Happy Eighteenth Birthday, Calum! And this is just a little message from us just to wish you an amazing eighteenth birthday wherever you may be in the world, which is LA at the moment. We're all missing you and we wish you were with us...Well you're living the dream..and..we miss you very much. Happy Eighteenth birthday! We love you always. Family x
You know I reblogged that Playboy article about Black Widow and as I lay here unable to sleep I thought here is the perfect example of why text is not all or nothing. Playboy is not a feminist publication. I suppose we can fight over it but I’m feeling pretty good about that statement. Playboy has, however, been a major player in Civil Rights activism and allowed a space for some excellent journalism. It also celebrates the objectification of women. So here is a text that both disrupts and upholds the patriarchy simultaneously. Not something all that unusual.
And I’ve seen a lot of love for The Kingsmen on my dash lately. That’s fine. I obviously support people loving what they like, but The Kingsmen was a massively problematic text. It was flashy sure. Enjoyable in places absolutely. But weirdly misogynistic at the end? Strangely classist? Almost stubbornly unaware of what it wanted to say? Also all of those things.
And I guess what I’m saying here (and keep in mind I have indigestion-induced insomnia) is that every time I see Tumblr or the internet or the world go apeshit over how “awful” something is I want to run a slideshow of stuff like this. There are easy things we can all agree on (blurred lines) but texts that obvious are few and far between. Most especially because songs exist in a much different space and way than books, movies, tv shows, video games, or comic books. So why is it we sometimes turn a blind eye and sometimes pass judgment–judge, jury, and executioner–from a trailer alone?
There are few things more dangerous than righteousness and I so strongly believe when I am so very sure I am right is when I have to be most critical of what I think. Passion doesn’t negate an argument but ideologies are not simple things. Critiquing society is not a simple thing. It’s complicated and dangerous and the moment you think you’ve figured it out is the moment you become what you hate. It’s easy to tell someone why they’re wrong. It’s much more difficult to understand what they mean and why or how they came to mean it.
It’s just curious to me, is all. The way we aren’t up in arms about the porn industry. Or Grand Theft Auto. Or so many other things. Instead, like some vicious flash mob we love and hate in an instant, so thrilled with our insight we never stopped to ask where it came from. And I think what really bothers me about it is that we love or hate *people.* Not texts. Not stories. Not characters (though to be fair we hate those too) but PEOPLE. Real people we don’t know and real people we intentionally refuse to understand. What is that but the very worst the internet has to make of us?
Anyway, even this mob power we’ve amassed is great most of the time. It’s spurred education and civil rights and social justice and critiques of capitalist globalization. It’s great. Until it’s not.
spend so much time saying “wish you were here” maybe i’ve used up all my wishes and maybe the ground will listen and close us right up against each other and i’ll fall straight into your bed and into your skin, just like that
i. They say the word “cancer.” I always had trouble keeping my C words straight. Clavicle. Collar bone. Coffin.
ii. You kiss my cheek when you think I am asleep. It feels like butterfly wings. I feel a bubble of wild hysteria crawl up my throat. Goodnight. Goodbye. Good morning.
iii. We watch a movie about a woman who wears no-smudge lipstick and walks out of chemo with a pretty mouth but no hair. We buy shades of crimson that are offensive. It marks everything we touch and does not fade.
iv. We walk with others who shape a family around us. Their stories match up with ours until we are all telling one story, together.
v. When they come, they weigh you down with a word so heavy it only has two letters. If the chemo takes. If she responds to treatment. If she gets to watch us grow older.
vi. I always thought prayers were like wishes and you had to use them wisely. I stay up late begging the sky for just this one thing. It takes me a while to realize I am sobbing.
vii. You hold my hand on one side and hers on the other, your fingers absently trying to soothe us.
ix. Collar bone.
congratulations on three years of being healthy, mom // r.i.d
Jon messed up her hair. “I will miss you, little sister.” Suddenly she looked like she was going to cry. “I wish you were coming with us.” “Different roads sometimes lead to the same castle. Who knows?”
But can we talk about the way that Brazilian harmonizers are treating Normani and ally, they’re actually giving them the attention they deserve and they’ve NEVER been so happy before! American harmonizers take notes.