who needs friends when we have internet

  • Psychic: *reads my mind*
  • My mind: whenever I'm alone or if I'm feeling gray, there's one place I can go to brighten up my day it makes me want to sing that's how the show should end but wouldn't it be good if I could sing it with a friend fine whatever I'll join in too I might go outside to feel more alive without twitter where would I be I guess It'd be fit to stop posting sh-RUBBISH but tumblr's a part of me there's so many websites and so little time plus one or two you should avoid just don't stop watching youtube or we'll be unemployed the internet is here the internet is great when you've got lots of followers who need a real mate it might be antisocial but these days that is fine 'cause life is so much better when you spend it all online a place where you can be yourself no matter if you're geeky find friends that share your hobbies even if they're freaky where any question in your head is answered in an instant who care if you procrastinate your one shot at existence the internet is here the internet is great when you've got lots of followers who need a real mate Without the internet we never would have met We wouldn't be here on a stage doing things we might regret dance break who cares if you're a loser and everybody knows it or if you spend your life drawing whiskers on your noses even if your chances of getting tanned are slim or if you like vicariously through the life of a sim sheltay zomo the internet is here the internet is great when you've got lots of followers who need a real mate it might be antisocial but these days that is fine 'cause life is so much better life is so much better life is so much better when you spend it all online
  • Psychic: wow what a bop

Yuri on Ice saved me

It seems weird to say that an anime about gay figure skaters saved my life but it did.

I was depressed and waiting for therapy to start when YOI dropped.

I loved it from the first episode but I had a visceral reaction to Yuuri who I felt I understood. His anxiety felt so real that I identified with him immediately.

I shared it with my friends who also got into and then my child wanted to watch it with me and even my dad wanted to talk about it. It became this thing that connected me to others in my personal life.

And then a funny thing happened. A post I made on it blew up.

Before Yuri on Ice the most notes on a post of mine was a few hundred and that was months after the original post.

Now I was getting over a thousand easily in 24 hours often more, and gaining followers faster then I could imagine.

And I no longer felt alone.

My therapist and I even scheduled me fandom time because it was such a positive influence on my life…we just needed to make sure it was balanced.

I have written 82 fanfics for Yuri On Ice as of right now. I’ve had people translate stories of mine into Russian, Chinese and Hungarian (and maybe a few others)

I have started following amazing writers and artists who I wouldn’t have found without YOI.

Met new internet friends and reconnected with old ones.

I have bonded with my child and my dad over this anime.

My depression is in recovery in part thanks to Yuri On Ice. Specifically when I realised while I didn’t know how to be kind to myself I could be kind to Yuuri and Yuuri was me and so was able to turn that kindness on myself.

And I’m staying depression free during my current physical health problems because even though I can barely leave my room because interacting with the fandom means I don’t feel isolated or lonely.

I might not be here today without Yuri On Ice and I am incredibly grateful this anime exists and also thankful for the incredible fandom that sprang up around it and the wonderful people who I now know because of it.

When it all becomes a bit much... World Mental Health Day.

So I thought about today and how much it has meant to me. Sometimes I wish I could travel back in time and tell myself that it will be okay and to be open with myself about my issues.

When i was younger, i held in all my pain, resulting in self-harm, heightened emotions, self-critizing, self-hate, and secrets. It felt like no one could of cared at the time for what was going on. My life seemed black and white, with no ever chance of having color and a good future.

It lead me to think that I did not need to exist anymore. I tried, but still am glad I made it through that and am here. It was a cry of help, but also a huge push to try to find myself and get real with all my issues. Sure, I still feel like somedays I could just disappear and it wouldn’t matter. Those days call for reaching out for support and cracking out some chocolate and a funny movie.

I am not perfect, I am not totally healed or recovered. I will relapse and make decisions that are not the best. I will grow and heal. Like a sunflower, some days I will stand up and enjoy the sun, other days come in on myself.

My advice to all of you who are struggling or just need this.

1. be gentle with yourself, some days you won’t like you, and that is okay. 

2. come to terms with your struggles. do not be afraid to embrace them and know that acknowledging them is the first step in recovery for some.

3. have support systems. family, friends, internet friends, a chat group, even a journal. find a place of safe haven and use it when you’re hurting.

4. you’re not any less of a person if you relapse or do something “bad”. we all fall down, it is okay to stand up again even if it feels hopeless. you are not a bad person, you are valid.

5. it takes time to heal. I will be 24 next month and I am still working on my self-care. give it time, it will not happen overnight. everyday, you’ll get a little closer to where you want to be.

6. hang in there when it gets really bad. I know that is hard, but know that those days will pass and truly do what you can to help your body, mind and soul heal.

7. it’s not a competition. your feelings and struggles are as valid as mine, friends, family members, etc. if anyone ever tries to make it a competition, please remove them from your life. 

8. find your happy place. music is mine, art could be yours, reading, doodling, watching netflix, you name it! have something you can cushion on when life is a big pain in the butt. animals too are quite lovely. 

9. breathe. oh my gosh, just take some time to breathe. stop what you’re doing and slow down. breathe. inhale and exhale, close your eyes. you are here, you will be okay.

10. i will always be here for you. I promise you can reach out to me and just yell. you can vent and ask for advice. you can ask for a distraction. you are not alone. i refuse to let people be alone. you need someone? hit me up. 

I love you all so much.

Let’s keep fighting this battle.

xo,

Laura

The Internet Is Here Lyrics
  • Phil: Whenever I’m alone, or if I’m feeling gray there’s one place I can go to brighten up my day. It makes me want to sing. That's how the show should end. But wouldn't it be good if I could sing it with a friend?
  • Dan: Phil, I think you should have asked before putting me on the spot like this.
  • Okay. Fine. Whatever. I'll join in too.
  • Phil: I might go outside and feel more alive. Without twitter where would I be?
  • Dan: I guess I'd be fit. I'd stop posting shi
  • Phil: -rubbish
  • Dan: But tumblr's a part of me.
  • Phil: So many websites and so little time. There's one or two you should avoid.
  • Dan: Just don't stop watching youtube, or we'll be unemployed.
  • Both: The internet is here. The internet is great. When you've got lots of followers who needs a real mate? We might be antisocial, but these days, that is fine.
  • Dan: Because life is so much better when you spend it all online.
  • Phil: A place where you can be yourself, no matter if you're geeky.
  • Dan: Find friends that share your hobbies, even if they're creepy.
  • Phil: Where any question in your head is answered in an instant.
  • Dan: Who cares if you procrastinate your one shot at existence.
  • Both: The internet is here. The internet is great. When you've got lots of followers, who needs a real mate?
  • WITHOUT THE INTERNET, WE NEVER WOULD HAVE MET.
  • Phil: We'd never be here on a stage, doing things we might regret.
  • Dan: Dance break.
  • Phil: Who cares if you're a loser, and everybody knows it?
  • Dan: Or if you spend your life drawing whiskers on your noses?
  • Phil: Even if your chances of getting tan are slim.
  • Dan: Or if you live vicariously through the life of a sim.
  • Dil: Chiltay zombo
  • Both: *music gets intense and beautiful* The internet is here. The internet is great. When you've got lots of followers who needs a real mate?
  • We might be antisocial, but these days that is fine.
  • Because life is so much better, life is so much better, life is so much better
  • When you spend
  • it
  • all
  • online
internet best friend for hire pls !!

I just need an internet friend who I can Skype looking really bad, barely talk, sit on my phone, and make random ugly faces at. Also, lets me send them randomly bad selfies on any social media. Does not ignore or get bored of me. Lets me fangirl when needed. Is not an ashton or Louis girl because then well have a problem. Actually cares about me. Does not just suddenly stop talking to me. Randomly tag each other in posts. We make a joint accounts, maybe. And just end up ruling the world together pls.

"Bad Diabetics"

I have some friends in the health care industry, as well as meeting people in social settings (everyone from EMTs to nurses and general practitioners) who have used this term. I often hear them say “… But I only see the BAD diabetics.” Let me drop a knowledge bomb on you… I’m generally what you would call a good diabetic. I count carbs, I frequently work with my endocrinologist to adjust my doses as my body changes, I have a “good” A1c, I don’t have hypo unawareness, I am lucky enough to have access to (and ability to afford) a pump and a continuous glucose monitor, I exercise regularly, have access to an online support community, an endo who lets me pad my prescription needs a bit so I always have some backup supplies, and I even use ketone sticks regularly when I feel bad.

And yet I STILL have days where if I needed to go to the hospital or (God forbid) spoke openly about my struggles, symptoms, and frustrations I would be labeled a “bad” diabetic.

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?? I have all the tools, I have decent insurance, I have an employer and friends who at least try to have empathy. And I still can’t get this shit right. You are going to have the audacity to look down on your patients because they’re not perfect?

Did I say that loud enough? I HAVE ALL THE TOOLS AND I CAN’T EVEN GET THIS RIGHT. I don’t have children, I’m not struggling pay check check to pay check, I don’t have to hide my disease out of fear of being teased, I don’t have a ton of other illnesses, I don’t have to take the bus everywhere, or an inability to access the internet, and I am literate … and I STILL CAN’T GET THIS SHIT RIGHT.

True facts guys - we have an organ that doesn’t work. We literally have to try and manually imitate a biological function of our bodies. I can eat the same things, and take the same doses of insulin for an entire week and get different results every. single. day. There is no “figuring it out.” You think about this shit 24/7 and try to stay ahead of it, and STILL FAIL.

And you’re going to honestly belittle people who don’t have the time, or emotional or physical energy (or money!!!) to do that constantly?

It can take under 15 minutes and only one little mistake that could send you to the hospital. That’s it. Often when we come into contact with these people are times when we need help. Times when we are literally dependant on this care, knowledge, and empathy. We get shit on, and joked at, misunderstood, and belittled every day. By friends, family, the media, movies, and the wonderful collective “internet.” We don’t need this from you.

I know any medical profession is really hard. I get that, and I appreciate every single one of you… But have a little fucking empathy, man. This shit is hard. We DO NOT need this from you, too. Don’t make us defend our self care to you in a time of need, and don’t make us feel like we’re not deserving of your time and care because we’re a “bad” diabetic.

As some of you know, the next book of my District series comes out tomorrow. And it makes me a little sentimental. I just wanted to say a few words to the other writers out there.

I know you’ve all heard that a terrible idea on paper is better than a great idea in your head and that’s true. But I know how hard it is to get that idea onto paper. It’s daunting. So what I encourage you to do right now is to open up a word document and save it. Save it even though it’s blank. You can close it again after that if you want. It’s a start.

But every time you get on tumblr, open that document. You don’t have to look at it, you don’t have to stare at the blank document. Just leave it open. Get comfortable knowing that when you’re ready, it’s there. I cannot tell you how much this has helped me. If I’m working on something I leave the document open 24/7 on my computer. just so that when inspiration strikes, all I do is click and started typing. It’s also good when you’re putting off writing something and it’s down there in the task bar just watching you.

I know that writing takes a lot of time which a lot of people find the most challenging part. You don’t have to write every day to be a writer. You don’t even have to write for a week. There is no time limit to create a book. Everyone goes at their own pace. You don’t have to be Stephen King with his six pages a day bullshit. Be George RR Martin. Write a bunch then stop for a year or several. Doesn’t matter. You’ll finish it eventually.

And I think one of the most important things is to find someone who supports what you’re doing because it’s hard holding up your dreams all on your own. Doesn’t matter who it is, parents, teachers, friends, internet strangers, me (I am totally here for all you guys). Find someone who will encourage you when you get discouraged and who you can bounce ideas around with. Honestly, I have worked out so many plot problems just by starting a text describing my problem and having an ‘ah ha’ moment right before I send it.

The world needs your work. It needs your perspective. We need more than what’s out there. And I’m not pointing fingers or anything, but there’s a supreme lack of absurdist fiction with wlw characters in it so if you’re going to write that please do it soon and message me, I am excite. But any other books you write, send them to me. I want to support you. If you have any questions I’m here to help, if I don’t know the answer I know how to find it. If you want to say hey, message me. I want to do everything I can to get more writers out there and help you guys get your ideas on paper. Or in a podcast. Podcasts are cool. Whatever your medium, create something.

why jack is so amazing

i love jack for so many reasons. he’s one of the sweetest people i know. he started youtube bc he was inspired by others, he started off from nothing. but, as years and years went by, he started becoming happier, more confident, and he was happy no matter how many subscribers he had. he genuinely cares so much about his fans. do you know how active he is everyday? he is always there with us, whether it’s making two videos a day or checking social media, whether it be liking, replying, reblogging, answering questions, etc. and the way he looks and hugs his fans are just so full of love and happiness. also, in the videos that he makes, he tells us messages, how we’re never alone, how he is there for us, how we all need to seek help when needed, how if his videos can make you smile when nothing else can, then that’s the biggest compliment he can get on his channel. he’s so dedicated in all the content that he makes; and youtube makes him happy, we make him happy, his family and friends make him happy. there’s just so many good things about him. he’s the reason why i got to meet so many wonderful internet friends who always care for me and support me. my dream is to just talk to him in real life, to hug him, and just have a small conversation with him. i mean, i have done it before in my dreams, but they always seem so real. he made my life even more brighter and happier. he makes me so happy and i really want him to know how much i love him. i hope he’s having an amazing day today bc he deserves so much happiness in this world. i can write these messages for him constantly, but there’s always so much more to say.


so, someone might think ‘jacksepticeye is just a youtuber’ but to me and his whole fan base, he’s so much more than that, he’s amazing, a hero, a life saver, a best friend, my world.


thank you jack,


from the bottom of my heart, thank you.


we love you so so much, always & forever 💚

random ik but...

okay so,,, i was just thinking,,, i love my mutuals so much… so why not let them know randomly in an act of an appreciation post ?? im sorry this is so spontaneous i just feel like shouting out to all my best internet buddies so everyone else can check them out bc theyre literally ALL THE BEST. just saying. FOLLOW THEM NOW !!! (pls you wont regret it i promise) in no order:

@smol-anime-phan133 : ty for being with me through life, you’re literally my therapist and i need you to know that any time you need it, i’ll be there for you bc you’ve always been there for me (even during my 12 yo random phase im v sorry) and I appreciate you💕

@malecfangirl101 man we go wayyyyyy back, but i still appreciate you so much, you’re actually one of the most fabulous people i know. it’s a shame we don’t see each other irl as much but im so glad we text bc seriously it’s great to be able to be so open and yet random and weird to someone as accepting as you ✨

@nutellalester don’t even get me started you are such a bean, daniel !! you contribute some of the best bants to the gc and all the amazing creations (art/writing) you make is literally so good,,,also youve got literally the best music taste ty for existing 💛

@huphilpuffs okay so not only are you literally one of the sweetest people, but you make the prettiest gifs ??? how is this fair at all ??you’ve got so much talent and overall just loveliness and support im super happy to know you ty for everything ☺️

@misshktt oml where do i begin?? youre funny, supportive, open and generally just a really great person to be around !! you literally are toriel it’s not even funny the resemblance is uncanny,,, except less goat and more pure bean ty 💙

@actualhatter there’s so much to say about how great you are i literally could ramble on forever but for everyone’s sake i’ll try to be short: you’re funny, kind, really good at drawing AND you share my addiction to tøp and josh dun in general?? how could a person literally get any cooler?? ty for everything fren 😊

@phantastically-over-life phil lester defence squad unite haha thanks for listening and even agreeing with me when i ramble endlessly about my love and appreciation for phil, you’re really great and friendly, i love talking to you tysm fren💗

@philmeup-dildo i have a feeling this might be the longest paragraph purely bc you are literally one of the best people i know,,, you listen to everything i have to say (im sorry i ramble and complain a lot lol) and overall are just so supportive and kind, as well as we share heaps of interests (okay our music not so much bUT STILL) !! ty for being so open and letting me vent and bant with you bc seriously you have made me laugh when i really needed it so ty for everything 🤗 (also my mum loves you more than me im pretty sure)

@totallynotlevi // @totallynotfics you were one of my first internet friends, Levi, and although some of our interest have changed im so glad we still talk regularly bc you’re literally such a great person and im so happy I’ve found someone who loves pj and tøp as much as me 💚

@you-could-say-im-relocating-it you are the purest and funniest bean to ever exist, our gc owes you for making us laugh all the time with your supportive, funny and relatable personality !! if you ever need anything pls feel free to talk bc id love to get to know you better 😁

@little-cheeky-monkey you deserve the world, honestly im so glad we are mutuals, you’re pretty (even if you don’t realise it yet,, believe me), funny, supportive, really kind and just generally share my love of dogs and hp !!! (pls pet your dogs for me btw so pure) ty for everything and just being yourself you matter a lot ❤️

@heck-yeah-fandoms funny! great! supportive! those are only some of the many words i could use to describe you, ty so much for being a great fren i appreciate talking to you, you make me smile 😋

@pepperminthowell have you ever met someone that’s just so great and the thought of them being in your life fills you with joy??? you’re that person to me and basically the whole gc,,, seriously thank you for everything it means so much you are way too lovely and good for this world 💜

@isle-of-the-glowing-eyes although we talk on my other side blog, i just wanted to add you here bc you are really relatable, kind and im glad i feel i can be open around you bc you’ve just got such a great personality !! not to mention we also have a huge addiction with tøp oml ty for listening to me ramble haha 🌸

@dan-phil-obsessed we’ve been talking for quite a while now, and i can confidently say that you are honestly one of the nicest people to ever exist. everyone is kind in someway or another so you probably hear me say this a lot in this post, im not lying when I say that but for you seriously I can 1000% say that you are so genuinely considerate, not to mention really pretty, and great at photography/writing 💖

@phandomsandbandoms ty for being such a funny, witty, relatable and overall amazing person. your taste of music is one everyone should aspire to, not to mention your personality and sense of humour !! basically you’re goals tbh 👌

@glittering-litter i can relate way too much to you honestly you have all the tøp (yes I went there) notch memes and literally such a good music taste !! ty for always listening to me annoyingly talk about phan and emo bands whenever we talk hah you’re really great 🙌

@lestersdog ty for making the gc and Tumblr itself just a generally better place, you’re so nice and easy to talk to !!! your kindness and awesomeness is appreciated by me and so many others 💓 also your pride selfies were actually the cutest thing ive ever seen oml

@pasteldoothowell we haven’t talked one on one, but seriously from what i can tell when you talk in the gc you are a really fun person to be around !! ty for just your general awesome presence i feel blessed 😄

@peachou okay so we don’t really talk on private chat but seriously this may come off as creepy but i love your blog so so much and for you to actually follow me and like my posts blows me away !! you are so talented and i just wanna ty for being really amazing 💟

@softiednp this whole group chat, incase i missed someone individually, means the world to me tysm for everything you all are great people that i absolutely love talking to !!! you don’t even know how much i love y'all !! oml 😩👌

honourable (mostly) mutual mentions that i stalk and admire from afar: (pls feel free to message me seriously you’re all super cool) @wispyphil @fringegaps @florallylester @phanamored @philester @disgustinglygay @stardustphan @hazyphil @macaronidan @decaffeinated-shipper @yodastolemylightsaber @femtastico @britishteacup98 @lozzyg @lost-boy-ben @nonbinary-lester @suchaderp @sparklephil @adorkablephil @astronautdan @clouds-howell @shittywerewolfstudent @fallinghowell @opinionated-internet @stumpostar @tea-and-cozy-idek @purepastelphan @dansforeheadcurl @japhannie @eli-howlter

if i missed anyone pls punch me, chances are i either wrote you on my list but accidentally missed typing it out bc there’s so many names or literally thought we weren’t mutuals bc you are too cool to be following me :))

moonmamamagick  asked:

Hey! Didn't know who to ask but I have an internet friend who just went through a breakup and I want to ? Help them feel that they are loved (by me) do you have any spells/jars/sachets/other ideas to help with this?

Ooo, that’s always rough! It’s heartbreaking when faraway internet pals need hugs and we can only send them digitally. :(

Realistically speaking, the very best thing you can do is to tell your friend something like, “Hey, I know you’re hurting right now, and whether you need space or need to talk to someone, I’m here for you. Please know that you are loved.” Then don’t bring it up again unless they do. They’re probably hearing people ask them “are you okay” in that pitying tone like ten times a day, and it gets annoying fast. Sometimes just knowing the no-pressure support is there, even if they decide they don’t need or want to talk, can make a world of difference.

In terms of magic, I know of a few things. The most effective one is probably The Sorrow Pot, but that’s something your friend would have to do themselves. Or you could try putting together a witchball or a charm bag with herbs for emotional healing and toss in a piece of rose quartz for extra oomph, then present it to your friend as a gift. Here are my usual go-to’s for that sort of spell:

  • Cloves
  • Hazel
  • Hyacinth Flowers
  • Lavender
  • Marjoram
  • Plum Blossoms or Pits
  • Rose Petals (Pink)
  • Tarragon
  • Witch Hazel

But again, the most powerful thing you can do is be there for them, and let them know that you’re there, no matter what.

(Also, based on this ask, I’m going to formulate a spell for this purpose to put in the second volume of the Grimmoire. So…thank you!)

Hope this helps! :)

anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm in my 3rd year in law school and I've been feeling overwhelmed and stressed over my workload and difficult professors I deal with. I've had successive bad grades too. I could still handle the stress in my previous years but this time, I can barely cope. I've been crying every night and sometimes I almost cried in class. I have no motivation to go on. I'm too tired. Do you think it's okay for me to take time off for the rest of the semester? Thank you.

Taking care of your mental health in law school is important. If that means taking time off to get the right resources together and the right tools to be able to survive it, that’s okay. 

I had a friend who had to leave halfway through 1L, and didn’t come back for two years while she went through therapy and developed tools to help her manage her anxiety in high stress situations. When I was in 3L, she came back to redo 1L, and this past summer she graduated with a job offer. 

Contrary to how we like to gripe on the internet, law school is not worth giving up everything you have; it doesn’t deserve to take everything from us. If you need time to be able to withstand the storm, take the time. You’ll be a better lawyer for it. 

TATINOF SONG LYRICS (UPDATED)

Whenever I’m alone…
Or if I’m feeling grey…
There’s one place I can go
To brighten up my day!

It makes me want to sing!
That’s how the show should end!
But wouldn’t it be good if I…
Could sing it with a friend?

Ok fine whatever I’ll join in too!

I might go outside
And feel more alive
Without Twitter,
Where would I be?

I guess I’d be fit
I’d stop posting shi-Rubbish!
But tumblr’s a part of me!

There’s so many websites! And so little time!
Plus one or two you should avoid…
Just don’t stop watching YouTube
Or we’ll be unemployed!

The internet is here!
The Internet is great!
When you’ve got lots of followers
Who needs a real mate!

It might be anti social
But these days that is fine
Cause life is so much better
When you spend it all online!

A place where you can be yourself
No matter if your geeky
Find friends that share your hobbies
Even if they’re freaky!

Where any question in your head
Is answered in an instant!
Who cares if you procrastinate
Your one shot at existence!

The internet is here!
The Internet is great!
When you’ve got lots of followers
Who needs a real mate!

Without the Internet…
We never would have met!
We’d never be here on a stage
Doing things we might regret!

DANCE BREAK! -music-

Who cares if your a loser,
And everybody knows it!
Or if you spend your life,
Drawing whiskers on your noses!

Even if your chances,
Of getting tanned are slim…
Or if you live vicariously,
Through the life of a sim…
SHELTAY SOLMO!

The internet is here!
The Internet is great!
When you’ve got lots of followers
Who needs a real mate!

It might be anti social…
But these days that is fine…

Cause life is so much better…
Life is so much better…
Life is so much better…

When you,
SPEND,
IT,
ALL,
ONLINE!

anonymous asked:

What I don't get is why these people feel the need to wear Halloween cat ears & tails & shit & make animal noises in public & generally give me hives by existing when they could just... Not do any of that? Like ok Hun we get that you got an overstimulated imagination because you found the Internet but just write stories or have a role play blog or something where you can do this shit without embarrassing everyone around you when you piss on the floor because ya think you're a mongoose

In high school I was sort of friends with a girl who would wear fake vampire fangs to school and at lunch she wouldn’t even take them out and would try to eat an apple with her plastic fangs in and she would be casually talking to me too so people knew we were sort of friends so the fucking secondhand embarrassment from her complete cringe was the absolute worst thing. And she would always do fucking weird things like that and then people would see me with her and I’d be associated with the gross vampire girl
Like how can people just not be embarrassed by that stuff? How can people growl at birds or nudge people to pet them and just not feel stupid. I get so grossed out and embarrassed by those people.
-Dodo

Do You Understand Autism?

Ok so I have more to say but I’m going to start here. I am sick and tired of people over dramatizing, misunderstanding, and abusing disorders, especially Autism. Autism seems to be this new trendy disorder (trust me on this it’s definitely being misdiagnosed (sorry early I said over diagnosed I was wrong)) that most people don’t understand, but when I tell them I have it they typically react/respond in one of four ways:

1. Pity (oh I’m so sorry that’s awful)

2. Disbelief (what no you don’t have that, but you seem so normal, you deal with it so well)

3. Recognition/Me Too (oh yes I’ve heard of that before online.) (Oh yeah I have that too it’s so hard right?)

4. What’s That (oh I’ve heard of that, but what is it? Oh what’s that?) [these are typically followed by one of the other three]

  • NEVER PITY ANYONE

  • NEVER BE CONDESCENDING WHEN THEY TELL YOU THEY HAVE A DISORDER

  • NEVER FUCKING REPLY WITH A FUCKING VIDEO YOU SAW ONLINE OR SAYING OH I HAVE AN AUTISTIC (input relation here) [seriously that’s like saying to a gay person or person of color , “Oh I have a (gay/poc) friend who lives where you live do you know them?”]

While the “Recognition/Me Too” people typically aren’t that bad, but some of them are worse than anyone else. This is because a lot of the time people who recognize it only see the people who are on the far end of the spectrum so they think we all need to be spoon fed and are ALL bullied everyday. Then SOME of the people who have it take advantage of the pity and ignorance of the people who either don’t know it or recognize it and they pretend to be worse than they really are which disgusts me. First of all Autism is a blanket term for them many different types of Autism which all have their own separate spectrum. There is Asperger’s Syndrome, Rett’s Syndrome, mild, high functioning, undistinguished, and so many more. This spectrum goes further than your sexuality grid so let me be really fucking clear about this,

DON’T FUCKING EVER COMPARE OR ASSUME THINGS ABOUT SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY ARE ON THE SPECTRUM!!!

No two are the same, no two are in the same place, or have the same symptoms. They may have similar struggles, but vastly different ways of handling them. Some may need more help some may be high functioning and so they are more independent.

Personally my favorite people when it comes to talking about Autism are either psychologists (because they know what they’re talking about), or people who know nothing, because than I can inform them before the internet makes them believe that Autism is such a sad, scary thing, and we are all heroes for having it. Honestly I just want people who think like that to shut the fuck up. I have Asperger’s. Making friends, socializing, understanding cultural behavioral norms, is hard for me but so what. It’s not some miracle that I can go live a normal life and have friends, so stop treating me like it is. Stop sending me every link you find related to a “heart warming Autistic kid.” We are not the same. We are not being courageous by waking up in the morning and doing shit, we are being functioning members of society. Quit pitting us, and dramatizing us, and being so fucking stupid.

Listen, I know the majority of you are just trying to help, but before you talk about a disorder, do more research than some video or post you see online. Seriously after this go look up some stuff about Autism and see how not all of us are nearly as severe as those pity porn videos you see online. Many a time I am sorry to say, but those are just made by people trying to get likes and views. Now I am not trying to say that Autism doesn’t need more recognition, in fact I am saying just the opposite. I am saying that we need to widen our views and correct our responses. I am pretty sure that some people who see this (if any do) will get mad, but you probably don’t have Autism and you probably don’t understand how upsetting it is to have to explain yourself all the time when it comes up and these are the reactions you get. Anyways take this as you will. I’ll get off my soap box now.

Special interests and friendship

A lot of us like things really intensely and want to talk about them all the time.

But not everyone wants to hear everything we know about trains, hats, elephants, Pokemon, or the Dead Sea Scrolls. Constant monologues tend to drive people away.

In childhood, a lot of us are taught that our interests are the problem. We’re taught that we shouldn’t like things as much as we do, that our interest in them is annoying, that no one will ever want to listen, and that we need to talk about normal things. That doesn’t help. 

It’s ok to like things. Liking things is *good*. Spending a lot of time thinking about, doing, and talking about things you care about is a good thing, not a bad thing. And it’s possible to do that and still treat other people well.

Part of that involves respecting other people’s boundaries. Most people aren’t interested in the Most Awesome Thing you like, and lecturing them about it when they don’t want to hear it isn’t going to make them *more* interested. When you’re having a conversation with someone, it’s important to identify things you *both* want to talk about. And if there aren’t things you both want to talk about, it’s important to find someone else to talk to rather than trying to push someone into it against their will.

(A caveat: I am talking about peer relationships here. I think that parents and teachers have a significant degree of responsibility to take an interest in things their kids are into. I will probably address that in more detail at some points.)

Some people will have contempt for you for having interests, and for the particular things you care about. Those people are wrong, and interacting with them quickly becomes toxic. People who don’t want you to like things, or who have a problem with the thing you like, aren’t going to suddenly start respecting you. It gets a lot better when you find people who actually like you.

It’s also important to find people who like the thing you like. People who share your interests exist, and you can interact with them on a level that’s not possible with anyone else. Now that we have the internet, it’s much easier than it’s ever been to find people to discuss the things with.

But it’s also possible to be friends with people whose interest in your favorite topics is limited. Some people like people who like things, even when they like different things. Those people can be really great friends. 

In conversations with that kind of friend, sometimes they will need to say “ok, new topic?” It’s important to be able to hear that, and to tell the difference between someone saying, “You’re pathetic for caring about that boring thing, stop being so weird”, and someone saying “I am bored with this right now, and would like to talk about something we’re both interested in.”

Given the way most of us are treated from early childhood, it can be very difficult to learn to tell the difference between someone expressing a boundary and someone expressing contempt. It’s important and possible to learn how to do this, though.

It helps to keep in mind that not everyone who would rather not hear about train wheels right now is trying to take things away from you, though. Your friends aren’t going to make a behavior chart and make you earn train things by talking about other topics and keeping silent about the things you care about. (If they do anything remotely like that, they’re not friends and you need to find other friends who actually respect you.)

It also helps to keep in mind that, no matter how polite they are about it, someone who regularly has active contempt for you and your interests is not your friend.

This is hard to navigate. But it’s worth it.

from wolf problems to spider problems part:1

Pairing: Peter Parker x reader

Plot: after getting bitten by a spider y/n notices she has developed the same powers that a certain web slinger has

A/n this takes place around season two just so they are the same age. Aunt May knows Peter is Spider-Man in this story.

“Alright people listen up” tony yelled grabbing everyone’s attention. “It seems as though there is a new “hero” among us. This” he displays the video on the screen. “Was taken last night in a town called beacon hills.”

“Where’s that?” Clint asked as he reclined in his chair.

“California, anyways look closely. Does anything look familiar? Parker?” tony zoomed in on the video where they show the hero fighting and wait is that?

“My web shooter” I was amazed yet confused. “Who is that?”

“The Internet has dubbed her Charlotte”

“Why Charlotte?”

“My guess after spider from Charlottes Webb.”

“How do they know they’re a girl?” Steve questioned as the video kept playing.

“The fact that her suit is pink and black?” tony rolled his eyes. “It seems as though this “Charlotte” girl got bit by the same spider our little Peter was bitten by”

“But how? The spider that bit me was from Oscorp” I was so confused.

“I guess they brought some with them when they were visiting a high school over there.” It made nationwide news that people from Oscorp were going to travel around the country to talk to high school about a internship opportunity. “Right now we’re trying to find out her identity so we can recruit her to the team.” Tony turned his attention to me. “You can have a little friend on the team with the same powers as you Parker. Why aren’t you getting excited !”

“I-”

“Sir I have identified the person behind the mask. It’s y/n stilinski”

“How did you figure that out?”

“She was in the class the people at Oscorp went to visit and she did not go to school the following day. It also shows that before representatives of Oscorp visited the school she had perfect attendance. Now her attendance record has changed drastically.” Friday replied.

“What can you tell us about ms. stilinski” tony spoke to the AI.

“Her father is the sheriff of the town, mother passed away when y/n was ten. She’s a straight A student, she’s in all AP class and she has a twin brother”

“Alright guys lets go” the team got up and started making their way towards the exit.

“wait” I shouted “shouldn’t we do a little more investigating to see if it’s actually her?”

“That’s why we’re going over there, to follow her around a bit to see if it’s her. I hope you’re ready Peter, you’re really going to be needed for this.”

“Why? I can’t go, I have school Mr. stark!”

“Exactly. You’re going to be going to school over there, I already talked to your aunt. She ok with it, in fact she’s coming with us. Oh just in time” I turned towards the door and noticed May standing there with suitcases.

“Oh thank god, I thought I was late” I noticed May was out of breath. “I hope you don’t mind the stuff I pack for you Peter.”

“It’s fine aunt May, here let me” I walked over to her and got the suitcases.

“Alright guys let’s head out.” Tony announced.

“Are you excited about this? There’s someone else who’s just like you.”

“Yeah I am” I simply replied as I was silently hoping I make at least one friend while I’m out there.

*y/n pov*

“KIDS WAKE UP ! ! ! YOU’RE GOING TO BE LATE FOR SCHOOL !” My dads yelling woke me up from my sleep.

“Shit !” I shot up from my bed and realized I was still in my costume. I quickly changed and ran out of my room. “STILES WERE GOING TO BE LATE ! ! !” I shouted as I banged on his door before I went back into my room to get my stuff.

“ALRIGHT ! ! !” I heard him shout back as I grabbed my makeup bag and threw it inside my backpack. I guess I’ll be doing my makeup at school. I slipped on my shoes before I ran out out of my room and down the stairs.

“Why on earth did you guys oversleep.” dad asked as he handed me money for school.

“I forgot to set my alarm” I replied before I heard stiles behind me.

“So did I” stiles got his lunch money. “Let’s go, I have test today. Bye dad”

“Yeah bye dad” I gave a kiss on the cheek before sprinted towards the jeep.

“Bye” I heard my dad shout back as stiles got in the divers seat.

“I can’t believe I forgot to set my alarm ! ! !” I groaned as I fixed my shirt.

“That makes two of us, but hey at least you kicked some ass last night. Damn I still can’t believe you’re a superhero now thanks to that spider bite.”

“Yeah too bad I only had three hours of sleep because of it.” I was poking the bags under my eyes.

“Heroes never sleep though” stiles glanced at me.

“I need to though if I’m going to be do this AND school. I don’t know how Spider-Man does it”

“You think Spider-Man is a teenager?”

“Well yeah. From what people are posting on the Internet they say he has sounds like he hasn’t reached puberty yet. Just like you” I added on.

“I can leave you on the side of the road if I wanted to.” stiles threatened me.

“you do that and I’ll web all your stuff to the ceiling. That and I’ll embarrass you in front of Lydia.” I threatened him back.

“Fiiiiine” he rolled his eyes as he continued to drive. Five minutes later we pulled up to the school parking lot, thankfully we made it to school on time.

“Oh my gosh did you see the video ! She fought four guys ! ! !” I noticed a girl showing her friend a video of last nights fight. “Who needs the avengers when we have Charlotte to protect us”

“I still don’t like that they are calling my alter ego Charlotte” I whispered to stiles as we walked into the school.

“Really! ? ! I like the name that’s why I spread it around on the Internet.”

“You’re the one who gave me the nickname” I glared at him.

“Oh look there’s Scott, Allison and Lydia.” he rushed over to them. “Hey guys” he greeted them.

“Hey, why does y/n look like she’s going to murder you?” Scott asked as I made my way over to them.

“Because I am. I just found out he’s responsible for my “nickname”“ I punched my brothers arm.

“Well I like your nickname” Lydia responded

“Thanks.” Stiles awkwardly stood next to Lydia.

“Hey do you have a mirror with you? I forgot to put it in my makeup bag and I was going to do my makeup during study hall.”

“Yeah sure. Why didn’t you do your makeup this morning?” Lydia handed me her mirror.

“Long night and I forgot to set my alarm so I overslept.” I put her mirror in my bag.

“I’ll say, the fight is already on YouTube. I’ve heard at least ten people talking about it.” Allison spoke up. “They’re also saying how much they ship Charlotte with Spider-Man”

“Nope, noway. I don’t want my sister to date that insect”

“A. Spiders are arachnids and B. I have the same powers he does” I slapped the back of his head. “And you agree that Spider-Man is a teenager right?” I looked back at Allison.

“Yeah, the people who have been saved by him say he sounds like a teenager.”

“Told you” I stuck my tongue out at stiles. He was about to respond when the first bell rang to let us know that we needed to get to class.

“We better go” Allison tugged on Scott’s arm.

“Ok bye guys” I waved to as I started to walk towards the library hoping I get a little bit more sleep in before I continue with the school day.

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TATINOF ‘The Internet Is Here’ LYRICS

I HIGHLY RECOMMEND NOT READING UNLESS YOU HAVE SEEN THE AMAZING TOUR IS NOT ON FIRE!!!

Hope these help!

Phil: Whenever I’m alone

Or if I’m feeling grey
There’s one place I can go
To brighten up my day

It makes me want to sing
That’s how the show should end
But wouldn’t it be good if Il
Could sing it with a friend

Dan: Okay fine whatever I’ll join in too!

*music*

Phil: I might go outside 
And feel more alive
Without Twitter
Where would I be

Dan: I guess I’d be fit
I’d stop posting shi-
Phil: Rubbish!!
Dan: but Tumblr’s a part of me

Phil: so many websites
And so little time
There’s one or two you should avoid

Dan: just don’t stop watching YouTube
Or we’ll be unemployed!

Both: The internet is here
The internet is great
When you’ve got lots of followers
Who needs a real mate

It might be antisocial
But these days that is fine
Dan: Cause life is so much better
When you spend it all online!

Phil: A place where you can be yourself
No matter if you’re geeky 
Dan: Find friends that share your hobbies
Even if they’re freaky

Phil: where any question in your head
Is answered in an instant
Dan: who cares if you procrastinate 
Your one shot at existence

Both: The internet is here
The internet is great
When you’ve got lots of followers
Who needs a real mate

Without the internet
We never would have met
Phil: We’d never be here on a stage
Doing things we might regret

Dan: Dance Break!!

*instrumental and dancing*

Phil: who cares if you’re a loser
And everybody knows it
Dan: or if you spend your life
Drawing whiskers on your noses

Phil: even if your chances
Of getting tan are slim
Dan: Or if you live vicariously 
Through the life of a Sim

Dil:  Chiltay Zombo!

Both: The internet is here
The internet is great
When you’ve got lots of followers
Who needs a real mate

It might be antisocial
But these days that is fine
Cause life is so much better
Life is so much better
*softer* Life is so much better 
When you. Spend. It. All. Onnnline!

*hats are thrown and confetti*

4

Chris at the Golden Globes on Sunday 8th January, 2017. I think these pictures may have been taken at the end, when the artists were leaving the ballroon to go to the other parties held at the same hotel after the actual event.

The photos belong to my dear friend Moira Fraser who graciously let me post them here so that we can all enjoy. Feel free to reblog but please check with me if you want to use otherwise on the internet as I need to check with Moira first. Thank you!

The Internet is So Strange

I casually mentioned on Facebook a while ago that I needed a meat grinder to make wolf-appropriate “mush” food for my new pup, and a guy I have never met before (but who added me as a friend because we were in the same bushcrafting skill share group together) said he had an old extra laying around that he could send me. 

Not really know what to expect, I gave the guy my address, and a week later, there’s a package in the mail. I was surprised when I opened it. 

He didn’t just send me any old meat grinder - he sent a big, gorgeous, antique cast-iron hand-crank grinder with a wood handle and all the parts. The thing is seriously a work of art. 

Funny how you can go from “Yo, anyone know where I can get a cheap meat grinder?” to “let me send you this glorious piece of durably-crafted history”. 

I am going to be using the crap out of that meat grinder in about a month when the new pup comes home. I’ll be tagging my bushcraft buddy in all the feeding photos.