You know, if anyone can come up with a good reason to hate Joker/Harley other than the fact that it’s abusive or that Ivy “isn’t abusive” (or some other related argument), then I will gladly hear you out.
For the record, any arguments why Ivy/Harley should be a thing instead of Joker/Harley are invalid. I wanna know reasons why Joker/Harley shouldn’t be a thing.
EDIT: I’m not trying to say the fact that it’s abusive isn’t a good reason. But for the shippers who knows that it is indeed abusive and DO NOT condone that abuse, it’d be nice to not be lectured on something that we are completely aware of.
If I could go back in time, I’d hug my younger self and impart wisdom I ended up learning the hard way. Like to pre-preteen me, I’d assure her Dad’s alcoholism is not a reflection on her. She is a good daughter and no, he doesn’t love drinking more than he loves her. I’d warn her to brace herself, because it’ll only worsen as she grows up; and watching helplessly will hurt but it’s not her fault, nor her battle to fight.
I’d tell preteen me that though her best friend will soon get in with the popular crowd, it doesn’t mean she has to fight for her attention; that sometimes the people we love most can become toxic to us, and she mustn’t be afraid to let go.
I’d tell myself at 19 that she is stronger than she thinks, and to enjoy those friends she has while they’re still around. That if she feels them starting to drift away now, just wait. People grow apart, and sometimes no amount of friendly outreach can stop that. It doesn’t mean we’re undeserving of friends.
I’d tell mid-20s me not to let being single so long make her disregard her intuition with the opposite sex. To follow it when the narcissist comes calling, not ignoring all those blazing red flags. Don’t brush off that voice inside warning her he’s bad news. Dispense with the niceties and tell him to go ahead and go away, saving us a few months of insidious mind games.
But there’s no way to return to then and there, no time machine to take like a red-eye flight. That is my past, and I must stay in the here and now, with the future before me. All I can do is remind my current self of these things. When I look back on those moments (which should be seldomly), it needs to be with more love and understanding towards the me I used to be.
I’d like to speak likewise to others experiencing similar situations. Though you may feel like your world is crashing down around you, you’ll get through it, some way, somehow. Someday, you’ll stop losing sleep over it and breathe easier. You’ll survive, and more love is waiting on the other side
The moment I start to feel under appreciated I distance myself. I don’t care to be anything to anyone who doesn’t crave me. I don’t want to be anywhere that I’m not missed every time my presence is missing..