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the agit: the letter ♡ a letter from jonghyun
[chapter three]: he moment when my story becomes your story (iii)
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so, i mean …, about our memories …, aren’t they, countlessly, a lot? and, yet, what’s fascinating is, even when i don’t exactly remember when and where, that place’s scent and color are distinct. (just like you all know: my forgetfulness is severe - enough to go to the hospital for it.)

that sounds quite splendid: sharing a scent and color with someone. even  if it was explained thoroughly in details, someone who couldn’t have experienced it can’t fully understand it. sharing that splendid thing is something that’s only yours and mine.

so …, what i mean is … destiny seems like an unusual event. we are destined.

i want to say these words: that you and i are destined.

The Gotham Relationship That Will Become Very Important As The Season Concludes
As Gotham brings Season 3 to a close, some characters will see their relationship brought to the breaking point.

To lead an uncomplicated life is to lead a life far outside of Gotham City, where nothing is simple. Season 3 has continued expanding its myriad character connections, and it sounds like we’re going to see the biggest threat yet facing the show’s strongest bond, that between Bruce and Alfred. When CinemaBlend spoke with Gotham’s David Mazouz about this season’s final act, I asked how Bruce’s time away with his Shaman mentor would affect things with Alfred, and here’s what he told me:

There will be a major, major conflict between the two, but Alfred is Alfred. He is Bruce’s rock; he is the moral anchor in Bruce’s life. He will always be the person that Bruce can always turn to to understand who he is and to get back on the right track. And Alfred will play a very crucially instrumental role, in that Alfred will never waver from that. I think it largely will be Alfred who leads Bruce back to the good side, if you will.

That ties in with the earlier reports that Bruce and Alfred’s tried and true kinship would be majorly tested by the introduction of the iconic Batman villain Ra’s al Ghul. (Who may or may not be the Shaman.) It’s a no-brainer that the boy and his butler will eventually come out of any situation still bound by devotion and loyalty, but there are an untold number of dark and damaging places that their story can (and likely will) go along the way. Even knowing their ties may never break altogether, it’s just as interesting to see just how close to the edge Bruce and Alfred can get before reeling things back to a more comfortable zone.

Even with so few episodes left in the season, viewers are still only getting a small taste of what a slightly more evil version of Bruce Wayne looks like, with the Shaman’s mystical lessons and fight training working to the mysterious character’s advantage. The way David Mazouz put it during our chat, Bruce will be a completely different person upon returning to Gotham City, and he’ll exhibit a startling lack of morals or empathy. Alfred clearly comes into play where this is concerned, since the actor says Alfred is a significant element in Bruce’s return to the light side.

It sounds like there will be one particular sacrifice of sorts that Sean Pertwee’s Alfred makes in the finale episodes that speaks tremendously to the character’s allegiance to the Wayne family and its young heir.

The amazing thing about Alfred, which you’ll really get to see toward the end of the season, is his incredible devotion to Bruce. You’ve seen it already, but he is willing to give so much more than I ever imagined for Bruce’s well-being. So he is willing to give everything. He has devoted his life to Bruce and his devotion is something that plays a major role later on. It’s something that’s truly incredible.

To add a visual to your stoked imaginations, some of the promotional shots from the upcoming Season 3 finale really hint at the temporary chasm that shows up in Alfred and Bruce’s relationship. And while we only see Alfred’s shocked face in this image, it should be no mystery whose hand is holding that sword.

While Bruce and Alfred work on their personal issues, which hopefully brings that weirdo clone back into things, the rest of Gotham City is dealing with Michael Chiklis’ power-mad Executioner, and you’ll be able to find out what happens as Gotham closes out Season 3 over the next two Monday nights on Fox at 8:00 p.m. ET. To see what shows you’ll be able to go batty over in the months beyond, head to our summer premiere schedule.

aoi is garbage at verbalizing his emotions because his entire life he’s been able to just kinda bounce thoughts off akane and have someone who can understand his emotions inherently because she shares them through resonance. he’s never really HAD to explain his feelings to people before because it’s always been redundant… it can become somewhat of an issue when he’s in relationships, which is why he does well with people who are generally perceptive, like light– people who catch onto his mannerisms well. light has experience because he can read emotions generally well and has experience with clover, who shares a lot of similarities with aoi. of course, aoi still has to learn to communicate his emotions on accounts of That’s What You Do In A Relationship, so

Dear God, all I ask is that when I’m ready, you send me a woman who is smart, outspoken, confident, and creative. A deep thinker with a soft heart. Someone who cares. Someone who can handle me when it gets bad and love me at my worst. A woman who is multidimensional and understanding; empathetic and sympathetic. A person who can make me laugh until I cry and who doesn’t mind me writing her poetry because I feel so deeply. I pray she doesn’t mind my deep feelings and my passion. I pray she exists and I pray you lead me to her.
—  29 May 2017

Here’s to the men who are learning to get themselves out of the way.
Here’s to the men holding space for those around them.
Here’s to the men who are facing their darkest selves.
Here’s to the men who are facing their light within.
Here’s to the men who each day test themselves to build resilience in a society that has gone soft.
Here’s to the men who admit to their mistakes.
Here’s to the men showing love to their inner child, therein addressing issues of anger and anxiety.
Here’s to the men who are battling and overcoming an internal war each day that no one else can understand.
Here’s to the men who are actively staying grounded.
Here’s to the men who take pride in their masculinity and express it in times of fun and in times of need.
Here’s to the men who understand the importance of physical exertion for their mental well-being.
Here’s to the men standing up to the ego influenced bullying and possession by other men.
Here’s to the men who will not be dictated to by opinion.
Here’s to the men who express their emotions and aggression on one hand and their love and compassion on the other, doing so with conscious thought.
Here’s to the men who are breaking negative patterns of behaviour handed down before them from generation to generation.
Here’s to the men dealing with the trauma placed upon them and learning from those lessons.
Here’s to the men who are forging their own identity in a time of mixed messages from the world around them.
Here’s to the men standing firm in their vulnerability as old paradigms slip away.
Here’s to the men who move with their passions and interests.
Here’s to the men keeping their rationality in times of turmoil.
Here’s to the men who are unlearning what they have learnt.
Here’s to the men who do give a fuck.
Honouring the sister’s who are supporting.
Honouring the work it takes from both men and women to create a better society.
Honouring all involved!


Time to Vent

So apparently I scare off everyone just by becoming really nervous around them when they say something even remotely flirty around me.

I get super defensive when I feel someone making a pass at me or I put up barriers when someone takes a liking to me.

That’s just who I am and honestly people need to understand that I can’t read between the lines easily instead of just straight up blocking me immediately. If they can’t see past one mistake then they aren’t worth it anyway I suppose. But It doesn’t make it hurt any less.

I’m a generally nervous person. I’m uncomfortable unless I know your intention and if you say something like “I want to be with you” don’t get mad if I interpret that a little bit differently than it was intended.

I’m sorry to anyone I’ve scared away with my bluntness when I feel you getting too close in the more “romantic” sense of the word.

I don’t mean any harm by it. But if we can work around this problem i can definitely gain your trust again and stay friends with you. If not it’s your loss I suppose and we wouldn’t have gotten along anyway.

Closet Softie

Or, How Bucky Barnes Nearly Ruined His Tough-Guy Rep

(On AO3)

The trail mix was gone. 

The nice, expensive trail mix, with twelve kinds of nuts and the big sunflower seeds and dried fruits, the kind Tony only rarely left sitting on the common floors for everyone to get at, was gone. 

Clint had been looking forward to that stuff all morning

All the way through a hellish morning “jog” with Steve, all through Nat handing him his ass on the training mats, all through firing the same batch of misweighted arrows over and over so Tony could take scans and fix the design, he’d been thinking, when this is done I get to go upstairs and hang out on the couch and watch Dog Cops and eat the good trail mix, guilt-free. 

And it was gone.

Clint was gonna shoot somebody.

Just as soon as he figured out who’d taken the trail mix.

kingofmemes posted:

yesterday i saw a sad duck in the park who kept getting picked on by the other ducks so today i brought some trail mix and we had a nice lunch together. also i think he might be the duck who pooped on sam last week. if so, he is officially my new best friend. 

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i understand. you found paradise in tumblr. you had some good posts, you made a good blog, the blacklist protected you and the tags were plentiful. you didn’t need a friend like me. but now you come to me and you say “outofcontextarthur, they’re not monkeys, muffy was a hippo”. but you don’t ask with respect. you don’t offer friendship. you don’t even think to call me godfather. instead, you come into my blog on the day my daughter is to be married and y


Ahn Min Hyuk’s hair pushed back (´⌣`ʃƪ)

Honestly, I don’t care if it sounds needy, I’m just tired of having failed relationships because of high expectations, I want to find another human being that accepts me exactly as I am from my “emotional mess” times to “completely wild nerd” times. A guy that literally doesn’t care if I did nothing today or if I got a weird obsession that would seem boring to other people, because he’s ok with being human. I just don’t wanna hide my true self from anyone anymore, if somebody wanna be with me they gotta accept me as I truly am, as a complete human being that is NOT f**king perfect okay ?
I just really wish for myself to find a guy that’s a best friend, someone I can laugh to tears with, someone I can cry in front of and be vulnerable without feeling ashamed, someone that I can trust and tell my secrets to, someone that understands me and loves me completely as I am and that I understand and love completely as he is, someone that looks at me with love and passion, someone I can be sweet and loving with, goofy and angry, colorful. But never hurt each other intentionally or mock the other. Never. We can tease each other and argue, but communication is key, and we have a special understanding of each other. That kind of relationship, the “I will never leave you ever” kind. The “I prefer to stand with you in a storm than be comfortable at home” kind of love. We advise each other and complement each other… we’re just two imperfect people, who know they are imperfect, but that accept each other as they exactly are and love each other unconditionally, wouldn’t change them for anything. We can be f**ked up but we wont mind, because we know that’s what part of being human is, but we respect the other and never cross our boundaries. We’re a couple who are total best friends in public, but always finds it endearing to hold each other’s hands. We are a couple that trusts each other and feels secure in the relationship. We are a couple that stands up for their partner through thick and thin and really wants to be together, one where we push each other to be the best they can be even if it makes one upset, we know we are worth it, a wise couple who can talk about everything and anything with no judgment, yet can both be like grandpa and grandma and stay in our pajamas, have a lazy day just watching tv shows and snuggling together while eating things the grandma one prepared, a couple who can go out on dates in casual clothes and not care about people’s opinion, who goes out for long walks in nature, who can be comfortably silent and still somehow understand what the other thinks, who can tell each other things they never told anyone else before and keep the secrets, communicates without judging the other and accepts the other’s opinion, a couple who doesn’t mind insecure and blue days and give enough love to make the other feel at home, a strong couple who stands through challenges bravely and laughs at the face of obstacles, a couple who stays up late at night to talk to each other about anything and everything, that loves each other truly, purely, unconditionally, acceptingly.
—  qt1112 

The violin scene at the end of The Final Problem is truly one of the most impactful moments (if not the most) in all of BBC Sherlock. I honestly am still speechless that Moftiss wrote something so profound. Eurus was beyond communication with the outside world after the events of this episode, back to the untouchable genius in her glass cage. But Sherlock. Sherlock, this incredible and kind man, who had lost so much to this woman, understood her and still reached out to help. He wasn’t encouraging her to play her own song, he was initiating a duet–so she wasn’t alone, even in her music. It was a conversation, it was understanding, it was connection. This man went beyond words, where others had failed and stopped trying, and showed her that she wasn’t alone. Sherlock has become- or perhaps he always was- one of the best men I’ve ever seen.

A friend of a friend was commenting on her son’s spinner, and how “it seems so stupid, but if it helps, whatever!” and i really, really wanted to explain why it helps. because people thinking it’s “stupid” tends to get in the way of those of us who need these types of things being able to use them.

so i finally sat down and wrote this. and i figured i’d share it here, because some of you might not know why stim toys are great and crucial to a lot of people, or other “weird” things like rocking. and others might need a way to explain it to the people around them!

please let me know if you have any ideas about what else to add! here’s what i said to her:

I wish I could articulate what they do and why they help.

Some brains get very jumpy with certain kinds of sensory input – like fluorescent lights, ambient chatter, physically or psychologically uncomfortable settings, random super-loud noises like bells and alarms…

That can make it impossible to focus, to take in information (like what you’re reading or hearing), or create a ton of anxiety and meltdowns.

Certain people, like those of us with ADHD, or who are autistic, or both, have that type of neurology. And the great thing about it is that we also come with the built-in ability to counteract bad sensory input.

We can feed soothing, calming, positive sensory input to our brains to let us focus in jarring environments, or to prevent meltdowns, or to calm anxiety.

Depending on the person, that can come from rocking, from spinning one of these dealies, from humming, from nice textures, from clicking buttons, from chewing things or other sources of light comfortable pressure….

And the reason it works is that, for example with a spinner, it provides a pleasing, continuous, controllable, satisfying pattern and sensation that the brain can use to override all of the overwhelming external stimuli that we often can’t even articulate.

But for people who don’t like a particular stim, or who have a different neurology, it can seem completely baffling!!!

And so the downside is that a lot of us CAN’T use our self-soothing superpowers, because people think we look weird or are just fooling around or, generally, that it’s stupid.

So the more people who can understand that this is actually amazing, the better :D

whatever you feel about those “gal gadot is a zionist, don’t watch the wonder woman movie” posts, half of the people making those posts are PALESTINIANS. like we don’t care if you do watch the wonder woman movie, but you can literally understand why casting someone who is israeli/supports the idf as a “superhero” makes us super uncomfortable and that’s why we, in particular, would not want to pay to see that movie. 

Okay really though I thought the ATLA fandom was bad about fighting over ships but I JUST started Voltron and joined the fandom and already the hatred and division between the fandom based on ships is blowing me away. ESPECIALLY between anti shaladin/shaladin and klance/every other Keith ship. Some of the posts I’ve seen are absolutely brutal and scathing. And on both sides. I just wonder, man…

Some Questions to Ask When Things Go Wrong

1. Is this something I should take seriously and try to put right; is it something that is worth working on, and investing more energy on?

2. How much is my fault? Is it something I can change further down the road?

3. How much is outside my control; will anything I do really alter the situation or make a lasting difference?

5. Have I done everything I possibly can? Have I tried and exhausted all possible options?

6. Is it something I should put behind me, and decide to walk away from?

7. Who else has gone through a similar experience, or had this happen to them? Who can I talk to who will understand, and give me valuable help and advice?

8. What can I learn from this experience?

9. How can I build myself up again, so I have the needed strength to go forward in my life?

10. What small steps can I take to enhance my self-esteem?