why do i put in any effort

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As a math teacher in training, I can’t get over just how important this scene is.

Most people have a difficulty with learning math, not due to a lack of intelligence, but because they are under a negative mindset, that they feel helpless when faced with a math problem. These people are fully capable of tackling such problems, they just don’t believe they can.

Math teachers are not heartless beings who criticize you for any mistake you make. Our job is to help you, to improve your understanding of the subject. What we’d like to see is that you’re willing to put in some serious effort. 

This is why I was so proud of Star at the end of this episode. She realized that if she wanted to save her timeline, she had to be willing to put in some work to solving the problem. Sure she got the answer wrong, but she tried and at the end of the day, that’s what we want students to be able to do. We can then take it from there.

okay when i was scrolling through the instagram tag for hamilton i noticed something.

we all know about all those ppl who repost art without permission or giving credit. but something I notice all the time that no one really speaks of is the text posts.

theyre usually screenshots of the text themselves, but often the URL is cropped out, like the photo above, which is actually a post of mine that doesn’t have creds to me.

i don’t understand why it is so hard to leave it. we, like artists, also deserve our due credit. im not saying us making text post takes the same effort of creating art, but we deserve credit all the same.

if you plan on reposting any of my posts, it’d be nice for you to ask permission first. if do you see posts of art or anything else that don’t have credits, do us a favour by asking the poster to put it or to remove the post all together.

another thing: if you don’t know the original creator, just don’t post it at all, or find out who it was then credit/get permission.

hamilton creators offer what they have to entertain us with art, fanfics, etc. don’t take advantage of what they do for free. They do what they do so people can appreciate what they do, and they like knowing that people know that it was them who drew/wrote it.

sorry if it seems as if im just bitching just because i didn’t get credit for a text post but I don’t care what you think.

thanks for reading this xoxo

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I remember, when I was breaking up with one of my exes years ago, he listed all the ways I made his life better when trying to convince me not to go. And I asked him, “but how do you think you make my life better?” and he was taken aback. “I don’t know,” he said. He’d never thought about it.

When I date people, I devote a lot of effort to making their lives better. When I’m with women, I read about health issues that effect lesbian demographics (higher rates of breast cancer, obesity, and depression.) When I’m with men, I read about health issues that effect straight men (coronary issues, blood pressure, and emotional issues esp. around anger.) When I date people of color, I research POC health/discrimination/etc. issues, especially issues around dating white people (mental/health effects of internalized racism, institutionalized racism, the types of micro-aggressions I may be likely to commit.) When I date people with less money, I pay for shit. When I date people who are messy, I organize their shit (even though I’m also really messy.) When I date people with physical limitations, I massage their shit (weird Emma past: I went to massage school.)

But, especially with men, this energy feels so unidirectional. Women are frequently more reciprocative, but men often seem completely uninterested in helping me improve my life in any way. They often care about impressing me, by having nice shit, or looking good, or pulling in bank. But, they almost never take a look at my life and ask themselves “what is Emma missing, and how could I fill that role?”

For @viperbranium: I said ‘give me a prompt’ and she said ‘airport’ and I went wtf am I supposed to do with that?

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“So, you’re Captain America, right?”

The man put down his newspaper and stared at Bucky, eyebrows raised like he was incredulous, but Bucky had no idea why he had any right to incredulity.  He was wearing a pair of blue cargo pants that looked like they were part of some kind of military uniform, ass-kicking boots, and he was reading a newspaper.  Plus, everyone knew The Avengers had been in town a few days before to fight some weird alien bird entity and Captain America had a habit of staying behind to help with clean-up efforts.  

“What makes you think that?” totally-Captain-America asked, unnecessarily cagey.

“Uh,” Bucky replied, gesturing vaguely.  “Your everything?”

Absolutely-Captain-America frowned like it was a surprise he was being called out on it.

“Was I not supposed to mention it?  I figured you weren’t trying to hide it, considering you’re wearing half your uniform and it looks like you shoved your shield in a garbage bag.”

That was definitely the shield in a garbage bag now that Bucky said the words out loud.  Security nightmares were probably for people who weren’t a national hero.

“Most people don’t notice,” definitely-Steve-fucking-Rogers answered in a strangled tone.  “You’re the first.”

“Today?”

“Ever.”

“That makes zero sense.  You’re not exactly stealthy.”

“I… ‘ve been told.” He sounded amused now, which was a step up. “Are you heading to New York?”

“Oh yeah, gotta work, you know?” Bucky answered.  “Do you want tips on how to be less Captain American-y?”

Sure.” The tone was almost sarcastic and it was wonderful.  A man after Bucky’s own heart.

“Have you ever worn skinny jeans?” Bucky questioned with a smirk, leaning forward like it was a secret.  “Everyone would be so busy looking at your legs they wouldn’t look at your face.”

And aww.  That was adorable.  Steve Rogers blushed.  “You know, everyone kept telling me it was something to work up to, but I wore a pair of tights for upwards to a year, I’m used to it.”

Was Bucky being flirted with?  He couldn’t tell.  “Well, then. There’s probably a store in this place somewhere that sells clothes.  We should go shopping and test that theory out.”

“Oh,” Steve said with a responding smirk and lean.  “There’s just one thing wrong with your tip.”

“What’s that?” Bucky asked.

“It was never my legs they were looking at in those tights,” he finished, sitting back with a self-satisfied grin.

Jesus yes that was absolutely flirting.

On My Own (Harry Hook) Part Four

Originally posted by interwebber

“You swore you’d never hurt me.”

“You swore you’d never leave me On My Own.”

Part One, Part Two, Part Three, Part Four, Part Five


Harry Hook was lying on his bed, one arm resting under his head as he stared stoically at the ceiling. Sure, the bed in the dorm he shared with Gil was comfortable. But, it was too comfortable. It felt nothing like the one back on the ship, or even the one back at your - now is not the time, Harry.

The pirate shook his head as if to shake away his thoughts. He couldn’t let himself get too caught up in his emotions. He had a job to do and it would complicate things too much.

He stood up, walking over to the window that stared out at the school-grounds. “Everything is so much prettier here than in the Isle,” He mumbled to himself. He scoffed as his eyes fell on the statue of the Beast. “And I thought I was full of meself. ‘Least I never had a magical statue made of meself… actually… That’s not a bad idea. A giant statue, dedicated to Harry Hook. With a magnificent, shining hook.”

His self-glorifying thought were interrupted by a half asleep Gil. “Harry, you’re talking to yourself again,” he muttered, covering his head with his pillows.

Harry rolled his eyes, “Go back to sleep, bampot.”Gil grunted in response.

Harry shook his head, looking up at the stars he had been deprived of seeing his entire life. He smirked to himself.

“Well, it wouldn’t hurt to finally have some fun while I wait.”


The knocking on your door started at seven in the morning that Saturday, lasting until 7:10, when you finally got tired of it waking you up from your sleep. You slid on your bunny slippers and stomped to the door in your (embarrassing) teddy bear pajamas, throwing the door open without a second thought. Carlos stood at your door, concerned look on his face before it melted into one of amusement.

“Nice pajamas. Did you rip them off a five year old?”

“Nice hair, did you rip it off a Q-Tip?” You shot back, crossing your arms.

“Ha, very funny. You might want to come down to the courtyard,” He addressed quickly, anxiously shifting from foot to foot. “Like, now.”

“You can wait for me to get dressed,” You replied, turning to walk back into your room before getting pulled away by Carlos. “There’s no time!” He barked, quickly pulling you down the stairs.

“Carlos I am in my teddy bear pajamas and bunny slippers! I can’t go down there!” you shouted, running to keep up with the boy.

“Call it a fashion statement!”


“Holy fadoodle Cakes,” You whispered, staring up at the statue of the Beast. Well, what was the beast. Now it was covered in pirate getup and dead fish. You were pretty sure you could see an octopus up there too.

You pushed to the front of the group of onlookers and found the pirates standing there proudly. One in particular looked very amused at the awe and horror filled gazes. Then, he met your eyes and his grin grew even more.

“Hello, Lass. Come to marvel at yer dear ol’ Harry’s work? Wait… Are ye wearin’ teddy bear pajamas and bunny slippers?” Harry asked, snickering at your attire.

You gave him an indignant gasp, glaring at the laughing boy. “Lay off my teddy bears and bunny slippers! And fix this statue! Now!” You shouted, keeping your voice relatively quiet as to not to alert any of what was going on.

“Now why would I do that, Princess? I put a lot of time and effort into this… this masterpiece, this show of me talents,” He spoke proudly, before giving you a mocking pout, “Do ya not like it, lass?”

“All it proves is your ability to ruin things,” You gritted out, angry at the image the pirates were giving to the children from the Isle. No doubt this little show would make others reluctant to accept the children of villains.

“Oh but darlin’ I’m from the Isle, ruinin’ things is what we do. Or have ye already forgotten?” Harry remarked, stroking your cheek with the hand that normally held his hook.

You clenched your teeth, anger flowing through you at a rapid pace. “No, Harold, I haven’t forgotten. How can I when a perfect reminder is staring me right in the face?” You growled, shoving his hand away with a harshness you didn’t know you still had. The mocking look melted away into one of shock as you stormed away from the insulting scene.

“Awkward…” Gil mumbled from beside him. In seconds he was pinned to the base the statue, an angry Harry holding a forearm to his neck. “You got somethin’ you wanna say, Gil?” He growled, as if daring the other boy to open his mouth.

Gil gulped, opening his mouth to reply, but was cut off by the shrill voice of Fairy Godmother.

“Harry Hook!”


“I can’t believe that little wench made us join the… what do you call it, Gil?” Harry grumbled, looking around the field.

“Tourney team?” Gil offered, tying his hair back.

“Yes. Tourney team. Pent up rage she says,” The pirate scoffed, rolling his eyes. “Course we have pent up rage. Life’s no fun without it. Know what I mean?”

“Mhm,” Gil hummed in reply, peeling the shell off of another egg.

“Will you stop eating those foul eggs?” Harry grumbled, fanning the air as if trying to rid it of the rotten smell. “ I don’t care what yer dad told ye, they won’t make ye any stronger. Maybe your gag reflex from breathing in those… what did that doaty science teacher call them…ah! Noxious fumes. Apparently those mess with yer head, ya know?” The pirate paused, looking at his friend, recalling the half an hour it took him to realize the push sign on a door meant push forwards, not upwards.

“It all makes since now…”


“Harry, for the last time you can’t hook Jay without your hook!” Uma barked at the angry pirate. “Well, when my dad was teaching me to fight as a kid he called this certain punch a hook,” Gil offered. “There we go! Then I’ll punch’em!” Harry remarked, leaning against the willow tree the group of pirates were resting under.

“Practice wasn’t that bad,” Gil muttered. “All we did was exercise. Well, until Harry tripped that blond boy for making fun of his eyeliner. I think he broke his nose.”

“And he made me do pushups! Pushups! Have you seen my arms, Lad!? Do you think I need to do pushups!?” Harry exclaimed. “If we were on the Isle I would have ripped his guts out through his mouth,” He growled, eyes darkening to a deep blue.

“Yeah well we aren’t on the Isle!” Uma stated, giving her first mate a stern look. “We have to lay low here until we finish the plan. You were supposed to stop going off the handle. It’s going to draw more attention.”

“It’s not my fault! I din’t want to come here in the first place, Cap! Things are a wee bit too bright and happy for me here! “ Harry shot back as Gil’s jaw dropped. He had never seen Harry talk back to their captain before. He must be more upset about coming here than he let off.

Uma scoffed, rolling her eyes. “Oh, please. You and I both know Y/N is why you agreed to come, whether you act like it or not. “

“Oh really? And what might the reasonin’ behind that be, Cap?” Harry growled, face flushing red.

“Because she’s the only person I’ve seen that makes you squirm like a worm on a hook with the mere mention of her name,” She shot back.

Harry froze, stopping his hands from fidgeting and pulling at his sleeves anxiously, “I do not!”



Minutes later and the two were still at it, both turning red in the face.

“G-guys?” A voice called from above them. They shared a concerned look before tilting their gazes upward, eyes landing on Gil, who was hanging desperately from a tree branch. “Help!”

“When did he-”

“How did he-”

“Gil!”

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BitesizeKorean Masterpost

Mobile friendly post for BitesizeKorean. Updated on: 16.12.12

GRAMMAR/QUESTIONS

Vocabulary Builders

  • Countries
  • Body Parts
  • Twitter
  • Terms of Endearment
  • Words of Encouragement
  • Colours in Korean
  • Common Konglish Words
  • Numbers in Korean

Grammar

  • 외국인 vs. 외국 사람
  • 책방 vs. 서점
  • 일하다 vs. 직장
  • 숙제 vs. 과제
  • 학교 vs. 학원
  • 응답하다 vs. 대답하다
  • 심지어 vs. 게다가
  • 가격, 값 and 비용
  • 수다 and 수다를 떨다
  • 감사합니다, 고마워, and 고맙다.
  • 한국어 vs. 한국말
  • 아마 vs. 어쩌면
  • 아니요 vs. 아니야
  • 지금 vs. 이제
  • 위성 vs. 달
  • 이거 vs. 이게
  • 항상 vs. 늘
  • 자백 vs. 고백
  • 평소 vs. 보통
  • 오전 vs. 아침
  • 어쩌면, 아무래도, and 아마
  • 1등 vs. 1위
  • 아니에요 vs. 천만에요
  • 원하다 vs. 싶다
  • 부인 vs. 아내
  • 미안하다 vs 죄송하다
  • 뭐 vs 무슨
  • 친절 vs 친절하다 vs 친절한
  • 창피 vs 민망
  • (-았/었어요) vs  (-고 있어요)
  • 있면 vs 있다면
  • 당신은 vs 너는
  • 명 vs 분
  • 너무, 진짜 and 아주
  • 유방 vs 가슴
  • 서운하다 vs 슬프다
  • Interrogatives
  • Demonstratives
  • Locative Adverbs
  • Bright and Dark Vowels
  • Particles 은/는 and 이/가
  • 을/를 Object Marking Particles
  • 이다 (To be)
  • 아니다 (To not be)
  • ~(으)ㄹ수록 [~(으)면 ~(으)ㄹ수록] (The more… the more…)
  • ~네요
  • ~ㄹ/을 계획 (To have plans to…)
  • 잘/못 하다 (to be good/bad at something)
  • 아서/어서
  • Particles: 에게/함테/께 and 에게서/한테서
  • 와/과 particles
  • Particles 에서 and 에
  • ~(으)ㄴ/는 편이다 (Stating characteristics) 
  • Expressing desire to possess a noun ~고 싶어요
  • (verb)+자
  • ~(으)ㄴ/는데 
  • ~겠어요
  • A/V~고
  • Pronouns in Korean: I, me, my, mine
  • 보이다
  • ~던 
  • 지 and the ~는 것 principle
  • ~아/어/여야 되다 or ~아/어/여야 하다 (to have to)

Misc. Questions

  • What does 눈치 mean?
  • Basic Korean curriculum plan! Pt.2
  • Anywhere to read beginner and intermediate Korean?
  • Is ㄱ ‘g’ or a ‘k’?
  • How do you pronounce 의?
  • When is 의 pronounced differently?
  • What is the difference between ㄱ and ㅋ?
  • How to say ‘You are’ in Korean?
  • How to say “I am” in Korean?
  • How to say “What is…” in Korean?
  • How to say “Who is…” in Korean?
  • What does 미드 mean?
  • What does 특집 mean?
  • What are some differences between the Seoul and Busan dialect?
  • How to learn the Busan accent?
  • What is the difference between 입니다 and 이에요/예요?
  • When do pronounce the letters ㅅㅈ ㅊ and like ’t’ and ㅂ like ’m’? And why?
  • When are ㅅ/ㅆ pronounced “SH”?
  • How to say, “Is it interesting?”
  • 뭐야 이거?
  • Which particles are dropped in speech?
  • Do people in Daegu and Busan speak the same dialect?
  • What’s the difference between ~어/아서 and ~고?
  • How to change verbs into nouns?
  • What’s the difference between 안녕히가세요 and 안녕히계세요?
  • What’s “anyway” in Korean?
  • Why do Koreans use 우리 instead of 나의?
  • What does “멋졍 ” mean?
  • Pronunciation rules for ㅎ
  • Speech formalities 
  • Nouns in Korean
  • How to ask questions in Korean
  • How to say a.k.a in Korean?
  • How to say ASAP in Korean?
  • Grammatical spacing in Korean
  • Accents around Korea
  • Difference between 함께 and 함께라면?
  • How would you use 이야기하다 in a sentence?
  • What does ‘도망치지 마 뒤돌아서서 두려움에 맞서봐’ mean?
  • ㅍ,ㅂ, and ㅃ
  • Difference between 애 and 에?
  • How to say “please” in Korean
  • Negatives in Korean
  • Difference between ㅊ and ㅈ?
  • What’s the difference between 우리, 나의, and 내(ㅔ)?
  • Why do Koreans sometimes put 나 at the end of a sentence?
  • Difference between 입니다 and 습니다?
  • How to introduce yourself in Korean?
  • How to pronounce Hangul characters?
  • What does 이뤄진다 mean?
  • Pronunciation of ㅈ for men and women 
  • What’s “real” in Korean?
  • What’s “star” in Korean?
  • Korean suffixes
  • What does 휘황찬란한 mean?
  • Are “천만에요” and “안녕하세요” formal polite?
  • Greetings on the phone?
  • Which number system do I use for ‘years’?
  • Korean Sentence Structure
  • Why is there a -야 at the end of informal sentences?
  • What do stressed syllables mean in Korean?
  • 네 as 네 or as 니?
  • What does 인정 mean?
  • How do you use compliments like “cutie” in Korean?
  • Cutie: 귀염둥이 
  • How to ask to switch to 반말?
  • 고민: One’s worries
  • What does 왜그래 mean?
  • ㄹ sounding as L and R?
  • Resources for learning about culture?
  • Thoughts on TTMIK?
  • Are there other times to use 여보세요?
  • What do you say when you answer the phone?
  • How to say Happy Birthday in Korean?
  • Hangul characters and syllables explanation 
  • Does 때문에 have a negative nuance? 
  • Understanding Konglish words
  • How to say “Excuse me” to pass through
  • Do commas exist in Korean?
  • How to ask questions in Korean part 2
  • Is there a specific stroke order to Hangul?
  • How to say “embarrassing” in Korean
  • How to identify the subject and object in a sentence?
  • How to pronounce hanja?
  • How to say the year in Korean?
  • Common spelling mistakes in Korean
  • Understanding dictionary form
  • Hangul character names and alphabetical order
  • How to pronounce compound consonants in Korean
  • What does 새살 mean?
  • Is there a difference between 화이팅 and 파이팅?
  • What does 주룩 mean?

VOCABULARY

Follow the Instagram counterpart for all vocabulary study cards! And Memrise is available! 

WEEKLY VOCAB RECAP:

  • Week One
  • Week Two
  • Week Three
  • Week Four
  • Week Five
  • Week Six
  • Week Seven
  • Week Eight
  • Week Nine
  • Week Ten

TEN WEEK VOCABULARY

  • Week Eleven
  • Week Twelve
  • Week Thirteen
  • Week Fourteen
  • Week Fifteen
  • Week Sixteen
  • Week Seventeen
  • Week Eighteen
  • Week Nineteen
  • Week Twenty

TWENTY WEEK VOCABULARY

  • Week Twenty-One
  • Week Twenty-Two
  • Week Twenty-Three
  • Week Twenty-Four
  • Week Twenty-Five
  • Week Twenty-Six
  • Week Twenty-Seven
  • Week Twenty-Eight
  • Week Twenty-Nine
  • Week Thirty
  • Week Thirty-One
  • Week Thirty-Two
  • Week Thirty-Three
  • Week Thirty-Four
  • Week Thirty-Five
  • Week Thirty-Six
  • Week Thirty-Seven
  • Week Thirty-Eight
  • Week Thirty-Nine
  • Week Forty 

PROVERBS

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ㄱ:

  • 가재는 게 편이라
  • 개미 구멍으로 둑도 무너진다
  • 가는 말이 고와야 오는 말이 곱다
  • 거지도 부지런하면 더운 밥 얻어 먹는다
  • 가려운 곳을 긁어 주다
  • 거미 새끼같이 흩어진다
  • 가랑비에 옷 젖는 줄 모른다
  • 개천에서 용 난다
  • 걱정도 팔자다
  • 귀신도 모르다
  • 거짓말도 방편
  • 공자 앞에서 문자 쓴다
  • 곧은 나무 먼저 찍힌다
  • 고양이에게 생선을 맡기다

ㅅ:

  • 시작이 반이다
  • 선무당이 사람 잡는다

ㅁ:

  • 말보다 증거

ㅊ:

  • 천 리 길도 한 걸음부터

ㅈ:

  • 작은 고추가 맵다
  • 잠을 자야 꿈을 꾸지

ㅇ:

  • 원숭이도 나무에서 떨어진다

ㄷ:

  • 돌다리도 두드려 보고 건너라
  • 달도 차면 기운다

ㅂ:

  • 빛 좋은 개살구

SLANG

  • 득템
  • 얼짱
  • 말을 씹다 or 문자를 씹다
  • 안습

Lyrics

  • ”내 맘에 깊이 가득 차버린 공허한 세상 나를 구해줘” Reset - Tiger JK
  • “이 끝이 없는 미로 속에서 어서 날 꺼내줘” Love is not over (full version) - BTS
  • “난 숨쉬고 싶어 이 밤이 싫어 이젠 깨고 싶어 꿈속이 싫어” Save me - BTS
  • “난 꿈이 있어요 그 꿈을 믿어요 나를 지켜봐요” A Goose’s Dream - InSoo
  • “다시 run run run 난 멈출 수가 없어 또 run run run 난 어쩔 수가 없어” Run - BTS

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Do you have any tips on staying organised while studying?

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Do you have any tips for self study?

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What is your study plan like?

I have a post here explaining!

How to keep yourself motivated?

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How long have you been studying Korean?

Honestly, not long! I’ve only been dabbling in the language since late October 2015.

Do you self study?

Yes. I try to dedicate at least four hours a week into learning grammar and vocabulary.

What is your native language?

My mother tongue is English!

What is your name?

Most people call me Elle (pronounced Ellie)! My real name is Emily.

Will you add audio to your study cards?

I did consider making audio for the pronunciation, however I came to the conclusion that the quantity of vocabulary I’m supplying each week is already being juggled on top of university work. So making videos or audio would only increase the work and provide difficult to keep up. Although, I’m not completely dismissing the idea, so I’ll see what happens!

Will you add romanisation to you study cards?

I personally don’t think that romanisation is necessary, and quite often, it seems to be that learners can find it restrictive. This is mainly due to the fact that it can actually inhibit proper pronunciation and hinder reading fluency. Romanisation also has the habit of contradicting advanced pronunciation rules, and for these reasons, I don’t like to include it. I also had an open discussion with most of you about adding it - and it seems that a majority would dislike me to include romanisation. I apologise for the inconvenience.

Am I allowed to save the study card you’ve made?

Of course. That’s why I make them! ;) However, I do not allow the re-uploading of any of my flashcards without first asking permission. I put time and effort into these study cards, and it’s upsetting to see my work posted without proper credit.

Why did you start learning Korean?

I love language, and have dabbled in many! I decided to learn a language completely different to anything I’ve learnt before, so I picked Korean randomly. I fell in love with it, and from there I’ve found a secret passion for Korean drama!

What other languages have you studied/know?

I have studied German, French, Russian, Japanese, and have recently just started to learn Danish. Although, Korean has been the most fun!

Falling Apart: Peter Parker

Word Count: 1.6k

Warning(s): Angst

Request: None

Pairing: Peter Parker x reader

A/N: This is a really sad one, inspired by the song I Have Questions by Camila Cabello. I adore this song.


The bell rang, signaling the end of the school day. As she walked down the hall hugging her books close to her chest, her mind raced. He had bolted again, and Y/N had no idea where he had gone off to. Peter had left her hanging high and dry for the umpteenth time, and she had no idea what to do.

Given no reasonable explanation, Y/N’s mind wandered the worst possibilities to explain Peter’s constant disappearances.

Cheating.

She knew Peter wasn’t of the sort, but he had just… taken off without reasonable explanation. She had spent months staying silent, willing herself to trust that Peter was off doing something important enough that he was forced to leave halfway through the only time you ever got to spend together. But in her attempt at convincing herself of what she wanted to believe, Y/N left herself vulnerable and susceptible to the attacks of her inner demons.

He found someone better.

He no longer wants you.

You’re foolish to have ever though he ever wanted you.

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Flinch - Stiles Stilinski

Originally posted by kwanghale

Requested: Could you possible do a Stiles imagine where you two are dating and get into a bit of a fight. You then leave the house because you are both angry and need to cool off. Later you feel extremely guilty so you go over to apologise but he’s still angry and yells at you or something. He might go to run his hand through his hair or something, but you physically flinch because he was so angry. He then realises you thought he was going to hit you and is really sorry and makes it up to you with fluff!

Summary: (Y/N) and Stiles get in a fight about Stiles’ lack of presence and other things. She leaves and when she comes back to apologise she flinches at Stiles’ movement causing him to externalise everything he has been feeling for the past month.


“This is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever eaten.” I giggled.

“Wow, let me down easy why don’t you.” Stiles muttered as he sits down digging into his ‘creation’. 

“Hey, babe, what’s up? You’ve been really jumpy and kinda moody recently.” I say worried.

“I’m just sick of being under appreciated. I tried to cook you a nice meal but of course its not good enough. The only person that understands me right now is Lydia.” My eyes widen and I give him a sarcastic look.

“Lydia?”

“Yeah, Lydia.”

“Well, sorry I can’t be more like Lydia my voice drips with sarcasm.

“What’s that supposed to mean?” Stiles glares at me.

“Oh, nothing. Just wish I could be more like you’re beloved Lydia. Maybe then you’d actually show some interest in me.”

“Interest? Are you kidding me?” Stiles sarcastically laughs.

“Yes, interest. You’ve barely spoken to me in weeks! This is the first time that we’ve hung out without Scott in nearly a month.” 

“Yeah, well maybe there’s a reason for it.” Stiles scoffs and gets up to throw his food in the bin.

“What reason?” I stand up and look at him and I see him roll his eyes. “If you don’t want to be with me anymore then you could’ve just said it.” I grab my bag and storm out of Stiles’ house.


I laid on my bed staring at the ceiling feeling nothing but pure anger. I haven’t heard from Stiles in ages and the next thing you know he’s being a complete douche. I hear a beep come from my phone that stops my inner rant. I pick up my phone and roll my eyes when I see the snapchat from Scott. I delete the notification and right before I put it back down I stare at my lockscreen; a photo of Stiles and I. It was taken the night that he had won the lacrosse game for Beacon Hills. I was kissing his cheek and the smile on his face was massive. He had his arm around me and a slight pink tint on his cheeks. I sighed as the photo faded and I was left to look at my reflection. Only then did I notice the tears rolling down my cheeks. I sucked up my pride and chucked on my converses and started making my way to Stiles’.


I knocked on Stiles’ door but no one answered it. I dug into my pocket and unlocked it before slowly pushing it open. I heard heavy footsteps and objects being thrown around so I quickened my pace inside until I saw Stiles with his back to me. I see him lift his fist ready to pound it on the table and instinctively I grab his wrist before he can hurt himself. He quickly turns around and rips his hand from mine, hurting my wrist in the process. I clutch it in pain as he towers over me and I take a few steps back. 

“What are you doing back here?” He shouts.

“I-I thought we could talk it out. I wanted to apologise.” I say softly as he stops and lets out a deep sigh. I see him lift his arm and I flinch before noticing he went to run it through his hair. He stops moving all together as he looks at me. 

“D-Did you just flinch?” I stay still and look at the ground refusing to answer him. “No, no, no, no.” He mumbles. “(Y/N). Do you seriously think I could ever hurt you?” I saw how upset he was getting as he stuffs his head in his hands.

“No… it was just a reflex. I didn’t mean to.” I trail off. 

“(Y/N). I don’t even know what to say. I-I’m so sorry. I didn’t realise how aggressive I was being. I just-” Stiles sits on his couch and wipes away his tears. “I know lately I’ve been pushing you away and acting like the worst boyfriend ever. I just realised that when we were fighting the alpha pack and you nearly died that I couldn’t help you. I tell myself day in, day out that I’d do anything to protect you because I love you so so much. But the truth is… I can’t. I don’t have any special powers; I’m not Scott. I’m… just me.”

“And that’s why I love you so much Stiles. You’re just you. You don’t have to pretend to be anything you aren’t. You love me for me and you put in so much effort into absolutely everything to try and make things better for those around you. Except you probably could’ve put in more effort into tonights dinner.” I giggle as I sit next to him on the couch. He laughs along but once its died down he looks at me with a serious face.

“How do I make it up to you?” 

“How about we start off with you actually feeding me a decent meal” I laugh.

“Pizza?” He asks and I nod. As he goes away to order I quickly put on the tv and put in a movie.

“Should be here in half an hour.” I hear his voice call from the kitchen as he grabs us both drinks. “Is that Star Wars I hear?” He comes running into the living room with a giant smile on his face and jumps next to me on the couch, passing me my can of coke. “God, I’m literally dating the hottest chick ever.” He mumbles to himself as he shuffles his body around so we can comfortably lay resting on top of one another. I giggle and snuggle into his deeper.

“Love you too.”

“Love you more.” He says as he presses a lingering kiss to my head.


Thanks for the request! Hope you liked it! Keep them coming people xx

as a kid I always had to stop myself from staring at pretty girls, like it was a thing that i had to consciously put effort into doing, which is not to take too many glances at girls because i had no idea why i’d wanna do that. any other gals had this experience where you deliberately made yourself look away cause you were self conscious about this?

anonymous asked:

can someone explain why ppl say sm hates sj? isn't leeteuk like lee soo mans prodigal son and didn't kyu say he's the only thing that makes sm ceo smile these days? why do elf think that did I miss something?

I seriously don’t know what make you think that ‘leeteuk’s like lee soo man’s prodigal son’ but anyway, from the start super junior was neglected by the company, as lsm said: “after tvxq formation, the members that weren’t chosen to be a part of the team were on the verge of disintegration. But because we had already contracted with them, we had to take responsibility. One of the teams was Super Junior, a group we raised to excel in music and variety shows. In order to survive, they had to cry tears of bleed through their efforts. We felt sorry for them, which is why we helped.”  Basically they debuted suju because they had to and after that the company was like ‘survive if you can otherwise we gonna replace you with someone new anyway’ and suju survived even when they had to work 100 times harder than others.

SM never really put much efforts in promoting them and super junior/elf have often been mistreated by SM [you can read about it here (1,2,3,4,5,6)] also, as heechul said: “I sometimes mention how we’ve been ranking first in Taiwan for 38 weeks and how Bonamana has been topping for 18 weeks and stuff like that when talking to people in our company and ask why they don’t make articles for us. I asked them to put out a few headlines like other companies do so that people just don’t think we’re doing nothing. When I say things like that, however, they’ll say back, ‘It’s because we think that it’s definite that Super Junior achieves those things. I don’t think it’s necessary to make a big deal out of things like that.’ So I’ll always just say back, ‘Yeah, you’re all talk.’” This just shows that SM don’t promote suju and they don’t care about them at all. That’s prolly the reason why, in Korea, many people don’t even know about super junior’s success and achievements. SM know that ELF will still support super junior even when they won’t put any efforts in promoting them, so they aren’t doing anything at all for them, which is just sad.

and to summarize the statement ‘sm hates super junior’ i’ll just leave this comment from an article here:

“So they made a group that they didn’t even think would do well out of pure sympathy. They made them sleep only 2-3 hours a day and travel to Malaysia, China, and Korea in just a day. They made someone who lost their father three weeks ago stand on stage and sing bright songs. They made an injured person that couldn’t even walk properly drag their legs on stage to sing. They made someone that had just come out of a car accident to go on TV. In such a tragic setting, you forced these kids to go on variety shows, perform at events, made them the talk of misunderstanding and criticism just so you could touch a bit of money. Even if they created laughter on variety shows, worked so hard to the point of fainting, they were only given several hundreds for their work – all members included.”

if sm don’t hate super junior then why would they treat super junior like this despite of them doing so well and making most of sm’s money and all of that from a group that they debuted out of pity and with no expectations at all? If anything SM should be grateful to have super junior in their company and should really stop treating them so bad. Let’s just hope SM will finally get their shit together and better not mess their upcoming comeback as well :/

What more people need to realise is that how well you speak a language is dependent on a ton of external factors which can change from one day to the next, including but not limited to your mood, your level of tiredness, your knowledge of what it is you’re talking about, and your level of comfort with the person/people you’re speaking to or the situation you’re in.

Last Monday, basically directly after the attacks, I just couldn’t make my French work in class when I wanted to speak to them and had to revert to English to be able to say anything at all.
The following day, I spent like 20 minutes in 3 different classes ranting in French about people not putting enough effort in and what they could/should be doing better, and my French was spot on right through and basically for the entire day.

Sometimes a language just doesn’t work for you, sometimes you can figure out why but other times it’s just inexplicable, and it’s frustrating and discouraging but it happens and you have to know that that does not in any way mean you’re bad or not making progress overall.

I won’t go out because I feel fear.

[chapter 76.]

boy oh boy, do I love this manga cap, how honest and respectful Near is with his team. He never once forces them to do anything, because first, he cares about human lives in general (possibly more than L did–L was much less careful about ‘retorting to unsavoury methods’, as Near would say, to advance the investigations or achieve a goal) and secondly, since he’s actually a humble person [psst don’t even get me started on how I think a lot of people may get the impression he’s ‘condescending’ not because of actual things the character says, but more because of how the english dub (mis)characterised him, whereas his japanese voice doesn’t really have any condescending kind of tone imho which is why I prefer the original)], he doesn’t mind openly admitting that he needs them, that he values their work and their efforts so if he asks them to do something potentially very dangerous, it’s because he puts a great deal of trust in them and in their abilities. And he wants to make sure all of his coworkers are totally consensual in performing a certain task as required by him, he wants to hear it from their own lips. If this isn’t being respectful, I don’t know what it is

⚔ ✞ The Mortal Instruments (book series) ✞ ⚔

90 sentence starters from books one through six of The Mortal Instruments. send one for my muses reaction! Feel free to change anything that needs changing in order for it to make sense to have come from your muse.

It may look like a person and talk like a person and maybe even bleed like a person, but it’s a monster. ❞
I may be a killer, but I know what I am. Can you say the same? ❞
Unfortunately we’re all out of bitter revenge at the moment, so it’s either tea or nothing. ❞
The meek may inherit the earth, but at the moment it belongs to the conceited. Like me. ❞
If you were half as funny as you thought you were, you’d be twice as funny as you are. ❞
The most terrible things men do, they do in the name of love. ❞
I use my rapier wit to hide my inner pain. ❞
Is this when you start tearing strips off your T-shirt to bind up my wound? ❞
If you wanted me to rip my clothes off, you should have just asked. It would have been a lot less painful. ❞
Next time you’re planning to injure yourself to get my attention, just remember that a little sweet talk works wonders. ❞
You could try not being charming all the time. It might be a relief for everyone. ❞
If you insist on disavowing that which is ugly about what you do, you will never learn from your mistakes. ❞
You know, most psychologists agree that hostility is really just sublimated sexual attraction. ❞
You tore my heart out years ago when you betrayed and deserted me. ❞
You’re skilled enough, but you could not kill me. You have always been softhearted. ❞
I’m pure at heart. It repels the dirt. ❞
You think charm is the same as honesty? I used to think so. I was wrong. ❞
I prefer to think that I’m a liar in a way that’s uniquely my own. ❞
Don’t bother feeding me some story about how you just happened to wander along after he spontaneously died. I know you did this. ❞
Look on the bright side, if they need a human sacrifice, you can always offer me. ❞
Desire is not always lessened by disgust. Nor can it be bestowed, like a favor, to those most deserving of it. ❞
I wish I could hate you. I want to hate you. I try to hate you. It would be so much easier if I did hate you. ❞
I admire your stubbornness. It’s so much like mine. ❞
You never got a chance to tell me the truth. I don’t trust you, I want you to know that, but I thought I’d give you the chance to tell me. ❞
We are meant for a higher purpose, you and I. The distractions of the world are just that, distractions. If we allow ourselves to be turned aside from our course by them, we are duly punished. ❞
I’ve heard the word ‘fear’, I simply choose to believe it doesn’t apply to me. ❞
I’d say it’s been nice meeting you, but, in fact, it hasn’t. It’s been quite awkward, and frankly, the next time I see you will be far too soon. ❞
I thought I’d lie on the floor and writhe in pain for a while. It relaxes me. ❞
I hope you know what I mean when I say I’m sorry you’re here, but I’m glad you’re with me. ❞
You disappear so completely into your head sometimes. I wish I could follow you. ❞
But isn’t that what love is? Ownership? 'I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,’ as the Song of Songs goes. ❞
Never believe the bad guy is dead until you see a body. That just leads to unhappiness and surprise ambushes. ❞
Every time you almost die, I almost die myself. ❞
You’re not going. If I have to tie you up and sit on you until this insane whim of yours passes, you are not going. ❞
You were just upset about being left behind, like a child, and you had a tantrum. And now we’re here. Lost. ❞
Go ahead and do whatever you want, regardless of who it hurts. You always do anyway, don’t you? ❞
You could at least pretend you were glad to see me. Even a little bit. ❞
I have a fetish for damsels in distress. My services are also available to gentlemen in distress. It’s an equal opportunity fetish. ❞
I know how you think you feel about me. You don’t, though. You just like me because I’m safe. There’s no risk. ❞ And then you never have to try to have a real relationship, because you can use me as an excuse. ❞
I felt like you were someone I’d always been waiting for. I saw you feel it too. Don’t tell me you didn’t. ❞
You think you only want me because you’re evil, not human. You just want something else you can hate yourself for. I won’t let you use me to prove to yourself how worthless you are. ❞
I’m tired of you only wanting me around when you need something. I’m tired of watching you be in love with someone else—someone, incidentally, who will never love you back. Not the way I do. ❞
Anyway, I just saved you from being burned to death, so I figure you’re not allowed to be mad. ❞
I love you, and I will love you until I die, and if there’s a life after that, I’ll love you then. ❞
I always figure it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission in these sorts of situations. ❞
I want them to writhe and die on the ground. They deserve shame before they get oblivion. ❞
So now what? You’re going to kill me while I’m tied up? Does the thought of fighting me scare you that much?
You keep passing out on me. It’s extremely tedious. ❞
But I thought of you—I saw you there, clearly, as if you were standing in front of me, watching me, and I knew I wanted to live, wanted it more than I’d ever wanted anything, if only so that I could see your face one more time. ❞
I am a man, and men do not consume pink beverages. Get thee gone, woman, and bring me something brown. ❞
Oh, good. You’re starting to talk about yourself in the third person. That’s not a sign of impending megalomania or anything. ❞
Seems an odd time to start an insult contest, but if you insist, I could probably think up something good. ❞
It’s fascinating. You know all these words, and they’re all English, but when you string them together into sentences, they just don’t make any sense. ❞
You left me. You made a pet out of me, and then you left me. If love were food, I would have starved on the bones you gave me. ❞
You would do anything to save him, whatever it cost you, whatever you might owe to Hell or Heaven, would you not? ❞
Latent homosexual panic will do you in every time. ❞
You villains and your creepy eugenics programs are starting to bore me. ❞
Killing them is the most merciful thing you can do. ❞
I am a woman. I will use any weapon and all weapons to get what I want. ❞
I don’t know why I had to fall in love with someone who’s more stubborn than I am. ❞
God knows we’re all drawn toward what’s beautiful and broken. ❞
Watching me play Scrabble is enough to make most women swoon. Imagine if I actually put in some effort. ❞
Let me break it down for you. I’m young. I’m pretty. And I’m willing to burn the whole world to the ground to get what I want. ❞
You have ruthlessness in your bones and ice in your heart. Don’t tell me any differently. ❞
Viewing my naked chest has caused many women to seriously injure themselves stampeding to get to me. ❞
I was going to kill someone today. I just wasn’t sure who when I woke up this morning. I do love mornings, so full of possibilities. ❞
Goodness is not kindness, and there is nothing crueler than virtue. ❞
Weapons, when they break and are mended, can be stronger at the mended places. Perhaps hearts are the same. ❞
We are so much lovelier when we fall. ❞
You are mine. You have always been mine. When you were born, you were mine, though you did not know me. There are bonds that nothing can erase. ❞
Mercy is a condition of your agreement. ❞
The things you’ve done are too terrible to ever be forgiven, and you don’t even know they’re terrible. I will never forgive you. I will never love you. ❞
You lie when you tell me you’ll never love me. ❞
I’ve given you your chance to come willingly now. I’ve paid in blood and inconvenience to have you with me by your own choice. But I will take you unwilling, just the same. ❞
I only have two reactions to bad news - uncontrollable rage and then a sharp left turn into boiling self-hatred. ❞
This better be really juicy. And weird. Were bicycles involved in some kinky way? Vacuum cleaners? Umbrellas? ❞
The wishes of our hearts are weapons that can be used against us. ❞
I think they’ll probably put that on my gravestone. ‘He Was Heterosexual and Had Low Expectations.’ ❞
It was a little homoerotic, maybe, but I’m secure in my sexuality. ❞
You must love me. I never thought you’d admit anyone was prettier than you. ❞
I loved you recklessly from the moment I knew you. I never cared about the consequences. ❞
There are things we want, down under what we know, under even what we feel. There are things our souls want, and mine wants you. ❞
I can read your face like a very open, very pornographic book. I wish I couldn’t. ❞
It doesn’t matter if I hurt you because you belong to me. I can do what I want with you. ❞
I don’t want other people touching you or owning you or hurting you. I want you to be around, to admire me and to see what I’ve done, what I’ve accomplished. ❞
You have a dark heart in you, and it is a darkness we share. ❞
When I am all there is in your world, when I am all that is left, you will love me back. ❞
Hate me. Rejoice when I die. The last thing I would want now would be to bring you more grief. ❞
Ghosts are memories, and we carry them because those we love do not leave the world. ❞
We are all the pieces of what we remember. We hold in ourselves the hopes and fears of those who love us. As long as there is love and memory, there is no true loss. ❞

Akko vs Diana breakdown: Ep 14.

So, i’m going to go point per point here to show you what’s really going on, ‘cause not everyone seems to have noticed.

Akko starts by dismissing her opinion under the excuse that, because she’s rich, she has no idea what she’s talking about.

Then gives an example on that, claiming that she’s got this huge room “all to herself” (not really), as if being able to afford a better room has some kind of relation to this argument.

Then they start calling her aristocrat, in order to make her feel bad for being one. She gets past the embarrasment and anger and thinks.

And so, Diana, being hurt but keeping her cool, starts trying to hurt Akko back in her own way, also revealing the fact that the respect she found in Akko on the previous episode just banished. I’ll explain why on the next point.

This is the point where Akko fucks up. She speaks 2 big ass lies: That Diana looks down on others, and that she does not know what hard work is. First, and this seems to be a common misconception of her character: She never, and i repeat, NEVER, looks down on anyone. Not even Akko. She just tries to help everyone be the best they can, wich to others can make her look like a stuck-up bitch. Yet she never does anything that even implies that she underestimates Akko or the others, and even looks dissapointed when Akko doesn’t show up for the sacrifice thing.

And second, she Works her ass off. And i mean her fucking ass off. I said it on the room anailysis, she doesn’t even care about her personal space, she has a reputation to uphold and therefore she only focuses on getting better at magic. When Akko implies that, because of her family, because of her blood, she had no troubles getting where she is, she loses her respect for Akko because she thought that maybe it could be different with her, after the shiny chariot-ish act she put up with Vajarois. And here, she demonstrates the exact oposite of that, she demonstrates that her mentality is the same as everybody else. That’s why Diana loses any kind of respect she had for Akko.

Then Diana relizes there’s no point on arguing with someone like Akko. Someone who doesn’t even begin to comprehend all the effort she has put to get where she is. This is the first time that i think Diana really looks down on Akko, not because of her skill, but because of her mentality.  She walks off and says to her that there are more important things she should be doing, meaning obviously the unlocking of the seven words.

And we don’t see any more of her for the rest of the episode.

Now, if you’re anything like me and think that what i’m saying is right, then you probably also think that this is the point where Diana starts to really dislike akko, and that at some point she’s going to have an argument with her and that she’s going to break down, because what Akko is doing is underestimating her.

Hope you liked this little analysis!

PSA: COMPATIBILITY

How many of my rants will it take for people in the astro community to realize that SUN SIGN COMPATIBILITY MEANS NOTHING????

“Compatibility” in general is just mainstream society’s way of making you either get false hope or making you disappointed. It’s literally part of the reason why astrology isn’t taken seriously. What you really have to do is look at synastry, composite, and compare the general energy in the two CHARTS (notice I didn’t say “the two signs” because you have to look at EVERYTHING).

Astrology can tell you HOW the relationship will work/not work/play out and can give you a sense of the general energy that will surround it, but it CANNOT TELL YOU WHETHER OR NOT IT WILL WORK. TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK, YOU HAVE TO PUT ACTUAL EFFORT IN. ANYTHING CAN WORK REGARDLESS OF ASTROLOGY. Plus, there are pros and cons to any combination of two charts in astrology no matter what.

OR AT LEAST IF YOU INSIST ON LOOKING AT TRADITIONAL COMPATIBILITY, COMPARE THE MOON SIGNS OR VENUS SIGNS IN THE TWO CHARTS AS OPPOSED TO THE SUN SIGNS. THESE WILL GIVE YOU A BETTER IDEA - MUCH BETTER THAN SUN, BECAUSE YOUR SUN SIGN HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH HOW YOU ACT IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Invisible Girls

I’ve always found it fascinating how so many guys just don’t care about ugly girls. It’s like, if a girl is fat, or not conventionally attractive, she’s irrelevant, invisible. It doesn’t matter if she’s kind, smart, funny, interesting. She’s ugly, and so she doesn’t exist.

Before I broke up with my boyfriend my first year of college, we had a conversation about guys rating girls on a 1-10 scale (something a lot of guys do in social situations, apparently). 

I asked him if the guys on our dorm hall did this. He said yes.

“Really?” I asked him. “They’ve rated the girls on our hall?”

“Oh, yeah. A bunch of us did, a few weeks ago. Emily was rated a seven, Bianca a nine, you an eight, Lacey a ten…”

And he started listing off all of the girls the guys on the hall had rated. They had rated about seven girls in total

“Okay,” I said. “But what about the other girls?”

He blinked. “What other girls?”

“You guys only rated maybe one third of the girls on our hall. What about the rest of them?”

“Oh. We didn’t rate them.”

“Why not?”

He looked uncomfortable. “Well, I mean, come on, Vee. Why do you think?”

I stared at him. “Is it because they’re not conventionally pretty? Because they’re fat or not white-looking?”

“Vee–”

“Is it?”

“Well, if you put it that way–”

I knew it was stupid to be upset over something like that, but I was.

“You know,” I said. “I don’t think I’ve seen any of the guys on our hall make an effort to talk to the girls on our hall that aren’t pretty.”

My boyfriend shrugged. “You’re probably right.”

“But why? Ellie’s the sweetest person I’ve ever met, Mikaela is fascinating to talk to. I don’t understand why they’re not given a chance. You don’t have to be physically attracted to someone to be friends.”

“Vee, obviously you don’t understand how strong a guy’s sex drive is,” my boyfriend said. “It dictates so much of what you do. If a guy sees an ugly girl, he’s not going to be interested in interacting with her, point-blank. He wants to find someone pretty.”

“So, does that mean all of the guys on our hall that are nice to me just want to have sex with me?”

“…No.”

“Then I don’t see that as an excuse.”

At this point, my boyfriend had started getting annoyed, and changed the conversation. But I still thought about it for a long time afterwards.