why do i bother posting anything

My 51 year old therapist mother LOVES Pokemon go

(Edit: my mom is only in here as brandy bc I imported a lot of my contacts from her phone and I haven’t ever bothered to change it. She and I get along perfectly, please don’t assume otherwise. I read tags and I see people doing it and it sucks to see)

(edit number 2: lay off on harassing me about my messages holy shit half of those were happy birthday texts from the day before and the other half were coupons. also depression makes it really hard for me to motivate myself to reply sometimes too. idk why i thought i could post this and nobody would find anything to pick at on this fucking website)

  • Mako: Oh, hey, chief. Did you get my report on the triad murder?
  • Lin: Yeah, I looked it over. Nice work.
  • Mako: Good. Thanks, mom.
  • Lin: ...
  • Mako: Why is everyone staring at me?
  • Asami: You just called Chief Beifong "mom."
  • Mako: What? No, I didn't. I said, "thanks, ma'am."
  • Lin: Do you see me as a mother figure, Mako?
  • Mako: No. If anything, I see you as a "bother" figure, 'cause you're always bothering me.
  • Korra: Hey, show your mother some respect!
Tell Them

Originally posted by fvck-kai

“Yixing,” you hum as you help him adjust the collar of his shirt, “you don’t have to do this. You could just make a statement through the company or something. Wouldn’t it be easier for you that way?”

Yixing brushes a strand of hair away from your eyes and tucks it behind your ear. His smile doesn’t budge as he shrugs. “Maybe,” he nods, acknowledging your words, “but I want to do it this way. I want everyone to hear it from me, not some press release or Facebook post. Do you not want me to do this?”

“No,” you hum, “that’s not it. I just… I don’t know. I don’t want you to go out of your way doing something that might bring you more negativity.”

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this is something that has been bothering me for a while

why is it that the majority of check please/nurseydex content on this site always insists that nursey is always in the wrong in terms of (potential) arguments with dex about privilege and the very different lives they live? why do y’all continue to create content where nursey finally has some sort of awakening to the advantage he has over dex financially, but no one mentions dex’s whiteness as an advantage that he has over nursey? 

why have i only seen one post that says anything about DEX waking up to the fact that aside from his financial status nursey has NO OTHER ADVANTAGE OVER DEX? why does dex never fucking wake up and realize his privilege as a white person in y’all fics/headcannons/etc.? nursey is canonically a biracial black person (also reminder: biracial does not always equal half white) and dex is white. dex has an immense amount of advantages over nursey bc of his skin color and i am so tired of that being overlooked. 

where is a fic where nursey sits dex down and explains that nursey may come from money, but dex’s parents never had to give him a talk about how to act bc of how he will be perceived as a black man? dex’s parents don’t have to worry about their children being the next hashtag on twitter as victims of police brutality. dex does not have to police himself in public bc of his race. dex will have greater chances of success than a nonblack person in the same financial situation. i could go on for days about this. 

and let me be very clear: i am not trying to downplay any struggles that dex has to go through, or the struggles of any poor white person, and i love dex tbh. but y’all have to realize that he is still incredibly privileged. and dex needs to realize this in fic/headcannons/etc. as well. and yes, they are fictional characters in a comic and some of y’all might not think it’s this serious but it is a real-life issue and tbh, to an extent some of it is a bit anti-black. please stop subconsciously making nursey the villain in any situation where he discusses these topics with dex.

tl;dr: stop overlooking dex’s advantages and privileges as a white person, and please include it in content y’all create. 

hi im super sorry to bother you but i really love  your art and i just saw your pokemon team’s gijinkas and i thought they were so amazing! i tried to do a small doodle for my favourite design which is your butterfree Venus and i realised that she didn’t look anything like the design and im really sorry about that :’( i really love your art thank you for drawing and keeping me inspired! 

submitted by @ scaredofbirbs

WHY ARE YOU APOLOGIZE This isn’t a bother at all!! QoQ

Sorry for the lateness in posting this, I’ve been awful pre-occupied and I wanted to make sure I was coherent enough to give you proper thanks for this–It’s really wonderful~!

You did a fine job capturing her! All their designs are pretty open for wiggle room and I could tell who it was the moment I saw it in my inbox, so I think you did well~ 

Thank you so much for this–I’m glad I could inspire you and I’ll keep doing my best!

  • enoch: thanks, mom... why is everyone staring at me?
  • millard: you just called miss peregrine mom; you said "thanks, mom"
  • enoch: what? no i didn't
  • miss peregrine: do you see me as a mother figure enoch?
  • enoch: if anything i see you as a BOTHER figure because you're always BOTHERING me
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so many of the most iconic images from ‘the x-files’ feature nothing more or less than mulder or scully–or mulder & scully–viewed from behind as they study something extraordinary: an event that will change them, a place with potential, a phenomenon that cannot be explained. it’s such a thematically significant composition that it just about sums up the entirety of the show: the importance of searching (did you find what you were looking for? / no, but i found something i thought i’d lost: faith to keep looking); the importance of witnessing (why do you doubt yourself? / because my partner didn’t see them); and the importance of facing what comes (how can I see the future if it didn’t already exist? / then if the future is written, then why bother to do anything). for a brief moment we are voyeurs, watching these characters as the conspirators who threaten them do. they are outlined against the impossible, but they refuse to let it remain a nameless enigma… and that is the danger they pose.

anonymous asked:

Do any of the asks you recieve annoy you? Because I've sent asks you both answered and didn't and I'm scared I bothered you at points.

Asks that tend to be deleted fall into 1 of the following categories:

1) Ask a question that has been covered a few times already (this is partially my fault for not tagging posts thoroughly enough; I’m working on this) - questions regarding my audition/recording process for Breath of the Wild are currently the most common offenders.

2) Asks made by Anonymous posters that contain questions unlikely to have detailed/interesting answers [Ex: Why is Revali so jealous of Link?]

3) Asks that have anything to do with characters’ reactions/actions/behaviors concerning lewd or questionable material (Seriously, folks, I’m not interested in elaborating on how Revali would respond to Link making sexual advances, or Teba to seeing Rule 34.)

4) Asks requesting audio skits/responses that are either too generic or - conversely - too random to be worth pursuing [Ex: “Requesting audio of Teba’s response when he gets hit by one of Revali’s arrows”, etc.]

5) The person asking has been sending me 2-3 questions a day, and I’d like to give focus to others for a bit.

6) The Ask is one of those ‘pure praise’ posts that is being made while Anonymous. [If I responded to every single one of these examples that showed up in my inbox, there would be serious cause to assume I’m just tooting my own horn from how much of my blog would be word-for-word repeats of the same positive feedback]

As a general rule of thumb, Asks made while Anonymous are at least 3x more likely to fall into the realm of being unanswered simply because it removes my ability to connect with someone directly instead of a faceless anyone. I don’t know if I’m answering a new visitor or someone posting for the 20th time, and too many of them risk me coming off as being a ‘fake celebrity’ making up questions for himself to then answer.

Reasons Why I Can’t Watch 13 Reasons Why: A Discourse Open For Discussion On Both Sides

1. The scriptwriting is cliched. The teenagers act simply like a broken record. We can see these kids walking around schools just like ‘real life’. Except no molds are broken. Jocks are always girl-hungry and horny. Let’s not even mention how she says ‘you are like an actual nerd’. For saying something about Star Wars. We have 2 gay people, but that only leads to Reason 2. The story is writen in such a way that it sounds like either a melodrama or a cheesy high-school movie from the 90s-early 2000s. 

2. Diversity seems more as a token aha moment, then to actually be a part of a genuine discussion as to everyday vocabulary that can be a target to minorities. I constantly hear people calling people ‘gay’ or a ‘f*g’ or ‘queer’ with no context whatsoever. With gay characers, especially (from what I have read since I couldn’t get the past few episodes) since one commits suicide. They could have a discussion about minorities and how they are harmful to life. We could talk about trans kids, who have the highest suicide rate and how transphobia is in everyday lives. Racism, we could go down the list. Instead of focusing on how words can affect all people, we see how it affects her. The diversity in the show is killed off, again showing something that is common and yet  we can’t discuss events relating to self-deprication in high-schools. There was a perfect opportunity to mention how school administration can also be culprits of homophobia in schools. 

3. It seems to dramaticize a horrific event. We get 13 hours of material to act as a mystery as to why this happen. But that’s the entire point of suicide isn’t it? The horrific part of suicide is that we won’t be able to hear what the victim says. We will never know ‘13 Reasons Why’ the suicide occurred for people but somehow, we get an entire story as to why it happened. We dramaticize something horrific for entertainment purposes. The suicide is only a means of suspense. In medias res, we jump into the story and don’t know how it happened. And yet the story teaches us that we can. It is important to show empathy, but does it also need to be written in such a way? Do we have to see that death scene for 3 minutes? Not sugar-coating is something I am all in for, but it sugar-coats the entire story in naive hope that we will know everything that a person felt when they killed themselves. And unfortunately, for everyone that kills themselves, we won’t get to know what is exactly in their minds except for a letter at best. There isn’t just 13 reasons. There’s infinite amounts of discouragement and hurt + 1 - yourself. And yet it doesn’t want to discuss that part of it as seen in reason 4. 

4. It doesn’t touch upon mental illnesses at all. Not once do we get the words uttered. It a personal struggle to do as such. It is fighting demons, it is a constant battlefield for yourself. Yet, you don’t see that aspect. You don’t hear her feel like she is fighting herself. The people are always the targets. And while bullying and rape is something needed to be spoken about, we also need to disable ableism into thinking that mental illnesses don’t exist. Depression, anxiety is thrown around all the time, as if that is something to equate to yourself.The ‘kys’ jokes are always around and circling and never seems to stop. We see these awful signs of mental illness everyday and yet, we neglect to realize that the main character herself has depression. We didn’t get to see that barrier of ‘I am simply upset about everything around me’ or ‘I don’t feel anything’. Sometimes its crying in your bed at 3am because you realize that you really don’t matter to yourself. Its terrifying, yet we don’t show that reality for people struggling with such thoughts are more than simply stuff that other people said - it’s fighting yourself as well. 

5. Romanticization. We see at the end that the main character is simply a crush of hers and she regrets not spending more time of him! It is not only awful writing that you can smell away, but it also romantcizes that perhaps that if they got together that it would eliminate all problems. You can’t love someone out of a mental illness and while this was touched upon, people in the 13rw fandom keep going about how they were star-crossed lovers. The problem is, that the story relies on this budding romance as a climax as well. We realize that there is a romance that could of happened. And I hate that it is seen as something that could have cured anything when she was alive. The pain is still there. Raw and powerful and yet we see that pain being overshadowed with angst. Love is definitely encouraging for healing, yet it never really touches upon that as to much as how it could have helped her. 

Just an afterthought: This show is being thrown around with ‘I can’t believe how much words can affect someone’. I am wholeheartedly disappointed that it takes a show with relatively attractive, white, abled, straight, cis characters to make someone realize this. Yet I know many of the people I have gone to school with do not even apply this to their everyday lives. They still are harmful, as much as the show brings to light attention of issues, these are the same people that will make harsh words to others. It only perpetuates self-awareness for a while before people simply forget about the message. That or the message is scewed in such a way to only apply to people they deem as such. A show has a responsibility to bring light to situations, yet now it’s a ‘binge-worthy’ show. I hate that word for this, why is it so entertaining for someone to kill themselves? It seems like once you show some melancholy moments in someone’s life do people feel sorry. ‘People only care when you are dead’ is the message of the show and yet it does exactly that. People would much rather watch a girl narrating killing herself than her story ending with her killing herself. Frankly, maybe we would be shocked. It tells a lot about our society today. 

Regarding the post about participation trophies:  I know this has been said before, but I want to reiterate.  If you reward a child equally for when they do good and when they fail miserably, they don’t learn “Oh, my failure is just as good as somebody’s success” and go on to be an entitled brat.  That’s not how the human brain works.  They learn “Nothing I do matters,” “rewards don’t actually mean anything” and “the outcome is going to be the same regardless of my behavior so why should I bother?”  The failure isn’t inflated in importance to match the reward.  The reward is devalued to match the failure.  And that’s why we have a generation of kids who are wracked with anxiety and depression and who are smarter and harder working than ever but don’t feel like they’re in control of their lives because nothing they do has any noticeable effect on their environment.  (This is also why these poor kids don’t freaking believe you when you try to compliment them)

  • Viktor: Here *hands over the jacket*
  • Yurio: Thanks, dad.
  • Yurio: Why is everyone staring at me?
  • Yuuri: You just called Viktor “dad.”
  • Yurio: What? No! I said, “thanks, man.”
  • Viktor: Do you see me as a father figure?
  • Yurio: No. If anything, I see you as a BOTHER figure because you’re always bothering me.
  • Viktor: HEY, SHOW YOUR FATHER SOME RESPECT!
  • Xiao: Thanks dad.
  • Up10tion: ...
  • Xiao: Why is everyone staring at me?
  • Wei: You just called Kuhn dad, you said "thanks dad"
  • Xiao: What? no I didn't. I said thanks man.
  • Kuhn: Do you see me as a father figure Dongyeol?
  • Xiao: No, if anything I see you as a BOTHER figure because you're always BOTHERING me.
  • Kogyeol: Hey, show your father some respect.
  • Hiro: Hey, Tadashi, did you get the part I needed to fix Baymax?
  • Tadashi: Yeah, I picked it up on my break.
  • Hiro: Cool. Thanks, Dad.
  • *silence*
  • Hiro: ...Why is everyone staring at me?
  • Gogo: You just called Tadashi Dad. You said, "Thanks, Dad."
  • Hiro: What? No I didn't! I said, "Thanks, MAN."
  • Tadashi: Do you see me as a father figure, Hiro?
  • Hiro: No! If anything, I see you as a BOTHER figure, 'cause you're always bothering me!
  • Wasabi: Hey! Show your father some respect!
  • Hiro: I didn't call him Dad!
  • Tadashi: I believe you.
  • Hiro: Thank you!
  • Tadashi: Son.
An open letter to the Tumblr Staff from the blogger you just screwed over

Okay, staff, I am super freaking pissed about the update and here’s why. 

I cannot read your new format. 

I’m not trying to be whiny or nitpicky or over-dramatic. I can appreciate that you were attempting to make things look more organised/less confusing/whatever. I also expect the new format is a great improvement for people who have screen readers. That’s great. That’s fine. 

I just cannot freaking read this. I have dyslexia, and my dyslexia is set off by pictures, bold, italics, anything that is more “interesting” to my brain than plain, unadorned text.

Like this monstrosity:

Look at it. Just look at it. The pictures get in between the lines of text, there’s distracting colors and pictures everywhere. The names are bolded when they’re really not the most important thing. Looking at this, I see everything except what I’m supposed to see, that cheesy series of puns. (No pun intended.)

You literally couldn’t have made a worse format for me if you’d tried.

The thing is, your format was what made me really like Tumblr in the first place. It was super clear who was writing something new, because look, there was a freaking line pointing right to it. Unless someone started writing in all caps or bold or whatever, all the text in a post had the same amount of emphasis. Finally, SOMETHING ON THE INTERNET I COULD READ.

And now, now I can’t read any of it at all. 

So yeah, I’m pissed. 

Like, I know that you’re not going to change it back, because you never seem to listen when anyone on your site complains about anything. I’m not sure why I bothered writing this to you guys, given your track record. 

But now’s your chance to prove me wrong. Seriously, the least you could do is give us an option here. You’ve still got the old code. Just stick a button somewhere to revert to the old format so I can enjoy my text posts in peace. 

Sincerely, 

Dyslexic Blogger

fatale-distraction replied to your post “fatale-distraction: dragonsanddweebs: trueteyrn: I’m gonna get a…”

OP says ‘it’s just fictional’, yes that’s the point? :/ it’s fictional so why does the idea of fat elves bother you so much you had to make a post about it as though no one would see it, and then proceed to make even more posts about it? Maybe admit your comment was hurtful, instead of 'lol elf stans it’s just a fictional game’.

Yyyeah. I’ve seen this shit before. It’s honestly weird more than anything. Like if it’s all fictional why… do you care enough to make a post in the first place? It’s just the classic thing younger teenagers do when they get called out for being immature and then try to make it the other person’s fault for ‘overreacting.’ 

Whatever, if they want to make something out of nothing they’re welcome to. That’s their prerogative. I hope it… gives them some meaning? I guess?

@fatale-distraction

About “SGA Discourse”

So, I guess it’s caught on. I don’t know if I’m the only person who coined it, but seeing as I’ve apparently popularized (or unpopularized) it, here’s what it was supposed to mean and why.

1) Every time I posted anything related to LGBTQ+ community gatekeeping, it got tagged by detractors as “ace discourse”. This was a problem for me on two levels:

  • I am not ace, and as a bi person dealing with erasure, this latest kind of erasure understandably bothered me.
  • The manipulative way everything even slightly critical of intracommunity aggression and identity policing instantly got labelled “ace discourse”, in a transparent attempt to make it look ridiculous and like something only those intruding aces would care about, not “real LGBT people”.

2) “SGA” doesn’t do anything productive with existing community labels. It certainly isn’t inclusive. It reduces bisexuality and multi-gender attraction to “the part that could be taken as gay”, and effectively brings back the “half gay half straight” myth that has fuelled biphobia ever since there was a community.

Additionally, there are people to whom “the same gender” is a meaningless category, as well as the fact that any attempt to police what that is will inevitably rely on cissexism. “SGA” violently redefines existing identities in order to bring them in line with the gay/straight dichotomy, which unsurprisingly does not work for multi-gender attraction or for nonbinary genders (among other things).

“SGA and trans” is an ahistorical definition of “LGBT”. Historically, trans people have not had cis LG support on a consistent basis (in fact, there are numerous documented instances of trans people being left out precisely to advance cis LG causes, as we have seen with “same sex” marriage, the ENDA, etc). Acting as if cis LG and trans people face identical struggles is completely disrespectful to the specific oppression trans people have faced and continue to face in and outside the community.

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So, “SGA discourse” and “SGA discoursers” doesn’t mean “being gay is bad”. It specifically refers to people who are using SGA, over the objections of bi/pan and trans/nonbinary people among others, to redefine those identities so that gatekeeping the community is easier. It’s a criticism of reducing complexity to convenient tokens. It’s a rejection of essentialism and of the idea that gatekeeping should be the main priority of LGBTQ+ people, often carried out by means of harassment and scapegoating.

If you think all of the above is an inherent part of being gay or lesbian and that’s why “SGA discourse” is mocking gay people, that’s on you. It’s simply mocking useless and ahistorical terminology and the vicious intracommunity abuse perpetrated in its name.

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Also, it’s a counter-term to “ace discourse”, which has come to mean “words I disagree with and am going to blame on this group even if it’s being said by somebody else.” Please, whatever you do, however little you care about the context of “SGA discourse”, at least don’t blame this one on aces. Blame it on us dirty bisexuals instead.

Viktor: Great performance, Yurio!

Yurio: Thanks, dad. ….. Why is everyone staring at me?

Yuuri: You just called Viktor “dad”. You said “thanks, dad”.

Yurio: What? No, I didn’t. I said “thanks, man”.

Viktor: Do you see me as a father figure, Yurio?

Yurio: No!! If anything I see you as a BOTHER figure because you’re always BOTHERING me!!!