why do i see these things on my dash

anonymous asked:

Hi^-^ I'm so confused by the asexual discourse.What is their problem?I identify as demisexual heteroromantic.All over my dash I see people's argumentation that heteroromatic people are technically straigth and condemning cishets for existing?Why do people reject these identities so violently?I always felt out of place near the lgbt community for what I identify as never wanting to do anything but support their causes. The things said make me feel awful for what I am. How do I deal with this?

The problem, I think, is a lack of understanding and insecurity in their own identities. Generally, when people don’t understand something, they treat whatever it is with hostility and anger. Instead of seeking to look through other view points, or even simply accepting that they can never truly understand what it is like to be ace if they are not ace, they lash out. I think it also comes from a place of insecurity in their own identities. When the world is constantly telling you that you are wrong, people tend to find another group of people to blame. It’s just the same as your stereotypical bullies in school: they are insecure about something or have a lack of control over the world around them and instead of working through their problems in a healthy way, they attempt to control and belittle a certain group/type of people (or even just a particular person) to feel more secure in themselves and establish control where they otherwise have none. 

While I understand that exclusionists are largely just bullies who don’t understand and don’t care to in favor of attempting to feel better about themselves, it doesn’t excuse their actions. There are other, far more healthy and less destructive ways, to address the problems one may be having. Truth be told, I also feel out of sync with the lgbt+ community. I know logically most people are not like this website, but it still hurts. 

One way to deal with this is investing in something like a tag blocker. I think (?) it’s free to download or something and it can help filter tags that you don’t want to see. You can blacklist words like ace discourse, aphobe, exclusionist, etc. I would also suggest blocking blogs that try to interact with you or your posts. I know I personally blocked a ton of people who tried to comment nasty things on my positivity posts. It prevents their comments from being viewed by me, it prevents them from interacting with any of my other posts, and it prevents me from seeing them in any way, shape, or form on my dash. Another suggestion is not to go into the tags. People have a nasty habit of making posts that degrade aspec people and tagging them to make sure they appear in the tags (yes, even the positivity tags). So find a few blogs that you trust to not post things related to discourse and follow them. Some people are okay going into the tags despite all the negativity, some aren’t. 

Another thing to be aware of is a phenomenon called gaslighting. There’s lots of information about it on the interwebs. Basically, what it boils down to, is that abusers and oppersors attempt to make the person they are gaslighting question their own reality. Unfortunately, this happens a lot to ace people (and I think, to a larger extent, demi people). People say things that try to make you question the validity of your own orientation. Things like “you’re basically straight” or the infamous “cishet aces blah blah blah.” Both of these attempt to make aspec people feel as though they don’t belong or are no different than straight people, when there are actually many differences. I think being aware of gaslighting can help people recognize when it’s happening and make it less effectual. If you feel comfortable with it, I highly suggest looking up ways to combat the effects of gaslighting so if the odd post floats across your dash, you have a healthy way of filtering it’s effects. 

TL;DR: aphobes are nothing more than bullies who are insecure in themselves and try to establish control over others because they don’t have any themselves. Get a tag blocker and blacklist terms related to discourse to help filter posts. Also block blogs that try to start things with you or your posts. Be aware of the effects of gaslighting ace people and do your best to remind yourself that you are real and your identity is real.

I hope this helps! Good luck, and be excellent!

Let’s talk about how the new tumblr update makes it so that I can’t see perfectly safe content, due to it being supposedly “sensitive”. Including posts related to LGBTQ+ and POC topics. Not only that, but posts from blogs I know for a fact do not post NSFW content. I can’t see half the things on my dash, and I can’t disable it because I’m a minor.

Yet, porn blogs can still view, search, follow, and interact with me. I still show up to them. So how am I being protected?

Stop saying grotesque things like “id let (insert idol name) do anything to me”. And I’m not taking about things like “I’d let (idol) take care and cherish me”. No. I’m talking “I’d let (idol) rape and take full advantage of me”. I don’t even need to explain why this is completely awful. I see too much of that language on my dash. Just stop doing it.


Okay, so I’ve been seeing a couple of artists on my dash talking about stolen art. And, to be honest, this is not the first time. Even my friends’ work have been stolen (YEAH, I SAID IT. STOLEN. More on this later.). Heck, even MY work has been stolen. What’s worse is that A LOT OF THESE PEOPLE DON’T LINK BACK. WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Now I try my best not to post negative stuff because people would prefer positive things on their dashboard but MY FEELINGS FOR THIS ISSUE ARE JUST TOO STRONG. I doubt I am the first one to speak of this. In fact, I’m pretty sure a lot of other people out there have explained it far better than I have or could. But I’m writing this nonetheless because I feel that speaking up about it is very important right now.

So. Here’s a quick FaQ/Q&A  about reposting art. I’ve done it in this fashion, in the most BASIC form I could with the most BASIC responses I’ve found out there. PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ AND SHARE. I hope to be able to enlighten a few souls out there.

What is reposting?

REPOSTING does NOT mean “reblogging”. Simply put, reposting is when someone saves an artwork by whatever means AND THEN reuploads it somewhere else

Some artists allow reposts and some don’t. Some allow reposts with certain restrictions. It varies. This is why it’s important to ASK. 

When is it okay to repost art? 

Only when the artist says it’s okay. If they do not say it’s okay, DO NOT REPOST. I believe this is the most basic thing you should remember about reposting. 

You have to ask permission from them yourself and pay attention to what they’re going to say. For example, if they ask you to tell them where you’re going to post and for you to send them the link, PLEASE GET BACK TO THEM WITH THIS INFORMATION. More than once had asked me for permission to repost (sometimes, even translate) some of my works (art and fics) and I said yes as long as they link back, credit and send me the link to where they post it. THEY ALL WENT “OKAY, WILL DO! THANKS!”. HOWEVER, NOT ONE OF THEM HAVE GOTTEN BACK TO ME. RUDE. This is why when someone asks me to translate Snare, I don’t plan on saying yes anymore.

But what if they say no?

That is their right as creator of the artwork. Please respect that. They are not obligated to say “yes” just because you asked.

But I asked nicely.

Please read what I said previously.

But some other people are reposting this artist’s work alraedy. Why can I not?

Again, unless you ask them yourself and they agreed, you MUST NOT repost their art.

I’ve asked but they haven’t responded yet. Can I post?

No. Silence does not mean yes.

I don’t know their language. They can’t seem to speak English. I can’t contact them even if I want to.

That still falls under “you haven’t been able to ask permission so NO, YOU MUST NOT REPOST”.

I don’t know where this artwork came from.


Artists should be happy that their work is being shared and appreciated

No, their work is not being SHARED AND APPRECIATED, it’s being STOLEN. Why would they be happy about that?

Why is it considered stealing? 

This is basic. WHEN YOU TAKE SOMETHING WITHOUT PERMISSION, THAT IS STEALING. Don’t give me the reason that “even if I take it, they still have a copy so it’s not stealing lolololol”. You’re stealing not only the art, but also the god damn CREDIT. Artists need to work hard to be noticed and market themselves. Every time you post an artwork without linking back, you are stealing an artist’s chance to be noticed or even just appreciated.

Art should not be about attention or money. They should do it for the passion.

That is none of your damn business. Passion is good but in case you haven’t noticed, artists are also people who—gasp!—need to eat and have bills to pay. Either way, this does not mean you can repost their work without permission. Stop making it look like the artist is the one in the wrong here. You’re not doing the world a favor. Shut the hell up.

Why do they want credit? To be famous? Are they using my page to be famous?

You are using their art for attention. Please stop pretending that you are doing this coz “I LUV TEH FANDOM” or “I WANNA HELP PROMOTE TEH ARTIST” or *Insert attempt to look like a public servant*. If you’re really doing this out of something that isn’t self-serving, then crediting shouldn’t be so damn DIFFICULT or, god forbid, OFFENSIVE to you. 

Artists should not post their work the internet if they don’t want it stolen. Once it’s online, it’s free for all.

Please take a deep breath, go to settings, and set “CIVILIZED HUMAN BEING” to “ACTIVE”. Just because something is THERE doesn’t mean it’s okay to DO WHAT YOU WILL. That’s like saying people shouldn’t have belongings if they don’t want to be robbed. So save the image to your hard drive if you will but for you to repost it somewhere else is entirely different.

Ah. That was a long thing. I’m not even sorry. I’m just really very upset about this. If anyone has anything to add, please do so in the reblogs. 


                 taken from ian somerhalder’s portrayal of him on the show, not the book.

  • “Hello, brother.”
  • “Stop being cute.”
  • “Nostalgia is a bitch.”
  • “I’m stronger than you think.”
  • “I’m gonna go rip his head off now.”
  • “Our life is one, big proverbial coin toss.”
  • “I could rip your heart out and not think twice about it.”
  • “Sorry to spoil your seven minutes in heaven. We have a problem.”
  • “For someone who doesn’t wanna be like me, you sure are good at it.”
  • “Take it from the guy who supposedly got it all and is sitting with bubkis. Stop moping about who are not and start being the guy you are.”
  • “Very Emerson, the way you reveal your soul. So many… adjectives.”
  • “Is that where you’ve been all morning, out buying bossypants?”
  • “I’m not some drunk sorority chick. You can’t roofy me.”
  • “Does it get tiring, being so righteous?”
  • “You just don’t wanna die, do you?”
  • “Why are you so mean to me?”
  • “Don’t tell me what I can’t do.”
  • “Hashtag, you’re welcome.”
  • “The only one I can count on is… me.”
  • “Today has been a no-good, very-bad day.”
  • “This would be so much more fun if we were naked.”
  • “I guess I’ll have to cuddle up next to the fire with all my rage.”
  • “You brood too much… My actions, they belong to me. I own them.”
  • “I do believe in killing the messenger. Know why? It sends a message.”
  • “Can we not do the whole road trip bonding thing? The cliche of it all makes me itch.”
  • “I look at you and I see myself. A less dashing, less intelligent version.”
  • “Your search for life’s purpose is as obvious as it is tragic.”
  • “I’m trusting you. Don’t make me regret it.”
  • “Alright, brother. Time to go.”
  • “I’d be extra nice to me right now.”
  • “You are officially the most terrifying person I know.”
  • “Didn’t you find it weird that you made a friend so fast? Have you met you?”
  • “I gotta admit, even for me, it’s a little kinky.”
  • “You have no sense of humor.”
  • “So all’s forgiven?”
  • “I don’t do good. It’s not in me.”
  • “Stop being ashamed of who you are.”
  • “I’m better at being the bad guy anyway.”
  • “Take it from me: strange is bad, dead is worse.”
  • “I promise you. I will never leave you again.”
  • “You want a partner in crime? Forget _____. I’m so much more fun.”
  • “You know what they say: the way to a psycho killer’s heart is through his stomach.”
  • “Get your ass out the door before I throw you over my shoulder and carry you out myself.”
  • “There’s no such thing as a bad idea. Only poorly executed awesome ones.”
  • “Hindsight is almost a bigger bitch than you.”
  • “I’ve been dead before. I got over it.”
  • “Life sucks. Get a helmet.”
  • “You need to stop doing that.”
  • “Humanity’s not all it’s cracked up to be.”
  • “I’m staying clear of all women at the moment.”
  • “I want to throw you back in my bed and never let you leave.”
  • “You went on a murderous rampage. It happens.”
  • “First of all, don’t nickname. That’s my thing.”
  • “And here I thought my future was bleak.”
  • “I have moves you’ve never even seen before.”
  • “You do realize you are dating a reformed serial killer, right?”
  • “You know this whole pretending to hate me is getting a little silly.”
  • “Guilt. Don’t know it, but I’ve heard it can be a royal bitch.”
  • “One thing you’re not going to do, you’re not going to mess with me.”
  • “You’re lucky you’re adorable because your eternal optimism is super annoying.”
  • “If you’re gonna be maudlin, I’m gonna kill you myself. Just to put me out of your misery.”
  • “Sometimes really terrible things happen to amazing people.”
  • “You better start talking or I will kill you in your sleep.”
  • “That’s it? We’re gonna kill bad guys together and you’re not even going to talk to me?”
  • “Is that what you people think of me? That I just instantly resort to violence?”
  • “You are literally the best person I’ve ever known.“
  • “You came here to kill me?”
  • “Eh. I’ve seen worse.”
  • “I think I like you.”
  • “I’m a good guy now, remember?”
  • “I’m lost… metaphorically, existentially.”
  • “I like a woman who knows what she wants.”
  • “Just stop talking. Just kiss me. Be my distraction.”
  • “You once told me that calling me Satan was an insult to Satan.”
  • “So I’m thinking of a person. He’s reasonably good looking, charming accent, and he would be the most amazing wingman if he just got rid of his martyr complex.“
  • “Whatever desire you have to save me, I kinda need that right now.”
  • “Listen, how I got this amazing body has nothing to do with science.”
  • “Clarity over cleverness. That’s what I always say.”
  • “You’re choosing that woman over me?”
Little Do You Know
Alex & Sierra

So, here’s me singing a cover of Little Do You Know. I know, I’m sorry. I would once again like to thank @abbirae99 for helping me choose the song and @pretttypadalecki for helping me get back in the mood for singing! And a special thanks to @coast965 because she’s the best person on the planet. That is all. Love you guys! 

Someone in the Hetalia fandom I beg of you please draw fanart of aph Australia gatecrashing the Eurovision stage to flash his ass and tag me in it, I need this like oxygen and I don’t know why

Evgeni Malkin #1.2 - English

Anon #1 asked: Part 2 of the Geno imagine? It was so funny and cute

Anon# #2 asked: can you do a part two to the Geno one?

I might continue this imagine series into at least a third part because it just doesn’t quite feel finished yet. I tried to write while watching the game but that worked out just as well as you might think. Anons I hope you enjoy this addition to the original piece. You can read part one here. 

Three weeks after exchanging numbers with Geno you had a date planned for Friday evening at 7:30. It was currently 7:15 and you were still holed up in your office sorting through orders. Just that afternoon the bride for a wedding cake you were designing called and said she needed to change the whole design. Apparently she hadn’t discussed it with her fiancé and there had been a disagreement. The wedding was in three days and you were already swamped as it is.

You pulled your phone out and shot Geno a text “something came up. Can we reschedule?”

You felt like a jerk canceling so late but there was no way you’d be getting out of there in time. The bakery closed at 7:00 so you could hear your staff going through their closing duties. At 7:20 someone rapped at your door.

“Come in,” you said not looking up from the papers in front of you.

Kelsey stuck her head in the door, “I’m all done out there boss. Anything else you need before I bow out?”

“Uh no Kels I’m all good. Have a good night.”
“You too.”

Kelsey smiled at you and ducked out. The bell above the door jingled as she opened it and left. You checked your phone and found you had no response from Geno. You sighed, no use wallowing over it because you had things to do. The shop was left in silence which left you unsettled so you turned on the radio and the soft crooning of some well-known song flooded the room.

You trusted Kelsey of course but it didn’t stop you from doing another sweep of the equipment and wipe down the counter once more. You took stock of the inventory and marked down on your sheet how many more batches of everything you’d need to make in the morning.

You were bent over the display case with your back to the entrance when a knock on the door startled you. You jumped, dropped your clipboard and spun around to see Geno waving sheepishly outside. You got your breathing under control and went to unlock the door for him.

“I’m sorry. Not mean to scare you,” Geno said with a smile.

“No you’re fine. I was just preoccupied.”

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I was bored and this happened 

by no excuse should reposts be allowed. if you see a photo/gifset and none of the photos are the same size or the coloring dont match (as much as possible because its difficult but its pretty damn obvious) then why would you encourage that and give them notes. especially graphic/gif makers out there, please, if you have an eye for edits like i know yall do then dont reblog reposts. you know how it feels to have your work stolen. weve all been there. check the op. check if they make edits. check the watermark. this goes for fanart too. dont make edits of fanarts without permission. it doesnt count if you slapped a psd onto it, you didnt make it yourself. please guys. stop excusing reposts.

Okayyyyyyy so earlier today someone posted a pic of Luke captioned “he’s not fat anymore” and I messaged (very nicely btw) them saying it’s not ok to comment that buttt instead of responding LIKE A MATURE ADULT THEY MADE ANOTHER POST ABOUT CALUM (which I can’t reblog) saying “he’s so skinny he’s not that big” so just an fyi THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR IS NOT ALLOWED YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMMENT ON ANY OF THE BOYS WEIGHT (or lack thereof) WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS AS TO WHO WEIGHS HOW MUCH AND I CANNOT BELIEVE I EVEN HAVE TO MAKE THIS POST and if you see any other people making posts like that CALL THEM THE FUCK OUT THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMMENT ON SOMEONES WEIGHT like how would you feel if someone commented on your weight I know it’s a very slim chance that the boys will even see it but still don’t talk about it it’s none of your business and just another fyi being fat is NOT a bad thing AT ALL but people are sensitive to the topic. so do. Not. Talk. About. It. Just… please don’t make any comments on how much the boys (or anyone else for that matter) weighs like why?? would you do that it’s not cool it’s not nice please just stop. And tbh I don’t think that post will do much but I just had to put this issue out there bc I will not stand for this type of awfulness on my dash

Oh, a post about doing cute things with guys popped up on my dash. I reblog a lot of cute posts about girls, and I’m bi, so I should reblog some cute posts about guys too! Only… why don’t I relate to this? Why don’t I like the thought of doing these things with guys? Maybe I won’t reblog it… just put it in my likes where no one has to see it. You know, just to remind myself that I like guys too! I’m definitely bi haha :))))))

anonymous asked:

so my girlfriend just broke up with me and im dead idk why im really writing this because i dont know you and ur just the first person that appeared on my dash not of my friends are online and i dont know what to do

I’m so sorry anon :( I’m rly bad at advice so here’s some from my friend:

Try to see a counselor or a therapist if you can. Taking a break from looking at the person’s things, like their blog or their fb. Don’t message them or talk to them if you don’t want to. You don’t -have- to talk to them, or stay friends with them. You can do what is ok for you. If you want to still be friends but can’t at the moment, that is ok.

Don’t feel bad if getting over them takes longer than a year or more. Sometimes it takes a long time. Practice self worth. Remember that you were a cool person before you dated, and a cool person during, and that you will be a cool person after. It’s ok to just be you.

Doing mindfulness exercises from here are good when I get into a panic attack thinking about stuff.

It’s ok to be angry, it’s ok to be sad.

Mm.. Another big thing my counselor said to me was like.. Not to believe things I make up in my head that have no truth to back them up. Like for instance thinking that my past partner hates me now, or that I was a bad girlfriend and that’s why we broke up. There is no factual support for those thoughts, winding myself up with them will only hurt me.

When I was worried about if my friends might not want to be with me anymore, or what they might say about me when I couldn’t stay friends with my past partner, my counselor also said to not think about what people might say, or might do. We can control what we focus on.

Spend time with friends who care about you and make you feel loved.

I often wonder if I’ll be worth loving to another person, like if anyone will ever care about me again. But I think - yes. me! I can be that person. And if I love me, and other people did love me, another person will love me if that’s what I want.

both of us hope you’ll be ok <3

anonymous asked:

why do you constantly reblog things from your other blog? if I wanted to see that, I'd be following the blogs. and if I followed you at the same time as the other blogs, it'd be on my dash twice. no hate, jw.

Because if I reblog stuff of justbadpuns here it will get more notes as I have different followers on either blog. Therefore increasing exposure to the post and helping more people to discover that blog

The Difference Between Educating and Bullying when it comes to Re posting Art.

So something occurred recently to where I felt like I needed to make a post about this.

I recently got an IM out of the blue from a user I’d never talked to. She was very distressed and apologized for bothering me but mentioned that she had been called out and bullied for re posting art and that she was desperate to find anyone who could help her properly source her work and give credit to the artist. She mentioned she was new to blogging and not very tech savvy and therefore had no clue about sourcing art posts.

So I explained to her how to source the work and why it was important and she thanked me, updated the post with the source, and I went about my day not really thinking about it.

I got on a few hours later only to find that the poor girl had been bullied off of this site for making a newbie mistake that was easily fixed because some people had decided to be self-righteous assholes instead of helping people understand how blogging art works.

As an artist I hate seeing my art re posted without credit, it sucks and it has happened to me before, but I can definitely understand making mistakes, especially if you have no idea that what you are doing is wrong.

When I first got on this site I’d never blogged ever before, it was completely foreign. I had no idea why all these things were showing up on my dash that weren’t relevant to my interests because I didn’t understand that it was a collective of the user’s interest. I just thought that Harry Potter stuff specifically would show up on my blog if I followed a Harry Potter blog. I did make the mistake of re-posting stuff because I didn’t really understand the difference between re-post or re-blog. I was lucky and the person who’s thing I had re-posted politely asked me to remove it and explained why it was so bad to re-post and I did so and never did it again.

There is no reason on earth to bully someone over re-posting, most of the time it’s done because people have no idea it’s bad or why it is. Before you start chewing their heads off alert them of what they did wrong calmly and politely. Most of the time they’ll apologize and take it down. If they don’t answer or are rude about it, then it might be time to call in the big guns.

But honestly people it’s just awful. We were all newbies once, there’s no reason to be that way.

Just be nice.

azka-bendu  asked:

I honestly don't know why people always compare two different types of artists and when they think one looks similar to the other they call one of them a copycat. Styles can look similar, no need to flip out when they do. Btw I love you're art style and It's always fun to see it on my dash. Really inspiring :)

its unoriginal because we’re both drawing people

what we need to do is start drawing furries–that’ll really show em 

anonymous asked:

worried about hate, so anon: Asexuality and aromanticism were blocked by the censorship thing and flagged like all non-straight/non-cis id's as 'nsfw' but I keep seeing a ton of people insisting we haven't been. I run an ace positivity blog and literally the whole blog was censored though, along with several others! Hell, a post that is nothing more than Kirby in front of the ace and the aro flag was flagged. Why are they ignoring reality like this? What do they gain from attacking US over it?

I definitely agree with you. But a post just winged by my dash where a few choice individuals harassed a 15 year-old over it, so warning for salt.

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