It’s really upsetting to see young girls and teenagers (even adults) striving towards unrealistic and unhealthy goals. I sometimes see a lot of girls posting ‘bodyspo’ and ‘ideal body goals’ and honestly it hurts.
It hurts because I want you girls to know better.
I want you to learn that the way you achieve those bodies can be harmful. I want you to know the mindset behind the ‘ideal goal body’ is not healthy. You have probably been told this or read this countless times and either don’t care or won’t think it applies to you.
But I promise you that if you think like this it is not healthy.
It hurts because so many of you won’t ask for help for fear of looking ‘stupid’ or because you don’t want people to know that you are actively trying to change the way you look.
No one expects you to know everything from the start and the people who count won’t have any trouble with you asking questions (honestly no question is stupid). Irl and here on tumblr there are so many people that will let you come to them with questions or even ways of finding out the information you need so easily.
It hurts because you don’t see how beautiful you are.
You think that no one will think you’re attractive until you look like those girls in the magazines. I promise you this is not true and any body that thinks you need to change in order to be attractive to them is not worth the dirt on the bottom of your shoe.
I think it hurts most because nobody ever told me this when I was younger.
It took me years to learn that my mindset was not in any way healthy. I don’t want any of you putting yourself through what I did.
Every body is different and you wont ever look like her. In a lot of cases she doesn’t even look like that. Yes, strive from the best you but don’t use other people as goals.
You won’t ever be able to stop seeing images of these women but instead of viewing them as goals (or even competition) instead look at them as inspiration. Just realize that real healthy bodies take work.