Ok here’s my issue. We’re not gonna talk about dreads specifically as I can’t relate to that example personally. What I’m talking about, is how as a kid, I got made fun of for having ‘squinty eyes’ and my white passing Asian friends didn’t. How kids would pull back their eyelids and say ‘Ching Chong china’ and how the white passing kids would join in on it too. How when my white passing sister and I went to drop off our Chinese exchange student, on the way back a teacher stopped us and told me it was time to leave my host sister bc the exchange students were getting ready to leave. How when I was a child and I wore the cheongsam my grandmother gave me, I got made fun of for it in school and told to go back to china, and yet when a white passing girl wore hers and everyone loved it and told her it was beautiful. How the fact that me taking mandarin as a foreign language in high school is expected, and when a white passing kid does it, it’s fabulous and they’re broadening their horizons. And along the same vein, when I struggle to say anything in mandarin at Chinese restaurants the waiters cringe and when my white passing sister says anything with the same amount of difficulty she’s praised for trying.
the biggest issue here is, kids who are white passing don’t experience the same types of micro aggressions are non white passing poc. The only indication people have that my sister isn’t white is her last name. They’re always SHOCKED to find out we’re siblings. And because of that, she doesn’t really understand a lot of my frustration and thinks I’m overreacting when I speak out about racial equality. But it’s also an extremely fine line, because white passing poc still have every right to their culture, and they deserve to embrace that culture as much as a non white passing poc.
hi so i know this is a stupid question but my dad's japanese and my mom's french and i grew in the us but i look more like my mom and one my friends i was wondering does that still make me asian??? because one of my friends told me i didn't look like one