After the discourse yesterday, I realized that for every person calling me an apologist or a shitlord or an idiot, or for every person who told me or anyone who supported me that they should die, there were 30 people telling me that i was in the right and that they were overreacting and really reaching for something that wasnt there.
additionally, i lost a good chunk of followers yesterday, but as of right now ive gained all of them back, with an addition of 100+ more
so i want everyone to know that i learned nothing and everyone who said i was a bad person after my apology, or put more than an hour into thought into what went down, your efforts were in vain and if anything i am a worse, more bitter person because of it
a morning pynch headcanon before i forget: adam’s bi awakening was ronan doing that jock thing and wiping his face sweat with his shirt at tennis practice or smth and adam was walking by on his way home but he looks over and ronan’s all sweaty and ABS and he almost walks into a telephone pole rb if u agree
Honestly, my notp in bts wouldn’t be my notp if the shippers weren’t so rude to my otp. I have no other problems with any other ships in bts. It’s just that one particular ship gets under my skin the way my notp does and it’s not even that the people don’t go together. It’s honest to God because of the shippers and I think that a problem.
A relationship between two adults with a large age gap is not inherently abusive.
Parents maintaining some form of control over their child’s life whilst that child is underage and still under their parents’ care is not inherently abusive.
A parent reasonably disciplining their child is not inherently abusive.
Arguments in a relationship of any kind do not automatically make the relationship, or any of the people involved, abusive.
Friends who aren’t available to tend to other friends’ needs 24/7 are not inherently abusive or “toxic”.
Can people seriously stop automatically categorising things as abusive because it just trivialises the seriousness of actual abuse. I’m so tired of seeing things like “if your partner yells at you then leave them”, “if a friend isn’t there for you then they’re not a real friend”, “if your parents don’t let you do what you want then they’re bad parents”.
Just because you don’t agree with someone’s behaviour it doesn’t mean the behaviour is abusive. Humans are complex and very emotional and while small things can sometimes be indicators of abuse, usually negative emotions or behaviours are just because people are fucking complicated.
Things are not as black and white as “100% abusive” and “100% not abusive” - please keep in mind that there are shades of grey such as “possibly abusive” or “a shitty thing to do, but not abusive”, or “just fucking normal human emotions because not everyone can be 100% positive and nice to everyone all the time you twats”.