First off, thank you for this question. Thank you for coming to me with this question. I don’t know if I can do it the justice you deserve, but I’ll take a shot at it.
'Do you ever have that problem?', as in because I ship Olicity do I have problems with non-Olicity shippers?
The answer is ‘no’. I follow, or at least try to (let me know if I am not), a no hate policy. I like my blog, and my Tumblr experience, to be open to all opinions and to be based in respect. Hey, we all are not the same, so of course we are not going to like the same things. It’s expected. And fandoms have a reputation for passionate, loyal fans, especially ones rooted in comics.
I follow many *Lauriver* blogs. In fact, I consider most of these bloggers my friends. Just because we do not ship the same thing does not mean we cannot still discuss Arrow, or something else entirely. I respect their ship and opinions and they do the same for me. I like to focus on our similarities rather than our differences.
As for Olicity shippers not respecting comic canon, I haven’t read a comic book in my life. All my comic info comes from either my dad or the Internet. So am I a ‘pure at heart’ comic fan? No, not even close, but that does not mean I don’t respect it.
As for hating Laurel, I don’t hate Laurel at all. In fact, I love her to pieces. Most of my followers don’t seem to have a problem with my Laurel love, but then again, they probably use blacklist or savior. I don’t blame them for wanting to control their dash content. Different strokes for different folks.
Are we all crazy? No, we aren’t all crazy. Most of us have a level head about us.
So, if you ‘really’ ship Olicity, ship Olicity. You can’t help what you like/fall in love with/have a connection to. I’m going to use the cheesy Minute Maid slogan: ‘Put good in, get good out’. If we all put in respect and understanding, we will get out respect and understanding. Healthy debate is inevitable, especially in fandoms, but that is what it should remain as, healthy.
Wow, this got lengthy. I hope I answered (or at least made a valiant attempt) your question. Feel free to drop by anytime.