I will always defend Tony, why? Because he is NOT a villian. He is a man with flaws, a man who even despite making mistakes, always tries to learn from them and fix them for the better good for not just himself, but also for the people around him. I honestly don’t get why people have such a vendetta against him. If you truly looked into his character with depth instead of just at a surface level, then you would understand his complications, why he puts up a persona even around the people he cares about the most (because yes believe it or not Tony actually has a heart and CARES about others) and acts like a jerk, because deep down, Tony is not a jerk.
He is a man of self doubt.
Has suffered from tremendous loss and pain.
Has suffered from PTSD countless of times after propelling himself into the abyss to save his friends and everyone on Earth from an alien invasion along with trauma from other experiences.
But even despite that, he still tries his best to protect the people he cares about and loves, the very same people he considers close friends along with the love of his life, Pepper and his newly found fatherly protectiveness over Peter, even when they themselves have doubted him.
So anybody who can’t truly see these facts are blinded by their own perception of what they choose to believe is right and wrong. But just remember, while you continue to spread hate on this subject matter, it doesn’t make you the better person over the other and it doesn’t change the fact that while you fault Tony for his mistakes and paint his fans as the dirty image in this fandom, your favs aren’t the end all be all. They too have made their mistakes and they aren’t and will never be perfect either.