We put a lot of importance on being understanding of our partner’s struggles (be it mental illness, difficult/abusive RP partners etc), but unfortunately, there does come a point where we have to acknowledge that some people do just enjoy suffering & the attention that comes with it. We can only do so much to help, we try our best but we shouldn’t be expected to do more than that. But if people aren’t willing to help themselves, if they won’t take the advice that they outright ask for, then that’s it. If you come to me day in, day out, and complain about something that could easily be fixed (eg. a toxic partner who is making you feel terrible, but you have not spoken to them about it and continue to let them get away with their behaviour because you “just love the ship so much”) and refuse to even /try/ to fix it, then please stop whinging at me because I’m done trying. Yes, some people just want an ear to vent to, but we shouldn’t be expected to just be there to coddle/comfort/reassure people constantly if they won’t try & help themselves.
what did demi do?