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Short introduction to NUMEROLOGY

What is numerology?
Numerology is the study of the symbolism of numbers. It is used to determine a person’s personality, strengths and talents, obstacles, inner needs, emotional reactions and ways of dealing with others.

Numerology can be a tool that helps you to understand yourself and loved ones better. You can also use numerology to examine your life, take advantage of unexplored opportunities, where to go next in life.

How do find your number?
It is many ways that is used to calculate your life path number. The most used one is birthdate+month+year.

Example: 8th February 1968 = 8+2+1+9+6+8 = 34 = 3+4 = 7.
or: 30th December 1993 = 3+0+1+2+1+9+93 = 28 = 2+8 = 1 + 0 = 1.

The life path numbers you can get is 1 - 9. You can also get what is called “master numbers” which is 11, 22 and 33. If you calculate your life path number and get 22 or 33, you don´t need to split it up to 2+2 = 4 or 3+3=6. Also if your last calculation ends up to be 11, you don´t need to split up that one either.

Example: 30th December 1994 = 3+0+1+2+1+9+9+4 = 29 = 2+9 = 11.

What does your life path number mean?
Life path 1
- A life of action and achievement, very active, original and creative. Independent and very much a leader. Must be more self sufficient, make own decisions and use talents. 

Life path 2 - A life of co-operation, loving, warm, do not like to be alone and can be extremely supportive in friendships and partnerships. They need to learn not to put themselves above others and not to be over-emotional in their relationships. 

Life path 3 -The most creative of people, can be fun loving and enjoy socializing, more than any other number. Very bright, full of ideas. Need to use talents and self expression or they become very moody and depressive, can be very jealous. 

Life path 4 - A life of hard work and effort but they do provide for their family. Great at organizing and making things work. Must apply themselves to work and detail and not put off doing things and avoid letting arguments get out of hand. 

Life path 5 - A very varied and changeable life, they need freedom to achieve success. A life of travel, change and opportunity on all levels. Can mis-use their freedom or be lazy, can indulge in alcohol and or drugs, must avoid thoughtlessness. 

Life path 6 - They rise quickly to success and power but often need to make many adjustments in their life. Can be too dominating and try to avoid their responsibilities. They need to remember that perfection rarely exists. 

Life path 7 - Interesting and philosophical people who go their own way, seeking a peaceful sort of life. old, aloof, distant, sharp tongued, need to be more outgoing.

Life path 8 - A life of money, power and material gain, great potential for financial success. Need to avoid being overly obsessed with money and power. 

Life path 9 - Usually World travelers interested in helping other people, very understanding. They need to keep the emotions in balance or relationships will come under pressure.

Life path 11 - Highly intelligent, very intuitive and idealistic but capable of being extremely warm. The challenge is to not be overwhelmed by their gifts. Fears and phobias would be the downside of this number. They may also seem at times indecisive, impractical, nervous, and moody.  

Life path 22 - Highly intelligent with a universal outlook, capable of creating large projects that can change the world. Interested in all kind of subjects. They can be overwhelmed by their own potential, and fear of failure, they may at times seem dictatorial, insensitive, and overbearing. 

Life path 33 - Prominent talents in caregiving. His or her affection for all the living souls in this world is almost limitless. Because you are so giving you might have a tendency to become a slave to others and neglect your own needs in the process.

How many % in the world has the same life path as me?
Life Path 1 - 10%
Life Path 2 - 5%
Life Path 3 - 10%
Life Path 4 - 7%
Life Path 5 - 10%
Life Path 6 - 10%
Life Path 7 - 12%
Life Path 8 - 11%
Life Path 9 - 10%
Life Path 11 - 9%
Life Path 22 - 4%
Life Path 33 - 2%

Questions to Make You Smart About Yourself

What do you want to achieve over the next year?

What is your greatest challenge right now?

What is your greatest desire right now?

What is your greatest frustration right now?

What, if you accomplished it in the next 12 months, would be worth $100k to you?

How committed are you to achieving that? (1-5) 5 = total commitment

What is your monthly income goal?

What was the most money you made in one month in the last year?

How do you feel about your money and finances?

Who are the most powerful people you want to emulate?

Do you take any psychotropic drugs, prescription or recreational? If yes, which and how often?

What are your biggest health challenges?

What are your desires for relationship?

How likely are you to try new things and stick with them if someone you trust recommends them? 1-5 5 = very likely


Motivation and Clarity Questions

Rate the following from:

1 Not true at all for me to –> 5 Absolutely true for me.

 On what level do you identify with each of these statements?

  • I sincerely need and want to improve my life.
  • I realize that everything I want is probably just outside my comfort zone.
  • I am not looking for a quick fix.
  • I am open to honest feedback and candid assessments.
  • I acknowledge my life will remain the same unless I make change a priority.
  • I am the only one who can make my life better.
  • I accept responsibility for my actions and do not expect anyone to “fix” me.

If you want info about programs to help you achieve what you wrote, PM me.

Replacements for Ableist Language - OCD

A recent ask made me realize that I should probably have some kind of series to help educate writers about ableist slurs / offensive uses of words relating to mental illness, and offer replacements to use for writers.

Note -  It is ScriptShrink’s official opinion that anyone who has been the target of the ableist language used here is fully and 100% able to reclaim it if they so choose.

This was going to be a single post, but it started getting huge so I’m splitting it up. First up is…

OCD

Wait, Shrink, you might say. Why is “OCD” in a series about ableist language? Obviously it’s not a slur, right? True, it’s not a slur, but that doesn’t mean it’s not sometimes used in an ableist, demeaning way.

What it literally means:

It’s an acronym for “Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.”

When you should use this word / phrase:

When you’re referring to the disorder itself and / or people who actually have obsessive-compulsive disorder.

When you should not use this word / phrase:

When you’re referring to people, behaviors, or things that are not related to the actual disorder.

Why you shouldn’t use this word / phrase:

OCD has a lot of symptoms that are often debilitating to the people who have it, and by associating this disorder with casual, non-clinical level symptoms (such as simply preferring being organized or being focused on details), you make it harder for people who actually have OCD to make their struggles heard and understood.

Examples of how to this word / phrase appropriately:

“She’s been diagnosed with OCD - she washes her hands for hours a day.”

“I have OCD. I have disturbing, intrusive thoughts and do compulsive behaviors in response to them.”

“In the DSM-5, OCD is in the same category as Hoarding disorder, Body dysmorphic disorder, Trichotillomania, and Excoriation disorder.”

Examples of how not to use this word / phrase:

“You actually fold your underwear? You’re so OCD.”

“I’m so OCD about brushing my teeth twice a day.”

What to use instead:

NOTE - I am not saying that any of these words are synonymous with OCD, or that people with OCD necessarily have these qualities. These are just alternatives that can help people describe what they really meant before they chose to use “OCD.”

All of these words have different meanings and connotations. Don’t just pick a word off this list at random - look it up and see if it’s the right one for what you really mean.

Cleanly
Conscientious
Controlling
Detailed / Detail-oriented
Disciplined
Exacting
Fastidious
Finicky
Fussy
Meticulous
Methodical
Nitpicky / Nitpicker
Orderly
Painstaking
Particular
Perfectionist
Persnickety
Picky
Precise
Punctilious
Scrupulous
Self-controlled
Squeamish
Strict
Systematic
Thorough
Tidy

So that’s it for the first part! What ableist language or slurs would you like to see me cover in this series next?


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30 Things to Love About Exercise (None of Which Have Anything to Do with Your Weight, Your Size, or What You Look Like)

I got this from the book called  “ The Unapologetic Fat Girl’s Guide to Exercise and Other Incendiary Acts” by Hanne Blank. I found it both enlightning and motivational, so I decidd to share :)

1. Working out is an immune-system booster, which is great since no one actually enjoys being a mobile snot fountain.

2. Exercise builds ferociously sturdy little old ladies (and men): it’s fantastic for your bones, reduces the risk of Alzheimer’s, and improves balance and coordination.

3. Exercise reduces symptoms of both depression and anxiety. Organic, legal DIY mellowness is a pretty sweet side effect.

4. Working out helps regulate your blood pressure, reducing the effects of things like traffic jams and not being allowed to strangle that one coworker who really, really needs it.

5. Exercising makes you smarter: research shows that exercise incorporating complex movement, especially, makes people learn better and faster.

6. Working out hath charms to soothe the savage metabolic system, encouraging insulin sensitivity and making diabetes management a little easier.

7. Regular exercise tends to generate major mojo. And by mojo, I mean increased sex drive and sexual responsivity. Yeah, baby.

8. If you suffer from insomnia, exercise helps, and not just because it tires you out; it also helps your body regulate its own rhythms.

9. Workouts boost levels of neurochemicals like dopamine and serotonin, which is like getting a biochemical massage in terms of counteracting stress.

10. You’ll be able to sing louder and dive deeper with your improved lung capacity.

11. Your joints get stronger and less prone to injuries and diseases, including tricky ones like repetitive stress injuries and arthritis.

12. It enables you to satisfy those urges to reenact dance numbers from Broadway musicals. So what if you’re in the grocery store?

13. Will you be able to snatch a speeding bullet out of the air? Maybe not, but working out does improve people’s reaction time.

14. Endorphins—mmmmm, sweet, sweet endorphins: the “runner’s high” isn’t just for runners, ya know.

15. Outrunning the zombies.

16. It makes you strong. You never know when you’ll need to be that person who can carry the suitcase full of gold bars through the airport without anyone being able to tell that it’s so heavy.

17. Your body and your brain get superbly and thoroughly oxygenated, which tends to make you feel peppy and full of mischief.

18. Most of us like to think we’re flexible people who can roll with the punches. Exercising makes it more likely that it’ll literally be true, not just figuratively.

19. If, God forbid, you should get sick, being a regular exerciser can help reduce the length and severity of your illness. It has even been shown to reduce cancer mortality for some kinds of cancer.

20. Exercise can help pregnancy and labor go a lot more smoothly. Afterward, it helps you keep up with the kid.

21. Probiotics and antacids have their place, but if you want to give your digestive system the best possible advantage, there’s nothing like fiber, water, and exercise.

22. Physical competence—just knowing you can count on your body to do stuff effectively and without trouble—is pretty damn nice.

23. It makes your heart happy and efficient to the point that your resting heart rate may get lower.

24. Four words: Exercise-induced mitochondrial biogenesis— exercising can increase the number of mitochondria in your muscle cells, which is just completely geeky cool.

25. Stamina: “Another ten rounds? Sure,” you say. “Bring it … if you can.”

26. You’re much less likely to fall and much more likely to be able to get right back up and brush yourself off if you do.

27. It’s kind of nice not to think twice about getting down on the floor to look for that thing that just rolled under the entertainment center or about how you’ll get up again.

28. It’s eco-friendly. No matter how much you sweat or howhard you breathe, you will not produce toxic waste or greenhouse gases.

29. It gives you a bulletproof excuse. “Sorry, Aunt Linda, of course I’d love to hear all about your colonoscopy, but I have to go or I’ll be late to Pilates.”

30. Juicy ideas and spicy epiphanies seem to be attracted to sweat and gym socks. Moving your body is a fantastic way to jump-start your brain.

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30 THINGS TO LOVE ABOUT EXERCISE (None of Which Have Anything to Do with Your Weight, Your Size, or What You Look Like)

1. Working out is an immune-system booster, which is great since no one actually enjoys being a mobile snot fountain.

2. Exercise builds ferociously sturdy little old ladies (and men): it’s fantastic for your bones, reduces the risk of Alzheimer’s, and improves balance and coordination.

3. Exercise reduces symptoms of both depression and anxiety. Organic, legal DIY mellowness is a pretty sweet side effect.

4. Working out helps regulate your blood pressure, reducing the effects of things like traffic jams and not being allowed to strangle that one coworker who really, really needs it.

5. Exercising makes you smarter: research shows that exercise incorporating complex movement, especially, makes people learn better and faster.

6. Working out hath charms to soothe the savage metabolic system, encouraging insulin sensitivity and making diabetes management a little easier.

7. Regular exercise tends to generate major mojo. And by mojo, I mean increased sex drive and sexual responsivity. Yeah, baby.

8. If you suffer from insomnia, exercise helps, and not just because it tires you out; it also helps your body regulate its own rhythms.

9. Workouts boost levels of neurochemicals like dopamine and serotonin, which is like getting a biochemical massage in terms of counteracting stress.

10. You’ll be able to sing louder and dive deeper with your improved lung capacity.

11. Your joints get stronger and less prone to injuries and diseases, including tricky ones like repetitive stress injuries and arthritis.

12. It enables you to satisfy those urges to reenact dance numbers from Broadway musicals. So what if you’re in the grocery store?

13. Will you be able to snatch a speeding bullet out of the air? Maybe not, but working out does improve people’s reaction time.

14. Endorphins—mmmmm, sweet, sweet endorphins: the “runner’s high” isn’t just for runners, ya know.

15. Outrunning the zombies.

16. It makes you strong. You never know when you’ll need to be that person who can carry the suitcase full of gold bars through the airport without anyone being able to tell that it’s so heavy.

17. Your body and your brain get superbly and thoroughly oxygenated, which tends to make you feel peppy and full of mischief.

18. Most of us like to think we’re flexible people who can roll with the punches. Exercising makes it more likely that it’ll literally be true, not just figuratively.

19. If, God forbid, you should get sick, being a regular exerciser can help reduce the length and severity of your illness. It has even been shown to reduce cancer mortality for some kinds of cancer.

20. Exercise can help pregnancy and labor go a lot more smoothly. Afterward, it helps you keep up with the kid.

21. Probiotics and antacids have their place, but if you want to give your digestive system the best possible advantage, there’s nothing like fiber, water, and exercise.

22. Physical competence—just knowing you can count on your body to do stuff effectively and without trouble—is pretty damn nice.

23. It makes your heart happy and efficient to the point that your resting heart rate may get lower.

24. Four words: Exercise-induced mitochondrial biogenesis—exercising can increase the number of mitochondria in your muscle cells, which is just completely geeky cool.

25. Stamina: “Another ten rounds? Sure,” you say. “Bring it … if you can.”

26. You’re much less likely to fall and much more likely to be able to get right back up and brush yourself off if you do.

27. It’s kind of nice not to think twice about getting down on the floor to look for that thing that just rolled under the entertainment center or about how you’ll get up again.

28. It’s eco-friendly. No matter how much you sweat or how hard you breathe, you will not produce toxic waste or greenhouse gases.

29. It gives you a bulletproof excuse. “Sorry, Aunt Linda, of course I’d love to hear all about your colonoscopy, but I have to go or I’ll be late to Pilates.”

30. Juicy ideas and spicy epiphanies seem to be attracted to sweat and gym socks. Moving your body is a fantastic way to jump-start your brain.

—  The Unapologetic Fat Girl’s Guide to Exercise and Other Incendiary Acts

anonymous asked:

top six mars signs? 😊

in my opinion/experience..

1. Mars in Gemini. I love their energy and how creative they are. They are always so fun and interesting, they like to change things up and do new things. They have a way with their words and are good at debating and arguing. They are also usually very witty.
2. Mars in Scorpio. They are good at pushing themselves and challenging their limits. They are very self aware and know what they like or don’t. They are passionate and strong, and have good self discipline.
3. Mars in Aquarius. They are unpredictable and independent. They always know how to surprise people or change things up. They embrace change and like to bring original ideas to life. They are open minded and know how to stand up for themselves and their ideas.
4. Mars in Capricorn. They are in control and determined. They set goals and try their hardest to achieve them. They are responsible and practical. They are level headed and realistic in arguments.
5. Mars in Taurus. They are loyal, reliable, and rational. They are hard workers who take their time doing the job to get it done right. They are rational and calm in arguments, and stand their ground. They are easy going and comfortable.

June 10 2017 7:00 AM

Here we go again. Poldark is back, and even if you’re not a fan of the series you will know that this means Aidan Turner oozing rugged manliness on our TV screens all summer long.

The Dublin actor is what the young call ‘A Ride’, and his Cornish hero Ross Poldark is manly in the way that men were manly before hair gel, paternity leave and yoga.

Watching him gallop along a clifftop (in all weathers), brood at polite parties, and generally behave like the man least likely to see the point of couples therapy, just does it - shamingly enough - for 21st-century womenfolk. Unfortunately for Turner, this means that he is, until further notice, carrier of the 'Real Man’ torch, and he doesn’t much like it.

He denies deserving the title and has even - who can blame him - tried to shift the focus on to his dad, describing him in a recent interview as the genuine article: “a real man” who can “fix a vintage car, do plumbing, lay flooring”.

Point taken. But being a DIY whizz is the least of being a real man in 2017.

Here are 10 attributes that make a bloke, in our eyes, Just Poldark Enough:

1. Not fussing about your hair

It is hard to strike the balance between caring and preening peacock, but a manly man is never that interested in his hair (see Poldark’s salty-dog do). Note: the Boris Johnson hair thing is something different.

2.  Not having three kinds of waxed Barbour jacket

There’s nothing wrong with being prepared but owning the just-so perfect outfit for every situation is a bit Meghan Markle and not that manly (see Poldark, who only has one coat).

3. Not being easily intimidated

By spiders. By waiters. By the bloke at the party who thinks he’s smarter/richer than you.

4.  Entry-level DIY

Never mind tinkering with the car at the weekends (sounds a bit Top Gear to us) but being capable of basic crisis response in the home, like sorting out the beeping smoke alarm without taking a hammer to it.

5. Being good with children

Although Poldark’s son Jeremy mysteriously vanishes for large stretches of time, it only takes a quick glimpse of Ross cradling a tiny baby in his muscular arms for viewers to melt. The manliest men are terrific with babies and are doting dads; we have known that for a long time (see that Athena poster, and Poldark).

6. Being a good driver

In the absence of a horse to gallop along the cliffs. Reversing with an arm slung over the passenger seat is particularly manly.

7. Dog confidence

Dogs that run rings around their owners are not the dogs of manly men. (If Poldark had a dog you know he’d be a firm but fair master and inspire panting devotion - his interactions with Demelza’s dog Garrick are enough to make us swoon.)

8. Not being faddy about food

A manly man does not need to live on pies and ale. But making your own chia milk - tiny bit unmanly.

9.  Not indulging in white-knuckle handshakes, in the style of POTUS

This is textbook overcompensation and the opposite of manly.

10. Respecting women

(Poldark’s record on this is, admittedly, patchy, but it is the number one sign of manliness now.)

We’re not interested otherwise - full manly package regardless.

The many moods of a successful marriage

Given his erratic mood swings and infidelity (not to mention that controversial sex scene), Ross Poldark doesn’t immediately strike us as an ideal husband. But according to writer Debbie Horsfield, who adapated Winston Graham’s Cornwall-set saga for the BBC, the hit drama is supposed to offer a guide to a “successful marriage”.

In the series, Aidan Turner’s Poldark hires his maid, Demelza (Eleanor Tomlinson), after defending her in a street brawl. The pair fall in love and get married, but their relationship is marred by Poldark’s obsession with his first love, Elizabeth (Heida Reed), and Demelza’s trauma following the death of her newborn daughter, Julia. Horsfield said: “I always bear in mind the advice Andrew Graham (son of Winston) gave me, which was that his father intended the Poldark saga to be a portrait of a successful marriage.

“By successful he didn’t mean perfect or idyllic, but real … by series three, the fact that they’re still together at all demonstrates staying power.”

So what can Poldark teach us about relationships?

First impressions don’t count

When Ross meets Demelza, she is a street urchin, but once she’s deloused and working in his home, the pair fall in love. On second thought, this may only apply if you’re as ravishing as Eleanor Tomlinson…

The power of delayed gratification

The flirtation between Truro’s resident Hot Doctor Dwight Enys and Lady Caroline Penvenen was drawn out over several weeks before the two managed a rendezvous. By contrast, his hasty affair with a married woman in season one ended up getting her killed. Best not to rush these things.

Don’t bury your feelings

Admittedly, a relationship has its ups and downs, so we’ll mark Poldark’s one-night-stand with Elizabeth plainly a ‘down’. But he and Demelza are trying to make things work — likely thanks to Demelza’s whopping ‘Poldark punch’ after she caught him sneaking home at dawn. If you’ve just learned your husband is cheating on you, as well as squandering your money on a doomed mining enterprise and neglecting your marriage, there’s no time to waste bottling up your emotions, so let it all out.

Don’t let social differences be a barrier to love

This is a big one — Poldark rejects ‘respectable society’ by marrying the lowly Demelza, Caroline ignores her aristocratic father’s wishes to date Enys, and Poldark’s cousin Verity elopes with Captain Andrew Blamey, whose temper caused the accidental death of his first wife. It might seem unwise to disregard the advice of your family in the blind pursuit of love, but such is not the case in the Poldark universe.

Scythe your way to marital bliss

Who can forget the moment in season one when a shirtless Poldark scythed his way into Demelza’s, and the nation’s, heart? Men of Ireland, it may be time to ditch the lawnmower and pick up a scythe of your own. Patience may be required as you learn to handle the tool, but you’ll soon reap the benefits.

– Meadhbh McGrath

Irish Independent

Oh, the Barbour shade😂

Boss didn't pay me so I started a company out of spite to put him out of business.

The year was 2008 and I was 9 years into operating a landscape company. I had done moderately well for myself being able to purchase a home, pay off student loans and start a family. I employed 4 people during the what I call work season, which for us is March through November. December through February we lay off our workers and go on hiatus for the most part. Side note, our company focused mainly on maintenance, and in the Pacific North West once all the leafs are picked up from the Autumn there really isn’t much maintenance to be done. I had that year developed a relationship with a home builder who hired me to care for his personal home and very much liked our work. He asked us to start bidding on installing the landscapes to the homes he built. Sounds easy right? Well remember, we focused mainly on maintenance so my crew didn’t have a ton of experience in the install detail of landscape, and, the homes this guy built were not “track homes” or your cookie cutter type neighbors you find in the suburbs. No, a small home for him was 3500 sq ft on a 25k sq ft lot, and an average size he developed was 8500 to 10k sq ft home with all the bells and whistles. He was more generous in his landscape budgets than many of the contractors I’d met and we were off to what I had hoped would be great partnership.

We finished the first 4 projects he handed us and it was now the beginning of December when my maintenance side of things drops off. This home builder came to me and asked if I would like to keep my maintenance crew working for the Winter working for him. I knew his next home project wasn’t set to break ground till late January so I asked what he had in mind. He told me that he and his son had been experimenting with spray foam insulation in their homes and had decided to invest into purchasing equipment to start there own company. To purchase the equipment on this level was about 100k. I said I would talk to the crew and get back to him. The next week we signed a contract to work with him for three months at a specified pay rate for five of us. He was confident he had enough work to keep us busy for the next three months. First job was insulating this incredible house for this plastic surgeon who spared no expense for the gadgets and material that he put into his home. Next was Government buildings on Fort Lewis. Next was new apartment complexes. Etc etc..

Now, this builder who I was friends with was not my day to day boss while insulating, it was his son, who is younger than I and a bit of a jerk. But we got along fine and all seemed well. The father owned the insulation company, but had very little to do with it on a day to day basis. Hardly saw him for three months. Now, being a contractor myself I was used to not getting paychecks every two weeks like most working folks. I would get paid once a month from my maintenance accounts for the previous month of service and it didn’t all come in at once. “ sometimes people forget to pay on time ”. My crew though was used to getting paid in a timely manner. And after the first month of work and receiving no check from my new boss I inquired when to expect a check. He assured me that once the checks started rolling in that we would see our money- I totally get how that works, especially for a new company trying to get off the ground. So I paid my guys to keep the peace on my end and my boss and I worked out an agreement that I would keep track of everything paid and that he would cut me a check once he was able to. I also had an outstanding landscape invoice out with the father of over 10k that I wasn’t really worried about because he was not always super quick about payment- not that I had to hound him about it, but you understand.

Now we are at the end of February of  2009 and it was time to gear up for the new season of landscape maintenance and put my crew back to work outside. Still no payment from insulation or last landscape project. Things got ugly real fast as I started daily phone calls to the son now that we didn’t see each other as often. I called the father who more or less ignored me. The son stopped answering my calls/texts etc. The father never had a straight answer for me.

Now mid April of 2009. Most communication has stopped on their end. I filed a contractors lien on the landscape project to be paid out before the house sold. Which prompted a call from the father to invite me to his home for lunch and talk. I accepted thinking he was going to offer me a deal of some kind, based on my past history with him. He basically told me that he had been over the years screwed out of money by different people and that it was something that I was going to have to learn to live with. My response “ I’ve been screwed out of money that people owe me as well, just not by anyone I considered a friend”. I left his house determined to stick it to him. May 5 2009 I started a Spray Foam Insulation company with the same level of equipment that he had but about a year less experience than he had. May 7th I get a call from the father asking  a landscape question ( acting as if we were on normal terms ). My response was “ Oh, I don’t landscape anymore, I Spray Foam”. What are you talking about? He asked. When I explained to him that I was operating a Spray foam insulation company he ended the phone call rather quickly. I then receive a phone call from his son 5 min later ( who had ignored my calls for the last many weeks ) threatening me that he would destroy my hopes of making it as an insulator and that no “little landscaper” could/would make it in this community. Side note, with my newly formed company there was now approximately 4-5 companies in the Pacific North West performing this kind of service.

It is a small circle of people in the insulation world and the word gets around pretty quick who does what etc. Our very first job was handed to us by our material supplier which happened to be “his” supplier and that job was a “fix”. Apparently that very first job we had worked on ( that plastic surgeons house ) was insulated incorrectly and poor workmanship. Luckily my only involvement on that house was prep work and clean up. We ended up removing all of the insulation and re-installing it. About a 65k job which the owner of the house turned around and sued my old boss for and won.

We then acquired the government contract at Fort Lewis that he had because of poor communication on his part. Anyway, we systematically took apart his company by being better and honest with people. The story spread ( in the spray foam insulation world ) and we became somewhat hero like in this region because they had screwed so many people over. Oh, and at that time if you might remember, the housing market took a giant dump and guess who had 4 very large houses sitting out there that couldn’t sell. Yep the father, who ended up going bankrupt by mid 09. The son on the other hand kept his head above water somehow a bit longer. But in Oct of 09 I got a call from a Repo man asking if I new the “ son ” and where to find his spray foam equipment. My father in law happen to be an retired cop and PI and I put him on the case to find said equipment. Two days later he called with the address and specific location of the equipment which was behind a barn on an island with the tires aired down. I made the call to the Repo man and two hours later he called me from his lot as he was pulling in with a very large trailer behind his truck asking where he could send the bounty check.

I kept the insulation business for about 3 years before being bought out by another company. I also kept the Landscape company and still run it to this day. Moral to the story, landscapers may work in the dirt and seem simple, but piss one off and they will ruin you.    

The Thirteen Goals of a Witch )0(

1. KNOW YOURSELF 

Know who you really are, and don’t lie to yourself. It is important to continually take stock of both your vices and virtues. There is a reason that this goal appears first on the list: one cannot make any progress without first knowing what you’re about and what you need to work on.

2. KNOW YOUR CRAFT (WICCA).

Knowing your Craft doesn’t just mean the knowledge you have attained from books or with your teacher – it also refers to what you have learned through your own experience, for the true Mysteries are those that cannot be written. So celebrate the seasons, serve the Old Gods, and liten carefully to the whispers of nature.   

3. LEARN.

Yes, that’s right, learn! Read, read, read. Read some more. Check bibliographies. If possible, train with a qualified teacher. The old cliche is correct: you never stop learning. Don’t just rely on your books and your teachers, though. Look to nature. Look within. Listen carefully. 

4. APPLY KNOWLEDGE WITH WISDOM.

First, knowledge and wisdom are two things. If you have ever known someone who is “book smart” but totally lacks common sense, you know what I mean. It is one thing to know a lot, and something else to apply one’s knowledge effectively. In Wicca, we place a great emphasis on personal responsibility; use your knowledge to make informed decisions, and be ready to accept the consequences of ALL of your actions. When doing spellwork, make your intentions clear, and again, be ready to accept responsibility for ANY outcome.

5. ACHIEVE BALANCE.

It is the goal of the Witch to become a strong, dynamic, and balanced individual on all levels: physically, emotionally, spiritually. Learn to balance work with play. Balance your diet and be mindful of your health. Balance your checkbook. Learn ways to incorporate your spritual and “mundane” lives (hint: they’re really not that separate!). Wicca is a Earth-Based religion: strive learn to live in harmony with the Earth. Align yourself with the rhythms of nature by celebrating the Sabbats and paying attention to the phases of the moon. Exercise outside when possible. Try gardening – growing your own herbs can be very rewarding, and you tend to learn a lot more about them in the process! Recycle, and be mindful of your rubbish output. Finally, a word about psychological balance: emotional/psychological imblances should be attended to with professional counsel. IT IS NOT A WEAKNESS TO GET HELP. Witches are people, and may potentially experience all of the same problems that non-Witches may. I, personally, have never had to deal with severe anxiety or depression, but I know many Witches who have been BRAVE enough to confront their problems – and have grown tremendously for having done so.


6. KEEP YOUR WORDS IN GOOD ORDER.

Again, it’s all about personal responsibility. A Witch is in complete control of his/her own words. She has the ability to make an intelligent statement without putting their foot in her mouth. It is of paramount importance NOT TO LIE – to yourself or to another: dishonesty is spiritually corrosive. One simply cannot move forward while caught in a web of lies. Be careful with so-called “white” lies – examine why you might want to bend the truth even just a “little bit.” When it comes to answering those who want to tell you that Wiccans are nothing but low-down, perverted, Satan-worshipping baby killers, doomed to rot in Hell for all eternity, the key phrase is: stay calm. Famed Salem Witch Laurie Cabot once appeared on a TV talk show along with a minister who had, shall we say, a very negative opinion of the Craft. He spewed forth the typical ignorant fundamentalist nonsense about Wicca, but Ms. Cabot carefully maintained her composure. She made no personal attacks on the minister, even though he was less than courteous towards her. In the end, who are you more likely to take seriously: the individual who is so absolutely incensed that they cannot even form an intelligent sentence, or the individual who remains calm, and provides well-worded answers to whatever is slung at them? 

7. KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS IN GOOD ORDER.

Thoughts are, in fact, things. They are composed of and propelled by energy. Sound familiar? That’s one of the most basic elements of spellwork. With that in mind, of COURSE you should monitor your thoughts. Negative thought patterns can unintentionally result in physical manifestation. Ever heard of the “self-fulfilling prophecy?” That’s one example. In a similar vein, several medical studies have proven that prolonged negative emotions, such as anger and sadness, can affect the physical body, resulting in sickness. Witches are people. We laugh, we cry, we get angry. But we can’t let our thoughts and emotions get out of hand. Somewhere you hear the echo: “…it’s all about personal responsibility…" 

8. CELEBRATE LIFE!

Wicca is a religion that does just that. We celebrate life. Celebrate the Earth, teeming with the vital essence of the Divine. Meditate in nature. Be THRILLED, if even for no other reason that you are ALIVE. 

9. ATTUNE WITH THE CYCLES OF THE EARTH.

As the poem on my splash page says, "We are one with the Earth.” Attune yourself with the cycles of the Earth and recognize that you are a part of nature, not “apart” from it. Meditate on the seasons. Celebrate the Sabbats. Notice the subtle changes within the Earth each day as we move around the Wheel of the Year. Participate in the great, ecstatic dance that is Life. 

10. BREATHE AND EAT CORRECTLY;

11. EXERCISE THE BODY.

Your body is, literally, a temple for the Gods. It is my opinion, and the opinion of many others, that the healthier you are, the easier it will be to commune with the Divine. So make it your goal to achieve your optimum health. Reduce your intake of sweets and other unhealthy foods. Start that exercise program. This isn’t about vanity: it’s about feeling your best. Be certain to properly attend to any chronic illness you may have so that you can enjoy life as much as possible. On a side note, it is the experience of many Witches that that sickness can interfere with magic. Therefore, it is probably advisable that you do not work magic until you feel well enough. Seriously, when you are so ill that you can’t even adequately focus your attention on daytime television, do you think you can do magic?! Just let your body get some rest, use its energy to mend itself, and have someone else do some healing magic for you! 

12. MEDITATE.

Meditation is good for the whole organism, mind, body, and soul. Bringing yourself to that point of stillness will help you discover your inner self and true power. 

13. HONOR THE GODDESS AND THE GOD.

…and remember that They are truly present in every molecule of Creation. In an interview, Witch Barbara Morrigan once said, “It is all Sacred.” She wasn’t kidding. The very act of living life to its fullest is an act of honor to the Gods. Celebrate Them in ritual and song. Recognize the sanctity of everyone and everthing. Develop relationships with the Gods. Serve them well, and perhaps most importantly: BY YOUR OWN LIFE BE an honor to them through example. 

Be sure to know all of the Goals of the Witch; They’re very important to a Witch’s lifestyle! :)

Boss didn't pay me so I started a company out of spite to put him out of business.

The year was 2008 and I was 9 years into operating a landscape company. I had done moderately well for myself being able to purchase a home, pay off student loans and start a family. I employed 4 people during the what I call work season, which for us is March through November. December through February we lay off our workers and go on hiatus for the most part. Side note, our company focused mainly on maintenance, and in the Pacific North West once all the leafs are picked up from the Autumn there really isn’t much maintenance to be done. I had that year developed a relationship with a home builder who hired me to care for his personal home and very much liked our work. He asked us to start bidding on installing the landscapes to the homes he built. Sounds easy right? Well remember, we focused mainly on maintenance so my crew didn’t have a ton of experience in the install detail of landscape, and, the homes this guy built were not “track homes” or your cookie cutter type neighbors you find in the suburbs. No, a small home for him was 3500 sq ft on a 25k sq ft lot, and an average size he developed was 8500 to 10k sq ft home with all the bells and whistles. He was more generous in his landscape budgets than many of the contractors I’d met and we were off to what I had hoped would be great partnership.

We finished the first 4 projects he handed us and it was now the beginning of December when my maintenance side of things drops off. This home builder came to me and asked if I would like to keep my maintenance crew working for the Winter working for him. I knew his next home project wasn’t set to break ground till late January so I asked what he had in mind. He told me that he and his son had been experimenting with spray foam insulation in their homes and had decided to invest into purchasing equipment to start there own company. To purchase the equipment on this level was about 100k. I said I would talk to the crew and get back to him. The next week we signed a contract to work with him for three months at a specified pay rate for five of us. He was confident he had enough work to keep us busy for the next three months. First job was insulating this incredible house for this plastic surgeon who spared no expense for the gadgets and material that he put into his home. Next was Government buildings on Fort Lewis. Next was new apartment complexes. Etc etc..

Now, this builder who I was friends with was not my day to day boss while insulating, it was his son, who is younger than I and a bit of a jerk. But we got along fine and all seemed well. The father owned the insulation company, but had very little to do with it on a day to day basis. Hardly saw him for three months. Now, being a contractor myself I was used to not getting paychecks every two weeks like most working folks. I would get paid once a month from my maintenance accounts for the previous month of service and it didn’t all come in at once. “ sometimes people forget to pay on time ”. My crew though was used to getting paid in a timely manner. And after the first month of work and receiving no check from my new boss I inquired when to expect a check. He assured me that once the checks started rolling in that we would see our money- I totally get how that works, especially for a new company trying to get off the ground. So I paid my guys to keep the peace on my end and my boss and I worked out an agreement that I would keep track of everything paid and that he would cut me a check once he was able to. I also had an outstanding landscape invoice out with the father of over 10k that I wasn’t really worried about because he was not always super quick about payment- not that I had to hound him about it, but you understand.

Now we are at the end of February of 2009 and it was time to gear up for the new season of landscape maintenance and put my crew back to work outside. Still no payment from insulation or last landscape project. Things got ugly real fast as I started daily phone calls to the son now that we didn’t see each other as often. I called the father who more or less ignored me. The son stopped answering my calls/texts etc. The father never had a straight answer for me.

Now mid April of 2009. Most communication has stopped on their end. I filed a contractors lien on the landscape project to be paid out before the house sold. Which prompted a call from the father to invite me to his home for lunch and talk. I accepted thinking he was going to offer me a deal of some kind, based on my past history with him. He basically told me that he had been over the years screwed out of money by different people and that it was something that I was going to have to learn to live with. My response “ I’ve been screwed out of money that people owe me as well, just not by anyone I considered a friend”. I left his house determined to stick it to him. May 5 2009 I started a Spray Foam Insulation company with the same level of equipment that he had but about a year less experience than he had. May 7th I get a call from the father asking a landscape question ( acting as if we were on normal terms ). My response was “ Oh, I don’t landscape anymore, I Spray Foam”. What are you talking about? He asked. When I explained to him that I was operating a Spray foam insulation company he ended the phone call rather quickly. I then receive a phone call from his son 5 min later ( who had ignored my calls for the last many weeks ) threatening me that he would destroy my hopes of making it as an insulator and that no “little landscaper” could/would make it in this community. Side note, with my newly formed company there was now approximately 4-5 companies in the Pacific North West performing this kind of service.

It is a small circle of people in the insulation world and the word gets around pretty quick who does what etc. Our very first job was handed to us by our material supplier which happened to be “his” supplier and that job was a “fix”. Apparently that very first job we had worked on ( that plastic surgeons house ) was insulated incorrectly and poor workmanship. Luckily my only involvement on that house was prep work and clean up. We ended up removing all of the insulation and re-installing it. About a 65k job which the owner of the house turned around and sued my old boss for and won.

We then acquired the government contract at Fort Lewis that he had because of poor communication on his part. Anyway, we systematically took apart his company by being better and honest with people. The story spread ( in the spray foam insulation world ) and we became somewhat hero like in this region because they had screwed so many people over. Oh, and at that time if you might remember, the housing market took a giant dump and guess who had 4 very large houses sitting out there that couldn’t sell. Yep the father, who ended up going bankrupt by mid 09. The son on the other hand kept his head above water somehow a bit longer. But in Oct of 09 I got a call from a Repo man asking if I new the “ son ” and where to find his spray foam equipment. My father in law happen to be an retired cop and PI and I put him on the case to find said equipment. Two days later he called with the address and specific location of the equipment which was behind a barn on an island with the tires aired down. I made the call to the Repo man and two hours later he called me from his lot as he was pulling in with a very large trailer behind his truck asking where he could send the bounty check.

I kept the insulation business for about 3 years before being bought out by another company. I also kept the Landscape company and still run it to this day. Moral to the story, landscapers may work in the dirt and seem simple, but piss one off and they will ruin you.

Bellamy Blake: Hero, Monster and Everybody’s Big Brother

My Bellamy meta was inspired by this post on @metastation depicting a mother hen struggling to sit on top of a pile of puppies. This is Bellamy Blake in his role of big brother - not only to Octavia, but increasingly to every kid he meets. Being the big brother is a unique role for Bellamy in a society where nobody else has siblings. Being raised in a family with an absent father also means that Bellamy is thrust into the role of surrogate dad from an early age. A young boy without a male caregiver often looks to stories for his own male role models. For Bellamy these fictional fathers would’ve been the characters from the mythology books his mother read to him. With his secret sister under the floor to protect, Bellamy can’t have conceivably had any close friends growing up. In his early life these mythology books would’ve played a huge part in shaping Bellamy’s personality. These stories of heroes and monsters were what taught Bellamy to be a man. Over the series we see how Bellamy shifts back and forth between being a hero and being a monster, how Bellamy is prepared to take whichever role is required to fulfill his responsibility to his sister and how Bellamy slowly takes on more big brotherly responsibility - how he basically adopts a 100 kids.  

Bellamy’s first instinct as a big brother is to be the hero to his younger sibling(s). We see this in Bellamy sneaking Octavia to her first dance and in Bellamy telling the Sky Box delinquents they’re free to do whatever the hell they want. He wants to liberate these kids, give them the freedom Bellamy himself missed out on in his own adolescence because he was so trapped by his family obligations. His ability to please a teen crowd through his heroic speeches again demonstrates that Bellamy must be very well read. He knows all the best lines and rhetoric. But while Bellamy’s heroic persona wins him a lot of admiration, it often leads to him failing in his first responsibility as a protector. Taking Octavia to the dance resulted in her getting arrested and their mother floated. Bellamy letting Octavia go off to explore earth results in her coming back with a monster bite in her leg. After this early scare, Bellamy quickly changes the camp rules for his sister alone. The other kids can do whatever the hell they want but Octavia must stay at camp and she must be guarded and she must be safe. Soon after Octavia starts rebelling against his militant protection, Bellamy forms his first surrogate sibling bond with Charlotte. For Bellamy, Charlotte represents the timid little girl Octavia used to be before she got so big and went so wild. When Bellamy fails to protect Charlotte and has to watch her jumping off a cliff, he lashes out in anger and comes close to beating Murphy to death. This is when we see the monstrous side of Bellamy’s big brother nature coming out.    

Bellamy wants to be the hero, but he’ll be the monster if he needs to. He can shoot the Chancellor if that’s what it takes to get to earth with Octavia. He can destroy Raven’s radio, which could’ve been used to save hundreds of lives, if it stops the council coming to earth and executing him. This is not Bellamy saving his own ass. Bellamy can’t fulfill his responsibility to protect Octavia if he’s dead, but he thinks nothing of risking his life to save her when she’s taken by Lincoln. It’s on this trek to rescue his sister that Bellamy first witnesses the Grounders attacking and killing the delinquent kids that he’s taken under his wing. When Bellamy drags Lincoln back to camp to torture him, he tells Octavia that he’s not doing it for her. Bellamy says that he is torturing Lincoln – “for Finn and Jasper and Diggs and John and Roma.” He’s being the monster for all of those kids who were hurt or killed by the Grounders. Octavia argues that Lincoln was protecting her, but in his rage Bellamy still makes Lincoln a scapegoat, just like on a much larger scale Bellamy will later make Indra’s army scapegoats for the bombing of Mt Weather. This is the dark side of being a big brother. This is the red mist that blinds him and makes him rage like an angry bear when its cubs are threatened. When Bellamy is hallucinating he is haunted by the victims of his inner monster and he begs them to kill him. He wants to slay his demons just like his mother taught him. But the demon he’s fears most is himself.   

At the end of S1 when the Grounder army is approaching and Clarke, Finn and Monty are missing, Bellamy resorts to grounding all the other kids at the camp, forcing them to stay within its walls like he once did only with Octavia. Bellamy shouts at the kids, scares them, orders them all to keep focused on the camps defenses. The kids misinterpret this as Bellamy not caring about his lost friends, but really this is Bellamy being the frantic mother hen struggling to sit on all his puppies so he doesn’t lose any more of them. He already feels responsible for the eighteen that are lying dead in their camp graveyard. He takes responsibility for all of them now. It’s not only Octavia who Bellamy will risk his life for. When Murphy takes Jasper hostage, he doesn’t hesitate to switch places to save his surrogate little brother. At this point Bellamy even takes responsibility for Murphy, the black sheep of the 100 family, the kid who he disowned and banished. In the same moment that Bellamy determines to be a hero for Jasper, he faces up to being a monster to Murphy. Bellamy Blake is both these things. He has to be. As he later says to Clarke – “This is who I’ve always been.”  

In S2 it is clear that Bellamy’s brotherly responsibilities have stretched way beyond Octavia. After the Grounder war, Bellamy trusts that Lincoln will protect Octavia and even trusts that Octavia can look after herself. Bellamy is willing to leave his sister to go off on a potential suicide mission to rescue his adopted siblings who were stolen from their camp. When Bellamy enters the labyrinth of Mt Weather, he is Theseus and the Minotaur combined. We see the monster in him when he kills Lovejoy so savagely with his bare hands, but he becomes the hero again to those 47 kids who throw their arms around Bellamy when they see him, who feel so much braver once they know that he’s there. Bellamy takes to big brothering Maya too – he instinctively comforts her when she looks shaken, he offers to protect her from his mission and when Maya insists on aiding him, he does everything he can to build up her confidence. When Bellamy first woke up in a harvesting cage, the raging monster inside him wanted to get out and “kill everyone in this mountain”. But Bellamy had been expecting to find only fellow monsters in the mountain. Not a brave young girl around his sister’s age. Not a school room full of little kids. Think about how much Bellamy must have hated himself for killing Lovejoy once he met his kid. Now think about how Bellamy must have felt when he pulled a lever to kill that little kid too. Bellamy was the one who argued again and again to Clarke that they needed a plan that wouldn’t kill everyone - that wouldn’t kill the new puppies that he was planning to adopt. Bellamy is finally tipped into the decision to kill everyone in the mountain by the sight of Octavia needing to be saved. But also, pulling that lever was the one time we really see Bellamy being the big brother to Clarke – Clarke who he has always treated as an equal and even a co-parent to the other delinquents. As a big brother, Bellamy holds Clarke’s hand steady on that lever. They become heroes and monsters together in order to save their own. 

Then for the first time we see Bellamy willing to concede his responsibilities to older men. After the irradiation of Level 5, after Bellamy walks through the Mess Hall filled with the people that he killed, the kids that he killed, the girl who saved his life that he killed – the first adult that Bellamy speaks to is Kane. And not only does Kane give Bellamy immediate forgiveness for the genocide, Kane tells him he “did good”. Bellamy looks sick and unconvinced by Kane’s words, but he tries to keep up his heroic big brother role, even after Clarke leaves him and Jasper breaks down and Octavia slips further and further away. After the shock of the Mt Weather bombing, Bellamy shifts his allegiance from Kane to Pike. I feel this shift has got to be more complicated than Bellamy getting caught up by Pike’s anti-Grounder speeches. Bellamy has his own grudges against the Grounders, his own furious speeches he could make - Trikru killed 37 of Bellamy’s friends before Kane hit the ground and he doesn’t forgive easy. But Bellamy has never been blinded by prejudice. He knows there are Grounders like Lincoln and Indra who he can trust as allies. I think Bellamy is swayed in his loyalties not because of what Pike says about Grounders, but because of what Pike says about him. When Bellamy is feeling responsible for another Mt Weather massacre, Pike is the one who comes out and says “It was your fault”. Pike telling him he failed makes more sense to Bellamy than Kane telling him he’s the good guy. It must feel like Pike is the only one who’d tell him the truth. Bellamy failed at being the hero today so now he must try being the monster again. This is how he chooses what is best for his people, the choice he makes every day. This is who he’s always been. The same person, the same responsibility.

In S3 Bellamy chooses wrong. And his choice leads to Lincoln’s death and the loss of his relationship to his sister. When Bellamy sees what’s happened he lets Octavia beat him bloody. He lets her punish the monster inside him, the demon he can’t slay but he’d sure like his sister to punch it out of him. And it doesn’t end there. Later on Bellamy is the person most willing to sit in a room with an ALIE-possessed Raven and he takes a verbal beating as passively as he took a physical one. Bellamy has given up on asking for forgiveness. He is long past feeling like he deserves it. Not even Clarke can give it to him these days though she does offer him some much needed perspective -“maybe there are no good guys” she say, the solace Clarke got from her own parent that Bellamy didn’t hear from either of his father figures. Good guys are nothing but myths from his mother’s story books and if only Bellamy could stop trying to be the hero or stop feeling like he has to make himself a monster, maybe he could find some peace. But nothing stops. He’s still got all those kids to protect, even if he’s fallen so far from the big brother he once was in their eyes. Clarke promises they’ll forgive him but questions whether Bellamy can forgive himself. I think the real question going forward is will forgiveness or even his responsibility still matter to Bellamy when it seems the world is coming to an end?

Tagging @cylune @jontyaxefive @forgivenessishardforus @ginalou16  @reblogginhood @rosymamacita @insufficient-earth-skills aaaaand I think that is all the meta-loving Bellamy fans that I follow. Sorry if I missed anyone out and let me know if you want a tag next time. 

Nursing Transitions: (Exp Nurse me, to Graduate Nurse me)

1. Nursing is tough. You are tougher.

2. Report. Don’t take anything personally. If someone is asking you a lot of questions that you have no answer to; consider where they’re coming from. If they are reasonable questions, consider it constructive learning. If they’re interrupting you before you’re done with sections, or making passive aggressive commentary - remind them you aren’t done yet - stand your ground.

3. Time Management. Likely one of the most frustrating areas, particularly at the end of the day when you haven’t documented a thing. Keep a cheat sheet, detailing report at the top, history, allergies, and break it down further into IV access, drips, Meds, labs, things to do. Use check boxes. Speed comes when you’ve got a system that works for you. Not the one your clinical educator had, not the one your preceptor had. Speed comes with understanding the task, the flow of the unit, and repetition.

4. Bullying. It’s impossible to know how you’re going to react when it happens. Brave and strong is ideal, but what may happen is surprise, tears, and being lost for words. Consider the source: what is the intention behind the meanness? Are they looking for an easier assignment/manipulating you into taking a harder one? Are they questioning your abilities? Then let it be. The moments while you’re considering this, you’re giving yourself time to assess them, calm yourself, and level your reaction without defending yourself. Remember; if you apologize for who you are, or what you do, to someone whose sole intent is to conjure up fear - it sets the tone for how they will treat you subsequently. Keep your response minimal, vague, non retaliatory. Be kind to them. Let it be the thing they remember about you is kindness, not fear.

5. Advocacy. Speaking up is a lot harder than people make it seem. It’s hard to approach doctors in the beginning. It’s hard to approach some of the more experienced nurses. It’s hard to pipe up when you’re unsure how people will respond. When you page a doctor, have your cheat sheet ready, note who/what you’re calling about, provide relevant details (i.e., vitals, mental status, etc.). Identify which nurse is your go to person every shift. There’s at least one kind soul who remembers what it’s like to be new. Speak your thoughts about your patient during rounds. Just because you’re new, doesn’t immediately imply you are wrong. Speak up for your patient when something doesn’t feel right. Speak up when you have an unsafe assignment. Change begins when you speak up, even if it’s hard, and even if it causes a little unrest. Consider your reasoning, consider quality of care. What you say matters - but why you do it matters more.

6. Support. Support your fellow nurses, support the doctors, support medical students, support nursing students, support nursing assistants. Support every role. Remember everyone has stresses associated with their roles, and may experience rough days, remember there’s others who are learning their role also, there’s others who hide their uncertainty, don’t take anything personally. Instead, ask them if there’s anything you can do to help them. Small acts of compassion go a lot further than defense.

7. Be a Detective. Ask a lot of questions. Never mind the people who ridicule you for it. Never be afraid of not knowing. Be afraid of the day you stop being curious. Be inquisitive about who’s in with your patient, and what they’re doing, politely introducing yourself as the nurse (so the patient doesn’t see you freaking out). Read the doctors’ notes. Ask the patient and family questions. Never rely solely on report for valuable information. Observe other nurses, watch their techniques. Ask, ask, ask.

8. Mistakes. You will fu*k up a lot. Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Be afraid of not learning from them. Be understanding of the mistakes you see around you, everyone else is learning too, regardless of where they are in their careers. One of the greatest reasons people fear owning up to mistakes is the judgments of others. Strive for honesty & humility, not perfection.

9. Respect. Regardless of the title, discipline, or background - Everyone wants to feel appreciated for what they’re doing. Respect for each person’s unique contribution to your patient’s care: the respiratory therapist, nutritionist, nursing assistants, phlebotomists, transporters, unit clerks, pharmacists, techs, and doctors. Respect for students, who may be putting on a brave face, but scared to hell. Respect for what it feels like to be uncertain, and in need of support. The greatest working relationships are where there is mutual respect & communication.

10. When jobs don’t work out. There’s nurses who will be happy in one position for 30 years, and there’s nurses who are wanderers and won’t be tied down. There’s nurses who aren’t sure where they want to work, but they know what they will stand for. Be patient with finding the right position, be patient after professional disappointments. Be patient when you’re knocked back over, and over again. Be patient when you still haven’t found what you’re looking for.

10.25. Endurance. You’ll want to quit some days. You’ll become restless, unsure of your abilities. You’ll be critiqued more than you’ll be praised. You’ll question your clinical decisions. You’ll be in awe of the human capacity to rebound. You’ll be inspired by your patients, and you will inspire them. You will endure ridicule, betrayals, bullying and you will find strength of courage to face your adversaries. You will learn from your patients, you will learn from your colleagues, and you will seek to understand the complexities of the human response to physical and mental health. You will share laughter, stories, fears, and you’ll find commonalities in the unexpected. You will burnout, You will be frustrated, irritated, and you will reflect on the enormity of what you are facing each day. You will cry, you will grieve with families, you will be the last comfort for patients during their last moments in this life, and you will welcome new life, new beginnings. You will find meaning in the ordinary, and wonder at the extraordinary. You will falter, and you will rise. You are a nurse, you have the capacity to impact every patient you meet.

10.5. Trust your instincts. They are often more powerful than you can imagine.
OTPs Across Five Fandoms Challenge!

Rules: List any five OTPs across any five fandoms you choose and then you tag 15 people!

I was tagged by @narusasunaruheadcanons. Thank you so much. =)

  • 1: SasuNaruSasu (Series: Naruto) I know everyone expects this but SNS is my number one. And I’m proud! To this day I have not found a single ship that can even come close to that amazing bond they share. One soul separated into two. The sun and moon, fire and wind, purple and orange. Seeing Naruto and Sasuke together restores my faith in humanity and makes me believe that true love exists. These two have filled my heart with more emotion than real people. I’ve loved this pairing ever since fifth grade. They just blow me away and leave me speechless. -tear- 


2: LawLight (Series: DeathNote) This is another long time favorite! The ship can be a little problematic (it’s full of angst) But I think that when Light wasn’t consumed by his God-complex and his twisted personality took a breather, that he valued his relationship with L. And this can be proven because after L’s death Light’s mental state deteriorates to the point of no return. I really like the dynamic between Light and L. They are perfect for each other because they are the only ones able to understand one another due to their superior intellect. I love seeing Light and L battle it out in a game of wits. Very intellectually stimulating and hilarious.


3. NezuShi (Series: No.6) This ship makes me have warm fuzzies in my chest. The fact that they’ve become canon is such a blessing (Sasuke and Naruto deserved this!) but Nezumi and Shion are just adorable together.  I have no other way of putting it. I find it so sweet that Nezumi wants to protect Shion’s innocence at all costs and they were drawn to each other the day they met. They have shared some sweet moments that melted my heart!

 4: Promptis- [NoctisxPrompto] (Series: Final Fantasy XV) This is one of my newer Otps but the moment I saw it I was like WOAH..because this ship shares some subtle similarities to SNS. Aside from the fact that Noctis looks exactly like Sasuke, his childhood friend Prompto Argentum is probably the one he is closest to. Prompto was a lonely, shy boy who lived in isolation. Watching Noctis at school from afar encouraged Prompto to live a healthier lifestyle. He put in tons of effort just to become his friend. I feel like with Prompto, Noctis can focus on being a normal guy, and forget the burden of being the prince of Lucis and all the responsibilities that come with it. (Plus, they take a lot of selfies <3)

5: As for this, I’m not quite sure I have any more OTPs. I’d like to mention that Victuri (Victor and Yuri from Yuri On Ice) is super cute but it hasn’t reached OTP levels yet!

I tag: @sasuke-prevails @sasuke-trash-and-proud @killerkurama @rei-scarlet @dark-naruto

In Honor of Madara Uchiha

This was Madara’s first appearance in the present story line, and from this badass pose alone, readers knew that shit was about to hit the fan, and boy, did it ever. This was why Madara needed to be the final antagonist before the 2nd Naruto/Sasuke showdown; because not only did he have plenty of prestige before the war arc due to being an individual on the same level as “The God of Shinobi”, Hashirama Senju, but also because during the war, his badassery simply knew no bounds, and the hype regarding his eventual confrontation with Naruto and Sasuke reached emphatic levels. Yet, this was all just to see his character get pushed to the side to make way for an antagonist who no one expected, or really cared about.

After he had soloed an entire army platoon, he then revealed that he had the Rinnegan in his already overpowered arsenal:

How did he obtain this power?

Hashirama’s cells are literally just the answer to everything :P But in all seriousness, dealing with the entire army platoon by himself would have been an adequate testament to his strength, but Maddy decided to go a step further, and unleashed a meteorite upon the allied shinobi forces:

It took absolutely everything that Gaara and Onoki had to stop it, and when they finally did, an unimpressed Madara was just like, “Well done, now here’s another!”:

And Maddy was unleashing these attacks as though they were common fireball jutsus; they didn’t seem to consume much chakra at all.

So at this point, he had sent a clear message to the allied forces on just what kind of power they were dealing with. So their response was to dispatch the 5 Kages, thinking that would be sufficient. But Madara defeated them all, with relative ease:

And he more than stayed true to his word:

The guy just anally raped the 5 kages. That really gave a clear indication of the disparity between their power levels. He was on a pedestal completely above the rest. So who was the unfortunate next target to suffer his wrath, how about all the tailed beasts?

And he succeeded too, Madara not only lived up to the immense hype surrounding his character, but he both went above and beyond reader expectations, and added to his already immense prestige:

This guy and his poses XD At this point, many readers were wondering how on earth Madara could be defeated in a plausible manner, but his confrontation with Gai revealed that he did have a few chinks in his armour and wasn’t the unstoppable juggernaut he appeared to be:

But Maddy was proving to be not only very resilient, but he was seriously enjoying the enhanced level of competition Gai was providing. Thus, although Maddy was getting beaten up, his aura of badassery remained untouched:

Gai’s best efforts were no doubt highly impressive, but they weren’t enough to keep Madara down. Subsequently, as all great antagonists do, Madara gave his badass boast following his triumph against Gai:

Literally all throughout the war, I’m pretty sure Madara’s actions were causing the allied forces to think things along the lines of:

He wasn’t depicted as unstoppable, as explained above, but it did really seem like nothing the allied forces could do would be enough to keep him down. He took out the 5 Kages, the tailed beasts, and Gai after unleashing the 8th gate, all on his own. Even the two trump cards, Naruto and Sasuke, were close to meeting their demise:

However, after a while, Naruto and Sasuke were revived with sage abilities, courtesy of Hagoromo, in order to even the playing field a little bit:

So Maddy was just like, “bring it on!”, the stage was set for the final battle, and the hype was unprecedented: 

So then why did this have to happen?

Why did Kaguya have to usurp Madara’s rightful position as the “Big Bad” of the war? 

Sure, Kaguya was the strongest individual entity to ever exist in the Narutoverse, and so on paper, that makes it seem like a more interesting final confrontation. But the issue, at least for me, was that there was no hype surrounding her character. Madara had been constantly built up, prior to and during the war; it was his popularity that had skyrocketed and I therefore wanted to see the war end with him. In comparison, Kaguya hadn’t really been talked about at all. She just came out of nowhere and pushed Maddy to the side.

What’s worse was that in my opinion, Kaguya was a very boring character with no personality or charisma whatsoever. She just seemed very bland. Powerful, but bland, and that made her fight a lot less engaging. Compare that with Madara’s ever so charming personality:

Madara displayed such an erratic, almost exuberant personality that made him fascinating to watch and enabled readers to fully engage in his fights and interactions:

Now compare that to Kaguya who was rather monotonous, and whose only display of real emotion was sorrow:

At one point I’m sure Kishi caught wind of the predominantly negative reaction to Kaguya’s character, and was tempted to draw something along the lines of:

But there was a reason that Kaguya wasn’t very well received. Having Team 7 face off against the strongest character in history isn’t enough to ensure that the fight will be engaging and entertaining to read/watch. There needs to be some build up to it; you need to make the readers want to see the outcome of the fight you’re hyping up, and that is exactly what Kishi did with Madara. That’s why it was so disappointing to have seen him in such a sorry state when all was said and done:

He didn’t deserve to have that spotlight stolen from him by a powerful, but boring and stoic robot. Madara had all the credentials to provide a glorious penultimate fight, but alas, Kishi favoured power over substance for the “Big Bad”, and I was just left wondering when it’ll end for the majority of the fight. It wouldn’t have been that way with good ole’ Maddy :-(

I suppose I’ll end it with one of the reasons why Madara was such a cool antagonist :D

Gotta love him :D

thegeekyartistoffical  asked:

1,5,8,10 OTP ask (Rose Garden)

OH WOW I wasn’t expecting any response to that one 8D But sure Why not lets take a gander here!

1. Who would take finding out dragons are real better?: Ruby are you kidding me? Shes seen a grim dragon i don’t think she’d be surprised over a regular dragon at this point XD Meanwhile Oscar can’t even fathom the idea of dragons being real aside from story books. 

5. Who handles bad news better?: Really I think it would depend on what classifies as ‘bad news’ but if were talking in general then I’d say Oscar. Hes fairly level headed and doesn’t come across as the panicking type, whereas Ruby always works off her emotions and Oscar is a bit more reserved.

8. How would they fair in an apocalyptic world? (If they are from a apocalyptic world, how would they fair in a modern day world?): (Remnant is almost both at this point what do??? 8D) Well in an apocalyptic world I think Ruby and Oscar together would fair pretty well, with Ruby being the bulk of their strength and protection and Oscar being the tactician and damsel who needs to get saved by Ruby all the time XD As for a modern AU they’d be awkward babes experiencing awkward young love for the first time in high school <3 just look up Jyojiriin’s Modern Rose Garden AU X3 (SO CUTE!!!)

10. How do they react when they see a dog in their house that isn’t theirs?: Very confused. But heres the thing… they both love dogs. They’d probably snuggle with it for a bit and give it pats while trying to figure out where it came from and how it got there. Ruby would be asking if they could keep it while Oscar tries to reason with her saying ‘we need to give it back to the owner’ or ‘we can’t afford to take care of a dog right now’ all while Ruby begs and BEGS to keep the doggo. I think he’d cave eventually if it were a stray, but convince Ruby no if it belonged to someone else X3 

Thanks for the suggestions friendo! This was fun XD

Zaynab Shahar

1. How long have you been polyamorous or been practicing polyamory?

I’ve been practicing polyamory for about five years now.

2. What does your relationship dynamic look like?

I identify as being solo poly. I don’t have a primary or secondary partner. I don’t place partners on a hierarchy. Instead, I focus more on having intentional, healthy, consensual, safe relationships with each partner in the time we spend together. Currently, I solo and single. My friend K.C Slack once tweeted that she sees her partners as constellations that are all important to her galaxy, or something to that effect. I remember reading it and thinking “that’s a damn dreamy way to think about it,” and since I’m a huge astronomy and astrology nerd that resonates with me on so many levels.

3-5. What aspect of polyamory do you excel at? What aspect of polyamory do you struggle with? How do you address and/or overcome those struggles?

I don’t know if the language of excel/struggle really encompasses how I understand myself, potentially because I read them as a wee too binary for my taste. I would say I strive to be a person who regularly utilizes active listening and compassionate response all in the context of providing emotional labor to my partners. I tend to focus more on providing emotional labor to my partners and really struggle with letting people in to do the same for me. I have trust issues based on having emotionally abusive relationships early on as a queer teenager, so I’m reluctant to just be vulnerable and share my problems with my partners for fear that it’s going to come back to bite me in the ass in the form of gaslighting.

Subsequently, I have a hard time allowing people to reciprocate partner care when it comes to living with chronic pain, and that’s something I routinely struggle with. For example one of the things I’ve realized in coming into polyamory and living with chronic pain at the same time is that people struggle with straddling the line between providing care and being ableist (even if they don’t intend to be). I started to realize this after my first non-monogamous relationship in undergrad ended my first year of grad school and my chronic pain struggles progressively got worse. As we were working on reconciling our breakup into a friendship she would spend time at my house when I didn’t have the spoons to leave the house. She was very intent on “helping me” but her version of help never included asking me what my accessibility needs were. She would just declare that she was going to do something for me, do it, and if I objected she would get offended without ever considering that she was trampling over my autonomy. Fast forward to the present, I walk with a cane and a visible limp. I have a hard time communicating to multiple partners what my accessibility needs are, and hell even keeping track of where accessibility/ableism conversations are at with all of my partners because I believe it’s an ongoing process. So I’m trying to learn how to be better at receiving; whether it’s care, compassion, listening, or love, and not just shut myself off to my polycule because it’s easier than trying to tell people what I want in fear of being hurt or disappointed at the outcome. At the same time, I’m learning how to straddle the line between receiving care and not having my autonomy trampled on. Like I remember the day after going on a friend date with another poly person, she texted me to ask how I was doing. I texted back to say that minus dealing with the typical amount of morning pain I was doing okay. She began asking me all these questions about me and chronic pain and I flatly texted her back “ya know I don’t find my issues with chronic pain all that fascinating of a topic of conversation.” Thankfully she understood that I wasn’t trying to be rude, but that sometimes when you live with a certain amount of pain of a daily basis talking about it ad nauseam requires you to focus on it more than you potentially care to. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to receive her concern, but I also don’t want to make my chronic pain the topic of post-date conversation. There are so much more fascinating things to be texting about at 10am in the morning, lol.

6. In terms of risk-aware/safer sex, what do you and your partners do to protect one another?

I practice safer sex practices with all of my partners, necessary contraceptives and all. Additionally where they are some partners who I engage in fluid bonding oral sex with there are others partners that I won’t. It really depends on our sexual dynamic, since all of my partners have overlap between engaging me in a non-monogamous sense and also in a BDSM/kink sense as well. So penetrative and/or fluid bonding sex doesn’t always come into play when it comes to the different sexual engagements I have with my partners.

7. What is the worst mistake you’ve ever made in your polyamorous history and how did you rebound from that?

I think the worst mistake I made in my polyamorous history was joining the Polyamory group on facebook that has like 20,000+ members. I literally witnessed a conversation where people were attempting to defend (tw: sexual violence) –> having sex with your partner while they’re asleep, which in my mind is an aspect of rape culture. The conversation just got wildly triggering and out of control as the subcomment threads kept pouring in. And I remember not only leaving the group but being deeply reluctant to join any poly digital spaces that didn’t have explicit anti-oppression and/or social justice commitments attached to them because watching people actively defend rape culture was just entirely too much for my psyche. But at the same time it was triggering for my it reaffirmed why anti-oppression poly praxis is necessary.

Quite frankly there are too many people floating out there in the polyverse thinking “oh just because I’m poly and oppressed by monogamous oriented society and I don’t have to do any critical introspection.” Meanwhile, at the same time so many folx within poly culture uphold oppressive ideologies that have dangerous implications to them they wonder why folx with marginalized identities avoid poly spaces like the plague. Like I don’t want to dispose of people who need radical re-education vis a vie oppression because disposability is a form of carceral logic. Our society already disposes of people who commit crimes without any consideration as to the societal conditions that make crime possible and in some cases necessary for survival, let alone our impulses to criminalize certain behaviors under the guise that it will make us safer when it hasn’t thus far. We dispose of people who are sick, neuroatypical, disabled, elderly in various ways because within the context of capitalism if you can’t be productive you’re rendered worthless. So if we relate this to poly culture, disposing of people from poly culture because they hold fucked up oppressive opinions might be good in the short term, but does nothing in the long term to actually bring about structure, systemic, and/or cultural change within our communities. If you ban someone from a Poly facebook group for upholding rape culture, that doesn’t mean the next edition of the Ethical Slut is going to have more extensive commentary on why it’s important to apply anti-oppression frameworks to the construction of our relationships and communities. One doesn’t translate into the other. Nor do those people really learn why what they said was wrong or fucked up to begin with, they just know they got banned. Additionally, the people in the group might be at varying stages of critical consciousness and maybe the only thing they take away from that is what not to say, which is only a small part of the picture. As these critical changes from margin to center are happening, we have to be careful not to replicate existing oppressive logics in order to regulate the safety of our communities. Now, with that being said, some people just can’t be saved. Like if you’re intent on being a rapist or defending rapists, with some Donald Trump style indignation or something, there’s no wiggle room in that time and place and that needs to be recognized and named. But just disposing of people because they don’t say the right thing all the time or they don’t pick up on certain things fast enough doesn’t work for me, cause unlearning (and really learning in general) is a lifelong process that can’t be shortcutted or treated as some sort of social currency to gain access to spaces.

quotes from my journalism classmates this month

-”inflation is going up just like my stress levels”

- *5 minutes into history class* “i should’ve studied publicity”

-”I’M 18 YEARS OLD AND I STILL FUCK UP MY COMMAS”

-”can you believe I’m gonna be broke for the rest of my life?”

-”who even buys newspapers anymore?” “I do and fuck you”

-”fuck buzz feed and his stupid quizzes” *loud female gasps*

-”I’m just so glad I’m not gonna study ANYTHING with numbers anymore”

“did you even read the program? we have economy in third year you dumbass”

“holy fucking nuggets”

- *professor’s emotional speech* “as future journalists you have a big social responsibility” 

*guy next to me whispering to his friend* “bro we are all future spider-men” 

- “omg i love this mETAPHOR”

-”why is your essay wet?” “that would be my tears” “you are so gonna get an A”

-*shouting in the middle of a class* “IF I EVER WRITE A BOOK WOULD YOU GUYS BUY IT????” *in unison* “NO”

-”i haven’t slept in 2 days when do you think i’m gonna pass out?”

“second period definitely, I’ll check you up every 10 minutes don’t worry”

-*in the middle of an exam* “nO NONO THIS PEN IS TOO LIGHT, TOO LIGHT!!”

ganonlink-deactivated20150519  asked:

I had never really thought about the Impel Down thing that way. However, he wasn't directly responsible for releasing the other prisoners, right? From what I remember, Buggy was the one who did that. And Luffy was focused 100% in saving Ace, so maybe he didn't realize he was letting other people loose, or the implications of that. I agree that he doesn't care for his enemies, but I think he's does care for civilian lives a little.

(follow up to this post)

Nah, Luffy know exactly what he was doing. Every step of the way. Buggy and Mr. 3 were brought down to Level 5, but they ran the hell back up. We only ever saw them release mass prisoners on Levels 2 and 1. All of the prisoners who were freed from Levels 5, 4, and 3 were freed by Iva and Luffy’s forces

And indeed they did. They let people out from every single one of those floors

So with the exception of the Level 6 inmates, who Blackbeard let out, Luffy and Iva were responsible for the worst of the ciminals who escaped. Of course, these guys wound up going with Buggy in the end (while all the Newkama went with Iva), but it was still Luffy and Iva’s team that let them out.

I don’t think Luffy deserves any abolition of guilt for “not realizing the implications of what he was doing,” and he did know what he was doing. Hanyabal shouted it at him loud and clear, but it wasn’t Luffy’s problem. Luffy only cared about saving Ace. If Madam Sharlay had been there at the time, and could have concretely predicted the future and told Luffy something like, “2000 innocent people will die at the hands of the criminals you release today,” do you think Luffy would have stopped? Turned around and told everybody to get back in their cells? No way. Sure, Luffy’s not about to kill those people himself, but if the deaths he helped cause are just abstractions that someone else will commit far away from him to people he doesn’t know, Luffy is unconcerned. Hell, are the Marines that they went to fight bad people? Sure, Akainu has committed genocide and killed his own soldiers, but are all the Marines like that? The Marines have families and friends they want to return to too. Overwhelmingly the Marines fight because they want to bring peace to the world. The top brass is thoroughly corrupt, but the Marine soldiers themselves are not. How many Marines died at Marineford? How many were killed by people Luffy helped release right there the very same day? Coby was the only person (and Tashigi and Smoker to a lesser degree) who cared about the lives of both allies and enemies that day. On that front, Coby is the one with the usual Shonen Jump protagonist dedication to saving lives, and he’s the one you’d expect to be the hero.

Luffy is a good natured person filled with a lot of love, but he’s not a saint or even close to one. The people he helps he helps because he likes. Even when he does care about people he doesn’t know, he does it because they’re important to someone he actually likes–that’s why he cared about Vivi’s people, because Vivi cared about them, and why he cared about the people of Fishman Island–because Jinbe and Shirahoshi and Fukaboshi cared about them. For an example of Luffy’s callousness to people he doesn’t know, look back to Sabaody when they were trying to find Caime after she was abducted

Those were slaves. Human beings who were locked up in shackles to be sold to whoever’d pay for them. Many slaves aren’t even criminals, as the World Gov. permits the enslavement of citizens of non-WG affiliated nations. But did Luffy smash up this shop? Did he punch out the slave merchant? No, he didn’t do a thing. When he was sure Caime wasn’t there they just went to the next place. And Luffy didn’t not do anything just because they were in a rush. If Luffy hadn’t been in a rush and had passed by the shop, would he have destroyed it when he saw what it was? No, I don’t think he would have. He was bothered when the Celestial Dragons shot Devil Dias in the head in front of them when the first got to Sabaody, but Hatchi told him to hold back and Luffy got over it quickly. Out of sight, out of mind.

So yeah, Luffy cares about a whole lot of people, but he’s not a saint. He’s not a hero. He’s quite selfish, and does what he does because he cares about specific people, and not nothing, but still quite little for the people he doesn’t know and doesn’t have a reason to care about.