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A MESS

That’s what the SKAM fandom has become. A fucking mess between :  

- The creepy fans. They are hardcore fans. They are obsessed with Evak. They watched like 50 times, season 3. They know every lines by heart. They managed to do 2-3 trip to Olso, not for the beauty of Norway of course, only to see the two principal actors. On tumblr, their only occupation is reblogging stuff concerning Evak, Tarjei Sandvik Moe (“MY PRECIOUS SON”) and Henrik Holm (“RAY of SuNshIne”) (“BEST ACTOR IN THE WORLD”) (“I’M SO EMOTIONAL” or “I’M CRYING Tarjei or Henrik is buying some orange juice”) and answering Anon who is telling them ”Gurl, it’s gross, stop shipping Tarjei and Henrik together.“ ” You have to distinguish the character from the actor“. They don’t care, they’re too far gone, they will keep shipping them anyway because “I don’t hurt anybody doing that”

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 - The Norwegian weaboo. They throw some “Halla”, “Alt er love”, “Nei” and “Fy Faen” in ALL their fucking post even if they are just talking about idk lasagna. They remind you everyday that they are now master in Norwegian thanks to Duolingo. Suddenly, since Skam, half of Tumblr is Norwegian and live in Oslo and have (if it’s not them) ”friends who knew / go to the same school / did a party / hang out (cross out the wrong indications) with Henrik, Marlon and Tarjei". Yes, little we knew, Oslo is a village of 100 peoples.

- The Yousana shippers. Some muslims, many who aren’t. Innocent, they don’t understand what’s the big deal with the fact that Yousef doesn’t believe in God. Some even except a kiss between Yousef and Sana. LOL. My sweet summer child, you can wait. 

- The Jonas (”Eyebrows god”) stan. My favorite. They’re just worried about their fave since he disappeared completely this season. 

- The Eva stan. They’re just most of the time praising her and her “fabulous mermaid hair”. 

 - The seeker of the truth 1. The one who only care about this ETERNAL question in the universe : Is Vilde a lesbian ? They’re no doubt for them, and the answer is “YES”. They dislike Magnus with passion and (like 99% of the fandom) can’t stand Magnus and Vilde making out session. They reclaim the truth from Julie Andem ALL THE TIME. 

 - The seeker of the truth 2. The one who only care about contradict them. “Vilde is NOT a lesbian”. They’re personally offended by this supposition. Why ? Nobodies know.

- The artist. They just draw or do “aesthetic edit” about Skam. Half of their caption is “Alt er love”-“Du er ikke alene”-“Be kind. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about”. If you have an “aesthetic gif set” about one of the girl squad then you can be sure that you will find the picture of “a MAC lipstick slightly open with behind a white grayish background” in it.  

 - The Penetrator Chris Stan. Mostly young, they live in their bubble. They don’t take part of any fandom’s drama because they’re not invested enough. Isak ? Nope. Even ? Nope. Sana ? Nope. Noora ? Nope. LGBTQ representation ? Nope. POC representation ? Nope. ON-LY THIS FUCK-BOY MA-TTER FOR THEM. You easily recognize them because of their self-insert-imagine Readers where they are “William’s little sister and Chris secret lover” or when “You (Y/N) and jealous Chris are fucking in the kitchen”. 

- The Noorhell shippers. Maybe they were the original, the first one, SKAM  fans on Tumblr. Who knows ? They live in the past. They are still too invested in their shitty ship. They are an endangered specie now or maybe just hiding till the Wilhelm hate shit storm calm down. 

- The pepsi-max girl stan. Just kidding, nobody care about them. 

- The “Guys I have this incredible NEW theory : water is wet”. They are like weeks late in the season and just rehearse a theory who was already confirmed or already enunciated already by hundred of persons before. 

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-  DISCOURSE GROUP 1. The “Sana’s season is too boring”. Mostly white girl, mostly straight, “they can’t relate to Sana because “she (an arab muslim straight girl) is too different” but they had zero difficulties to relate to Isak during season 3 (a white gay boy). Why ? You already know the answer. You can pair them with the Evak creepy fangirl, most of them came from this group. Until know, they were just a pain in the ass with their “ok it’s not that I don’t care about Sana (in fact, surprise, they don’t) but WHERE IS EVEN ?”. They cried when the S4 trailers was released. After their little crisis, they wrote 10K long ass meta about why in fact every little details in this trailer was related to Even and not Sana. Still delusional, they don’t want to move on. They don’t talk or reblog stuff from S4, only from S3 (OR S4 but only if it concerns Evak of course). They wrote many theories about the balloon squad and how problematic they were. This friday, they were apparently “proven right” to their greatest joy with Mikael and Even’s story. YAY.  Since you can hear them yelling “all religions are evil and homophobic and needs to disappear (BUT if Islam could be the ONLY ONE to burn it would be nice”). Suddenly they adore Sonja (who was ”a bitch” during season 3) If you ask them not to jump to conclusion with Mikael (“the rat”), you are homophobic yourself and obviously awfully racist against white people (???). 

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- DISCOURSE GROUP 2. The Sana’s stan/ muslims one. They waited so long for Sana’s season and muslim representation. They have no time for your “lowkey islamophobic white ass” (”Sana is too white in this gifset” “ Pepsi-max girls sucks” “We don’t care about Willhell/ Evak/ Noora ” ( cross out the wrong indications) ). This season is very personal for them but to their surprise, it’s anything but what they expected. They have mixed feelings every new clip. They tried to educate the others Skam fans about some concept of Islam but people are not very receptive so they started to give up. Despite friday clip, they are still defending Mikael and the balloon squad against the various attack from the DISCOURSE GROUP 1. Easily offended, they can be a little too protective of Sana, her mom, and the balloon squad.  It appears that they lost all their patience and decided for the best or the worst to let the fandom burn. 

- THE OTHERS. The one who just enjoy the show, their favorite characters and favorite ships. They’re just watching the drama from afar. Sometimes, they low-key have a side but are too lazy to make a post about it. They’re just incredibly tired of this mess. 

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Bye. 

Sharing Stage/2.5D Content

So there are some things I want to go over about sharing, reposting, and general distribution of content.  And while I’m going to talk specifically about Engeki Haikyuu, some of the more general stuff can be applied to most Japanese stage plays, musicals, and general theater.  

I wanted to make this post because I’m seeing a lot of frustration in fandom from both content providers and fans and followers butting heads on this issue.  First off, we have to acknowledge that there is an undeniable precedent that’s existed in fandom that makes fans feel entitled to all the content all the time, for free.  And there is knowledge of the industry that content providers have that I think we’re not communicating frequently enough to help fans understand our positions on these issues.

It’s lengthy, but please take some time to look under the Read More and read about this issue.  

Keep reading

(I don’t have a Sherlock tumblr, so I hope you don’t mind this long submission)

Weeks ago you were talking about non fandom person’s thoughts on 4th series, so I thought I’d share this: 

I have a work friend that’s what I would call a devoted casual in that she adores Ben, so owns and rewatches the series DVDs, but is not in any fandom, doesn’t read/watch press, and relies entirely on me for info on when the next series comes out.

We’ve talked about the show before- superficially and for only ~10 min each series. But after she’d finally watched the 4th series, she made a point to seek me out so she could talk/vent. (Highlights of that conversation include ‘Well, Ben looked and acted great as usual.’ And ‘It was ok while I was watching it…but looking back it didn’t make much sense.’)

She ended with expressing huge disappointment with the whole series, and regretted that she’d bought the dvds because she didn’t want to rewatch them again.

Pervious to this, I’d never talked about the show real in-depth or ‘fanish’ with her, but seeing as she was so disappointed, I just couldn’t resist. I talked about the things that I’d read ‘on the internet’ that made me feel better about the series- namely the concept of unreliable narrator (edited footage with Magnussen; the memory altering drug T12) and the theory that TFP was in John’s mind- like TAB was in Sherlocks.

We only talked for a few minutes, but I could see something click for her and she was super excited to rewatch with these things in mind.

A week later, after rewatching the series x3 with those things in mind, she sought me out again. ‘I think I know what happened in last season of Sherlock! Want to hear my theories?’ Of course I did!

So, what follows is what she came up with. Obviously, I influenced her, but overall I think what she came up with (on her own outside of fandom) is interesting.

John killed Mary, and T6T is the ‘cover story’ of events. John and Sherlock were working together to find out the truth about Mary- John didn’t love or want to stay with her, but that was the easiest way to keep track of her. The plan wasn’t necessarily to kill her, but to get her and the danger around her out of their lives.

There was no ‘woman on the bus’ that John had a thing with. That was a readymade lie that John could admit to if he got caught in inconsistencies on the cover story or if Mary became suspicious over John’s behavior. Admit to the small lie to hide the big lie- that sound like something Sherlock would suggest.

Smith had zero to do with the drug T12- that was just a bit of ‘overflow’ from Sherlock and John choosing to take it for *reasons* (better cover story? John needed to sell the grief, but couldn’t?)

It’s Sherlocks idea to take T12, and he sells it to John as necessary. John learns that Sherlock had this done before but not the reason why. He only learns that are code words associated with these sessions, and Sherlocks previous code word was ‘Redbeard.’ The code word for their session is of course ‘Eurus.’

They take it, and it has some unexpected consequences. It worked perfectly, but the lie that John loved Mary and was devastated when she died was too big for John to handle- it was too far from the truth. John’s mind told him he loved Mary and was sad she was dead, but his heart knew that was a lie. That internal conflict started John drinking, which further complicated the issue. Now John not quite remembered, but somehow knew that it was Sherlocks fault for this (Sherlock got John to take the T12) and that is why John blamed Sherlock for Mary’s death.

And so both John and Sherlock are abusing their substances, which further messes with both their memories- i.e. John also ends up thinking that the woman on the bus is real -and they end up estranged.

The case with Smith happened mostly as shown- but it is thru John and Sherlocks substance abusing POV so it’s unreliable. Fake!Faith and the therapist were real and the same woman- but the reason the woman on the bus had the same face was because John mind wasn’t very creative when it made her real.

Fake!Faith/therapist is a bad guy- either tied to Moriarty or on her own. She knows about the T12 and manipulated both using that knowledge- maybe even drugging them with more.

She shoots John, and TFP is all in John’s head as he’s dying. It’s a mix of the movies John likes (she pointed out to me the bit from T6T about John knowing the horror stories) and John’s assumptions about Sherlock. ‘Sherlocks sister’ of course has the same face as the woman that shot him, becasue again- John’s mind isn’t that creative. John in the dream thinks it’s real, but a part of him knows he’s dying- that part is Victor, and that shows how much John is worried that not only will Sherlock will fail to save him in time, he’ll also forget about him when he is gone.

And that was her theory. I was pretty impressed, and she was pleased to have thought it out like that.

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Hey Lovely!

Oh gosh, I don’t remember which post you’re referencing, so I’m just going to assume it’s any of the many I get LOL. Thank you very much for this interesting theory from your friend! My own theory differs slightly from your friend (ie. I believe that the Bus Stop Lady is the “one true face” who was an agent for Mycroft / MI5 and John integrated her into his TD-12 fuelled story, much like Sherlock did with Lady Carmichael and the Airline Stewardess), but we both believe it’s a faulty narrative, TFP is John’s TAB, and that TD-12 has a LOT to do with the unreliable narration. 

I really love all these theories. Thank you for sharing!

anonymous asked:

What would be a valid thing to submit as evidence for adhd? I feel like my teachers never noticed anything, all it ever says on my report is 'quiet', and im in the uk and you need school reports for diagnosis, and i feel like i wont be taken seriously cos they dont say 'bouncing off the walls' or something

I feel you, nonny. I wasn’t diagnosed until college because I was just “quiet.”

Odds are, if a lot of the symptoms add up enough to make you SUSPECT you have ADHD, you probably have it. But more research is always good!

So like many things, ADHD is a spectrum. The two ends of it are Inattentive to Hyperactive- and then you have people like me, in the middle, with the Combined version. Some people have more Inattentive than Hyperactive, some have more Hyperactive than Inattentive. Everyone who has ADHD experiences the symptoms a little differently.

You can find about six thousand symptoms lists online, but here I’ll tell you things that usually don’t end up on those lists that my therapist told me a lot of her patients ended up experiencing aside from listed symptoms.

(Note: Initially I tried to keep these short. Yeah, that didn’t work. I bolded the important parts.)


1. Insomnia, or at least a super screwy sleep schedule. No joke, this can be super detrimental and will only serve to exacerbate your symptoms. “Just set a sleep schedule!! You’ll feel better!” they all say- Thanks Barbara if I had any control over when my brain chooses to sleep at all I wouldn’t have this issue, ok?

-a solution to this is to, in all actuality, condition yourself. Start ONLY using your bed for sleep. Get a little chair or something in your room if you’re also a hermit like I was growing up (mushroom chairs are gr9) and once you get out of bed, don’t let yourself get back on it for more than a few minutes unless you’re going to sleep.

Some nights it’s not enough, but in general for me personally this has been an actual lifesaver- I can go from being not tired to exhausted at the drop of a hat in normal life anyway (another symptom they don’t usually tell you about) so it’s nice to be able to make it work for me for once- I get into bed, maybe spend 30 minutes restless and then I’m out.

2. On the subject of sleep. You kids ever heard of the sleep of the dead? Because guess what, I have ignored literal fire alarms in dorms because of it. About 1-2 hours into my sleep I enter a state akin to a bear hibernating. I have slept through wake-up alarms, slept through emergency alerts, slept through FIRE alarms, slept though friends and family attempting to wake me… you get the picture.

3. On the note of the hibernating bear. You constantly wake up angry (or at least disgruntled) at the universe and take a really, really long time to power on. No, I’m not talking “a case of the mornings.” I’m talking it takes me until noon some days to actually feel somewhat alert. I’m talking feeling nothing but seething rage at anyone who tries to engage you in higher brain function before you’re fully awake.
-the seething rage is more personal to me, but, every single last one of my friends who’s ADHD has issues getting up in the morning. There’s hating mornings, and then there’s hating mornings.

4. About mornings. You’re constantly late to anything in the morning because you just couldn’t “get going.” i.e., you knew and 100% wanted to get up and get moving but your brain said “nah, let’s just sit here on tumblr mobile for a while k?”
-it’s very difficult to describe this part of executive dysfunction with words, because it comes off as laziness to a lot of neurotypicals. It’s not laziness. It’s having the motivation and and will and the drive to do something and not forgetting about it and it still doesn’t get done.

“Why didn’t you do x?” they’ll ask. And you just sit there thinking shit, you meant to, really, honest to god meant to, it was on your brain to do and yet all you could actually do that day was sit around and watch terrible TV. And then you feel terrible because YOU think you’re lazy.
It’s not laziness. It’s executive dysfunction.

5. Another not so well known EXDYF fact: Mental math or memorization for you will always be the literal bane of your existence. Teachers always told me I was a “smart kid” in school (I am, but not the point) and then they’d wonder why I couldn’t memorize a five line poem.

Or I’d start off with a 60 on a math test, until my teacher would comb through my work by hand (only useful math teacher I ever had in high school tbh) and I’d end up with a 92 because nearly all of my mistakes involved basic arithmetic errors. Even though I was able to use a calculator on the test.

(One time I decided 21-19=14. To this day 8 years later I still do not know from what abyss my brain pulled that info from.)

“You’re smart! Just focus!” I can’t choose what my brain decides to focus on that easily, Sharon, not without a lot of crying and panicking.

6. But wait! You say. I have really obscure information from a fandom that I can infodump on someone at a moment’s notice! Surely that means I’m just Lazy and Unmotivated, right? I guess I just can’t be bothered to memorize the important stuff.

*Loud buzzer noise* Stop right there. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

I will take you by the shoulders and look deep into your eyes and make you realize that guess what? If you have an ADHD brain, you have NO control over telling your brain what is important and what is not. Zero. Zip. Zilch. Nada. Your brain decides, and you usually get no say in the matter.

This sounds bad, I know. And in terms of school, birthdays, appointments, it’s terrible. But you’re not helpless. It sounds trite, but, get a good goddamn calendar app on your phone and use the hell out of it for appointments and birthdays. And for school? Find those fandoms and use mnemonics. No, seriously.

7. Also on school: You procrastinate the hell out of everything. And I’m not talking normal “haha I’ll do it later!” procrastination. I’m talking serious, problematic, REPEATED “why the fuck can’t I just do it on time like a normal person” procrastination where you start blaming yourself for not doing it sooner like a neurotypical.

Listen, buddy ol’ pal (or however that goes), you’re not neurotypical. But listen- there’s actually a medical reason why you do this.

So everyone’s brains have reward systems, right? Your brain gives you the feel good when you do something you think you should. And later, a brain remembers that it got the feel good for doing the thingy thing.

In a brain with ADHD, that reward system malfunctions. Sometimes critically. Your brain chucks so much stuff it deems “unnecessary” out the window it chucked out that feel good you got when you turned in that homework on time, or cleaned out your car, or did some pilates for 30 minutes.

8. You want to know what doesn’t help with number 7 there? Another thing that won’t show up on symptom lists but that virtually everyone I know with ADHD (quite a few, actually. Turns out we hang out in packs because we’re usually the only people who can understand each other) about ADHD is how daunting large tasks or projects seem to an ADHDer.

So listen, more medical talk here. Remember that EXDYF thing? Yeah, this is part of that.

EXDYF makes it very, very hard (almost impossible, sometimes) to break down large tasks into smaller, more feasible tasks. You get nervous the longer you put off that paper (“this isn’t something you can spit out overnight!”) You’ve been sitting in front of your computer for hours, and the only word you have written down is “The”.

Honestly, I’m not sure why it’s actually super hard to break down large undertakings into smaller tasks for the ADHD brain. But! Solution.

-if you’re having a problem breaking down ANY sort of task, I promise there’s someone else who’s done it online.

Need to write a paper? Use a template. Need to clean out your car? Find a checklist, or have a friend make you one (cause Lord knows I can’t make one on my own). Need to make a presentation? Find a sample one online. Hell, this even works for taxes. (Gasp!)

Do NOT be afraid to ask for help with even personal large undertakings. If your friends are actually your friends, then they’ll relish the chance. Especially when you can turn around and blaze through a quarter of the important project you two (or however many) have due next week in four hours because of hyperfocus.

9. So, your focus. Totally trash, right? That is, until you hyperfocus.

Hyperfocus, to a neurotypical, probably sounds great. Tune out all distractions and get shit done, right?

Sure, Linda, if you can call being able to ignore things like the need to sleep, eat, and use the bathroom “tuning out distractions.” Time becomes a literal illusion. And damn do you pay for it later by your brain not wanting to do anything at all.

On the flip side, this is why ADHD people make fantastic emergency workers like EMTs and firepeople. If you learn what to do with adrenaline when you start feeling it, you feel like you could punch Satan himself when you’re riding an adrenaline+hyperfocus high. Combine that with the fast-paced, unexpected nature of such jobs and and you have a happy ADHD brain because it’s never bored.

10. Because boredom feels like death. No, Cheryl, I’m not being overdramatic. Yes, Becky, I recognize everyone has to deal with boredom.

A neurotypical’s boredom and an ADHDer’s boredom are two very different levels of boredom. Ever heard the phrase “bored to tears”? Now imagine every time you get even a little bored, it’s like this.

And of course, the ADHD hell brain remembers the bad feels of being bored but can’t recall how nice it was to remember all of the answers on a quiz that one time you paid attention in class.

This is why I have the worst problems doing homework and housework, or in general anything with serious repetition (exercise, cooking, driving, tidying up etc.). I can do it for maybe 10-15 minutes, and then my brain’s like “k I’m good. Next source of input please?” like, brain, I’m only like 3 feet into washing the kitchen floor. P l s.

11. Speaking of tears. Has rejection by someone you value ever felt like you wanted to quit existing on the spot, or at the very least wanted to move to an ice cave in Greenland and cry for the rest of your life? Even if the rejection was just perceived rejection and your friend was just expressing grumpiness at something else?

Even if your logic says “they didn’t reject you calm down you’re overreacting?”

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. It’s a newer term, but honestly, once I found out about my own ADHD and this bitch of a symptom a loooooooot of my weird habits started making a lot of sense in my head.

It doesn’t have to be actual “rejection”. It can get set off from stuff like awkwardness (hence my personal resistance to making Adult Phone Calls) to disbelief (a huge, huge reason so many people go undiagnosed), to personal judgment and/or criticisms (oh, ok… I guess I’ll never mention my love for X ever again) to even just indifference (no one noticed I mopped all the floors in the house… guess I’ll just go die!).

Basically, if you perceive that someone you care about has dismissed you in some fashion, you literally just want to quit existing. On the spot. Because the feeling of it makes you feel sick, your chest gets tight, you can feel it in your hands, and it makes the rest of your day miserable.
This variant is more likely with people you care about, but can definitely 100% happen with strangers too.

Another variant is this: if you perceive that someone (whether you care about them or not) has dismissed you in some fashion, your first instinct is to attempt to disregard and discard them completely. It usually doesn’t work like you want it to.

I’m pretty sure this is another reason why ADHD people hang out in packs. We always have a line in our head we’re terrified to cross with our friends. It makes us seem like we’re emotionally unavailable- but in reality we’re just terrified of being dismissed by our friends for showing our true geeky, infodumping, hyperfixating selves.

(Listen. If a friend mocks you for your true self they weren’t your friend in the first place.)

12. But in terms of crossing that line… Social cues? What are social cues?

Normal people can infer a lot from body language. With a lot of ADHD people, we tend not to notice. Or we notice too much and overanalyze. There’s no in between.

On a side note, your best bet for flirting successfully with an ADHDer is to just come out and say it. (Talk like an elcor. “Flirtatiously: I want to hear more.” or whatever innocent phrase it is you’re using to flirt. If they’re into Mass Effect, this will make them laugh, which means bonus points for you in their eyes.)
But seriously, unless you’re making obviously romantic overtures we’re usually pretty sure you’re just being nice.

Back on topic: lack of social ability is a massive, massive reason people with ADHD are usually bullied growing up. If there aren’t any other ADHD people around, it usually feels like no one “gets” you. I was bullied horribly enough during junior high and high school to the point where I still have to repress the urge to automatically assume someone being nice to me means they’re plotting something behind my back. (Didn’t help that my hs was basically the Korriban Sith academy without most of the death. Culty, religious, nepotism ran rampant.)

13. Woe betide thee who angers the ADHD. It’s not a problem with everyone, but… We’re like volcanoes. Awe-inspiring to watch in action, but God help you if we explode in your direction. And if it’s righteous anger there is almost literally no stopping us.

Anger has its uses. Our problem is that, like a volcano, we always have a lot simmering under the surface. We tend to hold onto it for ridiculous amounts of time until one day, boom. Yeah, I know, Kathy, that happens with everyone. Delayed gratification and all. The difference with ADHDers is that we usually don’t wait.

ADHDers’ anger will come out initially, because we can’t suppress it. We’re impulsive as fuck. We don’t think before we leap (our brains probably wouldn’t let us anyway). And it will seem like we are flying off the handle for no reason whatsoever. But we also have a tendency to unhealthily hold onto it afterwards even once the initial burst has happened. It’s like a (bad!) positive feedback loop.

14. Gotta bounce the leg. Gotta rock. Gotta fidget. Shit, I’m sorry, were you talking?

So one time I made it through 40 minutes of a math class actively suppressing the urge to bounce my leg… and then my leg twitched of its own accord. Freaky as shit, 0/10 recommend.

Sitting still is physically impossible for me, and for a lot of ADHDers.
Lack of impulse control + lack of social cue knowledge + lack of ability to decide what’s important to our brains = Fidget fidget. Fidget fidget. Twitch. Fiddle with paper. Hey, my backpack has a fun texture by the zipper. Oh my God, that lady on the TV is wearing the best shade of blue ever! I wonder where she got it. Shit, I need to go shopping. Wait, why did I need to go shopping again?

“Hey I asked you what you got for number 7.”

Fuck.

15. Depressive episodes. For me, these usually happen after a major hyperfocus where I taxed my brain for all it was worth, especially for long periods of time.

If it lasts for a long time or starts seriously affecting your life, get it checked out. If your doctor gives a damn they’ll be happy you came in to get it checked, even if it was the wrong diagnosis, because if it had been then at least they were there to help you. And they’ll always be happy to sit down and figure out what’s wrong. I know they have to watch out for hypochondriacs and whatnot. But if a doctor really cares about helping people they’ll listen when you say something’s wrong, because they know that you’re the one in your skin, not them. Which means if you really think something might be wrong, something probably is.

More evidence: justexecutivedysfunctionthings here on tumblr. Contains people’s experiences with EXDYF, which is a huge red flag for ADHD.

The Wikipedia article on the subject. There’s a nicely organized chart. (Or at least there was when I looked at it.) Remember, you don’t have to identify with all of the symptoms to be ADHD. Even if you only identify with a few, if they’re significant enough that they are seriously impacting your life and existence, it’s worth getting checked out.

I may add more to this later/change some stuff as my memory allows.

anonymous asked:

You know, sometimes you say things jokingly about sheith, but really - if you had to pinpoint your interest or why you believe in them, what would it be?

I’m not sure I’m getting this question..

Like what makes me think there’s actually something there?

It’s mostly just my wishful thinking haha. (I think it can be a really amazing thing if they go that way specifically with Keith and Shiro, for so many reasons. But sadly I’m aware the world might not be there just yet :\ )

Hmm I dunno, I have to say that what stands out to me most is that there’s something a bit “extra” to their relationship? Like, all their scenes would have been totally brotherly in nature if it wasn’t for that one weird tiny extra little detail they added to it for some reason.. Not sure how to explain it.

Like I think Keith and Shiro act more like exes that want to get back together but can’t say it, than two bros or two friends? haha.

And like alot of their scenes have like kinda romantic themes to them? Like Keith being Shiro’s knight in shining armor all the time, fate bringing them back together, watching a sunset by the fire for no fucking reason..  Like stuff you would usually see in romantic plot lines and not like “mentor/student” “big bro/lil bro” relationships. (I dunno, if either of them was a girl, would anyone think this is not like the obvious romantic plot line? (Which btw I guess can also work for Keith and Lance haha))

But I guess jokes and reaching aside, these are the things that really do make me think there might be something there:

  • Keith’s introduction. The first things that are established about his character (badass, loves this Shiro guy, Shiro’s savior)
  • The Keith sneaking away after looking at Shiro thing (just a super odd thing to show?)
  • EVERYTHING about “Across the Universe” (ok seriously, that episode was so gay it actually makes some straight fanboys uncomfortable and it’s hilarious haha)
  • Keith’s expressions and voice when he talks to Shiro (yeah.. not brotherly..)
  • The way their hug was framed
  • And I guess also the big focus on their relationship so early on in the show? I mean relationships in stories can’t stay in status quo, they have to develop or evolve during the story somehow, and Keith and Shiro start off with a very strong relationship already. So you kinda have to wonder where can it evolve from here? In most cases the strong relationships that are established at the beginning will go towards conflict (between the characters, about one of the characters) or death of one of the characters, but sometimes it can also be something like best friends to lovers kind of thing. Anyway, that relationship was made to stand out from the start for some reason..

And I guess that’s it? (And I’m only looking at what’s in the show and not like outside of it)

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anonymous asked:

☕️Unpopular opinion: I hate how the fandom is so stuck in this idea that Lena's gay. There's zero actual evidence of this. It's just getting annoying that every picture of her is marked with "lol she gay dude" and "she eats pussy." I understand subtext and what not but she's clearly not gay no matter how much everyone says she is. (Before anyone tries to call straight hate, I'm not)

i definitely see why that’s such a popular thing in the fandom, as she’s done some Very Not Straight things and exchanged some definite Not Straight looks with kara, and if i cared to i’d probably share the same opinion as others regarding her sexuality, and i never want to understate the importance of lgbt headcanons, those shouldn’t be invalidated or taken away from a community because they do serve a definite purpose. i think what’s frustrating for me in this instance is that often times people have been treating her and discussing her as if her visibility and involvement from a standpoint of representation is as important as actual canon lesbian characters. 

whether people want to acknowledge it or not, her not being gay does shape the way in which the writers have been handling her, and also, probably more importantly, also shapes the way the general audience views her. maggie and alex are visible and present examples of the ways in which a character’s sexuality influences audience perception of the character as a whole. it’s in your face, it cannot be ignored as long as someone is watching the show. maggie and alex serve a very specific purpose in that regard that lena cannot and does not. they contribute to people who don’t participate in fandom’s awareness of lesbianism, they help the kids who don’t have twitter and tumblr see themselves on a popular family show, and they’re also subject to ridicule purely on the basis of their sexuality. these are all things, no matter how strong the headcanon, lena as a character will never provide or bring about.

which is why things like… calling a hypothetical character death of lena “bury your gays”, or supposing that lena is somehow better representation than maggie because of maggie’s lack of airtime (an issue that genuinely confuses me considering a straight guest star getting more narrative importance than a gay series regular is really not that groundbreaking and is actually a huge issue) gets really annoying, really fast.

that was a reallly long explanation but basically my thoughts are “cool i see why you have that headcanon but please don’t act as if that headcanon represents the same things that canon does”

send me a ☕️ and an opinion (popular or unpopular) and i’ll say whether i agree or disagree

why i think a certain anime is overhyped, and ultimately a disappointment

 i’m very hesitant to post my opinions, and I’m not sure if people will take this criticism well.

disclaimer: i’m kind of sick, so it might affect the writing in this.bear with me.

let me start off by saying i am queer. i’m a pansexual nb person and i value representation in the media i consume more than many things in this world. i want to feel validated by the things i watch.

when people told me to watch Yuri on Ice because it had “canon gays” or whatever the kids like to call it, I had great expectations. Another sports anime I can enjoy, probably, even though sport animes aren’t really my thing, and the only one I’ve watched was Free!…Aside from that, I had watched series like No. 6, Nabari No Ou and Samurai Flamenco that surpassed my expectations, and ended up being good series.

Yuri on Ice is…okay. But it’s not the ~* groundbreaking anime of the century*~ everyone is making it to be, and I’m fairly certain the only reason people say that it is because it features a same sex couple. It didn’t become the engaging anime I thought it would be. I’m pretty sure the series was also  written by a fujoshi, and it’s not actual LGBT rep when it’s literally another form of BL bein sold to the public and passable as representation. just because it’s not junjou romantica doesn’t mean it’s not baiting the female population to fetishize m/m relationships (and well, as it turns out, most of the fanbase is female)

Certainly, it did have it’s good points. Some side characters are downright lovable. Yuri and Victor are shown to be so blatantly into each other by the end of the series, it’s hard to prove that they’re not into each other. I’m grateful for that.

However…what I value in a series is good, consistent writing, and this series definitely fell short of that. No. 6, for example, was a Sci-Fi series that had a romantic subplot between 2 of the male leads as a focal point of it. It was successful in weaving the two narratives together because we got to see the plot progress through the lense of their relationship, if that makes any sense.

1.) weak plot and character development

this series’ goal was supposed to be about sports and a romance between two boys. both narratives fell through because the writers could not properly mesh together these two themes. a good story incorporates these things together solidly through a main theme in a way that the viewer can understand the progression of the plot and the characters in a consistent manner. literally what everyone is working towards is ice skating competitions. that’s the only thing driving the plot forward! yuuri and victor’s romance was something developed separate of ice skating, and while I saw the attempts at connecting their romance through ice skating, it fell through because their characterization was virtually nonexistent and it made it uninteresting to watch. 

2.) where was the individual characterization ?

Yuuri wasn’t confident, and he was fat and a mess at the beginning of the series - that much the show made clear to me. i didn’t really like the attack on body image but I took the message for what it was. I figured it’d be some sort of Zero to Hero thing (but I was wrong. By Episode 6 Yuuri had already hit his Hero phase)

So…by the end of episode 2, he wanted to get back into ice skating because of Victor. I barely got to know of Yuri as person before the series took off when Victor showed up. I didn’t know who Victor was at all. I didn’t have an attachment to either of the characters. And as soon as they met, they threw baity romantic tropes at me to establish a connection between them.

I didn’t feel anything but a little confusion, and as they kept going with the series, I felt literally nothing. I read a similar criticism from someone else on tumblr in that these two were just pretty cardboard cutout characters that looked good together, and literally EXISTED to look good together.

2.) the only thing interesting about Victor and Yuri’s characters was their relationship with each other

There was virtually no build that attracted me to these two as a pairing.

We never got a proper platform to develop Yuri and Victor as characters so that we could see their individual purpose and identities, and thus experience their character development as the series went on.

When your characters completely revolve around their relationships with each other and literally nothing else, it makes it uninteresting (unless you’re sold on their relationship, of course). 

Yuuri’s archetype is supposedly to be the hardworking protagonist, but it falls flat and disappears as the anime progresses, because once he teams up with Victor, this protagonist-coach duo literally becomes the only thing central to their side of the anime. Both he and Victor became unsympathetic characters in comparison to Yuri, who still had his flaws and still had his work cut out for him. We had seen him train a lot more than Yuuri in comparison, and around episode 6, Yuuri’s role as a foil character to Yuri also falls through.

Yuuri and Victor’s flaws are also only ever barely grazed over, but never entirely addressed. they are not as compelling of characters as Yuri, who had his flaws out there for everyone to see since the first episode.

this anime turned into a Cinderella story typical of the shoujo genre - Yuri being the plain person blossoming into a beautiful flower with the help of Victor, the handsome seductive prince, noticing him. It’s not very compelling to me and if I didn’t want to see it in a hetero romance, why would I want to see it depicted in a m/m romance?

3.) Did it make no one else uncomfortable that Victor fell in love with Yuri while he was drunk? Like…anyone? hello? Victor’s static, unchanging ambiguous character is confusing and flat as a board and doesn’t make me feel like any of this is romantic. So he ended up choosing to coach Yuuri out of impulse and dropped everything….for some drunk dude who hit on him? a groundbreaking romance, i guess.

4.) Yuri Plisetsky was the only thing motivating me to finish this series. No, I haven’t finished it yet but that’s because it’s kind of hard to watch without gettin bored? But unlike Yuuri and Victor, Yuri had time to exist separately as his own character with his own motivations. He also clearly had his own personal issues that allowed for potential character development - I wanted to see him learn, and I wanted to see him win something. As opposed to Yuuri and Victor, whose only motivations seemed to be each other.

5.) the fandom itself is a little unbearable. granted a lot of them are younger than me, and I cannot refuse them the right to consume and enjoy media when they probably haven’t had the same experiences i have had.

however! the fandom is literally eating everything without critically thinking and that shows a massive difference in how I personally consume media. the overwhelming amount of fujoshi culture i also see in response to this series is uncomfortable but i probably should have expected it. i’ve seen the fandom go so far as to endorse the purchasing of YOI merchandise so that we could tell Japan that we love the gays!!! when they don’t actually realize that’s not helping the LGBT community at all over there

Yuri on Ice, to me, was like a fan fiction with open ended threads and plot devices that were sort of made up as it went along. It had potential at the beginning, but fell through once the middle of the series hit. It also had plenty of fanservice with little substance…like a porn without plot, essentially, lmao. 

some of the characters are really cute. yuuri and victor are aesthetically pleasing and i’m grateful that there is an anime showing a healthier depiction of a m/m, despite it still pandering to the female crowd in doing so.

the last point i’ll make is that the canonization of a gay pairing when the gay pairing is one of the series’ selling points, btw, isn’t exactly revolutionary. without good, solid writing, the claim is a false one.

Is your OTP really your OTP?

Before you read on, this is NOT and attack and I’m NOT starting a war. You can of course, freely state your opinion like I stated mine if you wish.

I’ve been wanting to make this post for a while now and I finally got the chance.

Is your otp really your otp? that’s a weird question, right? 

Let’s look at the definition of ‘otp’ first: One True Pairing. Meaning your favorite combination of characters in a fandom.

Or something like that anyway. 

I realise that in my fandom (Naruto) most people have watched it from a very young age. Most of us including myself grew up shipping the standard ships a.k.a SasuSaku and NaruHina. 

And there’s nothing wrong with that really.

But I feel like for some of us, they were forced to, or should I say, scared of considering other pairs. And you know what, they have every right to because it’s known for a fact that there are many assholes and disrespectful people in this fandom (unfortunately). 

The canon ships are SasuSaku, NaruHina, SaiIno and ShikaTema

But I think you all need to be reminded that just because it’s canon, you don’t need to approve of it. or follow it. or like it (as you can follow it, ship it or like it. it’s your choice).

Allow yourself to criticise these ships (and any other ship for the matter), to see their weaknesses and imperfections.

This might sound silly because doesn’t everyone know this already? That you can ship whichever pairing?

No, actually, not everyone does. How do I know? I was one of them.

I grew up ‘shipping’ the canon ships because everyone ships those right?!! Because they’re the actual thing! Because fairy-tales and whatnot. (note the sarcasm)

I remember when I first stumbled upon KakaSaku and was like, holy shit I never considered this, this is amazing (same thing happened to me with NaruSasu and GenIno but lets stick to KS as an example). It took a few months to become a hardcore KS shipper. To be honest, I was scared, like don’t fall for this ship, they’re not canon, just stick with SasuSaku they’re cute.

I think it’s safe to assume there’s at least one person like me out there thus why this post exists.

And here’s the thing! That’s not how it should be, you don’t need to stick with canon.

Don’t ignore the imperfects of the canon ship, allow yourself to spot them and think about them.

I always said SasuSaku were perfect and turned a blind eye onto all their imperfects because they’re canon but that’s the farthest away possible from the truth. In reality, I think it’s a really fucked up ship.

If you think about it, at first, yes they were cute, because even though he’s a bit of an asshole, he cared for his team and for Sakura. But when he left it all went downhill. He tried to kill her multiple times, he rejected her feelings multiple times (and even tho he did it harshly, he does have the right to speak of his feelings, he doesn’t love her and he shouldn’t have to, she can’t force him.) He was absent from her life for years and particularly between the ages of 13 and 17, this a period where you change the most. This is when you grow a personality. There’s no way you could actually ignore everything he did and go back straight away to being best friends. Actually, if we use it as a real life example, you can’t have barely any interaction with someone and have them constantly hurt you and still be in love with them. I know this because I’ve been in a similar situation as Sakura where my childhood crush and first love was harsh and mean and dare I say abusive to me. I did love him for years after that but he left and I didn’t see him for long. I moved on. I started to think seriously about how shitty he is. This is how feelings work. I began to hate him for all the shit he did to me.

How will you ever feel safe living with someone who once tried to kill you? it makes zero sense to me.

Besides, it wasn’t like Sakura actually had any thoughts behind loving Sasuke, she was a child who one day decided to make Sasuke their crush. Mostly because he’s cool. There is nothing wrong with that really, but it leaves many plot holes and unexplained things.

I allowed myself to question these things. How is my ship ‘perfect’ when all they did is hurt each other? How is being a single mother to a little girl whose father is always absent and doesn’t recognise her perfect?

And before someone jumps and says he’s away to protect them, whatever his reason is, it doesn’t change the reality of the situation. He doesn’t recognise his daughter. He doesn’t visit them or keep in touch with them. If he truly loved them he’d find a way to communicate the way he found a way to keep Naruto updated. Or at least found out from Naruto if they’re doing okay. Showed in any way that he cared.

People who truly love each other would go lengths to show it, to be there, to care and if you don’t think so then I don’t think you’ve ever experienced true love.

That said, this is NOT a post to convince you that SasuSaku sucks, this is my experience with it. I’m using them as an example, NOT to attack their shippers.

You don’t have to agree with me and I don’t need to agree with you. We’re all entitled to our own opinion.

As someone who claimed to be a hardcore SasuSaku shipper, it was difficult and scary for me to acknowledge these things. My Tumblr started as an SS blog after all. 

And I made this post to let you know not to be so, that when you do acknowledge a ship’s flaws and imperfections next to their good aspects, you begin to realise truly if you like them or not. I repeat, this applies to every canon ship, SasuSaku is JUST an example.

I still ship SasuSaku, but the fan fiction SasuSaku, the one with plot and feelings. Canon SasuSaku makes me feel sick to my stomach. I think it makes Sasuke a bigger asshole and Sakura a pathetic person and I hate it. (I’m not saying you should too, this is just MY opinion. The canon ship makes me feel bad and leaves a bad taste.)

So maybe be brave and give yourself the chance to think about this. Even if you personally believe there’s no way you’ll ever stop shipping your ship, don’t be scared of allowing yourself to think and criticise and like new things. Do take the time to think about it; this will either help you discover you don’t in fact like this ship as much as you thought or confirm that they’re indeed your otp. So no harm done,  really.

Don’t be scared of the assholes of this fandom who’d try to bully you or make you feel bad. You’ll most probably have your ship’s fandom, they will be there for you.

Lastly, from my experience, KakaSaku pair aside, I can truly say that their fandom has the nicest, most genuine people I’ve ever met in my life and I swear joining this fandom has been the best decision I’ve ever made. Not only are they super sweet but also super talented and chill. They’re a creative bunch who make the best art and write the best fan fiction. I’m blessed there are so many talented people who create amazing content featuring my favorite ship.

whoa, that was long man, if you read the entire thing cheers to your patience. If you’re new in the KS fandom, message me we can fangirl together. If you’re a SasuSaku shipper and were by any chance offended by this, sorry, but this is my opinion. By all means, keep doing you and shipping this pair.

In Defense of Hinata

It’s a shame so many people, especially on tumblr, hate her. :(

I really do prefer Sakura but her rabid fans who think you need to like one or the other are annoying AF.

Can’t you just like both?!


Originally posted by n-wordbelike

Anyways here’s the reasons why she’s hated:

selfish, “ugly”, rabid fandom filled with Sakura bashers, stalker, shy, blushes, gets in the way of Naruto pairings that aren’t NaruHina, slut, useless, weak, apparently responsible for Neji’s death, marrying Naruto and having “ugly” kids, getting nearly killed by Pein


Selfish

She is NOT selfish! She cares very much about Naruto and her comrades/ teammates. Hell, even some episodes made her friends with Sakura, so I assume she’d care about her as well.

“Ugly”

How? I mean, beauty does come in the eye of the beholder, and I think she’s GORGEOUS!

Rabid fandom filled with Sakura bashers

And guess what? Sakura also has a rabid fandom filled with Hinata bashers! That’s the way of the Naruto fandom. -_-

Stalker

She just watches Naruto and all. It’s not like she goes to Naruto’s house and follows him LITERALLY everywhere. Hell, she has her OWN life problems, such as familial issues (and her dad being an asshole.)

Shy/ blushes

I think that makes her cute! In fact, shy characters are DEFINITELY adorbs!

Useless/ weak

Yes, she was weak at first, but at least she practiced and got stronger! She may have had her ass kicked by Neji, but that’s cause he’s just stronger. Kishi apparently is a sexist author who has almost NO idea how to write strong female characters, despite the fact that there are a LOT of strong female characters in Naruto. And also, had she not been defeated by Pein, Naruto would’ve died.

Responsible for Neji’s death

Guess what? Neji was responsible for his OWN death. He sacrificed himself to save Gai. I like BOTH Neji and Hinata, but apparently, I’ve always liked Hinata and hated Neji at first, until his character development came in. It’s just… I HATE how Neji fans blame Hinata for his death! Besides, I doubt she’d hurt anyone on purpose. She’s a sweet girl and she cares about others, even her sister, as shown in The Last.

Marrying Naruto and having “ugly” kids

GODAMMIT!! ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!


I ship NaruHina so hard (but I like SasuSaku more, don’t hate me) and just recently I stopped shipping NaruSaku because I realized it wasn’t healthy and the FUCKING FANDOM IS SO DISRESPECTFUL TOWARDS KISHI’S CHOICE TO MAKE NARUHINA CANON! Anyways, I think their family is BEAUTIFUL!

Getting nearly killed by Pein

And so did Kakashi, yet nobody hates him over it since he’s a male. I swear that the FANDOM is more sexist than the show!

Gets in the way of pairings

Why hate ANY character over ships?! It’s just ignoring their development and hating them for ZERO reason!

Slut

She is not a slut/ whore. She covers her breasts and her butt and wears non revealing clothing. Nothing showing her stomach like the other girls (not that any of them are sluts), other than Road to Ninja, or any super revealing clothing.

In conclusion, Hinata isn’t as bad as her haters say. And I’m sure if she were a boy, her haters would love her more. 

abby-6-stuff  asked:

If you're taking requests for posts, I was wondering if you could post your reactions and thoughts on Miraculous as you started watching the first season? It would be cool to see how you became more interested in the series as you went along.


Of course ^^  I don’t know how interesting this will be, but here goes!  It will be long and long-winded.  Bear with me.

I didn’t like Miraculous when I first saw it.  The only way to watch at the time was Kisscartoon and it was the English dub.  

  • It was confusing
  • the characters seemed to come out of nowhere with no introduction
  • I hated (HATED) Adrien’s English VA
  • there was no continuity
  • the love square frustrated the HELL out of me
  • Marinette and Alya bothered me

I stuck out the series because I fell in love with Chat Noir and Plagg.  I understand the impact of putting Origins last in the season, but I’m one of those weirdos that likes backstory before I get invested in things.  I can’t watch movies that jump all over the place in the timeline in an effort to tell a story and I don’t like shows without some sort of continuity.  I thought the show was boring.  

And then, my daughter saw it one day while I was re-watching an episode (I REALLY tried to figure out why the internet was obsessed with it).  She took one look at Chat Noir and it was all over.  Watching my then 2 year old riveted to the screen and so happy to watch this silly cat made me give it a second chance.

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I keep trying to let this go but I can't stop tweeting these as shoes my feelings. I hope they do have a season 4 and the premiere ratings are embarrassing. I also hope someone realizes what this show had in Tom and Nicole and actually give them some quality work to do together. All in all SH was a horrible show after the first season minus the leads. So I'm happy this frees them up to do better things, just sad I can't see them on my screen together, for now anyways.

Okay so this has been sitting in my inbox for awhile now and I’m sorry that I’m just now getting to this. No scratch that, I’m not sorry it took me awhile to answer this because I wasn’t in the best head space to tackle this ask. My mental health is more important to me and it took a long ass time before I could even open up my computer to type this response out. I’ve been using my mobile app to reblog tumblr posts. 

Now that I’ve had some time to reflect I figured now would be a good time to post my thoughts. I know many have done this and while I’ve aired some of my grievances on twitter, I haven’t sat down and articulated how I felt about things.  

So while part of me would love to see a s4 just so that it crashes and burns because lets face it, we all know it will. I’m not sure they should even pick it up for another season. It feels like it would just be rewarding them for bad behavior. Ultimately it doesn’t matter to me because once Abbie Mills died, the show died with her. 

When the SH first started I wasn’t too familar with the cast with the exception of Orlando Jones and John Cho. Tom Mison was unknown to me and but I did recognize Nicole Beharie. Her face was familiar. It took a minute to remember what movie I saw her in prior to the show. It was American Violet. Anyways I instantly fell in love with her. Here is this short spunky black woman in a lead role on a fantasy show. Wow. Talk about hitting the jackpot with her casting. She had such an amazing chemistry with Tom and I was hooked right away. Finally I had a show with a woman that looked like me in fantasy genre. This was why I was so drawn to SH. Aside from the mythology all the characters in s1 (most of s1) just meshed really well. I couldn’t wait to see the episodes. I learned how to use photoshop so I could create gifs and graphics because I couldn’t get enough of Abbie and Ichabod. I even joined twitter just to tweet about my favorite show. This series was why I joined a fandom. So this was all new territory for me.

When s2 started the novelty started to wear off. Yes I still watched every week live. Yes I still chatted about the show on twitter. Yes I still created gifs and reblogged like crazy on tumblr. Yes I still shipped Ichabbie. But I noticed that Abbie wasn’t been showcased as important as Ichabod was. I noticed her storyline wasn’t as prominent as it was before. She was more the helper and while I would argue with anyone that Abbie wasn’t a sidekick. The writing for a time told a different story. It was very irritating seeing Nicole not featured in promos like Tom. Hell Katia got a bit more attention on the promo department or it was on par with Nicole which was some bullshit. After the AMDB hastag was started my hope was that the writing for Abbie would indeed get better and was told by tptb that our voices were heard and adjustments would be made. Little did I know that I was being lead into a false sense of security regarding her character development because had I know what I know now I would have left the show at the end of s2. 

So here we are in s3 and that joke of a finale. Never did I think that this show would butcher 3 years of character development in 2 simple lines. 

“Abbie Mills has done what she’s suppose to do.”

“Our job was to carry you forward.”

Those 2 lines destroyed what made Abbie Mills THE OTHER WITNESS. She was picked long ago to be a witness. It was her destiny. Or at least it was back in s1 and s2. Apparently in s3 she was just the help. Those 2 lines turned her into nothing more than a prop. I was gutted. I was already upset that the writers killed her off. In the same fashion as her running into the tree back in the mid season finale. So in she really died twice in s3. Her death ended up being just a simple hand wave. She got no funeral. Her sister and father didn’t visit her grave. She wasn’t even told she was loved in her final moments of her life. Let alone in death. It was like the writers gave zero fucks about who Abbie Mills was and why she was so important to this show. 

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Tom Mison aka Ichabod Crane knew, HE KNEW what made this show work. It was Nicole. She was the glue that held this show together. And they killed her off. The writers didn’t give a shit. Her send off was so lackluster and disrespectful how could you treat your co-lead like this? 

Abbie Mills meant so much to me. I get so little representation anyways on tv. Even less in genre so he death is a huge loss. For me it was like I lost a family memeber. I truly mourned for her. Still mourn. I cried, i didn’t sleep. My rage kept me from eating for hours at a time. I felt like when she died a part of me died with her. I have a void in my heart that will never be filled. Not with how they treated her character. Abbie was the light that this show needed. She grounded it to reality. The perfect balance to Crane’s over the top behavior. That light is now gone from the show. No matter what s4 looks like it will never be as good as it was when Nicole was on it. 

The writers all need to be fired. Yes I said it all of them. Because they’ve proved how little they value black women. Because if anyone has one ounce of a fuck that finale wouldn’t have happened. Her send off would have been better. But no one cared. No one in that writing room cared. You write what you know. It’s clear they didn’t value what they had in Nicole Beharie. If they don’t value the characters they write for how do you think they see real life people. Becuase their personal views are reflective in how they write. So Nicole wanted to leave okay why did she have to be reduced to just a prop in her final episode. Her identity what made Abbie Mills who she was got ripped out of her hands. Why would they do that?

It felt so cold and calculated. Like a middle finger to anyone that was a fan of Nicole.  All the ship baiting was wrong too. They knew how the season was going to end and baited the fuck out of Ichabbie with zero fucks. This is how they viewed a segment of the fans of the show. They didn’t care. They weren’t thinking about how I may feel seeing this on the screen. Because for them I don’t exist. They didn’t respect Nicole. They didn’t respect Abbie. They didn’t respect me as a fan. 

So yeah I still have lots of thoughts about this. I foresee big things In Nicole’s future and I can’t wait until her next project. As far as the show goes it’s dead to me. I will probably finish my Ichabbie meme later on. Still reblog fan art and gifs. Still read fan fic. Pretend I never saw that finale because it was a fucking joke. I won’t lie and say I won’t miss the show because I will immensely. What I will miss the most is seeing Nicole’s beautiful smile. So as others have said we’ll always have season 1.

A Message To Anti-Shippers and Non-Shippers who hate Shippers

I would put this in the anti tags, but lets be honest, anti-shippers troll the ship tags because they’re assholes.

I have a message to the Anti-Shippers out there. These are people who hate shipping in general, not those that hate one ship because they like another.

I’ve been told over and over again that writers these days cater to the shippers at the expense of the story. That’s utter nonsense. I can’t remember the last time a big ship lasted more than a half season, and they generally last 3-6 episodes before crashing and burning.

So here’s some facts:

1) Almost all fanvids are about ships.

2) A significantly large number of tweets, forum, and tumblr posts about TV shows are about ships.

3) A large portion of spoilers are about ships.

4) Most fanfiction are about ships, and a disturbingly high number of them are the length of actual novels.

5) No other fandoms in existence are as passionate, and yes even hostile as shippers. You think the war between Star Wars and Star Trek is huge? Pick any opposing ships, spend a day on tumblr, and you’ll be thankful that neither side is anywhere near each other. Shippers be crazy.

6) Shippers are LOUD and won’t hesitate to make their opinions known. They bring a lot of attention not only to their ships, but from people who haven’t seen the show itself yet and might be interested.

7) Fan Art about TV shows is extremely onesided towards ships. This includes things like edited photos, GIFS, or actual drawn art.

8) Ask a shipper why they love their ship, they’ll write you an essay every time.

9) Story twists don’t even begin to get the same reaction that shipping twists do. In the most recent episode of The Vampire Diaries, a well liked character died. Do you know what most of the discussions have been about? What will happen with the Stefan and Caroline ship next. (He’ll come back)

10) Recently, a very popular ship finally set sail. You know what was talked about the most? Not the story twists. Not all of the non-shipping stuff that happened. That’s right, it was the ship. I posted FIVE pictures, and that one post got over 600 notes in about three minutes. Good luck getting that kind of reaction from just the plot.

So how about we make a deal? You anti-shippers start contributing even half as much to the community as shippers do on a daily basis. Start making fanvids that have nothing to do with ships, start doing fan art that doesn’t have some kind of couple in it, write novel length stories that have ZERO romance whatsoever or intimacy whatsoever, beat out the other trends that have to do with shipping on twitter.

Promote the show anywhere near the amount that shippers do with their boundless enthusiasm, and I might actually consider your opinions worth listening to. After Tiva was ruined, comment sections for TV shows, and especially forum posts across the internet saw a significant drop in activity.

Did the show see a significant drop in numbers? Nope. But things did become a lot less livelier. You anti-shippers may be annoyed by shippers becoming such a huge influence these days, but it’s not nearly as much as you believe it is, and what we can influence is because we’re enthusiastic about our ships. In this case, all noise is good noise, it draws viewers in.

I’ve never seen a single anti-shipper begin to approach the level of enthusiasm you find in even the calmest shipper. Because shippers are passionate about the characters, and they don’t hesitate to show it in the loudest, and often the most annoying way possible. Shows listen to them because every writer likes to see people being passionate about their work.

While these days, most people who just watch for the plot throw their arms up and threaten to quit watching every time a plot twist happens. Shippers do that too, but they’re not going anywhere because they are passionate about their ships. It’s an empty threat most of the time. Some do stop watching, but not nearly as many as they claim.

Shippers do a lot to bring attention to shows. If non and anti-shippers had nearly as much ability to do so, I bet Nikita (whcih was light on the shipping and heavy on the story) would have done a lot better. To this day, I still encounter people who thought Nikita was a kid’s show.

I just think that shippers get a lot of crap. Anti-Shippers act like they’re no big deal, while at the same time thinking they have enough influence to make writers make drastic changes to entire plotlines.

Last year, almost every single major ship crashed and burned within a half season. So I don’t know where the anti-shippers are getting their delusions, but shippers obviously don’t change that much.

If you have a problem with shippers that’s perfectly fine. I have a problem with anti-shippers who keep treating me like an idiot who is ruining their shows. Unfortunately, they like to troll shipping tags and act like assholes.

So this message is for you guys.

hawkmothing  asked:

I don't know if this is true or not, but did you hear how Calpain (of EQD) might be canceling that SU site because of tumblr? We lost a great opportunity to introduce new people to the show, but tumblr had to open their big dumb mouths and scream, and scream, and scream. Hope you're happy, SJWs.

Honestly, I hope he does.

They were willing to create a site to keep fans up-to-date on news (new episodes, convention appearances, comic books, merchandise, etc.), give them a forum on which to interact with each other, and a place to showcase the best in fan art and fan fiction.  They did this because so many EQD users were already SU fans.  This site would have been tailored specifically to the Steven Universe fandom.

They were never obligated to do this.  It was something they offered to do.

Once again, I feel terrible for the SU fans that had nothing to do with this.  They just enjoy the show, and share their opinions of it with each other unobtrusively.

Unfortunately, there are the fans that:

  • From the very beginning of its existence, started flooding the Uncle Grandpa tag with hatred, complaining that “Steven Universe is better.  Just get rid of this, and show more SU”.  That shit is unacceptable.  How would they feel if the SU tag were 90% whining, overgrown toddlers that feel compelled to tag their hatred just to spite people that enjoy something that they don’t?  This got even worse after Cartoon Network announced a SU/UG crossover.  Literally hundreds of messages screeching like banshees about a crossover THAT WAS REBECCA SUGAR’S IDEA IN THE FIRST PLACE.  If you want to complain about the Steven Universe/Uncle Grandpa crossover, then you’d better take it right to the woman who created your show, because she’s the one responsible for coming up with the idea.

    When fans of a completely different show have to scroll for upwards of ten minutes in their own fandom’s tag (past hundreds of text posts from people who don’t even watch the show that feel compelled to put it down like a bunch of self-important douchebags) just to find something nice to share about a show they like, that’s Grade-A fucking bullshit.
  • Are constantly playing race/gender/body police not only about the show, but also regarding art and cosplay.  The characters are bodiless, shapeshifting aliens:  Technically they don’t have a gender, and their only real body is the gem.  I have seen cosplayers be verbally torn to shreds for cosplaying their favorite character, just because people decided that a fucking PURPLE ALIEN was somehow definitively a black woman (except, you know…SHE’S A FUCKING SPACE ROCK).  A person should be able to cosplay whatever character they want to.  Race shouldn’t be an issue (you know…exactly what we SHOULD be striving for—the same rights for all human beings, including race NOT being a point of contention under which anyone can try to limit the rights of others.  Great job perpetuating exactly what you claim to be fighting against!).  I’ve seen people tear apart pieces of fan art because the person chose to draw the characters differently (and again, they’re SHAPESHIFTERS, and FAN art is all about how the FAN wishes to portray it).  There are humanized ponies, humanized triangles with hats, humanized pads of paper…and then there are furry versions of characters, pony versions of characters, etc..  Getting uppity about body size seems pretty absurd at this point.  People have different artistic styles, the same way they have different headcanons.    There have been people trying to force their own headcanons so hard that they have a glorified shit fit when the show’s canon doesn’t live up to it, and start crying about “lack of representation”, and “transphobia”.  Everyone is entitled to see things differently.  THAT’S WHY THE FUCK THEY’RE HEADCANONS, AND NOT CANONThere are proper places to express social and political issues.  A goddamn CARTOON is NOT one of them, especially when the characters AREN’T EVEN HUMAN. 

    CARTOON CHARACTERS DO NOT LIVE IN OUR WORLD, AND WE DO NOT LIVE IN THEIR WORLD.  OUR RULES DO NOT APPLY THERE, SO PLEASE LEARN TO DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN FANTASY AND REALITY.
  • Complete disrespect for the people making the show.  Running a fucking writer off of tumblr over whether an alien likes food or not (and mind you, he wasn’t even the head writer on either episode)?  What the fuck is WRONG with you people??  They’re making this cartoon for you to enjoy it, but it’s still THEIR cartoon.  It’s not YOUR place to decide what happens in it.  Nobody working on the show owes you a fucking thing, so stop acting like goddamn entitled little sacks of shit.
  • Have now taken to whining about people creating a news site for their fandom, simply because they never moved on past 2011.  Seriously, how empty is your life that you’re still crying this hard over the existence of people you didn’t expect to enjoy a cartoon about pastel ponies?  Even better:  Who the fuck cares SO MUCH about what people they’ll never even meet watch in the comfort of their own home that they have to resort to making up lies about them?  Fake stories of alleged near-abduction/assaults of children (what kind of a twisted psychopath makes up stories about child abuse??  What kind of petty high school shit is that?  Not to mention that it’s fucking gross…),  lying about harassment of the voice actresses that the voice actresses themselves are later forced to publicly deny over Twitter (I’m sure they really appreciate people even THINKING of bullshit like that about them, let alone spreading it as the gospel truth), and badgering another voice actress ON THANKSGIVING DAY over a picture she posted, to the point where she publicly asked people to stop talking about it, which they didn’t. 

    As a woman who actually interacts with the fandom, I can tell you right now that most of what you hear about bronies is a complete load of shit, and the fact that there are people still holding this much of a grudge about something that has zero impact on their lives is some of the most childish bullshit I have ever fucking witnessed.  To top it off, the MLP fandom has actually accomplished a lot of good for others (tens of thousands of dollars to numerous charities, including childrens’ hospitals and breast cancer awareness), while I have seen SJWs on this site accomplish literally NOTHING good for anyone else, while simultaneously acting goddamn horrifying under the guise of “activism”.  Doxxing, death threats…mailing a fucking knife to someone’s house??  People claiming to be advocates for “social justice” have amassed a pretty damning rap sheet that begs to differ.

They’re so pathetically afraid of the show being “ruined”, despite the fact that the only one “ruining” it for anyone is them.  Rebecca Sugar wrote a show with a diverse group of characters, with a little boy as the main protagonist.  It’s not a “girls’ show”.  It’s an everyone show, and from the videos I’ve seen from kids that they use as bumpers on the network all the time, little boys seem to enjoy Steven Universe just as much as girls do.

Some of you need to get the fuck over the fact that cartoons are for everyone.

They are not “yours” when they are broadcast to the public.

More viewers are not going to “ruin” a show.  Higher ratings = more show, and more merchandise.  If you’re intentionally hanging around where you see opinions about a show that you don’t like, then that’s your fuckin’ problem.

You can stop pretending anytime now that women don’t draw adult content for “kids’ shows” or “boy franchises”.  Do I even have to remind you people of Transformers, Tintin, Harry Potter, Team Fortress 2, The Avengers, etc.?  Tumblr has more dicks than a goddamn dildo convention, so you can drop it with the double standards.  Shit, there are people shipping the kid from Big Hero 6 with his own brother, yet no one bats an eyelash.  I have never seen a single fandom without adult content in it, and this practice has been going on since the 1920′s (Google “Tijuana bibles”).  Calm your tits.

The internet now has places to house adult content.  Those places have filters enabled that keep their content from showing up in a Google Safe Search, and little girls probably shouldn’t be on the internet unattended in the first place, especially when these days, you can watch at least four of the Faces of Death documentaries right on Youtube.

Grow up, and learn to share your fuckin’ toys.  Seriously.  This is just getting absolutely ridiculous and pathetic.  You’re all acting exactly like the kind of gender policing bullshit that so many of you claim to be againstYou’re no better than a bunch of little boys telling a girl that she can’t play kickball with them.  Guys enjoying less masculine things should be seen as progressive and encouraged, not a reason for you to become the bully you always wanted to be.  Segregation is NEVER an acceptable solution when you’re talking about human beings.  I shouldn’t even have to say this shit.  Anyone over 13 should bloody well know better, and the fact that so many DON’T is incredibly disappointing, not to mention disturbing.

Setting the world straight...

There are a few things in this world we are accountable for - our behaviour is one of them.
While we can stroke the fires of anger, there are times, moments like this when we need to sit down, gather our thoughts, process and reflect.

Many people, good people have been hurt over the past 36 hrs, it’s not always easy to decipher how a person will react over a course of a few written unemotional words.
The pen is mightier than the sword, my tag line for my tumblr account, but words to live by. In this case, the keyboard is mightier than the sword and can cut down just as quick. This was never about Outlander or Sam and Cait or even you…it was about an old misguided in his years man, who feels given his age and the right in his industry to go after a few women, who happen to be loyal and passionate fans of a tv show that Sam Heughan (the new shiny toy in William Shatner’s box) stars in alongside his friend (at the end of the day she’s a dear, close one despite anything else we may or may not know) Caitriona, whom WS seems to have developed a pretty mixed signalled point of view on, heavily disguised as belittling begrudged feelings towards her character - Claire.

This was never about any of this, but about setting records straight. Defending his friends from brazen women (brazen, because you chose to stand up and voice your opinion on his tweeted words) and in doing so, launched IMO a personal tirade of words that cut quicker than a knife (my tag about a sword)

Attacking Sam, my dear wonderful beautiful people, we can send an army after one person in anger and bitterness, but at the end of the day he did not tweet those words, he was at an engagement with Caitriona and even then, what was he supposed to do? He has about as much control over Mr. Shatner as his publicist has and that is zero (I was tempted to refer to his many failed marriages, but I’m trying to be nice)

Now…we can choose to believe that Sam put this fandom into this mess, but he didn’t. He engaged in a few social niceties with him, was cordially invited to his home whilst he was in LA but other than that, it is our doing by watching from the sidelines and feeling hurt and judgmental when a conversation strikes up we do not have to be privy to - Sam didn’t invite you into those conversations all you had to do if the old timer was being his usual saccharine self and that was to scroll on.

The key to all of this is of course the below the line hurt a man caused to those who felt the need to defend both honour and integrity of the show and I applaud you for the passion you showed a fledgling show just spreading it’s wings. I know your passion will have been duly noted amongst those involved in the production and just how hurt you are through an unnecessary drama that was caused.

To blame Sam for not jumping to your defense. To blame Caitriona for not seeing to it Sam’s involvement with WS - what is it going to achieve? I have read countless posts and tweets about how you feel, how it has saddened, angered, turn those away from Outlander and I truly hope that in time you can turn back and take a peek into a wonderful family of friends you have here.

We are all human, we all have faults and that’s what makes us all unique. Sam and Caitriona are no different, but you cannot hold them accountable for the anger you feel right now…it’s misdirected they too are human and have faults.
We only see a fragment of their lives; stolen moments caught and held timeless in video or photo form. Despite someone’s long winded BS of knowing things when she knows absolutely nothing that is all we get to see. To know the real person would be such a great honour, to create an image of that person you believe they are only leads to disappointment. I have read Sam’s response to what happened and despite people dissecting and over analyzing…his response made perfect sense;

* he was not getting involved - it blew up out of proportion, he does not know all the facts hence his mention of not being around at the time.
* old enough to know better - an argument taken to a heightened level of anger and resentment; names called on both sides, accusations cast across, as adults both young and in WS case old enough to know better.
*love you all - his way of signing it with peace, resolving an issue, to take a step back. Love is a great disarmament, it makes people take a step back, lower their guard. When anger reaches a level, were words can cut, bleed and hurt…a simple ‘I love you’ can strip you of your ‘sword’ lower your defenses and that sign off was his way of saying it.

You can’t expect either to jump in and defend every single hurt, crossed word or quick anger - you are the ones asking the impossible of them and expecting miracles.
Give it time, heal the wounds, look forwards never back. Shipping is never easy and it’s full of twisted emotion and logic. WS needed the attention and boy did he get it. You can’t make Sam Heughan choose anymore than you can pick a favourite colour or child, so why expect it of him?

We put celebrities up on pedestals and then become disappointed when they don’t perform the way we want them to and that is very wrong. It leads to fanatical expectations and behaviour and if anything has proven this today, it would be the gunning down of a young singer (the same age as my eldest child) by a fanatic person obsessed to the point of willing to take her life.

Moments we have to cherish, cherish them by support, don’t loose that.

xxxxxx

anonymous asked:

Do you think it's important for creators to interact with fans (as you do on Tumblr as a representative of The 100) when there isn't any genuine back & forth between the groups? As in, since writers don't actually bother themselves with the opinions of fans. Do you think creators interacting with fandom gives fans a false sense of importance and influence to the show? If you answer, thanks!

There are two different issues here – one of fan interaction and one of fan response/reception.

I think it is slightly unfair to say that writers ‘don’t actually bother themselves with the opinions of fans.’ Writers do care what their audience thinks about their work, even if it’s negative. I was reminded by cadlymack’s rebuttal of one of my posts recently that I was unfair in saying that myself. The problem was, I was shorthanding. I was trying to say that fan opinions don’t specifically direct the show’s trajectory, but that doesn’t mean the writers ignore the fandom entirely. By all means, if a large majority of the fandom is unhappy with the show, certainly there would be an effort made to understand why and try to course correct. I think this is a rare occurrence, because there are just too many stewards who would keep that from happening. You’re always going to have pockets of fans who are unhappy or dissatisfied with part of the show, but if fans are completely unhappy, they’ll likely just stop watching.

Vince Gilligan, creator of “Breaking Bad” and co-creator of “Better Caul Saul” has often said he doesn’t read any reviews or fan feedback online. That’s certainly his choice as a creator. I don’t think the fans of “Breaking Bad” felt slighted that they weren’t listened to, but then, the fans of “Breaking Bad” didn’t feel they had any influence because they had zero interaction with Gilligan. There was no connection, therefore no sense of impact.

So, to your last question, I do think it can give fans a false sense of influence to interact with creators. A lot of creators want to talk about their show with their audience, but I think many are reticent for this very reason. They don’t want demands placed upon them and the show and the expectation from fans that because the creator is listening to them (i.e. hearing their feedback) that there will be some action taken. That’s a very scary proposition. It’s like having the mob at your door. I’ve described fandom as “the adoring crowd holding torches and pitchforks as they throw out confetti.” The fans are adoring, to a point. If you upset them though, many will rebel and they will be loud about it.

I want creators interacting with fans, because I think it allows fans to understand the creative process and therefore have a new appreciation for the art they are watching. It provides an outlet for both fan and creator to express themselves about the art, and perhaps gain some insight that each previously lacked, gained simply through the interaction. Maybe that’s too lofty a goal, but it’s the one I hope more creators will aspire to.

Wizard World 2016 and other ramblings

I have no illusions that many people will read this since I’m quite new to tumblr but I want to write about my experiences this weekend so I don’t forget! That way next time I see D or G, I can have way more chill than I had this weekend! (Or not) 

I have had such a long love affair with The X-Files. Back in 1995 when I was 14 my brother had me watch an episode and I was instantly hooked. Mainly because of this

Originally posted by xfiles-addict


but also this

Originally posted by scullytomymulderxfiles

My teenage hormonal self could not get enough. I didn’t care about the mythology or the aliens. No, I wanted these two to get together! The longing, the gazing, the unresolved sexual tension! Agh! Lucky for me my parents made this investment for our household

And there it was…my first entrance into the world of XF fandom. Fanfic, chat rooms, message boards, the David Duchovny Estrogen Brigade. The internet could satisfy my thirst. Until someone called the house and knocked me offline.

I also secured a job at a local movie theater so I could have spending money and make a personal investment in VHS tapes. (These are the ones that remain…not sure why I chose to keep these….Ghost in the Machine anyone?)

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anonymous asked:

What made you start shipping Kylux?

First, it was a mistake. I used to lurk the Kylo Ren tag on tumblr, but then I noticed there was this suspicious thing called ‘kylux’, so way back then I’d only watched the movie once and I thought ‘lol that’s like coming from thin air’. This ship fandom was like basically a tiny dumpster.

Now when I watched the movie for the second time, I said ‘awright’ this seems nice so why not? So it was time to connect the dots and give myself a good reason to ship them. I’m not that much of a delusional shipper when it comes to my ships, so I needed a solid argument to do so.

When I watched it for the third and fourth time, I started not to see it from the ‘good guys’ point of view. Although I do still believe Kylo is a fucking monster and Hux is a maniac sadistic lil b*tch, they’re complete exact opposites who want something in life. Honestly, I find it disrespectful to refer to Kylo as ‘Ben Solo’, because he doesn’t see himself as such from what we could see. We don’t know Ben Solo at all, but! I do think Ben is strongly ruled by emotions, Kylo his alter ego is too, but the Ben in him could possibly want people to actually notice him for the human being he still is? Like keeping himself alive with what’s left or adapting from it to become stronger as Kylo Ren. 

So why do I feel like they would constantly go back and forth with each other? 

1) It’s the power struggle. Hux is the general of the First fucking Order. The head of such a powerful movement. Kylo has zero respect for him and it’s clear there’s at least tension or fear coming from Hux whenever he confronts the other. Kylo on the other hand, is the master of the knights of Ren, a mass murderer and possible right hand of the Supreme Leader, and even then Hux loves fucking around with him. Smiling proudly whenever he wins the battle. They mock each other, they have zero respect for one another, yet they have not hurt each other badly (but they’re not idiots lbr). Despite this, Kylo could easily kill Hux because he’s just a “soldier”, you feel? He’s a force sensitive user, follower of the Dark Side philosophy and one of a kind. Who is Hux? Could be replaced by anyone. And even then, he doesn’t put a finger on him at all. It’s all bark no bite between them. 

2) I feel like they could find in each other what they lack. Hux is powerful, disciplined, determined and with his eyes set on the big prize, even so he lacks emotions and could easily be assumed he doesn’t think of something other than power + ending with the Republic. Kylo Ren is powerful, but lacks discipline, determination when it comes to fully leaning towards the dark side and hesitates every step that might lead him there. Even so, he is a bundle of emotions, hence why he is so powerful. So why not fill in their holes, even if they have to pretend they not like it?

It’s a fucked up concept, as a lot of what I think would be involved is pain (resting in terms such as BDSM + sadism + masochism), but in reality I do think they could fall really hard for each other as they would not have to lose themselves, given that the other one serves as his other half. Hux can allow himself to feel defeated due to his greatest achievement being destroyed in matter of hours, to cry and feel furious over it. Kylo can find the strength to follow the path to the dark side while being inspired by the goals achieved by an average dude, to get over the death and murder of his father with the coldness of the general and also by the motivation it might become to still be by his side.

That’s the key word to this ship (at least to me): motivation. They stimulate each other, not only sexually speaking, but they act a fool around each other and let themselves be bare right in front of the “enemy” to feel more than they allow them to do.

Also, this is why I don’t really like the idea of them going to the light, because being real some people were indeed born to be bad. It might sound stupid coming from me, and by no means I am justifying those who act against our morals and people’s well being, but why is it so hard to admit someone can be evil from beginning to end? Some people are “happy” that way (as insane as it may sound), and they absolutely deserve to be punished, but why do we have to impose our definition of normal on them? You can see Hux passion, devotion and really fucking intense determination to annihilate the Republic (and he did it!), there is not a second of doubt. Hux is a bad person, if not the fucking worst. It’s not wrong to say it out loud, you know? Kylo Ren has murdered masses, he annihilated the entire new generation of jedis, and while he doubted on murdering his father, he fucking did it. I know what it is to be brainwashed and pushed to do things, but if there was not a part of him convinced this was what he wanted, he would have never even considered the idea. The worst is the way he did it, because it seemed like he mocked his father (and himself/Ben Solo) until the moment he was reminded there was company watching.

What we read in the script sure gave us a better vision of who Kylo Ren and Hux are, but the interaction on screen and actual development given by the actors show me that this could work. Kylo struggled in the script, so did in the movie, but even so anger was his main motivation to keep on going. Kylo Ren doesn’t know how to use it on his own benefit, while Hux does and might become another master to him.

GOD SOMEONE SHUT MY FINGERS.

TL;DR version: Because they’d be perfect for each other, in a way where they can find what they lack and want in the other.