white-cis-male

melting-dragon  asked:

I get some people can have strong opinions regarding people who identify as trans, but that's no reason to call out every "cis person" for being who they are, that's almost like saying- hey trans people STOP. I know us "cis white males" aren't oppressed. But I'm a cis white male and I validate and support trans people because they're just as human as anyone. So when I see a post about "why cis people are literally cancer." It just hurts me. And I'm sure you'd hurt if the same happened to you.

The thing is, when a trans person says “cis people are cancer” it doesn’t have an effect on society as a whole.  We’re a marginalized minority.  While that statement isn’t true, I can’t name a single cis person I’ve interacted with who hasn’t said something really transphobic to me.  I’m tired of it.  Also, I can’t think of a single post here that wasn’t “hey cis ppl. stop doing this transphobic thing. k thx”.

On the other hand, when a cis person says “trans people are cancer”, even as a joke, it contributes to the continuing hate and alienation of trans people.  Other hateful people see it and have their opinions validated.

Do I hate cis people?  No.  Do I hate how they make me feel?  Do I hate the position society puts me in because I’m different?  Hell yes.

If you feel personally attacked by this blog, maybe you need to reevaluate yourself and your actions.

-Mod Eevee

anonymous asked:

Ummm sweaty dont u know that the dictionary was created by Cis het white male oppressors???? U don't decide the definition of a lesbian??? Only the people who say they're lesbians can do that??? They can make it up without consequences??? :))))

Life was created to oppress people who are dead

When people of colour are expected to educate white people as to their humanity, when women are expected to educate men, lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world, the oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions.
—  Audre Lorde

If a problem a marginalised community faces seems simple to you and you’re pretty sure you know exactly how to fix it, but you’re not part of that community, chances are you don’t understand the complexity of the issue. Especially if your solution is for the marginalised community to change their own behaviour.

So if you ever feel the urge to tell someone how to solve the problem of their own oppression, this is a good time for listening and a bad time for you to be talking.

here’s to all the people whose lives will be endangered for the next four years. here’s to all the people who aren’t white, straight, cis, male, rich, old, abled or Christian.

here’s to the Jewish people, and Muslims, and Buddhists, and Sikhs, and atheists, and other non-Christian religions.

here’s to gay people, and lesbians, and transgender people, and bisexual people, and asexual people, and intersex people, and pansexual people, and agender people, and genderfluid people, and everyone else who isn’t straight or cis.

here’s to women, trans and cis and genderfluid and agender and intersex and otherwise. here’s to women who won’t be able to get an abortion or seek help from planned parenthood.

here’s to black people, and to brown people, and to Hispanics, and to Latinx people, and to people of Asian descent, and to Native Americans, and to mixed people, and to everyone else who isn’t white. here’s to the immigrants who don’t know if they’ll be able to stay in the same country as their family.

here’s to the young people who’ll be in debt for decades because of college tuition. here’s to the young people who can’t even afford to go to college in the first place. 

here’s to people who can’t afford to go to college. here’s to people who can’t get a well paying job because of their gender, race, sexual identity, or otherwise. here’s to people who will never know what it’s like to be financially comfortable. here’s to people that can’t afford a quick trip to the hospital and never will because of no medical insurance.

here’s to mentally disabled people, and physically disabled, and people who are both. here’s to mentally ill people who aren’t getting the help they need because they can’t pay for it or don’t know how to ask for it or are told they’re overreacting.

here’s to everyone who voted for a real change in order to be let down by the stupid and bigoted people in this racist, misogynistic, classist, abilist, anti-Semitic, Islamaphobic, homophobic, transphobic, and every other kind of ugly country. you don’t deserve this, and you never did.

and lastly: “all men are created equal.” here’s to that being the biggest piece of bullshit anyone has ever written.

Dear heterosexual white cis male showrunners,

Claiming that after killing off a major queer female character you “understand the outrage and can relate to the pain,”  is at best entitled, and at worst offensive. 

Our pain isn’t yours. You can’t relate to shit when literally 94% of your Netflix, Hulu and HBO accounts reflect and cater to you… Try again. 

Daily Show Terrorism Joke

We’ve all heard that the Daily Show made the following joke:

“Just as you were talking, a new terrorist group formed with one member each from ISIS, Al Nusra, Al Qaeda, One Direction and the Zetas drug cartel”

My initial response was low-key annoyance. I assumed that they just used One Direction’s name as the biggest boyband on the planet and a pretty standard object of teasing, and failed to do the research necessary to learn that Zayn is a Muslim POC who has repeatedly been attacked for his faith and accused of being a terrorist.

In today’s Islamophobic environment, this was a pretty big mistake. But since I know that the Daily Show is not itself Islamophobic, I took it to be an honest mistake.

Then I read some articles on the issue, and read some of the comments, and now I am downright PISSED OFF.(x/x/x/x)

The articles, by and large, are about the fandom’s anger at the daily show for implying that Zayn is a terrorist, however inadvertently. There are several tweets about his charity work, calling him ‘an angel,’ and the like. While the articles poke fun at the fans a bit, the comments are what have me really upset. Here are a few examples.

It must be tough for Jon Stewart to be attacked by those in his key demographic (i.e. teenage girls so irrational that they obsessively defend boy band-ers they don’t even know). His ratings will never recover.

Only showing how so many people (fans) out there utterly lack nuance in any degree, let alone a basic understanding of what comedy is.

Uh, did TDS actually single out Malik? Or is this another case of delusional fan(atic)s pretending their pretend boyfriend who they’ve never met has been unjustly maligned?

If anyone wanted an illustration of the moronic nature of some of the youth today one need not look any further than this story.

There’s no reasoning with that age group demographic; they didn’t mind all the other references until their precious boy band was invoked. They may not understand the concept of hypocrisy, but they’re certainly living it

One Direction fans should call their local police to see if anyone has turned in their lost sense of humor, cos they are blowing this way, way, out of proportion. Because one member is a Muslim, they think the mention was based on that?

How do they KNOW that the person who choose the photo even knew that? The reference was likely chosen just because the band was popular, DUH! I’ve never even heard one of their songs, but I have heard of the band. I certainly could CARE LESS what their religions are. And, I’d like to think most intelligent adults would be the same. Seriously. These little One Direction fans need to stop whining and grow the heck up. Focus their ire on REAL problems in the world: global warming, war, economic injustice, civil rights, REAL racism, etc.

Other things One Direction fans revolt over: naptime, car seats, vegetables.

So let me get this straight, please. A liberal comedy news show makes a joke that, inadvertently or not, essentially accuses a Muslim POC celebrity of being a terrorist. North America, the target market of the show, is suffering from deeply entrenched Islamophobia.

Zayn Malik is open about his religion, is an ambassador for the British Asian Trust, tweets #freepalestine, and is a huge role model to millions of young fans. Not only does he give his Muslim fans someone to look up to and aspire to be like, but his very existence has helped to challenge Islamophobic attitudes in his non-Muslim fans. Zayn Malik has been attacked for his faith before, and is constantly subject to racial and religious abuse on social media.

In response to the Daily Show’s frankly racist joke, Zayn’s fans correctly pointed out that it was not appropriate, and that Zayn was a worthwhile role model who did not deserve the label of 'terrorist’ because of his religion. I saw no over reactions and nothing ridiculous in these articles. Just tweets pointing out that the joke was not acceptable and highlighting Zayn’s good qualities, including his charity work.

How do the readers respond? With outright disdain and dismissal. Because the message - that joking about Muslims being terrorists - came from a demographic that the reader does not respect, they felt the need to not only dismiss the criticism, but also to mock the fans, for no reason at all that I can see.

The fans have a legitimate complaint. They were expressing it in a reasonable way. The proper response from readers is an acknowledgement that the joke was problematic. Instead, we get knee-jerk disdain because most of the fandom is young women; and as we know people who are YOUNG and people who are FEMALE are irrational, hysterical, and incapable of understanding 'serious issues’ like REAL racism.

Tumblr is NOT a safe place. Tumblr is a place where:

-people alter terms so that they fit them precisely. 

-someone will insult you, but only if they can hide behind an anonymous ask.

-if you are white, cis-gendered, or male (or all 3), you are shunned.

-showing facts means nothing if you are white.

-some women will trash other women for not being a feminist.

-some people are so pathetic that they have to resort to insults in arguments.

-some people will spread your personal information if they don’t agree with you

-people are too prideful to accept when they are proven wrong.

I’m sure there are many more examples than I have listed.

a body literally doesn’t have to fit anyone’s aesthetic for its owner to be:

  • fun to be around
  • worth listening to
  • allowed to wear whatever they fucking want
  • allowed to be comfortable or confident
  • the gender(s) they know they are
  • desired sexually or romantically
  • respected
  • a goddamned delight

people exist for themselves; their bodies exist for them.

sometimes some bodies will fit your aesthetic but that’s not what they’re for and it’s nonsensical to have expectations about how anyone’s body (even yours!) should cater to your taste in visual art.

Hi. I think it’s time I told a bit about myself.

I’m white, male, CIS-gendered, 25 years old.

I identify as human-kin. Please be mindful of this. Accepted pronouns are he, him, maybe them if you’re referring to me with another group of people.

My triggers are physical pain, like broken bones. I was pretty triggered that one time I fractured my elbow.

If you make fun of me, I am liable to laugh it off.