i don’t know why this is such a difficult thing for a lot of you to do, to tag your nazi/antisemitism/racism/confederacy fuckery/queerphobia/xenophobia horseshit, but i swear to god if some of you Misery-Collecting straight white people don’t start taking those two simple seconds, i gotta unfollow you man
i’m not saying your voices aren’t necessary, i’m not saying these discussions aren’t vital, i’m not saying i don’t earnestly love each and every single one of you down to the very core of my humanity, but you aren’t discussing anything, you aren’t contributing to the enlightenment of anyone who wouldn’t otherwise agree with you, there’s no valuable insight or information added, you’re frisbeeing shit around in an echo chamber and a lot of these posts are irreparably damaging to the people these groups target and you can help to mitigate some of that by calming that raging-hot reblog finger for ten minutes, tagging it, or just…………………. not posting it at all. i know it’s compelling, but i promise you it’s a very easy thing to just… not do
and like, i am a white, middle-class gay man with the incredible privilege and autonomy to work from home with as much relative anonymity as i can possibly squeak by on- i don’t often have to expose myself to public life unless it’s by choice, so in terms of minority status, i am at the tippity-fuckin-top of that pyramid, so if the persistent downpour of misery has this much of a daily impact on me? you see where i’m going with this, yes?
point: do you know what PoC, queers, jews, muslims, immigrants, indigenous people absolutely do not need right now?
body counts. constant inundation. the incessant reminders, however well-intentioned or mindless, of the 6 new horrifying reasons to be terrified of leaving our homes that day. the sharp increase in our instinct to look over our shoulders, and the resulting adrenaline and soul fatigue this kind of hypervigilance results in. we live it every day- some of us a LOT more than others.
we do not need to be reminded, especially if you have nothing of value to add to an article full of pictures of screaming nazis and confederate flags, that our cities and towns and communities are thrumming with emboldened monsters with the means and generationally-ingrained motive to cause us physical harm, ruin our lives, terrorize our communities, actually, really, kill us.
every single time i have to manually block a post because it includes this kind of shit, pictures of swastikas or the words “white supremacy” or “faggot” or racial slurs or or or or, i get dragged back to the darkest time in my life and pals, i cannot keep going back there, to the bottomless nightmare of unrelenting torment and physical assault and constant verbal abuse and the public humiliation that ultimately malformed me into this gnarled raw nerve of a man whose PTSD often won’t even let him go to the fucking grocery store
i know exactly how much of this is a me-problem. i get that. but broadly, for as much ally-dickswinging that goes on here, tagging your shit appropriately is like… the simplest thing you can do, and if you aren’t, i am going to assume that you do not care about me or my well-being, and that your reblogs are either performative, or purely knee-jerk Shock Mongering with no clear catalyst other than to spread an awareness of misery that we’re already aware of
i know that’s petulant and unfair and irrational, and i know you aren’t doing it maliciously, but it’s where my basest instincts lead me- instincts formed over 30 years of fear and hiding and self-loathing, instincts to KNOW who’s going to have my back, and of making myself as small and unassuming as i possibly can, instincts that have served to keep me alive and not tied to a rural fence post bleeding to death, but that have also altered me so fundamentally that i no longer have any real grasp of who i am.
this went off the rails but the point is: tag your shit, or better yet, if you’re just collecting this shit for no reason, just………………………… fuckin stop