I don’t understand this concept, and I’m baffled that some people actually live like this. Is that what girls want for themselves? For their daughters? A guy who will constantly need forgiving? I just can’t wrap my mind around it. Mon-El has barely shown any signs that he will change. He keeps not honouring Kara’s wishes/request, he keeps lying and/or withholding information, and I just feel like Kara deserves better. I don’t dispute the fact that Mon-El truly loves Kara, at all. I feel like it’s clear he does. I’d be more sceptical about Kara’s love for him, but it seem to me that she does love him despite everything he’s done/keeps doing. But… Is love really enough? I mean, you can’t help who you love, sure. But does love excuse everything else, every lie, every knife to the gut, every oppressive and abusive comment? Going further into real relationships out there, does it excuse physical abuse? Because I’ve come to know someone, who despite every beating still loved their partner, and their partner apologised EVERY SINGLE TIME after “loosing control”, does love excuse that? And if not… Why should it excuse anything short of healthy?
And for those of you saying that Mon-El truly has changed because of that scene with his parents?
Mon-El “They won’t. It will be more of the same. I think about our lives there and it makes me ill, I detest who I was. I was ignorant, and blind to those around me. And letting myself be propped up at the expense of our people. I am tired of being served, and I’m tired of taking the easy way out. And I’m done being your prince.”
Queen Rhea “You sound just like her. That Kryptonian girl has poisoned you.”
Mon-El “No, mother. That woman is the best thing that has ever happened to me. The best thing I know. And whether we’re together or not, being near her makes me a better person. It makes me the person, I wanna be.”
I’m sorry to all of you, but I’m going to have to disagree on that. I don’t mean to disrespect anyone’s opinion, everyone has the right to one, so here’s mine: that scene shows that Mon-El indeed loves Kara, that never was in question I think. However, it does not show that he’s changed. He’s not noble, he’s not doing the “right thing”. Just think with me for a second… Imagine Kara in this situation, or Alex or ANYONE in this show who’s selfless and a true hero. They would give up their OWN happiness to correct their wrongs, to commit to the responsibility to their people, to do right, to do better. Mon-El heard that his people are all scattered across the universe, he heard what his parents wanted to do, which is basically to recreate the hell hole that was Daxam. And Mon-El, as the prince, he could actually do some good for the planet he did nothing to help before. But he choose to stay, because he loves Kara. And that’s okay… But he’s not changed, he’s just focusing his “selfishness” of sorts into one feeling: his love for Kara.
And I could go on and on, and talk about all of the little things that Mon-El has been doing that really don’t sit with me, but I just… I feel drained. This is not the only show that represents these kind of unhealthy relationships as “ideal” and the “happy ending”. I just thought I should say something, might save the girl out there the heartbreak. Kara deserves better, and hopefully she knows this. And honestly, young girls out there, who are learning to love and getting into their first relationships, they deserve better too.