saying that within lgbt+ spaces, white cis gay men are the first ones to be heard and the first ones to have their struggles acknowledged, and saying that therefore within lgbt+ spaces, white cis gay men need to sit down sometimes and listen to women, People of Colour and trans folks, is not at all the same as saying that white cis gay men “aren’t oppressed anymore”, nor is it the same as straight cis people telling gay men to sit down and shut up.

It’s like a woman has to be either gay or straight no matter what. She might be engaged to a woman but have an affair with a man so people will automatically be like “so is she a lesbian or straight??” Even in the LGBTQ community, the B in there is like it doesn’t exist at all.
You know how the famous Ancient Greek poet and lyre musician Sappho is seen as having a romantic relationship with her female pupils but in her poems she expresses her love for a man and people do not know whether she’s a complete lesbian or not and it’s like everyone has heard of the word bisexual but no one gives enough of a shit to even consider it to be real.
Even fucking Piper Chapman from orange is the new black, the only labels she receives is being either a lesbian or a heterosexual character. She is in love with both a woman and a man but she’s not bisexual?? She just HAS to be either a lesbian or straight as though the spectrum is as simple as that, oh good lord stop with this bullshit

You talk to me about equality but you think that:
Women are better than men
POC are better than white people
LGBTQ are better than straight people
Trans are better than cis
Non-binary are better than cis

If you think like that you’re not an equality fighter, you’re a goddamn asshole who is hiding your hate behind sweet words of twisted justice.

Any activism-centered or feminist conversation that excludes or does not contextualize women-loving women of color or trans women of color fails to be revolutionary or productive. You cannot forget that sapphic women of color and trans women of color are the most marginalized, vulnerable members of society, because they face a constant, ruthless intersection of misogyny, white supremacy, cis, hetero patriarchy, racism, and colorism. 

This is something that both white LGBTQ people and cis, heterosexual people of color often forget. When you leave sapphic woc and trans woc out of the conversation, you are essentially excluding the people who bear the biggest brunt of societal, political, and material violence that stems from various forms of oppression. Sapphic and trans women of color are especially susceptible to sexual assault, abuse, bullying, mental illness, suicide, lack of access to inclusive education, housing, shelters, and employment, and lack of access to safe spaces. 

Any safe space that is not sensitive to the particular needs of sapphic woc and trans woc is not a true safe space. Any attempt at a critical conversation, whether it stems from a cishet person of color criticizing the colonialism and imperialism inherent in modern white-dominated LGBTQ spaces, or from a white LGBTQ person criticizing the criminalization of homosexuality and bisexuality in postcolonial Eastern countries, must always include sapphic woc and trans woc who are often villainized and ignored by both parties. 

Media bias heavily affects sapphic and trans woc, who will see themselves killed off as a result of various tropes, including the “bury your gays”, the “bury your people of color”, and the “bury your women” tropes. Asking sapphic and trans woc to pick between their gender and sexuality or their race, ethnicity, and religion is asking them to pick between social identities that they cannot choose between. Do not force sapphic and trans woc to rip themselves apart to fit one packaged narrative. 


Straight white cisgender men make the cover LGBTQ magazines more than people of color

Though racism in the gay community is a decadeslong, ongoing conversation, the issue has come up again with #GayMediaSoWhite. Fusion analyzed how many of the cover models of prominent gay-marketed magazines — Out, Attitude and the Advocate — over the past five years were LGBTQ white people, LGBTQ people of color or white straight cisgender men. The percentage disparity shows a worrying trend.

Planned Parenthood has been here for 100 years and one thing is clear — we will never back down, and we will never stop providing the care our patients need.

Together, we are immigrants, Muslims, Black, Latinx, white, people with disabilities, LGBTQ people, and everyone else who needs access to health care in a safe and welcoming place. Much of the rhetoric used in the last several months has created a frighteningly more dangerous America for people of color—one where unlawful stop-and-frisk policies, that have been found unconstitutional, are enforced, where immigrants are at risk of facing immediate deportation, where Muslims may be banned from entering the country, and where discrimination against LGBT communities and disabled people is deemed acceptable. This cannot be what it means to live in America in 2016.

The National Museum of African American History and Culture is the best museum I’ve been to in my entire life. I say this as a history buff too whose 2nd major in college was in US History with a specialization in cultural formation and ethnogenesis. And I say this as a black person too. A queer person who saw the intentionality that was put into centralizing the narratives of (cis) black women, (cis) queer folks and children in the historical narrative told in space. And I feel like I only scratched the surface in almost 5 hours there. Definitely going back multiple times. Wow. And it was so powerful being there on the opening weekend and the crowd being 90% black and us exploring our rich history and culture together.

The one area that I’m going to be on lookout for as I go back is seeing if they included any black trans people in the narratives. I didn’t go through the whole museum and only scratched the surface of places I did see, so can’t say for sure on that front but hopefully there was intentionality there too like I saw with the highlighting of the narratives of black cis women and black cis queers in the space. If anyone else who went this weekend can let me know on this front, would love to know, as that would be a really glarring issue considering that there were several “white allies” included in pretty prominent ways in the space (only a few times though so I wasn’t too mad although it was frustrating, especially seeing the first white Delta in there of all things lmao). But if white allies are in there and no black trans people… um. Gurl bye. 

So if anyone else can report back on that front would be appreciated!

I’ve always had a bit of a problem with the saying, “Gay rights is the NEW Civil Rights movement.” It almost feels like a micro-aggression because unintended or not, it quietly suggests that the Black Civil Rights movement is somehow done and over with.

And while I realize there are black people who are also queer, this “new” saying strikes me as appropriative and slightly dismissive, because I most often hear this from WHITE members of the Lgbtq community who are usually centering whiteness or white queers.

Audre Lorde, a queer black woman, once said that there is no hierarchy of oppression, and I agree. Intersectionality matters, and ultimately, Civil Rights are basic human rights and as such, that necessarily makes it a very big, inclusive tent. 

But still…there is a kind of erasure that occurs when I hear white people proudly make this declaration. Just like with that movie Stone Wall, it doesn’t feel like they are even dimly aware of non-white Lgbtq people when I hear many white Lgbtq people say, “Gay rights is the NEW Civil Rights movement!“ 

I guess it’s just that with everything that’s happening today, with all the anti-blackness still going on in America…from the Supreme Court gutting the Voting Rights Act and all but repealing Affirmative Action, to the state sanctioned murders of Travon Martin, Tamir Rice, Eric Garner, Sandra Bland, Samuel DeBose, to the assault at Spring Valley High, to blatant White Supremacy on the campus of the University of Missouri…with all that and more, it’s plain to me that the BLACK Civil Rights struggle of the 1960s has never ended.


From the Co-founder of Bis of Colour

There are very few ways to get me to give a shit about the ‘rainbow’ list/to support lists in general.

In fact, putting Jacq Applebee on the Independent Rainbow list (no.58!!) is pretty much the only way. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/therainbowlist/rainbow-list-2015-1-to-101-a6731391.html

I don’t like these lists, because of the individualist/celebrity focus. And also because they always have the same type of people on them.

BUT they are visible/googleable and so they are important - I just keep thinking that a young bi person of colour might be googling/wondering if they’re the only one - because that’s STILL what most UK scenes (poc or white) , media and representations will tell them at best.

More likely, they’ll be told that as part of a noxious blend of racism/biphobia/homophobia - that they should 'get off the fence and decide’, that bisexuality doesn’t exist, that 'all this stuff’ is a white invention, that 'black people are more phobic than white people’, that bi poc *really* don’t exist (this from everyone) except as a fetish/disposable exoticised fantasy item (this from white lgbtq AND het people)

And that young person might google and find this which = lifechanging. I know it would have been so for me, in 1999 when I was looking. And the idea that my first exposure to bi community/activism/art would have been a black person is making my 40 year old heart soul and head explode.

So proud of Jacq, so deserved.

hey fellow white people (including lgbtq white people and disabled white people and all white people) if there is a protest that you are participating in that primarily focuses on racism don’t speak over the people who are directly affected by that issue! witnessed a white girl at my school’s walkout today shouting about being united for lgbt rights OVER the latinx organizers when they were talking about safety for undocumented students. Not! Cool! 

This is mostly #unendorsed rambling. (For people who don’t use rationalist jargon- that means that this is me thinking out loud, not actually a statement of what I believe.)

Sometimes I wonder why SJ people are so damn willing to antagonize the majority.

I don’t mean in antagonistic ways that need to happen. Like, yes. As an example: Christopher Columbus really was a genocidal monster; this is a matter of historical fact. Saying that to people who have only imbibed the grade-school version of the Columbus story, however, is going to get you some pushback, which you’re going to have to deal with. And that’s fine. That’s part of living in a society where people disagree with you.

But there’s difference between “yo, I know you’re uncomfortable with this but it’s the truth” and “white people have never done anything worthwhile, and this is proof”. Or “I’m trans, is there a problem with that?” vs. “die cis scum”.

(And, conversely, on tumblr there’s a difference between “I think this opinion a lot of SJ people have is wrong” and “kill all SJWs”, but that’s another post.)

What I’m wondering is why this happens. In a pluralistic democratic society, you’d think it’d be a good idea to try to court the majority and convert them to your cause. But a lot of institutional SJ people- whether on Tumblr or in academia- don’t seem to want to do that.

Note- I don’t mean everyone who’s involved in SJ causes. You can be a feminist, an anti-racist, + etc., + etc., without being involved in institutional SJ. I’m largely talking about movement leaders who are explicitly political- and explicitly radical- here. 

An uncharitable part of me wants to believe it’s the persecuted hegemon phenomenon, applied to a very very different group. This is a phrase Fred Clark of Slacktivist came up with to describe the sort of Christian who wants you to simultaneously believe that Christians are a tiny, persecuted minority… while also believing that Christians are the majority of people in the USA, and should have the lion’s share of political power.

I think there’s a similar phenomenon in bad SJ, where the leaders simultaneously want you to believe that a) non-white people, women, LGBTQ people, etc. are a tiny, persecuted minority and b) people who are not cishet white abled rich men should have much, much more power than people who fit into all those boxes. I mean, how many times have you heard that statistic about how white people are going to be a minority in 20 years, or seen that gifset about the ‘statistically average lady’ getting passed around? 

Sometimes I just think that bad SJ leaders hate democracy. 

I dunno. What do you guys think?  

hey if you feel the semi-frequent posts mocking/highlighting/calling our the misogyny of gay men, the transmisogyny of practically everyone, the transphobia of cis lgbq people, the racism of white lgbtq people, biphobia and other intra-community issues (along with critism of the function/culture of allies) is “damaging to our community”, you’re part of the problem

if you feel the need to say “we’re not all like that” when people are talking about the dynamics of privilege and oppression, you are being “like that” by demanding you be singled you out for reprieve every time someone utters a word

the unfollow button is right there