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Peter? I know things have been difficult lately and I’m sorry about that. I think I know what you’re feeling. Ever since you were a little boy, you’ve been living with so many unresolved things. Well, take it from an old man. Those things send us down a road… they make us who we are. And if anyone’s destined for greatness, it’s you, son. You owe the world your gifts. You just have to figure out how to use them and know that wherever they take you, we’ll always be here. So, come on home, Peter. You’re my hero… and I love you.

I have to say, I never thought I would encounter “should we hate on butch lesbians for ‘‘‘‘‘‘promoting the gender binary’’’’’’’’” discourse in an honest-to-god, real-world queer space

My sister got busted lying about dumb shit and hoooly cow i haven’t laughed this hard in a while

anonymous asked:

Ok so I was born in India, but I moved to American when I was 2. All my extended family lives in India, and they often ask what country I consider my home. I always say America๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ. I just can't stand India as a whole. I've been there four times for weeks at a time and I've always hated the rude people, the rape culture, the unhygienic food, and the fact that I can't wear shorts! Should I feel guilty that I'm patriotic to America rather than the country I was born in?

You moved to America when you were two? It’s where you were raised not born that makes you feel at home.

i remember the first thanksgiving i spent with his family. i spent over a month, planning my outfit and thinking about what exactly to say and wear and do.

fast forward to now. spent the day barefoot in a bright red sundress, chilin on the couch with his siblings, chopping it up with his dad, helping his mom in the kitchen, with his grandma resting her head on my shoulder. all that stress, and in the end, by being myself, and them just loving and accepting me, it feels comfortable and like my second home. i’m always over there, and he’s always over here. our parents literally ask for the other when we don’t bring each other around. i can feel when i’m missed in the excitement when their faces light up when they see me. and i know he can feel when he’s missed in the way my mom laughs in a way that only he can make her laugh.

it’s so effortless. and comfortable.

This week I saved a life.

This will be sort of a strange blog post for some of you. However, I sort of felt the need to share this. Tumblr is always a great place and it always feels like home to me when sharing my feelings. Something happened this past week that I would have never seen coming even two feet away. As you all probably well know by now, The Oreo Cat has become a pretty popular name / blog around the web. I have joined more social sites than I can even count on my fingers and toes. I am constantly also asked to endorse new applications and join new platforms. With The Oreo Cat getting bigger and bigger daily, many copycat accounts have begun to pop up on a few of the networks we are on. I am constantly having to make claims for account impersonation. 

This happened recently on a platform (which I will not mention the name for safety / legal purposes) that I am on. At least four accounts impersonating The Oreo Cat  were created and began leaving comments on other users posts claiming to be me. This even happened in a few Live Streams. I was made aware of the issue by my nephew who is also a user of the same application. He called me one day and asked if I had made some new accounts and told me that they were all following him. Of course, I said no and went to check out all this new and curious information. Indeed I was sort of shocked by the findings. I mean, fan accounts are fine! Who does not appreciate a good fan account! But these were not fan accounts. These were accounts that displayed all of the same information as my account and claimed to be the “REAL” Oreo Cat. Upon further investigation, I was able to find mean comments being made by these accounts and hateful remarks being made to some of Oreo’s fans. So, I did the only natural thing I could think of and contact the application support and filed a claim. Everything was removed within a couple of hours, but it started a ball rolling. 

Almost immediately after the copycat accounts were removed, hate accounts were created. This time the hate accounts were actually sending my own account harassing DM’s. So, I did the same thing and contacted the application support and filed a claim for harassment. Those accounts were rapidly removed also. After seeing this, I decided to do a bit of detective work within the application. To my horror I found hundreds of Copycat accounts. Not just copycat accounts for celebrities but also copycat accounts for children that are not famous. Reviewing all this information led me to finding more harassing messages from either Copycat accounts of even hacker accounts. These messages were directly harassing young children. Now of course the rules for any application is that you must be 18 years of age to join, however now a days there are children as young as the age of 8 or 9 with social media accounts. Many of them are not being monitored by their parents. While digging deeper into this I found a group of kids that often would pop up in mean comments either on my own account or on others. So I decided to follow a couple of them and see what the deal was here. By following, I was then able to access their Live streams. One evening I got a notification that one of these kids was Live streaming. So I opened my ipad and I didn’t directly log on to the Live Stream but just watched the preview in my feed (it’s really dumb that the app in question allows you to do that because you have no idea who is watching that way). To my horror, I saw a 12 year old child with a knife in her hand proceeding to cut herself. At first I thought, wait… is this real? And then it hit me… OH MY GOD it is REAL!! I was horrified, saddened and angry all at once. 

I immediately contacted the application support once again, this time taking a screenshot of the title of the child’s Live stream noting that she was going to kill herself. Support sent me a note back saying “thank you for bringing this to our attention, we will message the user”. I figured OK, well let’s see what happens then. The very next day, the same child started another Live stream once again cutting herself and threatening suicide. Very angry, I contacted support once again and told them they obviously did nothing about the issue. This time they wrote back saying “sorry for the inconvenience, the account has been deleted”. WHAT?! That’s IT?! So at this point I took it upon myself to do something. Luckily this child had multiple accounts on the application. She had also emailed me a few weeks back using my Oreo Cat fan mail so I had her email address. I put the email address into google and with that I was able to find what school-board she belonged to. The problem was that it was in Australia. All the way across the world. I went back to one of her alternate accounts and took some screenshots of her as head shots and searched online for either a Cyber Safety specialist or the child’s local Police station. I was able to find both. The first Cyber Safety specialist I found was in Vancouver BC, Darren Laur. There was a contact number, so I phoned him for assistance. He told me that I needed to contact my local police station and that they in turn would be able to forward the information to a local police station in Australia. So I called my local police. Although they could offer no help in contacting anyone, they told me if I had the information as to what area in Australia she was from (and I did), I could probably email the local Police Station. While searching for the local Police Station in that area of Australia I also came across another Cyber Safety specialist, Susan McLean, who was in fact from that very same area. So I wrote a letter to each the Cyber Safety specialist (located in Australia) as well as the local Police station. I included all the information I had about the child, email, accounts on the app and screenshots of her Live stream as well as screenshots of the child herself. Within an hour I got a reply from the Cyber Safety specialist as well as the Police. They were easily able to track down her exact school. Within a couple more hours her school principal contacted me asking for as much information as I could provide. Luckily one of this child’s friends contacted me within those couple of hours and she was very scared. She told me that the young girl was cutting herself on a Skype call with her and her other little friends. I asked the little girl if she had screenshots and she did, so she sent them to me. I forwarded this information to the Principal.

It turns out that the child’s parents are going through a divorce and there is a lot of trouble and tension at home. This issue paired with the fact that this child was being bullied and harassed online led to other issues. The child herself faught back by bullying and harassing those who bullied her as well as self-mutilating. The school was aware that there were problems, but no one was aware of the extent of the problem and that the child was contemplating suicide. The principal thanked me and assured me that they will do everything they can to support the child.

So that was my week. Never in a million years did I ever think anything like this would ever be thrown into my hands. I am so happy that I started this blog. Imagine if I had not? That child might be dead. The internet is a very scary place, but it can also save someone’s life. All the way from Canada I was able to save one 12 year old girl’s life and give her hope for the future.

Bullying and harassment are serious issues whether they be part of your daily life or online. If you have kids that use social media it is very important to monitor what they post. Keeping their accounts private is sometimes not enough. Children are vulnerable and these days they all want to be famous. Any child below 13 should not be using social media without the supervision of a parent, teacher or guardian. It’s too dangerous. Although there are many others like myself out there, there are also many that are the exact opposite. If your child uses any social media platform be aware of the content that they post as well as the content they look at. I am not saying to shut them into a bubble, but just stay aware. If you know a child that is in danger as a result of Cyber bullying and harassment please contact your local police force. If they do not have the appropriate means to help you, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We will be happy to assist you and put you in contact with Cyber Safety specialists.
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YET MORE PLANT FRIENDS. My dad has a billion of these cacti growing, strategically beautifully placed at the very end of his machine shop. I’ve always wanted to bring some home, so this time I did. Once my sister made some comment about spiders so I’ve spent a lot of time terrified that somehow I’ve brought a spider into my apartment, but I’m letting myself be calmed by the fact that the quarterly pest spray kills every bug that comes in here. I definitely poked myself pretty unpleasantly while repotting - not on the big spikes but only the small, fibrous ones you don’t suspect will try to kill you. 

I think the thing that kills me the most about ‘home’ is that the feeling is equal. It’s like 'yes you feel this way and it’s okay because I feel the same. We’re in this together, this is it, this is us. This will always be us. You’re my home and I’m yours. You’ve always got me.’ It’s that raw supportive absolutely /real/ relationship type of feeling, where you know that’s your other half that’s your love, your light, your home, and that’s the rest of your life and it’s okay because they see you the exact same way. And it’s so clear when Louis has his solo and shifts over to the pronoun “you” instead of 'her’, and then harry responds and his voice cracks the slightest bit and it’s like “I know, I feel the same way.” and it’s just.. they managed to make the song feel like coming home to that person and, like they managed to transcend that feeling into a song and just. It’s really, really special.

you know, I’ve loved Nathan Adrian since the 2008 olympics like since he’s from my home state he was always on the news and it’s really awesome this time around being able to fangirl and to have someone to invest in during the olympics and I’ve just been having so much fun???

This has easily been the most fun tour. Iโ€™m excited/nervous to get home. Things always change when I come home. My friends are doing new things, my dog will be bigger, my parents will be busy, my apartment will have a new couch, and Iโ€™ll still be the same guy. Itโ€™s cool and sucky at the same time because I really want to hold onto the good things in my life when I leave for tour, but they are always different when I come home.
—  Joe Trohman, 2004