. Like they think that if I'm not doing the motions, I don't feel bad, so if they stop me from stimming I'll feel better. Which is the worst thing to deal with when you're upset. They just make it worse and I hate it uuuuuurgh

Oh no, I’m so sorry, anon. It always hurts when family members don’t understand something important about you. You deserve to be able to stim when you need to stim.

Not sure if you’re looking for advice, but if you are: you could try showing them this video (it’s long, so if they don’t want to watch the whole thing, start in at 4:30 minutes, which is when it starts discussing reasons for stimming). Whether or not you show them the video, I recommend explaining to them that stimming is not what causes your anxiety – it’s what helps you cope with your anxiety. You could email them if you’re not up to having a face-to-face conversation.

You could compare it to something they might understand better, such as running water over your hand after touching a hot pan. If someone walks in the room and sees you running water on your hand, they might wonder why you’re doing it – and if they can tell you’re in pain, will they assume the water is what is causing that pain? Or will they realize that the water is how you’re dealing with a cause that they can’t see? In the metaphor, anxiety is the burn, and stimming is the water you run over it to treat it.

I hope your family comes to a better understanding soon, anon. If not, finding a safe private place to stim might help. Good luck to you, and I hope it works out!

in other news though I just got diagnosed as Officially Trans ™ (ICD-10 code and everything!! fun times) which means I can get hormones when I want. so yay for life being half good half terrible I guess??

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