What do you deserve?
I was talking with a friend about relationships because she’s having some doubts about her love life… and that talk just made me think about it a lot.
What do we want for ourselves is what we really have?
Sometimes we want to be with someone that makes us feel safe and warm, but all we have is someone that makes us cry or makes us insecure.
Why does it happen?
Because we let it happen!
So, she asked me: what I have to do then? What I’m doing wrong?
And I answered:
You’re forgetting what you want.
You’re forgetting your value.
You’re forgetting what you deserve.
Then I asked her: What the fuck you want?
She answered me: I wanna marry! I wanna me happy! I don’t wanna be with a girl that don’t want to introduce me to her family.
And then I said: That’s it! Make your wish list. Put on the paper all the things you want in a relationship and how you want to feel about it. You have to read that list EVERY fucking day and remind yourself of all the things YOU REALLY WANT! And when some girl shows up, no matter how needy you are, you will remember all the things you want. If that girl is not what you want, you gonna say bye and move on and you will not accept ANYTHING less than what you want and deserve. No matter if she’s beautiful, cute, funny… if she don’t want to introduce you to her family, is not her! If she makes you insecure, is not her!
People use to lie to themselves and making excuses to be with the wrong people. If your life is full of “but,” something is wrong …
“She makes me insecure BUT she’s funny…”
“Sometimes she’s rude with me BUT I know is her way to love…”
No! No! No!
You don’t deserve BUT in your life!
Don’t be with someone just for needy.
Be with someone that fills your soul, that makes you dream, keeps you warm and safe.
Yeah, I know…no one is perfect though… but when you are having less than you deserve, something is not right!!!
Make your relationship wish list and be loyal to it! Be loyal with what you really wants for you!