why-are-you-confusing-my-sexuality-so-much

canwejustnot asked:

SAME WITH THE SEXUALITY THING, LIKE DO YOU KNOW HOW HELPFUL IT WOULDVE BEEN FOR 13 YEAR OLD ME TO HEAR DAN/PHIL/ETC SAY "I have no clue what my sexuality is and that's okay" or "I know my sexuality and here's why" LITERALLY THAT WOULDVE MADE SO MANY YEARS OF CONFUSION SO MUCH EASIER

[talking about my tags on this post]

PREACH like srsly i agree i get messages almost every day from someone confused about their sexuality, and chances are if they follow me, they are most likely viewers of dan/phil/etc. so can you imagine what positive impact these youtubers talking about their experiences with sexual/romantic attraction would spark? it would be so amazing?? like my voice only reaches so far but their’s??? whatever they talk about would be an incredible awareness boost, ygm?
of course, I have no problem answering theses questions - i understand how important it is to use my words…which is why im kinda tempted to make my own video myself… but i seriously get so excited thinking about the discussion that would be sparked if youtubers like d+p spoke about sexuality - again, (as i briefly mentioned in the tags) even if these youtubers are heteromantic/heterosexual, there could be a strong ace/aro presence that hasn’t had the chance to vocalise itself! or maybe even knows it exists because of the lack of discussion on sexuality!!!

discussion is just so important.
After seeing the positive impact evan’s demisexuality video had (and he has over 100k+ subs, so that’s reaching a load of people) i can only imagine how incredible a dan/phil-talking-about-sexuality type video would be with their articulate (and often entertaining/relatable) story telling skills :’)

of course, this is all dreams. I totally respect d+p or any other youtuber not talking about it bc it is a personal decision to ‘come out’ or discuss stuff like this but i seriously think there’s more pros than cons to sharing experiences and making younger people realise that they are not alone and it is okay to not figure yourself out straight away - that’s what life is all about tbh…a journey of letting curiosity and experience guide you and help you learn more about yourself/others.

that was an unnecessarily deep ending but yeaH i just have a lot of emotions about queer discussions and the youtube community so when you combine the two i become a rambly mess of feels…as you can probably tell…

anonymous asked:

Ugh I feel so terrible, I came out to my peers at uni as bisexual when really I feel more like I'm a lesbian... I feel like I'd insult bisexual people if I came out again as a lesbian because people will think I used being 'bi' as a pathway but in reality I was too chicken to come out as a lesbian even though I know it wouldn't have made a difference because my uni is the most accepting place ever!! I really do want to come out as a lesbian but I don't know what people will think of me this time

heeey okay what if you just tell them the truth, you explain to them why you told them you where bi and why you are so afraid of now, just tell them what you told me. Don’t worry to much, people will understand that sexuality can be confused and that you maybe wasn’t sure yet. 

okaybajan asked:

honestly, its wonderful that you felt safe enough to come out to all your followers, and im sure you know youre sexuality more than anyone else. as a bisexual, ive been told many times that im just confused or my sexuality isnt a real thing, and itll hurt, but you need to dust yourself off and take the high ground, especially with these anons. ill support you through out the way tho, even if i just started following you because i know how it feels <3

Thank you so so much!<3 I don’t know why people say these things? 

When people say my sexuality/gender isn’t real

My ex doesn’t believe im genderfluid he says i don’t have the correct parts to be a boy. Pretty much what he means is i’m confused and he doesn’t wanna accept he dated a boy once i mean hes very homophobic (I’m biromantic, asexual, and genderfluid do you see my problem)

anonymous asked:

I'm confused about myself. I've never loved anyone the way I love this one girl, and she doesn't like me back because she's straight. In fact, I've never liked anyone- even as a crush. I honestly couldn't even try to love anyone else, so is my sexuality even valid? I consider myself a lesbian but I've only ever been attracted to one person so I might be bi or pan and not even know it!

dont stress too much!! its okay to be confused and you will understand your sexuality soon, try labelling yourself but if thats not comfortable enough for you its fine!! sexuality is suppose to be fluid and comfotable enough to your liking, thats why its called your sexuality!!

sleepover friday!! ask/tell me literally anything!!

anonymous asked:

Hey I saw your post about writing a book about sexuality/gender for kids and I just wanted to say that I think it would be a great idea, especially for kids why feel ashamed or confused and may be too shy to speak up or ask. That's all. Good luck love 😘

Awe well thank you very much for this 😊 I have work tonight ( plus my computer isn’t working currently) but in the next couple days here I’m going to start collecting stories from people and add some links and all that fun stuff so keep an eye out for that! Honestly in the shower it just popped into my head thinking
I want my future kid to not be ashamed or generalized to be scared to talk and explore it so I figure hey why not!
Also if anyone reading this feels like their gender or sexuality is constantly left out let me know that way I don’t forget anymore